00:00Racists don't like that I'm a stay-at-home wife with a white husband.
00:04Another boss slave.
00:06At least he's gonna come back with the milk.
00:08So, yeah, call her a bed-and-and I'm her master.
00:12Y'all are gonna be swinging from the tree.
00:15Another self-hating black woman with a flound.
00:19You married an ape, you married a monkey.
00:21There was definitely disappointment in my family that I didn't end it with a black guy.
00:25Today, my brother is coming over.
00:27He wasn't happy about my relationship with Zach.
00:29I was just perplexed.
00:32I'm Zach. This is my wife, Naya.
00:34People judge our relationship because they think he's a white man that is controlling me.
00:38I am 25 years old.
00:41I'm 38.
00:41Zach and I first met at work.
00:44We were both working in a grocery store.
00:46I noticed her right away.
00:48It wasn't for at least a year before I started making some moves.
00:52It did actually organically just turn into a relationship.
00:55Like just, we then cemented it to be official.
00:58We've been together for five years now, in total, and then married for the last year and a half.
01:03We decided Naya would just be a stay-at-home mom that was making enough money to the point where
01:08she didn't have to work and just be with our son during the day.
01:12The type of videos that we post on TikTok and other platforms as well is just like, more so, sometimes
01:21we do funny content and then sometimes we do trolling content in terms of we take comments that we see
01:27and we kind of like dig at it a bit and it's kind of like a get back.
01:33Trump people see all kinds of problems with this.
01:36Imagine some of them do.
01:38Another self-hating black woman with a f***ing clown.
01:42That's just unnecessary.
01:44This is concerning.
01:47For who?
01:48You anonymous person online?
01:50Like, whatever.
01:52Another bonk slave.
01:55Yeah, I bought her a wedding ring.
01:57That's what I bought her.
01:59Y'all are going to be swinging from the tree.
02:01See, stuff like that is where it's like, this is where I really want to know who this person is
02:06and possibly contact law enforcement because I take that as a straight-up threat for real violence because that is
02:13an insane thing to say.
02:14The worst reactions and comments I've gotten directed towards me is I'm a f***er in some way.
02:21I was only 20 when we got together.
02:24Mom, you know when you were in middle school, he was a grown man, right?
02:28I mean, that's true.
02:29I mean, way to do simple math.
02:32The real sickos out there target our son with horrible racist comments.
02:38Black mixed with anything is just black.
02:41By American standards, that's true.
02:44So that's why we're raising our son, to know all about the black side of the family and know about
02:50black culture.
02:50You see white folk in the comments.
02:53You see black folk in the comments like, oh, at least he's going to come back with the milk.
02:58You know, stuff like that because it's this thing that's like, oh, in the black community, the dad wants to
03:02go get the milk and never came back.
03:04People completely try to take my identity.
03:08You know, they're telling me I'm not a black woman.
03:10They're saying, oh, you married an ape, you married a monkey, you know, stuff like that.
03:15All types of like really ignorant things.
03:18You married that man for a green car.
03:19And so it's like, it blows my mind because I felt like I had to prove that I was an
03:25American woman, born and raised to these people on the internet.
03:29It is what it is.
03:31I know my background.
03:32I know where I come from.
03:33And this is my home.
03:35So.
03:36The judgment online is usually sometimes it's just so over the top, like hateful.
03:42It's almost kind of comical.
03:43You wrote this really long paragraph just was filled with just awfulness.
03:49But I will say the flip side of it, it's like 99 percent of nothing but love from people out
03:53there.
03:54And so that's very appreciated because we do see that stuff, too.
03:56Love has no color.
03:58Totally.
03:59Yeah, man, you love who you love.
04:01You know, don't matter.
04:02I need to find a husband like yours.
04:05Beautiful couple.
04:06Damn, you're a gorgeous couple.
04:09Unconditional true love.
04:11Oh, thanks.
04:13I agree.
04:14What do people assume when they see a black woman being a housewife?
04:20I mean, easily, you could just say slavery, you know, like they see my husband's wife.
04:26They see that I work in my home, like I'm taking care of our home.
04:29And they immediately go to the worst thing you can think of, a house slave, you know.
04:33And I've been called that a couple of times.
04:35Some examples of doubts that others have raised is that Zach, he's just using me and, you know, like he's
04:43going to take advantage of me.
04:45Anyone who's met us kind of will know right away that Nea runs this relationship, you know.
04:50I'm just, I'm the backup quarterback, as it were.
04:53She runs the show.
04:54There was definitely disappointment in my family that I didn't end up with a black guy.
04:59My family were like, what are you doing with this older white man?
05:04You know, it was one time I received a lot of texts from a family member and they thought I
05:11got kidnapped because I spent one night at Zach's place.
05:16And I was like, this is crazy.
05:18With our age gap, bringing this up to my family, the concern was that my husband, he's trying to take
05:26advantage of me.
05:27So they were like, couldn't find nobody his own age.
05:30Today, my brother is coming over to discuss how he really felt about our relationship.
05:35He wasn't happy about my relationship with Zach.
05:38I thought it was weird I was dating someone 14 years older.
05:40I really don't know exactly like what he's going to say.
05:44When Shania first told me about Zach, let me just say, it was a confusing conversation, to say the least.
05:50I was a little shocked, first off.
05:52Big age gap.
05:53And also, white ginger man.
05:58I was just taken aback by it.
06:02So Katelyn, what are some of the concerns that he had about our relationship when I first brought it to
06:08your attention?
06:09The obvious, the age gap.
06:11You know, I just never really came across, you know, an age gap like that before.
06:16And, you know, I think, you know, you're still like in college at the time.
06:21And I was worried.
06:22Did you question why Zach would be interested in a 20-year-old?
06:26Yeah, I definitely did.
06:29At this time where I just, again, just had never really come across an age gap relationship like that before.
06:36I was, like I said, I had a lot of questions.
06:38Yeah, I was just a little perplexed, I guess.
06:43How do you think your view of Zach has changed over time?
06:47Well, I mean, I went from skeptical to being, like, just ecstatic that Zach's, he's great.
06:59He's great for my sister, you know.
07:01He's a good man.
07:02He takes care of her.
07:03He takes care of, you know, their little boy.
07:07And he's a real friend to our family.
07:09And I feel comfortable around him.
07:12You know, I can see what Shania likes about him.
07:14He's there to support you, you know.
07:15He's your rock.
07:16You build each other up.
07:17That's so sweet.
07:19That's really nice.
07:21No problem, no problem.
07:24What I love most about Nea is she's loving to me, to our son.
07:30And just a loving person and beautiful inside and out.
07:35Just got such a good heart.
07:36She's given me purpose in life as a husband now and then a father to our son.
07:41I would say the thing that I love most about Zach is just how he's never left a space for
07:48me to doubt anything in a relationship.
07:50He's always there for me.
07:52He supports anything that I put my mind to.
07:54So I just say, Zach, he's honestly like, you're a package deal.
07:58What I would say to folks who judge our relationship negatively is, you know, take a long look in
08:04the mirror and think about your own life before you're judging on other people's happiness.
08:08I'll be right back to this.
08:11I'll be right back to this.
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