00:00How can someone be attracted to someone that looks like a prepubescent kid?
00:03This is weird as F.
00:06People think she's my child, but she's actually my girlfriend.
00:10We get hate from so many different directions.
00:14Comment after comment after comment.
00:16Where is your girlfriend? All I can see is your kid.
00:20Calling your 12-year-old son your girlfriend is disturbing.
00:24Oh, you need your hard drive jacked.
00:25That's a teenage Asian nerd.
00:27Tiffany's high school friend Rob is coming over today to discuss how he really feels about our relationship.
00:33I'm a little nervous.
00:34I love to ask uncomfortable questions. I'm kind of skeptical.
00:37Maybe she's just looking for Asian girls.
00:42My height is 5'7".
00:44My height is 5 foot. Exactly.
00:46In heels, I can be anywhere from 5'9 to 6'1".
00:51So I am thinking this for our outfit of the day video.
00:54I'm thinking skirt, but I don't know which top.
00:56I posted an outfit of the day video in my 30th birthday dress.
01:01What I always write on our videos is teaching my masked girlfriend how to outfit of the day.
01:06As like a joke.
01:07And that video blew up so fast.
01:11I think we got a few hundred thousand views in the first few hours.
01:15How do we look?
01:17The comments kept coming.
01:19Like I couldn't put my phone down for five minutes.
01:21I was getting comment after comment after comment.
01:24It was just a lot of...
01:25That's a child.
01:27Oh, you need your hard drive jacked.
01:29A lot of racism and a lot of height discrimination.
01:33People can't fathom how a mask presenting lesbian could be shorter than her partner.
01:38Where is your girlfriend?
01:40All I can see is your kid.
01:42You're the boy mom final boss.
01:45Calling your 12 year old son your girlfriend is disturbing.
01:49How can someone be attracted to someone that looks like a prepubescent kid even if she's 40?
01:54This is weird as F.
01:56That's a teenage Asian nerd.
01:58Every time these comments do come through I'm like do I look like a prepubescent kid?
02:03You won't see it but I would argue I'm a little more curvaceous in the chest area than Caitlyn.
02:11You are which is the crazy part.
02:13It's been four years into a relationship.
02:15I look completely different from how we first met.
02:19I was much more feminine then and I am older than Caitlyn.
02:23So to see all these comments talking about I am a little boy none of that resonates with us.
02:30Like people sometimes will come up to me and not even speak to her and they'll be like how old
02:35is she?
02:35And I'll be like ask her yourself she's actually older than me.
02:38If you get close enough you can obviously see she is not a child.
02:42Please return the Asian lady to the nail salon you stole her from.
02:47I do go through and remove some that are more harmful or some of the threats that we've gotten.
02:53And then there's also really funny commentary.
02:56Someone commented that Tiffany was five apples tall like Hello Kitty.
03:00Why doesn't the big girlfriend just eat the little girlfriend?
03:03These comments suck. You two are adorable the way she looks at you.
03:08We've had queer and straight couples reach out to us saying hey I'm taller than my boyfriend actually and this
03:14makes us feel so good.
03:16We have a seven inch height difference when I'm not wearing shoes and when I'm wearing shoes.
03:21The difference would be like about a foot.
03:23On those nights I tell her sometimes oh like my neck hurts tonight.
03:27Cause I'll be looking up.
03:29Well my neck hurts looking down.
03:30I know.
03:31I understand.
03:32It's so hard.
03:33We met on a dating app.
03:35I was polyamorous at the time and when I met her she was very monogamous.
03:41When I was polyamorous I was still dating a man and the only need that I felt to be polyamorous
03:47was to see women.
03:48And then when I was actually in a relationship fully with a woman I realized I didn't need men anymore.
03:54Some of our biggest critics are also within the community.
03:58Some of the commentary we'll receive will be from other masculine presenting lesbians saying that Tiffany isn't mask enough.
04:07Or that she doesn't deserve me because she's not tall enough.
04:11And that has been super weird.
04:14I think sometimes there's like a misconception that pulls people's brains back to heteronormativity.
04:21For me I feel like a woman.
04:23I know I am a woman.
04:24I'm just more comfortable dressing the way I dress.
04:26It happens to be more masculine.
04:28Hey Boba, Rob is on his way.
04:30You want to start getting ready?
04:32Let's do it.
04:33My friend Robert is coming over today and I'm interested to hear what he has to say about our relationship.
04:39Maybe even our height difference.
04:41He's made a lot of different commentary throughout the extent of our relationship.
04:46When Tiffany first told me about Caitlyn, I just thought, who is this girl and where did she come from?
04:51Before I even met her, I was kind of picturing like another Asian girl, but she wasn't.
04:58Not every day you see a short Asian girl and a really tall white girl together and I love to
05:03ask uncomfortable questions.
05:04I was worried, especially when it's somebody you care about and they're looking for love on a dating app.
05:10So I was skeptical about Caitlyn a bit if she was looking for like just a good time.
05:16Rob, when I was first dating Caitlyn, do you remember what you said?
05:19I remember I think I said like you bagged the muscle mommy.
05:25Did you think that I looked kind of funny next to her like when I'm like wearing heels or platforms?
05:32What did you think?
05:33That you were a giant.
05:35I thought you looked like a giant, but I didn't think it looked funny.
05:39You're always shorter than everyone you date.
05:41So to me, I'm just like, there's nothing new, you know?
05:45Did you have any general concerns around us when we first started dating?
05:49So I had two concerns.
05:51One was more of a joke.
05:53Like I was like, maybe she's just Asian girls.
05:56Oh my God.
05:58The second one was, you know, the online dating.
06:02Cause I heard more cons about that dating than, you know, good stuff coming from dating apps.
06:08Especially in a city like this.
06:09I'm kind of skeptical of like, oh, who'd you meet online?
06:12Are they a killer?
06:12Like, you know, are they going to rob you when you're sleeping?
06:17I think Tiffany could take me.
06:20I might be tall, but I'm not that strong.
06:23I'm like, make her go home.
06:24Don't let her sleep over.
06:25You're going to wake up and have nothing there.
06:27How does it make you feel when you see like the kind of hate comments?
06:32I mean, cause I feel like I, I look at you like a little sister.
06:36It makes me want to like argue with these people online.
06:38But at the same time, it's just like, there's no point.
06:41Do you think if I was masked and Tiffany was femme, we would get as much hate as we do?
06:46I think you guys would get, would get hate regardless.
06:51Like they'll find something to hate.
06:52If it's not the height, they'll find something else to hate on.
06:55I haven't seen a social media account where couples are happy and the comments aren't negative.
07:00It's toxic.
07:01People just want to hate.
07:03Like that's a good way to set it up.
07:05I mean, at the end of the day, like we know you, all our friends really know you and we
07:10see you guys behind the social media.
07:13I always support Tiffany.
07:14And I told her I was like, you know, Caitlin's good.
07:16Like I told her that you're good for her.
07:18So it's like, to me, Caitlin is family.
07:20Yeah.
07:22Aw.
07:23Thanks.
07:24You colonizer.
07:28I think our relationship works because we balance each other in all the right ways.
07:35Like she is.
07:43Oh my God.
07:44Why would you cry?
07:45I love you so much.
07:46That's so rude.
07:48Tiffany has changed my life for the better in every good way that a person can be changed.
07:54She makes me a better person every day.
07:56And she challenges me to always do the right thing and do what's best for me.
08:01What I love most about Caitlin is that she has a very big heart, almost to a fault, but it's
08:09a very beautiful one.
08:11I feel sorry to the people who judge us.
08:14I wish you more peace in your life, that you may come offline and go touch some grass somewhere and
08:22learn to love and be more understanding.
08:25I hope that you experience a love like this.
08:31Bye.
08:34Bye.
08:36Bye.
08:47Bye.
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