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Ramazan Sevinci 24. Bölüm | Beyhan Budak & Savaş Barkçin (4 Mart 2026)
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00:00:00Bismillah, bismillah, bismillah, bismillahirrahmanirrahim, bismillah.
00:00:23It was a hot midday in Basra.
00:00:28The wind blowing through the market gently rustled the leaves on the palm branches.
00:00:34The sounds of shoppers were all mixed together.
00:00:39Everyone was in a panic.
00:00:41A non-Muslim merchant from far away in the land of Rum had also come to this market to sell his goods.
00:00:49He was tired, thirsty, and exhausted.
00:00:53As he sat waiting, a young man approached him and handed him a glass of water through the mat.
00:01:01The merchant drank the water, then the young man wanted to buy some of his dates.
00:01:05However, he hadn't brought a container with him.
00:01:08The merchant weighed the dates and presented them to the young man in a bowl.
00:01:15After making his payment, the young man turned to leave, but after a few steps he paused and turned back.
00:01:22It was as if he had forgotten something.
00:01:25He said to that non-Muslim merchant,
00:01:27You weighed the items correctly.
00:01:30But I noticed something, he said.
00:01:33The man asked, "What did you notice?"
00:01:35"I didn't pay for the container," he said.
00:01:39You didn't get one either.
00:01:40I only paid for the dates.
00:01:43The man said, "This isn't very important."
00:01:46"It's nothing to make a big deal out of," he said.
00:01:49But he's young, and that's important to me, he said.
00:01:52I only paid for the dates, and the container wasn't included.
00:01:58The man, noticing the young man's behavior, wanted to chat with him a little longer.
00:02:04He said, "Young man, why are you behaving like this?"
00:02:08"You don't need to do something like that," he said.
00:02:12The young man smiled.
00:02:13The man went after him.
00:02:15He asked, "What's behind this meticulousness?"
00:02:18The young man replied as follows.
00:02:20Because my mind cannot accept a believer becoming rich through ill-gotten gains.
00:02:27My heart tells me that a morsel tainted with doubt will not bring peace.
00:02:33But my soul tells me that beauty lies in behaving beautifully even when others aren't watching.
00:02:41The non-Muslim merchant was greatly impressed by what the young man had said.
00:02:48Her eyes welled up with tears, and she looked a little surprised.
00:02:52The young man said to Gence, "Does everyone in this city behave like this?"
00:02:58The young man said, "Yes, because we learn and live not only as religious worship, but also as goodness, truth, and beauty."
00:03:13Yes, in this city, in this market, everyone continued shopping as usual.
00:03:21But it wasn't just trade that was taking place there.
00:03:26The non-Muslim merchant realized that these people were also building a civilization.
00:03:33It might have been a small container, a small detail, but it revealed a great truth.
00:03:41Yes, dear viewers, we are with you tonight on TRT1 for the Ramadan Joy program, and today we have two very special guests.
00:03:54Savaş, Barkçin and Beyhan Budak will be with us.
00:03:58Please don't leave us, we hope to meet again.
00:12:57M.K.
00:14:09M.K.
00:14:12M.K.
00:14:30M.K.
00:14:43M.K.
00:15:00As you know, the Farewell Pilgrimage, which takes place after 22 years, addresses a minimum of 100,000 people.
00:15:11So, is there any harvest that yields 100,000 times the amount, where would you find such a thing?
00:15:15So one person gives birth to 100,000 people.
00:15:19It affects 100,000 people.
00:15:21That's a fantastic minimum, of course.
00:15:23Therefore, the servant [of God], deeds, knowledge, and benevolence.
00:15:28This is actually about knowing, making, and being.
00:15:31In other words, knowing is knowledge.
00:15:33Praying means doing what you know how to do.
00:15:37Ihsan is also about acquiring character through practice.
00:15:42It's not where it's supposed to be.
00:15:43Not by philosophizing.
00:15:44Not by saying one thing and doing another.
00:15:47So what I'm actually talking about is this human integrity.
00:15:51To know, to do, to be.
00:15:53I'm talking about three things, but actually you pray consciously, you become who you are through prayer.
00:15:57When that happens, you move back to a knowledge phase.
00:16:01It's a spiral thing.
00:16:03So it's something that never ends.
00:16:04We know this, for example, from our own profession.
00:16:07So you're interested in music.
00:16:10Don't know.
00:16:10You know.
00:16:11You read, you write, you listen, you observe.
00:16:13Then you start saying and doing things yourself.
00:16:17When you do that, your dough becomes a special dough.
00:16:21Your musicianship is on a different level.
00:16:24Therefore, this personality becomes a complete mark on a person.
00:16:28With what he knows, what he does, and who he is.
00:16:31So, there is actually a difference in your conception of civilization compared to the Western conception of civilization.
00:16:39So, are we referring to the same thing with these concepts?
00:16:42Yes.
00:16:42We have a civilization centered on compassion.
00:16:47But Western civilization is more scientific, more...
00:16:50Because, according to the Western, Christian, and Jewish understanding of humanity, people are inherently sinful.
00:16:57Human beings are evil.
00:17:00Yes.
00:17:00He is inherently malevolent.
00:17:02Therefore, it has a side that legitimizes evil.
00:17:05From where?
00:17:05In the West, the highest value is self-interest.
00:17:09It is nothing else.
00:17:10In other words, self-interest trumps all other values.
00:17:12Self-interest is still a factor today.
00:17:14So, people lie for personal gain.
00:17:16It is also made in Üskağıt.
00:17:18He even pretends to kill his own man.
00:17:20She can also do very ugly things in the name of beauty.
00:17:24Here's your mobile phone copyright; I'm making it easy for you to communicate.
00:17:26He says an information society is forming.
00:17:28It absorbs all your data.
00:17:30So this is a common thing.
00:17:32If it were a singular thing, you might say that every society has its good and its bad members.
00:17:36But that's how the system works.
00:17:37That's the procedure.
00:17:38Those who do not comply with this procedure are even ostracized.
00:17:40So good people are excluded.
00:17:42In such a system.
00:17:43Because what he's doing isn't in his best interest.
00:17:46A move that goes against one's own interests.
00:17:48Thanks.
00:17:50Mr. Beyhan, now of course, in a person's journey of goodness, in their search for a humane journey...
00:17:59We should consider whether goodness is truly something inherent in human nature.
00:18:04Or is it something that is learned?
00:18:07My master, you know, he made a sequence here like this: knowing, doing, being.
00:18:12So, where do you fit this framework when evaluating a person?
00:18:18Brother Savaş touched upon some very important points.
00:18:20I would also like to say this.
00:18:22So in the modern world, when sharing something on social media,
00:18:27When people talk, they always say that other people aren't the same as they used to be.
00:18:31that he is bad, that he is ungrateful,
00:18:33They say he's disloyal.
00:18:35But when we look to see if that's really the case,
00:18:37When we look at the research, we come across some very interesting results.
00:18:40For example, there's a study that was done on 6-month-old babies.
00:18:44And they're showing puppet shows to six-month-old babies.
00:18:47There are two scenarios in this puppet show.
00:18:49In the first scenario, one puppet is helping another.
00:18:53He supports her.
00:18:54It makes his job easier.
00:18:56In the other scenario, the puppet show...
00:18:59This puppet is interfering with the other one, behaving a bit badly.
00:19:02And then when these babies look at which of those dolls they chose,
00:19:07Seriously, almost all of them choose the one who helps the other.
00:19:12And on the other hand, her smiling face and good intentions,
00:19:16It's so good, babies start noticing it very early in the month.
00:19:19This shows the following.
00:19:21We have such a seed of conscience within us.
00:19:24There is a seed of goodness within us.
00:19:25But I would also like to say this.
00:19:28Although this seed of conscience, this seed of goodness, is powerful,
00:19:32To a certain extent, we also have the small seeds of a potential for mismanagement in some areas of our work.
00:19:37Life goes on after this process.
00:19:39And when life goes on,
00:19:41What seed are we nurturing within that person there?
00:19:44Whichever seed we water, that seed begins to grow, that seed begins to mature.
00:19:48Now, for example, I'm talking to you, sir.
00:19:51It's as if you were a problematic person,
00:19:53Do you know what happens if I approach you and behave as if you were a bad person?
00:19:57After a while, if we consider both the good and the bad within you...
00:20:01Whenever I focus on the bad side, I start to see your bad side.
00:20:06The important point here is that we are born into this world with goodness within us.
00:20:10We come with conscience, we come with empathy.
00:20:13But then life can actually lead us to difficult points.
00:20:17And as things progress, traumatic experiences occur.
00:20:19Sometimes we have negative experiences that we should never have to go through.
00:20:24Or we are deprived of experiencing some of these beautiful things that we should be experiencing.
00:20:30Motherhood and fatherhood are things that need to be learned, but some people just can't learn how to be mothers.
00:20:36They have their own traumas, so fatherhood might not be something they can learn there.
00:20:39And they're not actually giving the child the love and affection they want.
00:20:44I've always believed in this.
00:20:45Every mother, father, and parent has a mirror in their eyes.
00:20:49And the baby is actually born with that endowment of goodness, but doesn't quite know what it is.
00:20:54Even while nursing, a baby isn't aware of being a separate entity from its mother until a certain age.
00:21:01And while I'm inherently inclined towards goodness, I'm beginning to learn who I truly am from the mirror reflecting my mother's and father's eyes.
00:21:08If I see a good person in the mirror, I say to myself, "I am a good person."
00:21:12If I am a beloved child or baby, I think to myself, "This means I am a person worthy of love."
00:21:18If I am treated with respect, I think to myself, "I am a person worthy of respect."
00:21:21But I wish things were ideal, because our country's government has done some excellent work in this area.
00:21:27The Ministry of Family Affairs, family education programs, parent education programs.
00:21:30And we are trying to improve this, but we still encounter traumatic experiences.
00:21:35And I've started encountering this very frequently.
00:21:39In modern times, we have adopted a Western-style healing approach as our own prescription.
00:21:46This means I need to be okay.
00:21:48As long as I'm doing well, it doesn't matter how the other person is.
00:21:51And at a point where I've made myself better,
00:21:54If I remain good despite your wickedness, it doesn't actually create a sustainable act of kindness.
00:21:59And while people say, "I want to be well, I want to feel good, I want to be happy,"
00:22:04They can very easily infringe on other people's rights like that.
00:22:07Even if they have good intentions.
00:22:09Sometimes I share posts about difficult people, about narcissistic people.
00:22:14Everyone is writing comments like this below.
00:22:16Here's my sister-in-law, my wife, and they're all in the same job.
00:22:19I keep saying we're in the age of artificial intelligence, but the institution of sister-in-law relationships just won't disappear.
00:22:24I mean, being a sister-in-law is truly unbelievable, I'm not kidding.
00:22:26I'm actually getting at least 10 comments about sisters-in-law.
00:22:28If we were to listen to the people there now, we would have to conclude that fifty percent of the population is narcissistic or psychopathic.
00:22:37But research shows us this.
00:22:38Between one and a half and two and a half to three percent of people possess these characteristics.
00:22:44The main problem is that I put myself so much at the center of my own problems.
00:22:48When someone wrongs me, I say to myself, "The other person is a narcissist," and I make the diagnosis.
00:22:53But I don't realize sometimes that I too can be cruel in another person's life, while we complain about ourselves.
00:23:01And social media has brought us to a point where we're in a state of feigned well-being.
00:23:06For example, I worked in the public sector for many years, at the Ministry of Health.
00:23:10Back when social media first entered our lives, I was following an older woman.
00:23:14Everyone started following each other back then.
00:23:18I know him by reputation, I know Şifayan.
00:23:20We haven't met yet.
00:23:21And this woman posts updates every day.
00:23:24He says, "I woke up this morning and greeted the sun."
00:23:27I sent a message to the clouds, and I hugged the trees.
00:23:30Such a state of euphoria.
00:23:31I gave him energy and all that.
00:23:32It gives energy.
00:23:33And I say, what a wonderful person this is.
00:23:36One day, after a busy day, I went to work in the morning and saw him in front of the cafeteria door.
00:23:43My name isn't Ayşe.
00:23:44"Ayşe sister," I said, "I'm following you, remember?"
00:23:47"You're sharing such wonderful things," I said.
00:23:49Then he turned with such a stern expression.
00:23:51"How did you know? I'm your older sister," she said.
00:23:53He called her rude.
00:23:54I was burning up with fever.
00:23:57It was like having boiling water poured on it.
00:23:59We've reached a point where we're saving the world with social media.
00:24:04But we have reached a point where we don't even greet our neighbors, our friends, or those in need.
00:24:09This pretense has brought us to a certain point.
00:24:12Yes, there is a goodness within human beings.
00:24:15But I believe this.
00:24:16Kindness is like those recycling arrows, you know?
00:24:19Sometimes on top of trash cans.
00:24:21It's a loop of arrows.
00:24:23When I see the good in you, I nurture the seed of goodness, the seed of conscience, within you.
00:24:30And the person there treats me the same way.
00:24:32And that's how we help each other grow.
00:24:34We make each other more beautiful.
00:24:35It's a bit like you reap what you sow.
00:24:38Yes, those who sow good will reap good.
00:24:41My esteemed teacher, within the framework of what Beyhan Bey said, it's about goodness, truth, and beauty.
00:24:47We mentioned these three concepts at the beginning of our program.
00:24:51But we can address these individually as well.
00:24:54You are emphasizing the importance of having all three together.
00:24:58Why, sir?
00:24:59Because now, knowledge is acquired through classification.
00:25:03Life is lived in accordance with the oneness of God.
00:25:05These are scientific concepts, nuances, classifications, taxonomies, categories.
00:25:12Can we also elaborate on this classification and unification?
00:25:15Sure, I'll explain that too.
00:25:16So, simply listing them separately doesn't mean they are separate entities or that they live on completely different planets.
00:25:24This is done for the sake of science.
00:25:26Because knowledge is about focus.
00:25:28It requires attention and care.
00:25:29Therefore, it tries to break things down, separate them, and then build relationships from there.
00:25:36But people don't live life in a categorical and philosophical way.
00:25:41For example, you can't say that there are 32,000 Kantians in the world today.
00:25:44That's not true, man.
00:25:46You can't just say there are this many Nietzscheans.
00:25:47Because he hasn't even lived his own life.
00:25:49Even he didn't stick to his own words.
00:25:51Therefore, the main issue is to ensure this integrity.
00:25:55This wholeness is just like a flower.
00:25:58When you look at a flower, there are multiple colors.
00:26:01In many cases, for example, it's right in front of us.
00:26:02Yellow, but how many shades of yellow are there?
00:26:04So it doesn't have a single tone.
00:26:06So, these things only make sense when they are interconnected.
00:26:09Even the root meanings in Arabic are very interesting.
00:26:13For example, hasene means goodness.
00:26:18But what is its root, man?
00:26:19Beauty.
00:26:21So, in Arabic, goodness and beauty come from the same root.
00:26:25Almost the same word.
00:26:26So, good deeds are like virtues.
00:26:29So it also means beautiful things.
00:26:31Therefore, for example, I cannot understand how a person, especially a believer, could lack a sense of beauty.
00:26:39It's impossible.
00:26:39Because the names of Allah Almighty are the Esma-ul Husna.
00:26:44The most beautiful names.
00:26:46Allah Almighty could also have called them Esma-ul Uzma, the greatest names.
00:26:50That's exactly what would happen.
00:26:52But our Lord calls even His own names the most beautiful names.
00:26:55He says the Prophet Muhammad is the best example.
00:26:59Yes.
00:26:59He says to warn nicely when you're giving a warning.
00:27:02So even to Moses (peace be upon him), it says to warn Pharaoh nicely when going to him.
00:27:09This concept of beauty is therefore intertwined with the concept of goodness.
00:27:13Truth is the very platform on which these two reside.
00:27:17So you have to stand upright so that you can have flowers, so that you can have branches.
00:27:21When you lay it on the ground, the flower's stem is already ruined by the impact.
00:27:24Honesty is what sustains a person.
00:27:27And as you know, the root meaning of this in Arabic is "sidq".
00:27:32Honesty and loyalty come from there.
00:27:34The word "tasadduk" comes from there.
00:27:35Look, we're talking about charity.
00:27:36Now, God willing, we will give our alms; let's tell our friends.
00:27:40They are giving it.
00:27:41Our nation is truly very generous in that respect.
00:27:43So, the word "sadaqa" (charity) comes from the word "tasdik" (confirmation), which in turn comes from the word "doğruluk" (truthfulness).
00:27:50So what does giving someone something from your pocket have to do with honesty?
00:27:54But you're right when you give.
00:27:57That's how you can reach the righteousness that God desires.
00:28:00What Beyhan said earlier, through someone else, is absolutely true.
00:28:04Such individualism is something else entirely for us.
00:28:08You are with someone else here.
00:28:12When it benefits someone else, it benefits you.
00:28:15In fact, the mediation in the believer is always from the outside inward.
00:28:19So, when you do good to others, you become a good person.
00:28:23Constantly working on yourself won't do you any good.
00:28:25Sir, I think a lot.
00:28:27Really?
00:28:27What are your thoughts?
00:28:28I'm always thinking about myself.
00:28:29Look, this is one.
00:28:30This is also a thinker.
00:28:31But it's no use.
00:28:33It's of no use to the world.
00:28:34Many people think that way.
00:28:36Therefore...
00:28:39Even if it's religious studies, I mean, religious studies within it.
00:28:44Because in Islam, all knowledge is essentially a religion.
00:28:47For example, your shoemaking is a science.
00:28:49It is obligatory for you to know it.
00:28:51Whether you're a shoemaker, a car body repairman, a psychologist, or a musician.
00:28:56It is obligatory for you to know those sciences.
00:28:58Therefore, truth, goodness, and beauty are intertwined and mutually supportive and nourishing.
00:29:04And these aren't just things that are trapped inside a person, connected to them, and revolving around their own frame of reference.
00:29:12Things that truly benefit you and make you better, that uplift you, when you engage with the world and other people.
00:29:20We're talking about a whole, in other words.
00:29:22Yes, Mr. Beyhan, of course, in this modern life, we have difficulties in living out the good things and truths that we know.
00:29:34So, there can be difficulties in incorporating it into our lives.
00:29:39So we're talking about a beautiful dress, but we don't have a dress of that kind on.
00:29:44Actually, we make a beautiful dress look even better on us.
00:29:48Why is this so difficult? I mean, why do you think we struggle with these transitions, with bringing this goodness to life?
00:29:57I think this is one of the things we encounter most often in our therapy sessions.
00:30:01So sometimes people know they need to be in a difficult situation.
00:30:07The paths are clear, but we always have to pay a price to take action.
00:30:12We are not taking the cost into account in any way.
00:30:16For example, if I'm not happy with my job and want to leave, resigning might mean taking a risk.
00:30:23I have to take that risk upon myself as well.
00:30:25It's partly because our brains are structured this way that we're afraid of paying the price.
00:30:29He's more inclined to his comfort zone.
00:30:30People prefer the bad they are accustomed to and familiar with, over the good they don't know.
00:30:36For example, this is what we deal with in therapy.
00:30:38So we're in a bad situation, maybe we're miserable, we're with people who are making us miserable, we're in miserable circumstances.
00:30:46The path is clear, but I'm scared.
00:30:48Because the brain says you've gotten used to this, and it's unclear what will happen if you leave.
00:30:52But this cycle is something that can be broken.
00:30:54So, realizing this is the first step.
00:30:56And I would like to say this.
00:30:58People aren't always as nice as they say or portray themselves to be.
00:31:02You can act and speak as nicely as you want, but if it doesn't translate into action, there's a problem.
00:31:11They always say my heart is pure.
00:31:13Your heart may be pure, but unless you translate that purity of heart into action, it means nothing, it's meaningless.
00:31:22It's not working.
00:31:22We love to talk.
00:31:24And in any setting, even if we were talking to someone who might have committed all the evil in the world, they might still tell us something like that.
00:31:31They describe themselves in such a way that you think, "What a hurt person, what a difficult person they are in this life."
00:31:37But that's not the case.
00:31:38When judging a person, one should judge them by their behavior.
00:31:41I think this is an important issue.
00:31:43We'll look into that kindness movement there.
00:31:46This is what I'm looking at.
00:31:47For example, there's something we don't know about, but it's something I've observed.
00:31:51For example, we'll do a good deed.
00:31:53We're going to do a great job.
00:31:54We have a plan for this.
00:31:56And when we do good deeds, we actually have to pay a price, and at that point, there's something that awaits us when we do that deed.
00:32:06There is an emotional reward.
00:32:07It motivates us.
00:32:08But do you know what's happening?
00:32:09If I often talk about the wonderful things I'm going to do, my goals, my dreams, I experience a sense of satisfaction while talking about them.
00:32:18And a large part of motivation comes from talking, and I feel relieved when I talk.
00:32:22It's as if he actually did it.
00:32:23The incident is over.
00:32:24Finished.
00:32:25When you explain it, social media reacts in this way too.
00:32:28It was as if everything ended right there.
00:32:31But you don't offer that help to your neighbor.
00:32:33Because you somehow lose that emotional satisfaction there.
00:32:37I believe this.
00:32:38It's a bit difficult to talk about such wonderful things.
00:32:41If we are eager to tell the story of Ertuğrul after creating it, it is much more important to tell the story after we have created it.
00:32:46Otherwise, by explaining it, we're satisfying their curiosity there and then.
00:32:50We are deprived of that motivation.
00:32:52And another thing is, nothing in life changes easily.
00:32:56For example, let's say I want to bring something good into my life or I want to remove something bad from my life.
00:33:03Let's say that situation has been in my life for how long? 20 years.
00:33:08Think about the material used for rubber bands.
00:33:11We came here with a tire like that, all the way from the ceiling.
00:33:14Let the width of that tire increase by one centimeter each year.
00:33:19A habit I've had for 20 years, the one thing I want to get rid of is a 20-centimeter tire.
00:33:27And when I get really hyped up and want to take a step and rip that tire, I put a lot of pressure on it.
00:33:34At first it seems like they've changed, but that's not the case.
00:33:37Then it pushes us back with tremendous force.
00:33:40And when we try to change life all at once to actually change those things, we can end up even worse off than where we started.
00:33:49We've always believed in small steps here.
00:33:52We need to define such a specific target point.
00:33:55What do I want to do?
00:33:56Let's think of our lives as a piece of land.
00:33:59A 100-acre plot of land.
00:34:00Let's choose a 250 square meter plot there.
00:34:02I'm going to conduct an experiment here.
00:34:04Then, when progress is made, self-confidence also increases.
00:34:07He says, "I've taken a step in my life in a way, and that step is developing something else as well."
00:34:14For example, when I exercise or go to the gym, I pay more attention to my diet.
00:34:19A synergy is created.
00:34:21Good things always bring good things into our lives.
00:34:24And one more thing I'll say.
00:34:26Actually, it's time to take action.
00:34:28I think most of our people are in control.
00:34:31For example, they come to therapy; I know from my experience doing couples therapy that they initially come with that kind of enthusiasm and anxiety.
00:34:38After 2-3 sessions, we can say that we can manage the situation, we can save it.
00:34:43They say, "We're fine now," but they don't solve the problem.
00:34:46And in situations like these, if a person isn't motivated enough to change things in their life, I tend to increase their anxiety.
00:34:54Look, if things don't get any worse, things will only get worse.
00:34:56It's falling apart, you're heading down a path of no return.
00:34:59Sometimes it's important to have a little bit of a need in life.
00:35:02In order to truly facilitate that change, to bring about that change, I increase anxiety during the therapy sessions.
00:35:08And the person says, "If I don't change, things will get worse."
00:35:10If I don't incorporate this into my life, then one of the things that works is creating a need.
00:35:17We are changing the things we need.
00:35:19But if we're finding solutions with bandages, that's when we're passing the time, and the longer we've been using bandages...
00:35:27We can stray so far from real solutions.
00:35:31Yes, what you said reminded me of two things.
00:35:34As the poet says, "A person's character is reflected in their work, not their words; their level of intellect is revealed in their deeds."
00:35:41Also, when we say small steps, it's like Ferhat saying, "Most of it is done, only a little remains," after he's struck the first blow with his pickaxe.
00:35:50Isn't that right, master?
00:35:51She said it beautifully.
00:35:52Yes, master, of course, now we need peace and tranquility.
00:36:00As you know, Islam also comes from the root word "silm".
00:36:04And we must first bring our minds to peace, then our hearts to peace, and as a result, our pleasures to peace as well.
00:36:19You are already expressing these things within established frameworks.
00:36:23What kind of process is this that needs to happen?
00:36:26So, that's how I understand it, brother.
00:36:28Now, the patterns that modern education instills in people are very important.
00:36:36We need to be aware of them, but not by ignoring them.
00:36:41Just look, even when we're going to buy furniture, we make three phone calls back and forth.
00:36:47Do you have any friends you know?
00:36:49So, which one is of good quality, which car is which, where is the malfunction occurring, and so on, right?
00:36:56But we don't conduct such an investigation into ourselves, for example.
00:36:59Unfortunately, our criteria for what we consume, what satisfies our minds, hearts, and pleasures, are not very well-defined.
00:37:08But now, human beings are such valuable beings.
00:37:11That's why, for example, in Persian, the word for human is "merdum," as you know.
00:37:15"Merdüm" also means pupil of the eye.
00:37:20In other words, the apple of the world's eye.
00:37:21You even need the heart of a sheikh.
00:37:22"You are Adam, the apple of the eye of the greatest," he says.
00:37:25I also think you'll live a long life, Mustafa.
00:37:27You're young anyway, I hope you'll live long enough.
00:37:29Let's live together, brother.
00:37:31May we live long, may we live safely, God willing.
00:37:33So, what's actually being discussed there is such a valuable asset.
00:37:38It can't be this shallow.
00:37:41So, what the West did was establish a very conformist social order, and it's generally an aristocratic order.
00:37:51It is an elitist system.
00:37:53He is trying to cram the great entity called man inside it.
00:37:58According to his own ideas.
00:37:59What makes a Muslim different?
00:38:01We belong to the religion of innate nature.
00:38:04So, we know that God Almighty created man with the same greatness, magnitude, richness, and diversity.
00:38:12So you know you can't condemn someone based on a single action, for example.
00:38:16This is both a natural behavior, a behavior inherent in nature, but at the same time, it is a matter of faith and practice.
00:38:26So it's both ethics and jurisprudence at the same time.
00:38:29So, based on a single behavior of someone, can you conclude that they are a bad person?
00:38:33You can't just say "Go away!"
00:38:36You're speaking ill of the dead.
00:38:38You say good things.
00:38:39You leave what is best to God.
00:38:41It's a matter of concern for all of us, for example.
00:38:43All of this is actually related to human nature.
00:38:46Therefore, there is a measure for the heart, the mind, and taste.
00:38:52It doesn't seem excessive.
00:38:53These standards are in line with human nature, which is why they are prevalent in Islam.
00:38:58Because they are the standards of the Creator.
00:39:00What did he create?
00:39:01He created nature.
00:39:02Your Creator knows your possessions.
00:39:04So you know God's property, God knows it.
00:39:07He sets the standards accordingly.
00:39:09Not everything is so readily available.
00:39:11Because, as Beyhan just pointed out, people get used to bad things just as quickly as they get used to good things.
00:39:18In fact, all evil deeds are first made to appear beautiful in the eyes of the beholder.
00:39:23So, no thief, bro, I'm the one stealing.
00:39:25He wouldn't say, "Damn me!"
00:39:27Brother, I'm getting what I deserve too.
00:39:28This is about me, bro.
00:39:30They're eating, so I'll eat too, bro.
00:39:31He bought it, so I'll buy it too, bro.
00:39:33In fact, the verb "to steal" is often used interchangeably with the verb "to take."
00:39:36This is something inherent to the Turkish language.
00:39:38Therefore, the human model that is imposed on us here, as if it were confined to a certain mold, is actually leading us towards a narrowing of the limitations we already have.
00:39:51It reduces one to a shallow being.
00:39:52To a shallow being.
00:39:53So, a hedonistic being.
00:39:56I have my own taste.
00:39:57I'm spending my whole life trying to reach her.
00:40:00Because everything I do is about a certain pleasure, about amplifying a certain enjoyment.
00:40:05Now, according to this logic, people become unhappy when they cannot achieve pleasure.
00:40:11And he feels like there are fewer people, that he is less valuable.
00:40:15That's irrelevant.
00:40:16In Islam, its value depends on where you place it.
00:40:20Deprivation can be a good thing.
00:40:23For example, as you said earlier, you're the one who increases anxiety with things like that.
00:40:27You're twisting his ear.
00:40:28The nation needs to wake up; you're in a serious situation.
00:40:31We need to give you a little nudge.
00:40:33We, for example, see exams as a motivator.
00:40:37This shows that God Almighty hasn't turned to Him enough.
00:40:40God Almighty is warning you with small stones so that you will see.
00:40:44It hit you on the head, it hit you, and you're looking to see where it came from.
00:40:47Because one of the things that is wrongly instilled is the idea that the relationship is between heart and mind.
00:40:54What do we call it now?
00:40:55Reason, sir, that's the realm of philosophy, the realm of thought, the realm of science.
00:40:59These are all aspects of reason.
00:41:00The realm of reasoning, the mind, etc., perception.
00:41:03The heart is about emotions.
00:41:05The songs come from there, the designs emerge from there, the paintings are created from there.
00:41:10But that is not the case in Islam.
00:41:13In Islam, the heart has a mind.
00:41:15In other words, the true essence we call intellect, the primary thing that makes a human being human, is related to the heart.
00:41:22Because the heart commands, and the mind is merely an employee.
00:41:26Wherever the heart directs, the mind develops solutions and strategies accordingly.
00:41:31We are seeing an example of this these days.
00:41:34So, everyone has a brain.
00:41:37The Ottomans, for example, were also intelligent enough to understand colonialism.
00:41:41What is the West doing at that moment?
00:41:43But he didn't.
00:41:44Did he not do it because he was incompetent?
00:41:46Doesn't he/she have any common sense?
00:41:47It works.
00:41:48But his heart tells him he cannot commit such cruelty.
00:41:52I cannot judge a person as property simply because of the color of their skin or their appearance.
00:41:57I can't see Meta.
00:41:59Going to a country, lying, and devouring their goods, thus swallowing up the entire country.
00:42:03We set you free, my dear.
00:42:05You also need to kiss my hand.
00:42:06I can't say.
00:42:07At least I can't fall into this two hundred.
00:42:10It is the heart that makes one say this.
00:42:12Indeed, in Surah Al-Araf, verse 179, when our Lord speaks about the disbelievers, He says:
00:42:19They have hearts, but they do not understand jurisprudence.
00:42:22Fiqh means understanding something from its essence and core.
00:42:28It means to understand.
00:42:29Gee.
00:42:30They have hearts.
00:42:32They don't understand.
00:42:33It is also mentioned in the Hajj chapter of the Quran.
00:42:35It is found in various verses.
00:42:36So there's something going on here.
00:42:38The heart is not just the center of emotions.
00:42:42It is actually at the center of the human being.
00:42:43It is the center of all human functions and all human orientations.
00:42:48So, let's ride our horse to a good place.
00:42:52Therefore, disciplining the heart is actually disciplining the mind as well.
00:42:58For example, how can you instill the feeling of kindness in a person?
00:43:01Through rules, laws, good examples, incentives, and so on.
00:43:06Thanks.
00:43:06But if these things are absent, how can that person make kindness the guiding principle of their life?
00:43:12When his heart becomes pure.
00:43:14In other words, as long as his heart desires it, he will continue to do good even if he has nothing in his hands.
00:43:20Then we say that the heart needs to be placed at the center.
00:43:25We are now going to Edirne.
00:43:28Let's see what our citizens are saying about these issues on the streets.
00:43:40A Muslim should first and foremost be a human being, tolerant, and respectful of others.
00:43:47So, one should know the pros and cons and act accordingly.
00:43:52I think it has to be human, I mean, that's what I know.
00:43:55Being honest, having faith, and respecting nature and the environment.
00:44:02Honesty, morality, and devotion to one's religion.
00:44:05First and foremost, they must be truthful, honest, and ethical.
00:44:09We, as a people, need to rise up.
00:44:11We need to support each other, we need to help each other.
00:44:14As human beings, and as Muslim individuals, we need to be united.
00:44:18When it comes to worship, a literate obsession does not disappear.
00:44:20Think about it, if he fasts, he won't eat forbidden things.
00:44:23If he pays his zakat (obligatory charity), he purifies his wealth and performs an important deed.
00:44:27What would a proper society be like? Well, a dysfunctional society.
00:44:29We cannot be happy, we cannot be at peace.
00:44:31So we can't have anything that way.
00:44:35So, we lose everything in our daily lives.
00:44:38You can't understand the other person.
00:44:41So, our lives never get back on track.
00:44:44Social order breaks down.
00:44:45People clash with each other.
00:44:49They become unhappy, withdraw from society, and feel a great sense of inadequacy.
00:44:54I think we'll lose everything.
00:44:56In other words, we lose our sense of community, we lose our unity.
00:44:59We will lose our future, to be more precise.
00:45:01A generation is emerging that doesn't greet each other, frowns, and is addicted to digital society.
00:45:08That's why I think we've forgotten how to greet people, smile, and ask how they are doing.
00:45:13So you look at our relationships, and our relationships are very bad.
00:45:17Right? There's no trust.
00:45:18I think spirituality is very important.
00:45:25Yes, dear viewers, Ramazan Sevinci continues at full speed on TRT1.
00:45:32We were in Edirne.
00:45:32We also had the opportunity to listen to our dear citizens' unique approaches to goodness, truth, beauty, and what it means to be a good person.
00:45:43And we have clinical psychologist Beyhan Budak in our studio.
00:45:49We have our mentor, Savaş Parkçı.
00:45:52And we called our conversation pure-hearted.
00:45:56Our master also spoke about common sense.
00:45:59I also have a flood of love.
00:46:00Do these have equivalents in modern psychology?
00:46:03What do these tell us from a psychological perspective?
00:46:06I really enjoyed listening to Savaş abi.
00:46:10I'm also learning many things I didn't know.
00:46:12But there are things we can draw parallels with, even if not exactly the same.
00:46:16For example, what we call common sense can be described as an example of a person's reasoning, logic, and critical thinking in their perspective on life.
00:46:26We might receive such a response.
00:46:28But there's something else.
00:46:29Sometimes people are always advised to be overly logical.
00:46:34Be rational in everything you do, even in extreme situations.
00:46:38Take strategic steps in everything.
00:46:40I think the late Alev Alatlan gave a speech.
00:46:43He had a saying: "There's no legal obstacle to doing it, but maybe it's not permissible (halal)."
00:46:50In other words, not everything that appeals to our logic or our hearts, and not everything that is legal, is moral.
00:46:58So logic can become ruthless if it's not accompanied by our hearts and emotions.
00:47:02I would also like to mention this here.
00:47:04Now, yesterday I made a video with İlber Ortağ, who is actually a name that inspires me a lot when it comes to reasoning and critical thinking.
00:47:12We lost our teacher.
00:47:13May he rest in peace, in remembrance of these beautiful and blessed days.
00:47:18I'd like to mention him too, because he's the first person that comes to mind when I think of reasoning.
00:47:21This part is actually a bit of our reasoning, the intellectual part.
00:47:26The heart part is our emotions.
00:47:28But here, emotions have a slightly more volatile side in psychology.
00:47:32So, when emotions are absent from logic, they can seriously negatively impact life.
00:47:38For example, what we call a pure heart can be called emotional intelligence.
00:47:42Emotional intelligence consists of empathy, the capacity to understand what another person is feeling.
00:47:49Being able to manage our emotions is a very important issue.
00:47:52Many people who struggle in life have difficulty managing their emotions.
00:47:56I'll give an example.
00:47:56I am from Bağla, Ankara.
00:47:58If there are any viewers from Bağla watching, I'd like to say hello here.
00:48:01Now we have a fellow townsman as well.
00:48:03The pronunciation of "Bağla" is also beautiful, like this: Bağla.
00:48:06It means high.
00:48:07Yes, yes.
00:48:07Connect, it means sublime.
00:48:08Now, some days I'm an emotional person and sometimes I get anxious.
00:48:12Sometimes I wake up feeling bad, feeling tense, and I just look in the mirror and move on.
00:48:17I'm saying, who is this ugly man?
00:48:19I keep saying, "Look at those eyebrows, they're so thick, how are you going to show your face in public afterwards?" and so on.
00:48:24A few days pass.
00:48:26After that, it was the same Beyhan, the same eyebrows, the same look.
00:48:30I'm saying, look at that adjective!
00:48:32You know, who is this handsome guy?
00:48:34I'm saying that from Ankara Bağla, there's a Kenan İmirzalıoğlu and a Beyhan Budak who have emerged.
00:48:39Thanks.
00:48:39Now, here's the point.
00:48:42What I mean is, our feelings determine our reality.
00:48:46Actually, Beyhan is average.
00:48:48At least, that's what I think.
00:48:50This is also the case when we look at our lives, for example.
00:48:53At that moment, for example, I feel bad.
00:48:55I'm going through tough times.
00:48:56Sometimes even cloudy weather can affect our feelings.
00:48:59What happens in such a situation?
00:49:02I'm talking about a bad experience I had at that time, a tension I experienced with people, and I think, "This person was always bad."
00:49:09My life has always been bad.
00:49:11I've never had a good day.
00:49:13Our emotions cause us to negatively evaluate our perception of reality and our past.
00:49:17It is at points like these that our common sense, our intellect, needs to come into play.
00:49:23Wait a minute, calm down.
00:49:25What are you experiencing right now?
00:49:26Is this reality or emotion?
00:49:28We need to get to know our emotions a little better.
00:49:30So this is important.
00:49:31And at points where logic tries to advance so relentlessly, this is what emotions should say.
00:49:38Look, what you're doing might sound logical, but it's not morally right.
00:49:42At that point, they transform into a team that supports each other.
00:49:46We cannot think of them independently.
00:49:48And finally, and to make sure I don't forget, I'm writing this down because of what we call good taste, something modern man misses out on most.
00:49:57one of them.
00:49:58We've reached a point where we don't even consider a job that has no outcome or result as a job at all.
00:50:05We even do this with people.
00:50:08People say they wouldn't even choose to be friends with someone who wouldn't give them an opportunity.
00:50:14We tend to view people not as friends or as human beings, but as opportunities, as chances.
00:50:21Life has become a process of moving from point A to point B.
00:50:25This is turning us into a spiritually barren desert.
00:50:30While we strive to balance both our logic and our emotions, there's also something we call the adornment or beauty of life.
00:50:38In other words, becoming aware of life.
00:50:39On days when I'm feeling tense, I say I'm very anxious, very stressed.
00:50:44Viewers will be recommending psychologists to me soon.
00:50:48A tailor can't mend his own torn clothes.
00:50:50That's exactly what my last book is about.
00:50:51It begins with the saying, "A tailor cannot mend his own torn clothes."
00:50:55He says, "the wounded one," and he understands the concept of the wounded healer a little better.
00:50:59We were driving along the Black Sea coast towards Ankara when suddenly it started to rain, and then...
00:51:08Suddenly the sun came out, we saw a rainbow and a lot of sky.
00:51:12"Oh, Beyhan," I thought to myself.
00:51:14I said, we live under this miraculous sky, this celestial dome, and we are looking towards something.
00:51:20We're not aware of it, that we're in such a world.
00:51:23And when I realized it, I said to myself, "Actually, we're under a huge sky, what wonderful things we're experiencing," and that was my thought.
00:51:31How small.
00:51:31In fact, thousands of generations have come and gone, and none of them are actually remembered.
00:51:36It reminded me of him.
00:51:38There's one more thing I want to say here.
00:51:40Actually, regarding what we call the meaning of life, what we call the adornment of life, I'm constantly rushing around in an apartment building, attending seminars, reading books, and attending sessions.
00:51:53Then I smelled something as I got into my car.
00:51:55I'll be rushing somewhere again.
00:51:57I said, "I'm doing it, but this smell looks familiar to me."
00:52:02I started following the scent and realized that there was actually a hawthorn tree in our garden.
00:52:08"I said, 'I've been living here for years and I didn't even know we had a hawthorn tree in our garden.'"
00:52:14I picked it up, rubbed it, and took a deep breath, inhaling deeply.
00:52:20I said, we don't notice this when we're trying to get from point A to point B.
00:52:25Life has become increasingly results-oriented.
00:52:27We need to watch for a while, to get lost in observation.
00:52:31I think that's a French expression, is it something like "philanthropist"?
00:52:35For example, there's this state of aimless wandering in the streets, sometimes a kind of idleness for the sake of exploration.
00:52:41We need some time.
00:52:43We need to pause like this for a little while.
00:52:45When we stop, we realize the beauty of our country, the beauty of life, and even the beauty of the people around us.
00:52:54You can't appreciate anything when you're racing, like in a car going at 150 kilometers per hour, and you're looking at the scenery.
00:53:00Like a rapidly passing image.
00:53:02That concept of refined taste is actually about creating a backyard in our lives, and enjoying it there.
00:53:10Everyone should contribute as much as they can, both financially and morally, but I don't accept the excuse "I don't have the means" here.
00:53:17It's very important that we can recognize this other side and make better sense of life.
00:53:25In my opinion, truly having lived isn't about owning property or accumulating inheritance.
00:53:30So sometimes when I'm rushing around, I think, am I going to inherit money? What am I working for in life?
00:53:35That's not the point.
00:53:37When you enjoy life, as you get a little older, you reach this point.
00:53:42I'm so glad I lived.
00:53:44Those little things are proof that a person is alive.
00:53:46For example, none of the things I consider great achievements give me the same satisfaction when I recall them.
00:53:55I always love talking about this little trip to Safranbolu that I took with my family.
00:54:02We had eaten a dessert like this somewhere before.
00:54:04That comes to my mind, it's such a small memory, but I think to myself, I'm glad we experienced this moment.
00:54:11In my mind, this is proof of being a family, of being united.
00:54:15That's wonderful. While you were talking about these things, I was actually thinking about the fact that people have some problems when it comes to knowing themselves, that we have problems.
00:54:25They also refer to it as a spiritual station that Sufis call Telvin.
00:54:32So, it's like changing colors, a person's mood and emotions are constantly shifting.
00:54:37It may be related to his personal development, his spiritual development, but Yunus Emre expressed it very beautifully.
00:54:45God gave me a heart, even the servant becomes enamored.
00:54:49A moment comes, and it becomes clear.
00:54:52A moment comes, and he becomes joyful.
00:54:54Suddenly it feels like winter, like the bitter cold of winter.
00:54:58A single drop of good tidings is born, and with joy it becomes a garden, he says.
00:55:02And so on, he beautifully described the changes and transformations he experienced, like Jesus and Pharaoh.
00:55:12I truly believe that what we call a pure heart means focusing on the heart, and as a manifestation of this, we have a refined and discerning heart.
00:55:22Let's see, master.
00:55:23Yes, brother, what you're saying is really important because when we say "human," it's as if we're talking about an external entity, a third party.
00:55:32We are talking about a person.
00:55:33Of course, everything we've talked about is about ourselves.
00:55:36Now we need to interpret each event from our own perspective.
00:55:40That is a moral stance, that is honesty.
00:55:42In other words, one shouldn't be a simpleton to others while secretly devouring others.
00:55:46From this perspective, for example, what does "sound judgment" mean, brother?
00:55:51Surrendered pleasure.
00:55:53The word "teslim" (delivery) also comes from the same root.
00:55:55Silm, meaning righteousness, peace.
00:56:00It also has a meaning of peace.
00:56:01The meaning of peace is exactly the same.
00:56:03Brother, I really enjoy listening to you tell these stories.
00:56:05I have something nice to say.
00:56:06May God bless you.
00:56:07Now, think about it, all of this is a matter of personal preference.
00:56:11What is pleasure, bro?
00:56:12We ate, we drank, and we told Beyhan exactly what we had to say.
00:56:14That's wonderful, of course, it's a very important gift from God Almighty to humanity.
00:56:18He is able to do things with pleasure, he can live life with pleasure.
00:56:22Think of it as something that isn't the case, man.
00:56:25Imagine that there is no such thing as pleasure, that our lives have no dimensions.
00:56:29So, robots, even robots, might now be able to define tastes thanks to artificial intelligence.
00:56:35Therefore, it is a dimension that makes us human.
00:56:38Where exactly is he making this gesture, for example, bro?
00:56:40Where does it reveal itself to us?
00:56:43There's a birdhouse.
00:56:45The man built a birdhouse.
00:56:46Here they are in various places in Istanbul: in the corners of mosques, in the corners of workplaces, in homes, and in historical sites.
00:56:52I teach a class solely about this.
00:56:54The bird is married.
00:56:55Who came up with this birdhouse, and what was the idea behind it?
00:57:00My problem is finding that person.
00:57:03Because I don't have anything like that, man.
00:57:05So I don't see such a deficiency in the world.
00:57:07As I walk, I also look at the roof, I look over there too.
00:57:10I'm not saying they haven't thought of anything for the birds here.
00:57:14But a believing woman or man has thought about it.
00:57:18Someone invented this.
00:57:19This is an innovation.
00:57:22When I say that, nobody thinks it's appropriate.
00:57:23Brother, innovation, electronics.
00:57:25My dear, this is also an innovation of humanity.
00:57:28So, the man built those houses thinking that he was responsible for the animal, for any other creature created by God, and that he should also think about them.
00:57:39He did.
00:57:39Even...
00:57:40Birds must be his problem.
00:57:41What are they doing?
00:57:42Exactly.
00:57:43Right now, look, we are constructing a lot of buildings.
00:57:46Would it ever occur to any of us, man?
00:57:47Or are we hindering these little birds from reaching their altitude?
00:57:51So we are blocking flight distances.
00:57:53Then let's do them a favor too.
00:57:55It doesn't occur to us.
00:57:57It occurred to us five hundred years ago.
00:57:59Back when buildings weren't that tall, you know.
00:58:02Isn't it?
00:58:03Therefore, what I am truly looking for are the beautiful qualities commanded by the heart of that believer.
00:58:10Self-indulgence.
00:58:11What does he enjoy?
00:58:13He enjoys it when he gives it.
00:58:14Not when you receive it.
00:58:16I'll gather them up, sir.
00:58:17I really enjoy it, man.
00:58:18I love it.
00:58:19Thanks.
00:58:20It goes away when you give it away.
00:58:22We cannot be two-winged humans without achieving this balance.
00:58:26There will inevitably be some excess in our lives.
00:58:29Did he just make the birdhouse casually?
00:58:31No.
00:58:31The guy is measuring the ergonomics of the bird.
00:58:36So who will use that birdhouse?
00:58:38Sparrows, pigeons, and so on.
00:58:39Little birds.
00:58:41He measures their body radius.
00:58:45He designs the entry holes accordingly.
00:58:46Because if it gets bigger, a hawk will get in too.
00:58:49So, the bird that hunts those birds enters.
00:58:51He hunts them there.
00:58:53It doesn't make it any smaller.
00:58:54Then no birds can get in.
00:58:55Look, there's science involved here too.
00:58:58Therefore, riding and enjoying it are intertwined.
00:59:02Can you create music without science?
00:59:05You can't.
00:59:06Even if you don't know about it, even if you don't enter that field
00:59:08Your name contains mathematics, architecture, and physics.
00:59:14There are many things.
00:59:16Therefore, in fact, God Almighty created man in such a way that...
00:59:19such a huge entity
00:59:21The experience of pleasure is also related to the mind.
00:59:23His reasoning is also related to his enjoyment.
00:59:27The real challenge is finding that balance.
00:59:30In other words, to achieve balance with one's innate nature.
00:59:32And then there are these three things, brother: a pure heart, a sound mind, and refined taste.
00:59:35Let's never forget.
00:59:37They are blessings from God.
00:59:40This is what distinguishes a believer.
00:59:41He attributes everything to God.
00:59:43These things were created by God Almighty and bestowed upon us.
00:59:46Secondly, their standards are also God's standards.
00:59:50Sir, I enjoy everything.
00:59:52You have read the Einstein file.
00:59:54People who enjoy killing.
00:59:56Is this considered pleasure, then?
00:59:58Not.
00:59:59It has a size.
00:59:59Three is good if it is for the sake of God.
01:00:03A believer's every action is guided by three things, brother.
01:00:07Let's repeat.
01:00:08Doing it for the sake of God, knowing that he is using a blessing given by God,
01:00:14Third, doing it according to God's will.
01:00:16In other words, doing it according to God's standards, doing it with the intention of pleasing God.
01:00:21That's where right and wrong become clear.
01:00:24Yes, there are different tastes, and there are right tastes and wrong tastes.
01:00:27Responsibilities, proper responsibilities, things you're exaggerating.
01:00:30How will you separate them?
01:00:31God Almighty's measures are not hidden or concealed.
01:00:35He stated it.
01:00:36It has also been stated with the word "Hünnet".
01:00:38Therefore, we also know behavioral patterns.
01:00:42The life of our Prophet is his thing.
01:00:44Which tastes are good, and which are not?
01:00:46Which way of thinking is good, and which is not?
01:00:50We said reasoning, that's very good, Beyhan.
01:00:52For example, the word "muhakeme" (reasoning/judgment) is another etymology for you.
01:00:55The word "hakem" (referee) in Arabic is like the bit that goes into a horse's mouth, bro.
01:01:00So, the words for reasoning and wisdom also come from the same root.
01:01:04Actually, that great creature, like a horse, what a great creature a horse is, a powerful creature.
01:01:10In other words, the human mind is like a horse's mind.
01:01:14You use a ship to turn right, left, to rush, to stop, right?
01:01:21That's essentially what the word wisdom means.
01:01:23In other words, it is the essence that guides a person on the right path, prevents them from falling into pitfalls, and safely leads them to their destination.
01:01:34We must give credit where credit is due.
01:01:35Meanwhile, it's not just verbal suggestions; these measures are also presented to us in the physical aspects of our lives.
01:01:48Can't you see, sir?
01:01:49Yes.
01:01:49So, if only we could read what is harmful and what is beneficial in the universe, wouldn't that be great, professor?
01:01:56Of course, but that's something reserved for those with wisdom.
01:01:59Because wisdom is the job of the arbiter, that is, those who are now in a position to judge and rule.
01:02:06So he came to know himself, and he came to know himself through his Lord.
01:02:11Yes.
01:02:12So, I mean, a guy with arms and legs, weighing 80 kilos, doesn't define himself like some kind of cheese tin.
01:02:19That's how the West defines it.
01:02:21So you're a tin of cheese.
01:02:22You have certain mechanisms within you that make you different.
01:02:26That's not true.
01:02:28So, the vast universe belongs to me.
01:02:32The vast universe is mine.
01:02:33The vast universe is mine.
01:02:35The other realm, the smaller realm.
01:02:38Now, would a person who looks at things like that see themselves as nothing more than a tin can of cheese?
01:02:43I'm just a metabolism.
01:02:45It doesn't say, "I am made up of certain impulses, certain secretions, certain tissues."
01:02:49I am a higher being.
01:02:51I'm the boss.
01:02:52God Almighty has appointed me as His Caliph.
01:02:54He appointed me as his deputy.
01:02:55God is invisible, but I am visible.
01:02:57Yes.
01:02:58This is a huge responsibility for a human being.
01:03:00It's almost time for breaking the fast in Ankara.
01:03:05First of all, we wish that their fasting is accepted.
01:03:09That is what we ask of our Lord, sir.
01:03:12Hopefully it will continue after the call to prayer in Ankara.
01:03:15The joy of Ramadan.
01:03:16Dear viewers, our friends from Ankara are having their iftar meal.
01:03:22We say again, may God accept your prayers.
01:03:25And here in our studio, our Ramadan joy program continues with a lively conversation.
01:03:31Since both of my guests are from Ankara, are we almost going to break our fast together?
01:03:35It opened in Ankara, according to the report.
01:03:37Yes, but you'll have to wait for Istanbul.
01:03:40Thanks.
01:03:41Sir, Mr. Beyhan, of course we have a channel called TRT Genç.
01:03:46And you are running, or have run, a therapy taxi program there.
01:03:52And indeed, the most important mission of our channel is to expose the destructive, harmful, and morally damaging influences on the minds and thoughts of our youth in American cinema.
01:04:07To correct harmful films and the messages they convey, in a sense.
01:04:15Our mission is to create a wonderful channel that aims to give our youth healthier, more emotionally resonant, and future-oriented messages that will repair their feelings and thoughts.
01:04:28He has a vision.
01:04:30And on that occasion, you were, and are, there as a programmer.
01:04:36Hopefully, our channel, TRT Genç, will try to present our own words and our own thoughts on this channel.
01:04:43We wanted to mention this on this occasion as well.
01:04:47I want to tell you that in the modern world, people are increasingly experiencing anxiety, loneliness, and of course, other emotions, all of which are linked to the events of the moment.
01:05:00This has created a number of crises.
01:05:03Our young people are also affected by this.
01:05:06In this context, what kind of suggestions would you give them?
01:05:10First of all, TRT Genç is truly a very valuable initiative, a very valuable project.
01:05:15Our young people really need this.
01:05:16The team working there analyzed these needs perfectly and produced fantastic results with pinpoint accuracy, collaborating with names that young people love.
01:05:25And when they came to see me, my father was a taxi driver.
01:05:27He's still working in Ankara.
01:05:30They said, "Your father sometimes... I also used to think of such an idea."
01:05:33They said, "What if you drove a taxi and our guests were high school students or university students, and you could have a kind of therapeutic, not exactly therapy, but a conversation with them?"
01:05:41How about we have a heart-to-heart conversation like this?
01:05:44I said that would be great, and so we did filming in Hatay, Gaziantep, Adana, Mersin, and Ankara.
01:05:51And it turned out so well that when we listened to our young people, when we asked today's youth what their concerns were, what they cared about, what they struggled with...
01:06:01We are actually noticing these issues.
01:06:03This is an important issue for them because it makes them feel valued.
01:06:07On the other hand, it's also important to note that sometimes we don't listen to young people, especially teenagers; we have ready-made solutions in our heads.
01:06:14We're at the point where we're saying, "Don't do this, don't do that, but wait a minute, calm down, let's listen to them too."
01:06:19Sometimes we picked up the young friends with their mothers, sometimes with their friends.
01:06:23There were some funny moments, and sometimes very dramatic ones, but I think it was very good.
01:06:28We meet every Tuesday evening at 19:45 on TRT Genç.
01:06:33Congratulations on this wonderful work.
01:06:35So here we are discussing the problems that the modern age has brought about, affecting the psychology of our youth.
01:06:43So, this anxiety and stress we're talking about is distancing our young people from their normal state.
01:06:51Isn't that right?
01:06:52Yes, there is a concept in English, but it's called langoising.
01:06:57This came into play after the pandemic, and it started to be talked about a lot.
01:07:01It's not depression, it's not burnout syndrome.
01:07:05It's like, I get tired when I work, and I get bored when I'm at home.
01:07:09A state of weariness, of boredom.
01:07:13But this is the kind of thing that draws our motivation from within.
01:07:17It takes away our motivation to create something, to do something useful for ourselves and society.
01:07:23Basically, what I've observed is that this has been a starting point.
01:07:27So what can we do?
01:07:28Actually, the advice we can give to young people applies to people of all ages.
01:07:33I've noticed something.
01:07:34Speaking for myself, I am a graduate of Istanbul University and I came here.
01:07:38I came here by deceiving my family.
01:07:40I said my score wasn't high enough for Ankara.
01:07:42My score is only high enough for Istanbul University.
01:07:44Are you admitting this now?
01:07:46No, my father knows. He already learned it in the second grade.
01:07:48I learned it in Türkiye.
01:07:49So our people are probably watching it too now.
01:07:52And now I've come to Istanbul, but it's very difficult.
01:07:56And at that time I was staying in a dormitory near Fatih Mosque.
01:07:59While walking around, I smelled kokoreç (a Turkish dish made from lamb intestines) coming from somewhere.
01:08:01I love kokoreç (a Turkish dish made from lamb intestines). I went there and it cost 5 lira for kokoreç.
01:08:05Maybe I have 3 or 4 lira in my pocket too.
01:08:07Not because of that.
01:08:09I don't want to do something that shows poverty.
01:08:11It stems from my ineptness when it comes to budget management.
01:08:15I've run out of money by the end of the month.
01:08:16"Brother," I said, "we were very familiar with him from Ankara."
01:08:18I said I had 3 lira. Can you make it for 3 lira?
01:08:21"Go away," he said, "am I going to deal with beggars like you?"
01:08:24And I was so upset, considering I had only been in Istanbul for a few months.
01:08:28I sat in the courtyard of Fatih Mosque and wept uncontrollably.
01:08:32I can't even call home.
01:08:33I want to go back.
01:08:34There isn't a single decent person in Istanbul.
01:08:37There isn't a single good person.
01:08:39During such a process, the days continued to turn into one another.
01:08:42I couldn't call because I really wanted to come myself.
01:08:46There's a place nearby called "the uncles' place."
01:08:49Such a tiny old house with bay windows has been demolished.
01:08:52It's on the verge of collapse, almost in ruins.
01:08:56My uncles and brothers from Erzincan have a tea house like this.
01:08:59I was wearing jeans there too.
01:09:01I've had my tea.
01:09:02They would serve the tea in three small, water-like glasses.
01:09:05I put my hand in my pocket.
01:09:07The pants were too tight, so I couldn't take my money out.
01:09:09Just then, he hit my hand.
01:09:11Uncle Metin passed away.
01:09:12Now his nephew runs it.
01:09:15We went again recently.
01:09:16He hit it like this.
01:09:18"My nephew is with us again today," he said.
01:09:20I said no, I said I'll give it, etc.
01:09:22"No, he said he didn't have any from us today."
01:09:23You don't want to do that.
01:09:25Then I learned that there were already professors from our university's Faculty of Literature there,
01:09:29It was a place frequently visited by the students.
01:09:31And when he saw the students, he wouldn't take payment from them only once every now and then, or once or twice.
01:09:37I liked it so much that I thought, "There are good people out there too."
01:09:40Even so, he's a good person.
01:09:41What are we now beginning to notice?
01:09:43This is what I see in modern man, in my own way.
01:09:46There's a situation that makes us feel really bad.
01:09:48Whether young or adult, we tend to think that all bad things happen to us.
01:09:54This has something to do with the following.
01:09:56We live in a housing complex with one hundred apartments.
01:09:58One block.
01:09:59And there isn't enough parking.
01:10:02And four or five apartments always have parking problems.
01:10:05He's filming unfairly, infringing on someone else's rights.
01:10:07Sometimes we can't find a place.
01:10:08And I say, sometimes I lift the wipers.
01:10:11How come people don't notice this?
01:10:13This is a violation of people's rights; they are putting people in difficult situations.
01:10:16And anger is building inside me.
01:10:19I say to myself, these people are so insensitive, look what the country has come to, and then I go home, feeling tense and angry.
01:10:26Then one day I thought to myself, Beyhan, in this building, four or five apartments are behaving like this.
01:10:32Ninety-five of them are pulling their cars like a razor blade.
01:10:35People are so thoughtful.
01:10:37Because of my worries about those four, I may fail to see the good in the other ninety-five.
01:10:43We are so preoccupied with talking about the bad here that we are failing to notice the good.
01:10:51And I would like to give a case example.
01:10:54You can stop anytime, by the way.
01:10:56So, I'm going to say something, but...
01:10:57Time is running out, so please wrap things up.
01:10:59A couple in their 70s came to me during the time I was doing family counseling.
01:11:05He says there were two such films, Adile Naşli and Münir Özkul's "Pickle Makers."
01:11:08Their situation is quite conflictual.
01:11:11Ayşe Hanım is a bit more, let's say Ayşe Hanım, a character, a dominant character.
01:11:16Mr. Ahmet seems a bit more innocent.
01:11:18And I said, how can I help, but they're making huge arguments out of tiny little things.
01:11:24But while Ahmet Bey sometimes looks so dejected and meek, he also occasionally throws in some sarcastic remarks.
01:11:28Then I asked those people for something.
01:11:30We have our session, our appointment, in two weeks.
01:11:33I said, "If you have any nice photos from your family album that capture such memories, would you bring them?"
01:11:38Two weeks later, they're sitting in a living room in our office, but Mrs. Ayşe is sobbing uncontrollably.
01:11:44And I was surprised, I wasn't expecting anything like that.
01:11:47Then I invited them inside.
01:11:48I asked, "Ayşe Hanım, what happened?"
01:11:50I asked Mr. Ahmet, "Did he beat you? Did he insult you? What did he do?"
01:11:53But Mr. Ahmet is still standing there, the innocent but guilty one.
01:11:56"Teacher," he said, "we went to a pastry shop."
01:11:59We ordered lemonade, we ordered profiteroles.
01:12:01We're sitting here very comfortably, now we're going to pay the bill.
01:12:03Time passed in conversation.
01:12:05Ahmet said he forgot his wallet at home.
01:12:08Will you pay the bill?
01:12:10He said, "Like me," and humiliated a young girl in front of other people.
01:12:14I said, "I didn't understand, Ms. Ayşe."
01:12:16When you say young girl, I mean, did this incident happen within the last two weeks?
01:12:20"No, my son," he said, "it happened in 1963."
01:12:23We were engaged at the time.
01:12:24So what happened? I asked.
01:12:25When he was engaged, Ahmet Bey's family was apparently pathologically stingy.
01:12:29They committed many atrocities.
01:12:31I agreed.
01:12:32When you start talking about those memories, it feels like you're living them yesterday.
01:12:37This is a malfunction of our brain.
01:12:39Actually, it's not a defect, it's a feature.
01:12:41If we always see the bad, always complain, always talk about the negative, we will live in the worst place in the world.
01:12:47We'll have the worst relationship.
01:12:49We would have the worst life.
01:12:52We need to talk about the good things.
01:12:54We talked about good deeds today, too.
01:12:55Master, our time is running out.
01:12:58It went very well, thank you very much.
01:13:00Thank you very much.
01:13:01Thank you.
01:13:02Thank you for your support.
01:13:03Thank you for your visit.
01:13:04Let's go to the Istanbul iftar with prayers.
01:13:08May God bless it.
01:13:09Amine.
01:13:10Hallelujah.
01:13:10Hallelujah.
01:13:12Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.
01:13:13And salatu wa salamu ala Resulina Muhammedin ve ala alihi ve sahabihi ecmain.
01:13:19O Lord, accept our fasts.
01:13:21Make us good people.
01:13:23May God grant us the opportunity to be with good people and to be of benefit to humanity.
01:13:29May you receive all the prayers and good intentions of our brothers and sisters who are praying with us right now, and of our brothers and sisters in our country and throughout the Islamic world.
01:13:39Accept us into Your exalted presence and bestow upon us abundant blessings and goodness, both in this world and the hereafter.
01:13:49Amine.
01:13:50All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.
01:13:54Dear viewers, with this, we conclude the conversation portion of our Ramadan Joy program.
01:14:01And the Istanbul iftar will begin shortly.
01:14:05May your table be bountiful, sir/madam.
01:14:07May Allah always allow us to experience the joy of breaking the fast in such beauty, peace, and tranquility.
01:14:14It is time for iftar in Istanbul. May Allah accept your prayers.
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