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SARAH and Bradley have a relationship that is very different from the norm. "I control him and he lives by my rules," Sarah explained to Love Don't Judge. The unique dynamic has been going on for six months and it's one that works well for both of them. Bradley said, "I've always wanted a relationship like this and i've finally been able to achieve that. Being told what to do gives me purpose." However, their relationship often receives a whole heap of hate and judgement. Sarah said, "A lot of people say it's degrading for the man, it's emasculating, it's just wrong." Not everyone is aware of the couple's arrangement and today Sarah will be revealing the dynamic to her sister, Winnie. Gasping, she exclaimed, "Are you serious?!"

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00:00My partner controls my every move and I love it.
00:02Coughing this?
00:03Dismissed.
00:04He serves me.
00:05He's owned.
00:05He has a little pet tag and it matches the rest of the cats and animals in the house.
00:09I've had a lot of people be just disgusted with the relationship.
00:12A lot of people say it's like degrading for the man, it's emasculating.
00:16His mum carried him around for nine months for him to do this.
00:19I'd feel like a complete let down as a father if my son was openly this .
00:23My sister Juanita is going to come over and we're going to tell her the truth about our relationship.
00:27Are you serious?
00:28Are you okay?
00:30I might have to stop visiting.
00:34I'm Sarah.
00:35This is Bradley.
00:36I control him and he lives by my rules.
00:39Brad, Brad, can you make me a coffee?
00:43I'm sending an order to Bradley telling him to get ready for the day.
00:46He needs to make me a coffee and get out of bed.
00:48We first met online.
00:49We were introduced through his previous owner.
00:51He reached out to me, stated that he needed someone to put Bradley with for a new dynamic
00:57and it kind of went from there.
00:59I've always sort of wanted a relationship like this and finally been able to achieve that.
01:05Morning, miss.
01:06Here's your coffee.
01:09You can go.
01:10Thank you, miss.
01:10I tell Bradley what to do.
01:12He serves me.
01:13It's very much servitude based.
01:14So it's basically like a housekeeper slash personal assistant role.
01:18It's a lot of serving me, saying yes miss, no miss.
01:21Being told what to do sort of gives me purpose.
01:23It sort of directs my day.
01:25I love how secure I am in myself.
01:29I love the power it gives her.
01:31I like feeling that I can trust someone enough to give them control over decisions I make in life.
01:38It gives me a lot of confidence in the relationship.
01:40It's just very nice to have someone give you that kind of trust.
01:42It's very rewarding.
01:44We've been in this dynamic six months.
01:46Come on, now count.
01:48Two, ladder, three, four.
01:51I receive a wage.
01:53I get to travel.
01:54I get to keep house.
01:56I get a lot of my stuff taken care of, like health and everything like that.
02:00So yeah, it's all I have to do is look after her, the house and the animals.
02:05This is the contract that I have in brass.
02:06It basically just details that we have an arrangement and we have an agreement.
02:10The purpose is this document outlines the expectations, boundaries and practical arrangements
02:14for a consensual live-in service and power exchange relationship.
02:17He still has full autonomy and doesn't remove his rights as an individual.
02:23Do you have any reservations about signing a contract with Sarah?
02:25No, not at all.
02:26We sort of, we had a conversation beforehand and a few conversations actually to
02:32work out sort of what we both wanted from this dynamic.
02:35So it's working for both of us.
02:37So I was more than happy to sort of sign that.
02:40Brad's collar is a fixed collar.
02:41So you can't remove this without someone else getting in there with the tool to remove it.
02:45It's on there to just remind him that he belongs, he's owned.
02:49He has a little pet tag and it matches the rest of the cats and the animals in the house.
02:53In our dynamic, we do have rules, basically just the structure,
02:56like things that he has to do, like keeping things, certain things decluttered
02:59or things that he has to say, like, yes, miss, addressing other people, opening the doors,
03:05just general manners, kind of things like that.
03:07Bradley.
03:08Yes, miss.
03:10What does that say?
03:11Keep all benches clear, miss.
03:13And what's that?
03:15Benches not clear.
03:22What are you writing?
03:23I'll keep the benches clear.
03:25Good.
03:25If Bradley doesn't do what I ask him to do, there's an array of punishments I like to do.
03:30It could be writing lines, writing things he likes about himself, paddling.
03:35It could be going to visit his mother, things like that.
03:37Our family reacted pretty well to the relationship.
03:39Some people were a bit confused.
03:41Some people don't know and may have a bit of an adverse reaction.
03:45But for the most part, it's been pretty supportive.
03:48Yeah, my family's been pretty supportive as well.
03:50They don't know sort of every detail, but for the most part, they sort of know what's going on.
03:57And they're, yeah.
03:58My sister Juanita is going to come over and we're going to tell her the truth about our relationship.
04:02And I think she might be a little shocked.
04:04She'll definitely have some opinions, which worries me.
04:07I don't know if she has an idea of how our relationship works.
04:10She knows that Brad's my assistant and that he lives here, but that's as far as she knows.
04:19I don't know too much about her relationship with Bradley.
04:23I know that they live together, but I'm not 100% sure what the relationship is, what it entails.
04:29You know how Brad's my assistant?
04:30Yeah.
04:31Yeah, and he like lives here.
04:32Yeah.
04:33Well, I also pay him a wage and I control everything he does.
04:38He does whatever I want.
04:39That's crazy.
04:41That's actually crazy.
04:42Yeah.
04:43Are you serious?
04:44Yeah, but he's okay and everything.
04:45He's fine.
04:46Like he's fine.
04:47Like willingly?
04:47Yeah, yeah.
04:48He's fine.
04:49100% willingly.
04:50Mm-hmm.
04:50Okay.
04:50It's kind of weird.
04:53So how did that like happen?
04:54Well, I've kind of seen it online and you know, he was my assistant and it kind of just evolved
04:58from there.
05:00Right.
05:00Um, we kind of just like got to know each other and each other's wants and kind of just wanted
05:03to explore that kind of thing.
05:05Right.
05:06But he's fine.
05:06I'm fine.
05:07Both consenting adults.
05:09As long as you're happy, I guess.
05:10Are you okay?
05:11Yeah, no.
05:12Yeah.
05:13Are you sure?
05:14I've got to think about this for a little while.
05:17I might have to stop visiting.
05:21Just for a little bit.
05:23You know, I'm giving you some space.
05:26No, you don't have to stop visiting.
05:27It's the same.
05:28It's just the same.
05:29Yeah, and we don't like practice the lifestyle.
05:33Yeah.
05:34Well, yeah, we're not weird.
05:35Like it's just the same.
05:36It's weird.
05:37It's weird.
05:37The dynamic like behind closed doors is us behind closed doors.
05:42But when you visit and everything, it'll still be the same.
05:45Business as usual.
05:46Okay.
05:46Yeah.
05:47Okay.
05:47Yeah.
05:47Cool.
05:48How much does Sarah pay you?
05:50I get paid a weekly wage of $1,100 and that involves everything from cleaning, driving, making beds.
06:01I'd probably do all that for $1,100 a week too.
06:04Yeah.
06:05Okay.
06:06Well, as long as you're both happy and consenting adults and, you know, just doing whatever you're doing.
06:13Yeah.
06:13I just don't want to see it.
06:15You have a good afternoon.
06:17Keep it all to yourselves.
06:19Catch around like a whistle.
06:22Bye.
06:23Bye.
06:39See ya.
06:47Bye.
06:53Bye.
06:53Bye.
06:58Bye.
07:00Bye.
07:00Someone said his mum carried him around for nine months for him to do this.
07:04Why do I feel like this is leading up to her actually him?
07:08Grown man, by the way.
07:09This type of never lasts.
07:11Always end in tears.
07:12I'd feel like a complete letdown as a father if my son was openly this .
07:17WTF man.
07:18What the actual F man?
07:20You're already getting off from emasculating him.
07:23Someone said this is completely consensual.
07:25He loves it and I believe she pays him a wage to be her service .
07:28It's a symbiotic arrangement and they both consent to it.
07:32It's pretty cool, I think.
07:33I don't really have an online presence, so I don't really see the comments.
07:37But yeah, you've got more of an online.
07:39Yeah, just knowing we're authentic in this is how we respond.
07:42I choose, like, sometimes I'll like challenge people in the comments,
07:45but I just let people comment because it's a good engagement.
07:48Sometimes it makes me feel pretty bad, but I understand the relationship and the dynamic a lot
07:52and there's a lot of people that do understand it a lot.
07:54So it kind of offsets the judgment.
07:56I'll talk to Bradley about it sometimes, but we just reassure each other that this is what we want.
08:00We're both happy with that.
08:01So yeah, you get the door.
08:04Yeah, of course.
08:05We're getting Bradley a nice tattoo in honor of my sister.
08:08Brad's tattoo is going to be a little love heart with my sister's name in it
08:11just because we're trying to win her over after telling her the big shocking news.
08:14I've decided to get him to have this because I feel like it's symbolic of our relationship
08:18and it kind of cements that he's in this for the right reasons
08:21and he cares about my family as well.
08:23Brad just got done with his tattoo. How do you feel?
08:25Good.
08:26Sore, but good.
08:27Think she's going to love it?
08:29Don't really have to hide anything because people know.
08:32Stop it!
08:34Oh my god!
08:35What the hell?
08:37Sick.
08:39This actually isn't the first tattoo I've made Brad get.
08:42He does have another one.
08:43Show on, Brad.
08:46Would I ever get a tattoo of Bradley's name?
08:48I might, under good behavior, under the right circumstances.
08:52But as a reward.
08:53I think Brad's changed my life for the better just for the amount of confidence he's brought into it.
08:57Just the way he serves me just really helps.
08:59And I think Sarah's changed my life for the better because I just feel openly supported and
09:05a lot of love.
09:06I think I love most about Brad how he's just so authentic in his servitude
09:09and he's just really genuine in what he wants in his life.
09:12The thing I love most is probably the ability to just be myself and
09:18don't have to feel like I have to change to be with anyone else.
09:22It's good.
09:22To people that judge our relationship, I would definitely say it's important to
09:25take a step back and just understand that everyone's different and just to
09:29take everything with a grain of salt.
09:31Everyone's different.
09:42Thanks a lot, son.
09:46You
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