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JACOBI and Alex are spicy content creators and have been together for four years. The couple met on a job when Jacobi was looking for a replacement after another creator cancelled on him. What began as strictly business quickly turned into a deeper emotional connection. Jacobi told Love Don't Judge, "We came to the agreement that we would continue to work with other people, even though we were together. Because at the end of the day, this is our job." Their relationship may have an unusual setup, but Alex explained how they've defined their boundaries as a couple: "Our situation is monogamous," he said. "I can have multiple s***** partners. But if I don't have that emotional connection, it's just not gonna hit the same. And for me, that's the difference between a work partner and a life partner." The pair are now engaged, having found an equilibrium between work and love which works for them. However, living outside societal relationship norms means they encounter judgment. Accusations are thrown at them, such as "How could y'all truly love each other? There's no way. The relationship isn't real, the relationship is based on money," Jacobi said. In this episode, he couple sit down for a discussion about their atypical monogamy with Alex's religious brother, Kollin.

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00:00I let my fiance sleep with other men.
00:02People judge us because we can get intimate with other people,
00:05but only if it's for work.
00:07Pull out the negative comment.
00:09The relationship isn't real.
00:10The relationship is based off money.
00:12I hope they all catch STDs.
00:14My brother Colin is coming over today to talk about Jacobi
00:17and the fact that we make spicy content.
00:19He is a religious man, so he does have a lot of opinions about it.
00:22It was very, very shocking.
00:25How do you guys deal with jealousy, like?
00:28So, yes.
00:30I'm Jacobi, and this is my partner Alex.
00:32And we can get intimate with other people,
00:34but only if it's for work.
00:36I am one of the biggest black, gay, spicy content creators in the world.
00:41I mean, you can check the numbers.
00:43We work at about three to four times a week.
00:45We have to keep our bodies right.
00:47For the spicy content.
00:49For the spicy content.
00:50So we met.
00:52I was getting ready to create some spicy content.
00:55I had a co-star.
00:56Get that burn.
00:57They canceled.
00:57So then I called Alex and he came through.
01:01Yes, I was a replacement, y'all.
01:05We realized we were attracted to each other at first sight.
01:08There was just something about this one right here.
01:10I was like, you know what?
01:12We can do some stuff off camera.
01:15I wouldn't say that there's a lot of pressure to be muscular when you're making gay content, but I will
01:20say that the preference of most people is to see muscular people.
01:23So we came to the agreement that we would continue to work with other people even though we were together
01:29because at the end of the day, this is our job.
01:31Our situation is monotonous.
01:33So yeah, I can have multiple sexual partners.
01:36But if I don't have that emotional connection, it's just not going to hit the same.
01:41And for me, that's the difference between a work partner and a life partner.
01:50Today we're going to read some crazy comments we get online.
01:52They come by the thousands.
01:55Pull out the negative comments.
01:57Stop calling spicy content content.
02:01Some of it is just straight up.
02:03Can we say that word?
02:06Especially being paid.
02:07I hope they all catch STDs.
02:09There's not going to be any men left for us.
02:12And that was from a woman.
02:13Us hearing over and over and over again how our relationship doesn't match up with the traditional monogamous relationship is
02:20definitely our biggest critique.
02:22How could y'all truly love each other?
02:23There's no way.
02:24The relationship isn't real.
02:26The relationship is based off money.
02:27It's not something that I'm proud of.
02:29But if you have the audacity to take your free time out of your day to come and judge me,
02:34I'm going to go to your page and judge you.
02:36And then I block.
02:37And my block list is definitely in the tens of thousands.
02:39That block button.
02:40It's going to help you out.
02:41It works.
02:43We have to check with each other before we decide who to film with.
02:46Typically, we just search the social medias.
02:49Once we find the people on those platforms, we show each other and we evaluate what we think would be
02:54best for our business.
02:56What do you think about this guy right here?
02:58Hmm.
03:00It's big, right?
03:01It is.
03:02So I will message him right now.
03:05Give me something they want.
03:06All right.
03:06Looking great, looking great.
03:08Oh, they're going to love this.
03:09Mm-hmm.
03:09The way that we deal with jealousy is addressing it in the moment.
03:13You got to make sure that you just communicate with your partner.
03:15Right there.
03:16Want me to get him a little squat?
03:17Yeah.
03:18So he tells me like, hey, I don't like this.
03:20I'm not going to immediately get defensive.
03:22I'm going to ask him why.
03:23I'm going to say, how can we assess the situation?
03:26But I haven't been feeling jealousy in a while.
03:29Hmm.
03:30Mm-hmm.
03:32You got any people you like?
03:33There's a couple people.
03:35Ooh.
03:36Dump truck.
03:37Ooh.
03:39There you go.
03:39I like seeing my man or my partner being pleasured.
03:45You know what I'm saying?
03:45It doesn't necessarily have to be me doing it.
03:48Like, as long as we're all enjoying the moment.
03:52One of the biggest misconceptions about spicy content creators is that, number one, we're all diseased.
03:57Well, bigger misconceptions about spicy content creators is that they can't be in relationships or they can't find love.
04:02Seventy percent of creators, even though they present to you as single, they're in relationships.
04:08We've been in situations where I'm working with someone and their girlfriend is recording the film.
04:14Ooh.
04:16There you go.
04:19My friends and family reacted to a relationship.
04:21They weren't surprised.
04:23Now, I will say, what did surprise them was that I did start doing spicy content.
04:29And they were just like, wow, you are doing it.
04:30And you're really doing it.
04:33So today, my brother Colin is coming over to discuss how he feels about me coming out and about me
04:39being a spicy content creator.
04:40So he is a religious man, so he does have a lot of opinions about it.
04:44So when it came out that I was gay, it was a big thing.
04:48Like for him, he couldn't understand.
04:50He kind of like ran away from the house for a little bit because he couldn't really deal with it.
04:58Brother man, how you doing?
04:59What's going, brother?
05:01How you doing?
05:02I'm great, man.
05:03Good to see you.
05:04Same.
05:04Step on in to my humble abode.
05:09So I wanted to get into the nitty gritty of why we're here.
05:13I know that I didn't give you the space to express how you felt.
05:17I found out that you were gay before you even told us.
05:26A senior came up to me.
05:28She's like, oh my gosh, have you heard?
05:30Have I heard what?
05:31Like, you don't know?
05:32Like, your brother's gay?
05:34Huh?
05:35And then a couple days later, you brought us all together.
05:38You told us.
05:38And that was probably the most respectable way to do it, honestly.
05:42There was no ounce of judgment in me at that moment.
05:47Now, to find out that you guys were, you know, making this spicy content.
05:52It was very, very shocking to me.
05:56We knew he was going to be a star, but God damn.
06:00The overwhelming for sure.
06:02No, overwhelming for sure.
06:03It took a lot.
06:04It took a lot.
06:04One big concern was just who Jacoby was.
06:09And then that's when he had brought Jacoby around.
06:12And it was just more so like, oh, all right.
06:15He cool.
06:16Like, he not a weirdo.
06:18He cool.
06:20But the real question is now.
06:23Like, how long do you guys plan to keep this up?
06:25Like, keep this going?
06:27I mean, I'm going to be honest with you.
06:28I plan on doing this as long as my body will allow.
06:31Till the wheels fall off.
06:32Till the wheels fall off.
06:34We've built a platform and a business that can make us money.
06:38And if I can use that to help fund my other dreams.
06:41As you know, getting my own gym.
06:43Stuff like that.
06:44Mm-hmm.
06:45How do you guys deal with jealousy?
06:47Like, I know for a fact y'all ran into that barrier thousands of times.
06:53So, let's hear it.
06:55So, yes.
06:56Innately, there will be the feeling of jealousy going to come up.
07:00And it also does help that we do kind of like seeing each other with other people.
07:06Knowing the security that we have with each other.
07:08Yes.
07:09I like to see you have fun.
07:11You like to see me have fun.
07:12So, so, so, so, so.
07:14Learn new things.
07:17As long as you're doing what you love, like, keep doing it.
07:22He has helped you blossom into the person that you are becoming.
07:27The, the creative mind that you're becoming.
07:30It's very nice to see.
07:32I appreciate that.
07:34Very nicely said.
07:35I appreciate how you never made me feel any kind of way.
07:38I'm your brother too.
07:39You know what I'm saying?
07:40I'm not going to do so.
07:41No.
07:43Come on now.
07:45Better.
07:46Yeah.
07:46You going to learn it.
07:47You're going to learn it.
07:48You're right.
07:49You're right.
07:49You're right.
07:50You're right.
07:50You're right.
07:50You're right.
07:51Say hey y'all.
07:57We are on the same page.
07:59Like, we have the same goal.
08:01And we're working towards to reach that goal.
08:04So everything that we do is kind of like in sync with each other.
08:07What I would say to people who would want to judge our relationship is that relationships are not one-size
08:12-fits-all.
08:13And just do it unapologetically. If you don't like it, you don't like us, you don't have to comment or
08:17say anything.
08:18A wise man once told me, if you ain't got no haters, you ain't poppin'.
08:22Hello.
08:24Sit, couple.
08:27Bro, why you being so bad?
08:29This is my business partner. This is the person I love. This is the person who has pushed me when
08:34I didn't think that I can go any further.
08:35I'm in love with you for sure.
08:37I love you too, baby.
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