00:00People think she's using me for my money.
00:02I like nice things.
00:04He likes getting them for me.
00:05I didn't really know what I had to offer other than money,
00:08so that's what I went with.
00:10I've sent Bethany about $100,000.
00:13I'm not just thinking of him as a secure income,
00:16but he is secure income.
00:17People just think that she's using me
00:21or that I love her, but she doesn't love me.
00:25I was not always attracted to Jeremy.
00:28Oh, yeah.
00:30My name is Bethany.
00:31This is my partner, Jeremy.
00:33I don't remember the last time we made this.
00:35I don't either.
00:36She popped up on Facebook on the people you may know thing,
00:41and I didn't know her, but her picture grabbed my attention.
00:46I sent her a message and basically said,
00:48you're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.
00:52So why did you offer Bethany $50 for her number?
00:57At that point in my life, I had just started my career.
01:03You know, she was a beautiful woman.
01:06I didn't really know what I had to offer other than money,
01:09so that's what I went with.
01:12I didn't think she would talk to me unless I sent her money.
01:15Babe, I think this is going to be good dough.
01:18How the dough turns out is going to basically make her break the day for her.
01:23Babe, what did you do with the flour? I need it.
01:25Okay.
01:25I think for the first six years of us talking to each other, we weren't dating.
01:30We were both single.
01:32He catered to everything that I wanted and I needed, would you say?
01:35Yeah.
01:35I sent you whatever you needed.
01:37So like hairstyles, nails, things for school, stuff like that.
01:43He just made sure I was good.
01:44Over the past six years, I've sent Bethany about $100,000 in Cash App transactions and gifts.
01:53At the beginning of this, it was truly just transactional.
01:56I was just very young and just excited that a man was willing to spend his money on me.
02:01I always knew I had feelings, but it was never anything more than just like a casual conversation
02:07or like a virtual relationship.
02:10Just knowing that I would always be okay, that was number one.
02:14Just seeing who he is, not just the guy that sends me money, but like the guy that loves
02:21Harry Potter and the guy that likes the Star Wars.
02:24Just seeing that he has a good personality and he's very kind and patient with me, it was
02:29very easy to catch feelings for him.
02:32Once I finally decided like we're going to meet and hang out, that's what took it to the
02:37next level.
02:38We went on a date and we never left each other alone after that.
02:41Yeah.
02:41A month or so later, I just started calling her my girlfriend, even though I never officially
02:46said hey.
02:47Yeah, he never asked me.
02:48I still do pay her bills and I try to buy her whatever she wants.
02:53I don't think that's ever going to be something that's going to change.
02:56We went on a shopping spree about two weeks ago and I've been looking for these foods
03:00everywhere.
03:01They were about like $300.
03:04These were about $190, $200.
03:07This ran us about $400.
03:10So, we're always going shopping, always buying me stuff.
03:15I was not always attracted to Jeremy.
03:18I think I was attracted to Jeremy for the wrong reasons.
03:25There was like mostly I was just blinded by the money.
03:30He was different from most men that I had entertained.
03:35He didn't just care about like looks or body.
03:40It was more so like your personality.
03:42All this together, the coach bag was like, I want to say close to $1,200.
03:50So, about $2,400.
03:53I don't really feel guilty about like accepting his generosity.
03:56I feel like the roles for the genders are to be that the man provides financially and
04:02the woman, you know, holds down the household and in return she gets nice things.
04:07None of this was ever forced.
04:09Everything that I've done for Bethany, sure it might have been stuff she wanted and stuff,
04:14but it was always something that I wanted to do for her.
04:16What I enjoy most about giving her gifts is just the happiness that I see when I give
04:23her something.
04:25Now, it's just love.
04:27Like he doesn't have to buy me anything anymore, I don't really care about that stuff.
04:33I think probably the biggest misunderstanding is people thinking that I'm financing her lifestyle
04:42and they don't think that there's any feelings on her end.
04:47People saying that I am a gold digger, that he buys my love.
04:52People just think that she's using me or that, you know, I love her but she doesn't love me
05:00and I just like, my views are clouded by that.
05:03But, I mean, those people don't see the dynamic between me and her every day.
05:09If we post on social media, on my page, people comment things all the time.
05:14Don't trust her, use her.
05:18Yeah, I think that's kind of weird to encourage someone to use someone.
05:23I would never intentionally use someone for the better of myself so I would hope that he
05:28wouldn't use me.
05:29That's not a girlfriend, that's a .
05:33Jeremy was buying me stuff years and years and years and years and years before we were
05:37ever intimate.
05:38So I can't really be a if I'm not having in exchange for things.
05:42He's just my boyfriend.
05:44Someone said, be prepared for your replacement.
05:48I understand there's people out there with more money but, I mean, that doesn't necessarily
05:54mean she's going to have true feelings for those people.
05:56Do you really have true feelings or are you thinking of him as more of a secure income?
06:01I think that the feelings definitely came as time went on.
06:05I'm not just thinking of him as a secure income but he is secure income.
06:09There are a few positive comments.
06:11There's a lot of women that try to, like, empower me and tell me, like, there's nothing
06:15wrong with, you know, the lifestyle you live.
06:18If a man wants to take care of you, let him do that.
06:20The only thing that matters to me is if she's happy or not.
06:23I don't care what the outside world thinks of us.
06:27How did your friends and family react at first?
06:29I think maybe at first my family thought that I was moving too quickly.
06:35She's my only serious relationship.
06:38I've never had serious relationships other than her but I think once they saw that I was
06:43happy that they were happy for me.
06:46I've met his family and I love them to pieces.
06:49I don't really let my friends, like, have an opinion on my relationship so I've never heard one.
06:55I knew Jeremy was the one when I used all of my defense mechanisms and he still stayed around.
07:04Jeremy is an extremely hard worker and he's extremely intelligent.
07:08I've never met anyone besides my father that's as extremely intelligent as Jeremy is.
07:14I think that people look at me and they see, like, oh, she's a pretty woman and then they
07:18look at Jeremy and they're like, oh, he's like a mid-30s white man and he doesn't seem like
07:23he's supposed to be with her.
07:24They automatically think that it's just strictly a transactional relationship but that's definitely
07:30not where we are now.
07:31No.
07:31Not at all.
07:33I think Bethany has changed me for the better in just helping me become a more confident
07:39person and helping me see my self-worth.
07:42There's so much more to me that I can offer to her than just my money.
07:48Jeremy has changed me for the better because he has showed me a different type of lifestyle.
07:54There's more to life than just paying your bills until you die.
07:57I think we go very well together, you kind of just let me live out my life and I just
08:01let you make your money and pay the bills.
08:04I can't really blame people for judging but just keep watching us and get a feel of who
08:09we are as a couple and you'll get to love us.
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