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Sahur Bereketi 26. Bölüm | Alev Erkilet & Müjde Yahşi (16 Mart 2026)
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00:00:51A rose in Mecca, its face shining like the full moon.
00:00:57Her skin is a white color with a pinkish tint.
00:01:03Her hair is slightly wavy, light-colored, and she has crescent-shaped eyebrows.
00:01:11A vein between her eyebrows that swells when she gets angry.
00:01:17A rose in Mecca, its hair falling onto her shoulders.
00:01:24His beard was thick, and his eyes were as black as dark grapes.
00:01:28Her dark eyes are always fixed on the ground, looking more at the ground than the sky.
00:01:37His gaze is thoughtful.
00:01:41Its neck was silver-white, like a figure made of elephant ivory.
00:01:48He walked behind his companions and said, "Leave my rear to the angels."
00:01:57He turns his hand away when he is surprised by something.
00:02:01He brings his hands together when he speaks.
00:02:05He turns away when he's angry.
00:02:09She closes her eyes slightly when she's happy.
00:02:14Her laughter is a smile.
00:02:16When she smiles, her teeth are full of grains of gold.
00:02:22A rose in Mecca, its face radiating majesty and authority.
00:02:28Sweet in speech, speaking clearly and distinctly.
00:02:33Her voice is beautiful, her sweat is like a rose.
00:02:37Leaving the scent of roses in the streets it passed through.
00:02:41His clothing is simple, mostly with a treat on his back.
00:02:46Her favorite colors are white and yellow.
00:02:51His meal consisted of ground oats mixed with flour and cooked over a fire.
00:02:57What he ate was some olive oil and spices.
00:03:03His posture at the table was a gesture of gratitude.
00:03:09A rose, its second home is Medina.
00:03:16A rose in Medina.
00:03:18The most honorable of all humankind.
00:03:23The center of the truths of faith.
00:03:27The emblem of divine manifestations.
00:03:31The place where divine secrets descend.
00:03:34The sky of Rabbaniye, his homeland.
00:03:38The greatest jewel in the center of the necklace of prophets.
00:03:43The leader of the caravan of prophets.
00:03:46The highest of all beings.
00:03:50The standard-bearer of the banner of glory.
00:03:53Witness to eternal secrets.
00:03:57The source of knowledge, forbearance, and wisdom.
00:04:01The apple of the eye of both heaven and earth.
00:04:05The soul of both worlds.
00:04:07The eye of both this world and the hereafter.
00:04:12A rose in Medina.
00:04:15The radiant tree of origin and nobility.
00:04:18The highest of all beings in creation.
00:04:21The most perfect of physical forms.
00:04:25The true property and real blessing.
00:04:29Possessing dazzling beauty and exalted rank.
00:04:34The physician and medicine of the heart.
00:04:37The health and well-being of bodies.
00:04:40The light and radiance of the eyes.
00:04:43Loved for centuries.
00:04:45Loved again.
00:04:48Loved with fresh, vibrant emotions.
00:04:51Worthy of the most distinguished positions.
00:04:54The best friend.
00:04:57The most honorable lover.
00:04:59The son of Abdülmuttalib.
00:05:02Son of Abdullah.
00:05:04Our Lord.
00:05:06Prophet Muhammad Mustafa.
00:05:10Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
00:05:13A rose in Medina.
00:05:15He's in love with her.
00:05:18He's in love with her.
00:05:19Despite everything, she's in love with him.
00:05:22Billions of nightingales.
00:05:25Joy has unfurled a flag in every heart.
00:05:30Because that rose is still in Medina.
00:05:51Dear friends.
00:05:54We are now in days and nights where we say goodbye.
00:05:59We are on the eve of the night when the Muslim community will raise their hands to Allah Almighty, saying, "Tonight is Laylat al-Qadr."
00:06:09And we give thanks to our Lord for allowing us to reach this day and this night of the blessed month of Ramadan.
00:06:19We will depart from this month which brings mercy, blessings, well-being, and healing to the entire Muslim community, to all believers, especially the true Muslims.
00:06:34For a whole month, we implore our Lord with prayers and wishes.
00:06:39O Lord, grant us to depart from this blessed month of Ramadan in the way You intend to see us, and in the way that this blessed month will shape us.
00:06:53May it be granted to you.
00:06:55And let's not leave the virtues we gain during the holy month of Ramadan behind and abandon them only during Ramadan.
00:07:04Let's carry this through to the next 11 months, like a burning candle, despite all the winds, let's keep that candlelight burning.
00:07:19Let's protect and preserve it until the next Ramadan.
00:07:23We seek help from our Lord in this matter.
00:07:25We greet you all with respect and affection.
00:07:30Ladies and gentlemen, we are here with you for another blessed pre-dawn meal.
00:07:34May our night be blessed, and our pre-dawn meal be bountiful, radiant, and joyful.
00:07:41Dear viewers, tonight, until what we will call the time of imsak (pre-dawn meal) for Istanbul, until the moment the fast of the new day begins, we will start together and present to you...
00:07:53We will separate.
00:07:54Until that moment, it was another walk, another gathering at your table, while you were together with your family, your children.
00:08:04We will have some offerings to share with you at your feast.
00:08:09We will talk about our Lord, our beloved Prophet, and his distinguished companions.
00:08:15We will talk about rights and truths.
00:08:18Our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Day of Judgment should either speak good or remain silent," and we too share this with you at your table of hearts.
00:08:27We will try to present to you everything we know and everything that is beneficial.
00:08:33With my two very special guests.
00:08:35My esteemed colleague, Professor Dr. Alev Erkilet, Faculty Member of the Sociology Department at Ibn Haldun University, and clinical psychologist Ms. Müjde.
00:08:54We will be together with Yahşi.
00:08:56Until dawn. Welcome, esteemed teachers.
00:09:00Thank you.
00:09:02How are you?
00:09:02I wish you a blessed pre-dawn meal.
00:09:04Thank you very much. You're welcome.
00:09:06Yes, so I think one of the reasons why Allah Almighty declares a holiday at the end of Ramadan is Ramadan itself.
00:09:18Perhaps this is meant to console the believing hearts saddened by the end of the holy month; otherwise, people wouldn't celebrate the end of such a month.
00:09:29Even rejoicing at the arrival of Ramadan and grieving its departure are consequences of faith.
00:09:36But thank God, Allah Almighty has granted us another month.
00:09:42I wish you a blessed pre-dawn meal, sir/madam.
00:09:43Hopefully everything will turn out for the best.
00:09:44Thanks a lot.
00:09:44Welcome.
00:09:45May God bless you. Thank you very much.
00:09:46Thank you.
00:09:47Good news, madam.
00:09:48Dear Professor, I suggest we begin with the following question.
00:09:55Civilizations are being established, and historically, it seems that the names of men predominantly appear in these civilizations.
00:10:10But absolutely, for example, in the works created by an architect like Sinan, that aesthetic must also reflect the inner world of a woman.
00:10:26It has an aesthetic effect.
00:10:31So a man is influenced by his mother, by his wife, he is guided by his daughter's vision, and while he is improving the world, he is also giving her an aesthetic sense.
00:10:47It brings profit.
00:10:48What if I asked, "What is the role of women in the formation of civilizations?" and we started like that.
00:10:55That would be a great question.
00:10:57That would be a very meaningful question.
00:10:59As you said, when we look at civilizations created outside of Islam, or rather, outside of Islamic societies, we see a male-dominated society.
00:11:14We see a structure.
00:11:16There's something that historians often say.
00:11:19So history is made by men because history is built on victories won on the battlefield.
00:11:29That's why it's said that both those who write history and those who make it are men.
00:11:35But I think Islamic societies are a very significant exception to this.
00:11:41I believe this stems from the fact that, as you just mentioned, it is a reflection of the light brought by the Prophet.
00:11:54Because, as you know, before the Prophet Muhammad first began sharing Islam with individuals, with people...
00:12:04The pre-Islamic society was completely anti-women, a sexist society.
00:12:10And when people were given the good news that they would have daughters, as it is mentioned in the Quran, their faces turned dark and they thought, "What a great burden this is upon us!"
00:12:20They thought disaster had struck.
00:12:22They were burying their daughters, and women had no voice in that society.
00:12:34But when we look at the period after Islam, we see an example that goes through the Prophet's family, his wives, his daughter, and his grandchildren.
00:12:47There is.
00:12:47She is a very strong role model for women.
00:12:50It started with our mother Hatice and continues with our mother Ayşe.
00:12:56And in the case of Fatima, in the case of Zaynab, we see a very strong female presence.
00:13:04These women have contributed, stitch by stitch, to the creation and weaving of Islamic civilization.
00:13:13We also encounter the following situation.
00:13:17I would like to emphasize this particularly by mentioning and referencing the work of my esteemed professor, Mehmet Birekul.
00:13:25Also, when we look at women during the time of the Prophet, we see that they were present in war, in medicine, in medical practice, and in scholarship.
00:13:40You even see women involved in the supervision and control of the market.
00:13:46So this appears as the Sunnah of the Prophet.
00:13:51And yet, the West has now made it a habit to criticize Islamic societies regarding women's issues,
00:13:58I have a hypothesis.
00:14:00So even in our worst-case scenario,
00:14:04Women's status in society has advanced far beyond that of Western societies.
00:14:12Throughout Islamic history, Muslim societies have always been like this.
00:14:16Where, for example, you might ask?
00:14:19He founded a university.
00:14:22Where, you might ask?
00:14:24He established foundations and was involved in every field through the management of those foundations.
00:14:30So, the Ottomans built hospitals.
00:14:35Professor, you are undoubtedly familiar with the Ottoman example.
00:14:39So, foundations are extremely active and involved in addressing even the most subtle social issues.
00:14:47When we look at who this woman is, who is behind these things, behind these foundations,
00:14:52We see women.
00:14:53So it wasn't just the mothers of sultans,
00:14:58actually all women,
00:15:00that is, to the building of this society and civilization,
00:15:04that they carried their own stones,
00:15:07They put their own colors, their own marks on it,
00:15:11And I think we can actually say that they guided this civilization.
00:15:16Yes.
00:15:16For example, at Hudaybiyya, our mother Umm Salam said...
00:15:21The Prophet Muhammad had a special touch in the matter of consultation.
00:15:26So, in the end, our Prophet...
00:15:29It's not the kind of structure that can be seriously affected by events.
00:15:35But this is perhaps something that could serve as an example for people until the end of time.
00:15:42He ordered it.
00:15:44We are not going to Mecca; we are returning.
00:15:47The Companions said, "O Messenger of Allah, we are Muslims."
00:15:50Why are we listening to them, the polytheists of Mecca?
00:15:54They said, "Let's go."
00:15:56That's what the expectations are.
00:15:57Our Prophet, slaughter your animals, offer your sacrifices,
00:16:01Despite him saying "shave, we'll be back,"
00:16:03Our esteemed companions were also waiting, hoping that perhaps a different command would come from Allah Almighty.
00:16:07Now, as he entered the tent with this sadness,
00:16:10Our mother Umm Salam was also one of the women who participated in the Treaty of Hudaybiyyah.
00:16:16When our mother Umm Salama saw her husband,
00:16:18To the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him),
00:16:20What's wrong, O Messenger of Allah?
00:16:22Our Prophet also explains it,
00:16:24What's wrong with these people that they don't do what I tell them to do?
00:16:29Now, he says, O Messenger of Allah,
00:16:33Now you leave.
00:16:35Slaughter your sacrificial animal, shave your head.
00:16:38But never give them orders again,
00:16:41Because if they don't, God will destroy them.
00:16:44Now, as a spouse, he/she gives an idea,
00:16:47And the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) accepted his wife's offer.
00:16:51He's doing exactly as he said.
00:16:54Now, these touches aren't simple things.
00:16:58Of course.
00:16:59Professor, we really need to look at the logic and ethics of consultation behind all of this.
00:17:06So the greatness of the Prophet, the greatness of faith, is above all else,
00:17:11when he opened that door,
00:17:14that is, even though there is a person who possesses absolute truth,
00:17:20you know, about all worldly matters, or about things for which there are no verses,
00:17:25in consulting on almost all matters,
00:17:28And in this consultation, women are also in the same place as men.
00:17:34keeping it at the same level, at the same strength.
00:17:36This is actually quite fascinating.
00:17:38Yes.
00:17:39So there are still things we can't achieve today,
00:17:42It represents a benchmark, in other words.
00:17:44Even when we think about it today.
00:17:44Today.
00:17:45Because when a person is angry,
00:17:48She cannot wear a mask when she is angry or sad.
00:17:52So, in the midst of such sadness,
00:17:55what happened, etc.
00:17:56He could have just said, "Mind your own business."
00:17:58Certainly.
00:17:59So nowadays, it's an expression that wouldn't be considered unusual.
00:18:02Something we hear a lot.
00:18:04So now to the prophet?
00:18:06Or interfering in a man's life with one's womanly hands.
00:18:07So you're teaching the prophet the way?
00:18:11But our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him,
00:18:15two people, a woman and a man,
00:18:18They form a whole.
00:18:21Now, dear professor,
00:18:24If you'll allow me,
00:18:25also a clinical psychologist,
00:18:28Ms. Müjde,
00:18:29Mujde Yahsi,
00:18:31Mr. Yahşi,
00:18:33Let's go inside the house.
00:18:34I had a brief general conversation with my professor.
00:18:36We talked about the outside of the house.
00:18:38We talked about civilization.
00:18:39And then there's the smallest civilization,
00:18:41This is our own home.
00:18:42Now, the role at home,
00:18:47human role,
00:18:48He has roles to play.
00:18:50Actually, it's a bit like a mask.
00:18:53So role conflicts,
00:18:55as well as outside the house,
00:18:57What really affects this is the interior of the house.
00:19:00Now, when there's a problem with this role distribution,
00:19:04How is this affecting the child?
00:19:08Roles are first learned at home,
00:19:10Then those roles are reflected in society.
00:19:14That will help shape the child's identity, won't it?
00:19:17Yes, yes.
00:19:17Our role outside,
00:19:19Our current position,
00:19:20how we portray ourselves,
00:19:22that role of our womanhood,
00:19:23Our role as men,
00:19:24Our professional role,
00:19:26all our roles,
00:19:27We learn at home first.
00:19:29But those roles also exist at home,
00:19:31Those roles shouldn't be confused.
00:19:33When we look at the core,
00:19:36The child's role is different,
00:19:38The mother's role is different,
00:19:39The father's role is different.
00:19:40Here, all of them,
00:19:42of its borders
00:19:43Their locations need to be different.
00:19:46They shouldn't be at the same level.
00:19:47That's where the real problem begins.
00:19:50Now, Mom,
00:19:51What is it, as we know it?
00:19:53Compassion, love,
00:19:55emotional needs,
00:19:57The area where it is received.
00:19:58That's his role.
00:19:59We shouldn't leave here.
00:20:00From mother to child,
00:20:02in a healthy way,
00:20:03when that emotional need is met,
00:20:06the father also that emotional closeness,
00:20:07when he continued to give it to the mother,
00:20:10motherhood role
00:20:11in the healthiest way,
00:20:12It fulfills its purpose.
00:20:14The role of the father, too.
00:20:15In short, we can say the following.
00:20:17Actually, outside,
00:20:19earning money,
00:20:20to support his/her family,
00:20:21but along with it,
00:20:23at home too,
00:20:24that sense of belonging,
00:20:25to make you feel safe,
00:20:27likened to the roof of that house,
00:20:29place,
00:20:30He's the father.
00:20:30Now,
00:20:31Where is the child then?
00:20:32What is the child's role?
00:20:34To the mother,
00:20:34being subordinate to the father,
00:20:36taking them as role models
00:20:37to take as role models
00:20:41mother and father,
00:20:42along with the correct examples,
00:20:45with their relationships,
00:20:46themselves,
00:20:47by their behavior,
00:20:48with their modes of display,
00:20:50These shouldn't be confused.
00:20:52Now,
00:20:53mother,
00:20:55at home,
00:20:56when she takes on many roles at home,
00:20:59Household chores are tiring.
00:21:03outside,
00:21:04issues,
00:21:05confusing,
00:21:06you are looking,
00:21:07The mother has relationships outside of just her housework,
00:21:12She has a relationship with her mother-in-law.
00:21:13They have relationships with their sisters-in-law.
00:21:15He has other issues in life,
00:21:17perhaps something he brought from his childhood
00:21:21unsolved
00:21:22It has its own internal problems.
00:21:24That father who was with the mother,
00:21:27also in the mother's emotional reflection,
00:21:30It takes on a supporting role.
00:21:33The mother herself,
00:21:34If we want it to reflect well,
00:21:37That father needs to be there for the mother at all times.
00:21:40If we want to play a healthy role as a mother,
00:21:43By "role" here, we mean...
00:21:45The mother's emotional reflection.
00:21:48The father's role too,
00:21:50setting limits on a child's development
00:21:54watching them,
00:21:56capable of providing authority,
00:21:59someone who can support the mother when she is struggling,
00:22:02able to give strength with its presence,
00:22:04in a role that reflects that power.
00:22:06All the balances here,
00:22:08It needs to be shown in a healthy way.
00:22:10When it gets messy, everything in the house gets messy too.
00:22:12Because that's what we see most often in the clinic.
00:22:15Most of all,
00:22:16how in mother-father relationships,
00:22:18If those role confusions have started,
00:22:20The child is starting to get surprised too.
00:22:22Who is the mother, who is the father?
00:22:24Who makes the most noise in the house?
00:22:26The mother has become a mother who acts like a man at home.
00:22:30She's taken responsibility for the whole house.
00:22:32In fact, she's perhaps a working mother now as well.
00:22:35And the mother,
00:22:36with the power it evokes and radiates,
00:22:40Maybe Dad,
00:22:41It's starting to become passive.
00:22:43The father's voice is starting to fade in the house.
00:22:46Its visibility is starting to fade.
00:22:48The child is experiencing some confusion there.
00:22:50That's what we mean by role confusion there.
00:22:54Who should I look up to as a role model?
00:22:57I am a boy,
00:22:58that's what the child says.
00:22:59I need to be strong unconsciously, though.
00:23:02Who holds power in this house?
00:23:03Mother.
00:23:04Should I be like my mother?
00:23:06So now there's the boy,
00:23:08the person to whom one is unconsciously drawn,
00:23:11She's becoming a mother.
00:23:11God forbid, what might happen to the child there?
00:23:14Identity crises can occur.
00:23:15Or the same situation applies to the girl as well.
00:23:19The girl too,
00:23:20He is looking at his mother.
00:23:21There's a very strong mother at home.
00:23:23The mother is masculine,
00:23:24Mom has very masculine movements,
00:23:27They have certain attitudes.
00:23:28What is the child doing now?
00:23:29In that case,
00:23:30The girl will identify with her mother, right?
00:23:32She'll look like her mother, right?
00:23:34She acts like a man, like a mother, at home.
00:23:37Now it's so important and critical that,
00:23:40in the child's development.
00:23:41It will also affect the home he/she will build in the future.
00:23:44that little girl.
00:23:45How do I become a mother?
00:23:48How do I become a woman?
00:23:50How do I manage a relationship?
00:23:52It all revolves around motherhood and fatherhood.
00:23:56In the formation of a child's personality, character, and identity.
00:24:00These roles should not be confused.
00:24:03The balance between roles should never be disrupted.
00:24:06A mother should be like a mother,
00:24:07A father should be like a father.
00:24:09That's actually what we're trying to explain.
00:24:12Regarding roles.
00:24:13So, let's ask the question: who determines these roles?
00:24:18Or such a thing from our viewers,
00:24:20Let's say a question mark has crossed their minds.
00:24:23Actually, this role,
00:24:25A role that arises naturally.
00:24:28So the child,
00:24:29even as a baby,
00:24:31I sometimes see things like this on social media,
00:24:33with the way a baby looks at its mother,
00:24:35Even the way he looks at his father is different.
00:24:37Now, Mom,
00:24:40When a mother looks into her child's eyes,
00:24:44if there is anxiety in that look,
00:24:46The child perceives that world with anxiety.
00:24:50When the mother looks energetic, happy, and full of confidence,
00:24:53with a sparkle in her eyes,
00:24:56When you look at it this way,
00:24:57Then I am happy.
00:24:59I am at peace.
00:25:00I am safe.
00:25:01He is receiving messages that he can trust this world.
00:25:03While developing the child's character,
00:25:07while developing its spiritual structure,
00:25:09most of the time,
00:25:10He perceives it as an emotion,
00:25:12He/She takes it as a behavior,
00:25:13He doesn't receive it verbally.
00:25:15The mother reflects this.
00:25:17That's actually why, Mom...
00:25:18in its first occurrence,
00:25:21whether it's an identity card,
00:25:22whether it's character,
00:25:23spiritual,
00:25:24in all areas of the child's development,
00:25:26first area.
00:25:26This transition is then completed with the father.
00:25:29But of course, the father has a lot of responsibility here.
00:25:32Those parts too,
00:25:34still progressing,
00:25:35Of course, of course.
00:25:36We need to talk at the appointed time.
00:25:38Let me ask another question,
00:25:40My dear professor.
00:25:42If the woman,
00:25:44So if she takes on the role of a man,
00:25:47This actually puts him in a difficult position as well.
00:25:50So he'll make life unbearable for himself.
00:25:53Because his nature is different.
00:25:57not just for his child,
00:26:00and for its surroundings,
00:26:02for himself too,
00:26:04in a way that does not alter its innate nature,
00:26:08It needs to continue.
00:26:09These mothers are already very tired.
00:26:12Because they were tired,
00:26:14They are running out.
00:26:15They are getting angry.
00:26:16They can't handle it.
00:26:17And unintentionally,
00:26:19They become impatient and intolerant towards the child.
00:26:22That's what they complain about the most.
00:26:24I don't want to behave like that.
00:26:26I want to manage my anger.
00:26:28But myself,
00:26:29I see myself as just like my own mother.
00:26:32He doesn't want to.
00:26:33It's similar in her own mother,
00:26:34Because there were behaviors involved.
00:26:36And she had always complained about him anyway.
00:26:38And one day she became a mother.
00:26:40And when treating your child,
00:26:41She promised herself to be the most careful mother.
00:26:44To be the best mother,
00:26:46We say it's the most perfect, right?
00:26:48That's why you don't have to be perfect.
00:26:51She should let herself be a mother.
00:26:53Like this,
00:26:55There is an inherent tranquility in creation.
00:26:59When you let go,
00:27:01But that's just how dad is...
00:27:03The father is always important here.
00:27:04So, let the mother give up,
00:27:05What about those jobs, chores, and children?
00:27:08So the father's supportive role is very important.
00:27:11Taking the burden off the mother
00:27:13to comfort the mother,
00:27:14calming,
00:27:16When the mother gets into such a predicament,
00:27:18I'm here for you.
00:27:19I am here,
00:27:20It gives you the feeling that you are not alone.
00:27:23That mother also needs emotional closeness.
00:27:26Therefore, solely from the mother,
00:27:28waiting for this power,
00:27:30That would be expecting too much, actually.
00:27:33Yes,
00:27:34The mother is also forced to become more masculine.
00:27:37Mom doesn't really want that either, actually.
00:27:38I'll overload you.
00:27:39The father failed to fulfill his responsibilities.
00:27:41What is that mother supposed to do?
00:27:42Someone needs to take that responsibility.
00:27:45That's exactly how these mothers describe it.
00:27:48What am I supposed to do?
00:27:49The man is not getting up from where he is sitting.
00:27:52There is no sound at all in the house,
00:27:53He's arriving too late.
00:27:55He doesn't care about the children.
00:27:56So someone needs to do something,
00:27:58Saying there's nothing to be done,
00:28:00These mothers are running out.
00:28:01And these things affect children too.
00:28:04So, all those roles,
00:28:05The children are recording everything.
00:28:07How is Mom?
00:28:08How is Dad?
00:28:09What is the mother's spirit like?
00:28:10What is your father's spirit like?
00:28:11Their behavior towards each other,
00:28:13the way of managing the relationship,
00:28:15Problem-solving methods
00:28:16How can a child be like this?
00:28:19Is he/she mimicking his/her own life in a similar way?
00:28:21Now, the nuclear family also has a bit of a role in this matter.
00:28:26In other words, a family structure without grandparents.
00:28:29Perhaps I'll include grandparents in my next question.
00:28:34Because I've been a grandfather for the past four years,
00:28:36We shouldn't leave the grandfather out.
00:28:38Grandpa and Grandma also know this,
00:28:40Dear Professor,
00:28:42civilization,
00:28:43Professor Alev,
00:28:44We said that men and women created civilization.
00:28:49What impressed you the most?
00:28:51So, what if I were to ask about a historical event that was done by women?
00:29:00If you'll allow me first,
00:29:02I want to make a small contribution.
00:29:04In the context of your previous question.
00:29:07So, in fact, it's exactly what you emphasized as important,
00:29:11Again, we see that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did this in his own home, setting an example.
00:29:17So, from a hadith of our mother Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her,
00:29:21as we learned from one of his narrations,
00:29:25So, when the Prophet was at home,
00:29:27When asked what he used to do,
00:29:31Ummah
00:29:33Whatever I did, he would do the same.
00:29:36He never avoided any of these, he replies.
00:29:40So actually, for today's fathers,
00:29:43I think that would be a perfect example.
00:29:45Yes.
00:29:46In other words, someone who doesn't shy away from doing everything his wife does.
00:29:50not avoiding,
00:29:52those who support this,
00:29:53that is, someone who helps with cleaning the house,
00:29:55He who mends his own torn clothes,
00:29:57sir, carrying his own burden
00:30:00This is not just for the home,
00:30:03Even when coming from the market, I didn't let anyone carry anything for me.
00:30:06A prophet who carries his own burden.
00:30:08Yes.
00:30:09Therefore, I think that these current parental responsibilities,
00:30:13It is about sharing fairly and equitably.
00:30:17So, we already have a wonderful example in our history.
00:30:22Hopefully, maybe we should emphasize that more.
00:30:25You know, in today's training sessions, or when families come to you for advice, they definitely...
00:30:32I just wanted to give this small example, hoping it will be a source of healing for them as well.
00:30:38So what the women did,
00:30:42What impressed me,
00:30:44In my opinion, sir,
00:30:46Actually, everything women do is very impressive.
00:30:49Because what we've been talking about all this time,
00:30:52Motherhood, once...
00:30:57I don't understand it, sir.
00:30:59The only thing I don't understand in this world...
00:31:01What could be more important?
00:31:05Nothing can happen.
00:31:06Because ultimately, you are carrying a life, a soul.
00:31:10You bring him to life and you get him back on his feet,
00:31:16Throughout your entire life.
00:31:19Yes.
00:31:19Not until they grow up.
00:31:21So, throughout your whole life, you will love and willingly...
00:31:26You serve wholeheartedly.
00:31:30you are giving,
00:31:31You are glorifying him.
00:31:33I honestly don't know of anything more miraculous than this.
00:31:38Probably...
00:31:40But it must also be said that...
00:31:43So not every woman can become a mother.
00:31:47God may or may not grant it.
00:31:50Here are some people who have had to lose their children.
00:31:56Therefore, motherhood is very important.
00:31:59And in fact, it is inherent in a woman's biological existence,
00:32:03While it is the most important area of creativity,
00:32:07you know, next to this,
00:32:09you know, women's self-realization
00:32:12And I think we can put everything they've done to improve the world there.
00:32:18So, we mentioned the foundation,
00:32:22to produce works, to create intellectual products,
00:32:26to create works of art,
00:32:30to contribute to the collective intelligence,
00:32:34to contribute to the social mind
00:32:36and to contribute to the well-being of society,
00:32:41I walked hand in hand with her through motherhood,
00:32:45I think it's something that's gone.
00:32:47And women do it really well.
00:32:51So I was answering a question in an interview,
00:32:54These days, for example, women in the city...
00:32:58There was a question about whether it would be difficult for them to stand on their own two feet.
00:33:06I'm thinking of answering that question like this.
00:33:10So maybe women are even more successful than men,
00:33:13They can survive more strongly in the city.
00:33:16Because, professor, they develop incredibly strong bonds with each other.
00:33:20Yes.
00:33:20So, this is what we call sisterhood.
00:33:25Yes.
00:33:26Please, go ahead.
00:33:27So I apologize.
00:33:28Please, go ahead.
00:33:29Now, in our eastern region, there is something we ask from God Almighty called "death in sequence."
00:33:34In this particular case of death in sequence, the father is usually the first to go.
00:33:37So, every man would agree with this, too.
00:33:41Because a woman...
00:33:45Biological truth.
00:33:46Biological truth.
00:33:47Even if a woman is left alone, she will create her own system.
00:33:51Yes.
00:33:52And he has to start anew, from scratch.
00:33:55TRUE.
00:33:56But a man is not like that.
00:33:58So, they are living a completely dependent life.
00:34:01So, as you said...
00:34:03Definitely.
00:34:04...the sisterhood of women is more important than the sisterhood of men.
00:34:09Yes.
00:34:09They are very close to each other.
00:34:11I think it has a more biological, organic root.
00:34:14So women are very integrated with nature, very much intertwined with it.
00:34:20So they consider themselves a part of it.
00:34:23So, in fact, I look around me.
00:34:25The women in the neighborhood, the women in our neighborhood.
00:34:29For example, caring for stray animals is also an issue for us.
00:34:34So, we divide the time among ourselves.
00:34:37We discuss who will feed the baby in the morning and who will feed it in the evening.
00:34:41Even if there was nothing else we could do, we would still create some work for ourselves there.
00:34:48In other words, by supporting and connecting with each other.
00:34:52Yes, yes.
00:34:53So I think women are doing a lot for him, sir.
00:34:56As you already mentioned at the beginning, motherhood is something completely different.
00:35:01A being in which the attribute of life, granted by Allah, is manifested.
00:35:08Therefore, this aspect makes it very important.
00:35:10But what began after that was a lifelong sacrifice, giving of oneself when necessary to raise those children.
00:35:22This even reinforces what I told you about the social role women play in civilization.
00:35:29Yes, sir.
00:35:30Perhaps motherhood, a gift from God, is the number one priority.
00:35:34Why did I emphasize that?
00:35:36Because at the same time, we don't emphasize enough motherhood and the domestic roles of women.
00:35:43We don't show him enough respect.
00:35:46Professor Kıymet, we will continue.
00:35:48Please.
00:35:49Dear viewers, our program about the blessings of the pre-dawn meal continues.
00:35:53We can say that the two entities that constitute civilization, men and women, belong to one northern hemisphere and the other to the other, the southern hemisphere.
00:36:07We say East, we say West.
00:36:08But we will continue to talk about these two entities that make up a world.
00:36:14But Allah Almighty, who addresses both of them, has revealed to us the time when we will listen to a recitation from the Holy Quran, in which He speaks to both of them.
00:36:26We've arrived.
00:36:26With the hope of being enlightened again by the light of revelation, and with the hope of obtaining the forgiveness of our Lord.
00:36:36Now we will listen to a recitation.
00:36:40We are listening to an extremist sheikh from our teacher Tuncay Balcan, sir.
00:36:49A'udhu billahi minash shaytanir rajim
00:37:11In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
00:43:22M.K.
00:44:09M.K.
00:46:26That's why the child should go to the mother. It's good for the child to go to the mother, to open up to the mother, and to make decisions together.
00:46:34I especially offer the following advice to parents of children who are experiencing identity crises.
00:46:40Teacher, the child has this condition, what should we do? Should we tell the father?
00:46:44Of course, the father should know; nothing can be hidden from a father.
00:46:47But what should be done? Mother and child should empathize with each other on this matter.
00:46:54One must understand a child's situation.
00:46:55Okay? Of course, the father should be involved, but the initial process starts with the mother.
00:47:01This is also comforting for the child.
00:47:03This is true for both girls and boys.
00:47:05Yes. Now the child here is aware that he is already in his mother's heart.
00:47:14So she knows she's a part of her mother.
00:47:17That's why he's so relaxed around his mother.
00:47:21So it's in the mother's heart, but not the father's.
00:47:24He needs to win his father's approval.
00:47:27So, it's just natural.
00:47:29That child didn't acquire this later in life.
00:47:32Because it already existed within the mother.
00:47:35Therefore, when the baby is born, that bond still continues within the mother.
00:47:40But there's nothing like that between her and her father.
00:47:43There is no connection.
00:47:44He's a whole different world, dad.
00:47:48Earning your father's respect and gaining his favor.
00:47:53Because of this concern, the child takes the mother's side.
00:47:58My daughter sends her regards.
00:48:00Of course he's grown up now, compared to when he was little.
00:48:01When Rap wanted to ask me for something, this is what he would do.
00:48:06He would make this gesture with his fingers.
00:48:08He would peek through the gap with his one eye.
00:48:10Like a lens.
00:48:12And that's what he wanted.
00:48:14I've always wondered why he did that.
00:48:16Then I did it too.
00:48:17I looked.
00:48:18It's lowering the target.
00:48:20That's how my face looks to me, according to Sadi.
00:48:23He's trying to make it so that I won't be affected even if I object.
00:48:29Mothers are so caring.
00:48:31Mother is compassionate.
00:48:32The mother can't bring herself to do it.
00:48:34The mother can't take it anymore.
00:48:35Mothers are emotional beings.
00:48:36When a child asks for something, the mother immediately wants to give it to them.
00:48:41Because that's a mother's natural trait too.
00:48:43Being selfless.
00:48:45Now, the father's rational, mature, and more controlled demeanor gives the child a sense of security.
00:48:52The mother can't bring herself to do it.
00:48:53He doesn't want to let the child go outside.
00:48:54The mother can't bring herself to do it.
00:48:55What isn't he/she doing?
00:48:56He doesn't send them to the grocery store.
00:48:57That's the old term for a grocery store.
00:48:59There are no grocery stores left, right?
00:49:00He doesn't send it to the market.
00:49:01The child is going to meet his friend.
00:49:03He says something bad will happen to him.
00:49:05He doesn't let her get on the bus or the metrobus.
00:49:07He doesn't want to.
00:49:08But the father says...
00:49:09Either the child needs to be opened up.
00:49:11He needs to gain self-confidence.
00:49:13Let it go.
00:49:14If something bad is going to happen, let it happen to you.
00:49:16Look, there's balance here.
00:49:18Now, if the father is on the side that can't bear to see the child suffer, on the side that protects, if he approaches the situation with the same concern as the mother...
00:49:25What will happen to that child there?
00:49:27The child will start to lose self-confidence.
00:49:30Identity crises might start there.
00:49:32The balance there is about roles, and that's our topic.
00:49:35That's why it's so important that they don't get mixed up.
00:49:40As long as the father can establish authority in a healthy way at home, that control provides a sense of security to the mother and to the children in the house.
00:49:51The father holds a very important position in the house.
00:49:53The father also has responsibilities.
00:49:55He will behave in a way that preserves his reputation.
00:49:58I had a friend.
00:50:00Someone I love very much, someone I have a deep affection for.
00:50:03Speaking about her father, she said, "I've never seen my father in pajamas."
00:50:10This has impressed me.
00:50:12Another practice of Abdulhamid Han.
00:50:16Whenever he came out of his room and went to the living room, he would rub his prayer beads against the banisters of the stairs as he descended.
00:50:24So our father is coming.
00:50:26Like footsteps.
00:50:28Of course, when a father becomes too familiar with someone's personality, he also loses some of his respectability.
00:50:36Do you know where that respect for one's father comes from?
00:50:40This is a message for mothers.
00:50:42You shouldn't miss this place either.
00:50:44We want the child to respect his father.
00:50:47Show respect.
00:50:48Where has that old youth, that childhood gone?
00:50:50Look how we used to straighten ourselves out when our father came home.
00:50:54We wouldn't even cross our legs.
00:50:56So, what is the relationship between today's children and their fathers?
00:50:59Now, it's very important for mothers to respect fathers as well.
00:51:04Child, what did we say?
00:51:06The child is watching the mother and father.
00:51:08He also monitors their approaches and behaviors towards each other.
00:51:11Now, as we increasingly miss this point, we begin to lose that sense of respect as well.
00:51:18When the parents arrive, when the child composes himself, shows respect and reverence to them, does not interrupt, and does not scold them.
00:51:29I'll go into these areas now as well.
00:51:31So we said that when mothers' burden increases, their voices get louder.
00:51:36You see, God forbid, they can insult or belittle you.
00:51:41He can question his fatherhood, his masculinity.
00:51:44Hurtful, humiliating.
00:51:45Now, how much will that child, watching this, value that father?
00:51:50How much respect does he have?
00:51:51And after such a family structure, they don't even consider getting married.
00:51:56Because he's scared.
00:51:58So he's worried about experiencing the same things again.
00:52:00Of course, of course, of course.
00:52:01Dear professor, I would like to ask you to address the issue of grandparents shortly.
00:52:08I just want to go back to my teacher, Alev.
00:52:11Dear professor, we have just discussed the role of women, but in the formation of civilization,
00:52:18This time, we request that we step outside the home and see women's role in building a civilization, to understand their impact on its development.
00:52:30But in the meantime, we would also like to hear your opinion on the matter we discussed with Ms. Müjde.
00:52:36Thank you very much.
00:52:39I also understood this, from what Ms. Müjde said.
00:52:44I think what we really mean is respect among all family members.
00:52:53Yes.
00:52:53So, in essence, if a father and mother are doing something to give the child their due, that too is a form of showing respect.
00:53:05So behaving properly also gives that child what he needs...
00:53:10So, he will accept her as an individual.
00:53:13Yes, accept him as an individual.
00:53:15So, I want to emphasize again that this is one of the most important practices of the Prophet Muhammad.
00:53:21As we believe, even the youngest has rights, even the youngest has dignity.
00:53:27It is said that all honor belongs to the Muslim, and you should not break any of that honor.
00:53:32I really love this, this understanding.
00:53:36So you won't offend anyone.
00:53:38But you should never offend a Muslim.
00:53:42And this includes children, women, and men.
00:53:47So, ultimately, when a mutual understanding and respect for each other's rights comes into play in the relationship as a whole, I think things become much easier.
00:53:58So, the idea of "this is my child, I can do whatever I want" is wrong.
00:54:02Of course, sir.
00:54:02Because that child will build our future.
00:54:06A person should raise their child according to the kind of society they want to live in tomorrow.
00:54:14Of course. Besides, he's in our care.
00:54:16So it's not our property.
00:54:18I think this is one of the things that parents should pay the most attention to.
00:54:24So it's not our property.
00:54:26It is a trust from God, entrusted only to us.
00:54:31Therefore, there are things that should limit us as well.
00:54:35So there is paternal protection, supervision.
00:54:40You said it beautifully, he will stand behind it, he will be like a rock.
00:54:45But it will also give him responsibility when necessary, so that he can develop as an individual.
00:54:51He will consult when necessary.
00:54:53He will try to understand her needs.
00:54:56So, I think the family we call the Islamic family is actually a family like this.
00:55:02So I think a family where communication channels are open to both sides yields healthy results.
00:55:11So, if we think of a family as a single body, it's as if the woman represents the heart and the man represents the mind.
00:55:22Neither is useful without the other.
00:55:25In other words, a body without a mind, a body without a heart, a lifeless body.
00:55:30Both need to be healthy; that is, as long as both are healthy, the body will function healthily as well.
00:55:37Absolutely right.
00:55:39So, this was just a small note.
00:55:42When it comes to the subject of civilization...
00:55:46She even posed this question: How do you evaluate the fact that women are increasingly involved in such diverse projects today?
00:55:56What kind of projects, for example?
00:55:58So, it could be foundation work.
00:56:02Yes.
00:56:03So actually...
00:56:03So this isn't just an event that happened and is over in history.
00:56:07No, of course not.
00:56:09I think we just had a few minor problems during these transitional periods.
00:56:15So, in fact, the West was already suffering greatly from this.
00:56:19Because there, one of the two beings that God created and entrusted with similar responsibilities as His servants is being pushed too far to the sidelines.
00:56:34She was pushed around and treated very negatively.
00:56:38So, when you look at the West, there's the Inquisition, there's women being burned as witches.
00:56:46Which I recently learned from a friend.
00:56:49In fact, a very large number of the women who were captured as witches were actually healers.
00:56:56In other words, they could be considered physicians of that era, and they passed on and contributed their medical knowledge and expertise...
00:57:04You know how we have that tradition of passing the torch from our own ranks?
00:57:08These were the kinds of women they were, and imagine these women being murdered, being burned alive.
00:57:14So these were intelligent women, self-educated women.
00:57:18Of course.
00:57:19But even then, such a thing wasn't desired.
00:57:23On the contrary, the intention was to keep them away from this area.
00:57:28And, from a Western perspective, everything physical is seen as bad, unlike in Islam.
00:57:35You know, far more oppressive violence was inflicted on women.
00:57:42And I think that's ingrained in the roots of that civilization.
00:57:46But when we come to this side, to this geography, we see that...
00:57:52I say that women are active, world-building agents.
00:58:00You know, we have a sociologist named Peter Berger, a sociologist of religion.
00:58:04This is one of his concepts, world-building.
00:58:07I apply it to women a little bit.
00:58:09Muslim women as active agents shaping the world...
00:58:13Professor, I think they rewrote 20th-century history.
00:58:18In what sense, I mean?
00:58:20For example, these women were always at the forefront of all anti-colonial movements.
00:58:25They were incredibly active.
00:58:28He's talking about Algeria.
00:58:30Franz Fanon has a book called "The Anatomy of the Algerian War of Independence".
00:58:36Such a small book.
00:58:37For example, it tells the story of the role of Algerian women in Algeria's independence.
00:58:43Let's talk about the national struggle, shall we?
00:58:46We have already experienced far more perfect examples of this in our own experience.
00:58:51So these women carried bullets, they were on the front lines.
00:58:56They became active agents in shaping the world.
00:58:59Characters like Nene Hatun.
00:59:03The characters, and then, when we come to more recent times, the women, despite all the prohibitions, then the headscarf...
00:59:12Even considering the period of prohibitions, the struggle they showed was still about reading, still about creating, still about getting married, still about...
00:59:25having children,
00:59:26I'm looking at their persistence in considering everything together, and frankly, I want to say I respect that.
00:59:36Now, for example, the bond between a mother and her children, and the bond between a father and his children, it's as if a father, when he has two children, loses his love...
00:59:51It divides into two, and when it becomes three, it divides into three.
00:59:54It's like a single stream branching off into various branches.
01:00:01But that's not the case for the mother.
01:00:04It's as if God Almighty creates a separate flowing stream for each child.
01:00:10In full.
01:00:11To each of them, that is, there is no division in any kind of love, but rather something distinct is directed towards each one.
01:00:17Perhaps the woman's strength comes from motherhood, the resilience she shows for her child, and this time, she does the same for her own life.
01:00:27He's taking the risk.
01:00:28Definitely.
01:00:28Professor, it's also biologically powerful.
01:00:30Yes.
01:00:31So, they are resilient to pain, strong, resistant, and actually manage to transfer those qualities to other areas of their lives.
01:00:42It's somewhat related to that very famous novelist and writer, Ursula Le Guin, who passed away recently.
01:00:51For example, he explains things very well.
01:00:54So, this woman's life force, in terms of being an active, world-building subject, is important.
01:01:02She is one of those people who explains the importance of motherhood so beautifully.
01:01:10Let's send our regards to him as well.
01:01:14Thank you, sir.
01:01:16Thank you.
01:01:17Now we'll get to the grandparents, but first let's say congratulations and best wishes to Ankara.
01:01:24They began their fast for the new day.
01:01:27May Allah grant us the true understanding of fasting, make it easy for us, and accept it.
01:01:33Ours is slowly approaching as well.
01:01:36Good news, teacher! Let's get the grandparents involved in this family's business.
01:01:42What will change if we buy it?
01:01:44We actually need to buy it.
01:01:46So we have already strayed very far from these values.
01:01:49We say children observe, imitate, model, and take role models, but who will take as a role model?
01:01:56There are no role models left.
01:01:59No grandmother, no paternal grandmother, no grandfather, no aunts, no uncles.
01:02:05They're all scattered, in different places, far apart, estranged, and not speaking to each other.
01:02:11Now the child is left alone.
01:02:14The child doesn't have any friends anyway.
01:02:15The child has already been exposed to digital technology and has been isolated at home.
01:02:20He's not socializing, he's becoming increasingly antisocial.
01:02:24The child is all alone, completely alone, the child has no one.
01:02:27We are truly in such a period.
01:02:29That's why we need our elders more than ever right now.
01:02:35And we are in the modern age.
01:02:37We are in an era where women are working.
01:02:40We talk about the burden of mothers, we talk about the exhaustion of mothers.
01:02:43We call it mothers working.
01:02:45What are these women going to do?
01:02:46Alone.
01:02:48Relying solely on the father for help isn't always easy.
01:02:51Dad also works a lot.
01:02:53It takes him quite a while to get home in the evening.
01:02:56And if the father works in a big city, there's the traffic, a lot of other issues.
01:03:02He's already struggling to find time for home.
01:03:05This is where the adults become a great savior.
01:03:09If there are nannies or whatever involved, I always say she's the worst mother-in-law.
01:03:16Look, grandmother and mother-in-law are different too.
01:03:18The worst mother-in-law is the best grandmother.
01:03:20I'm telling you not to look.
01:03:22So your relationship with your mother-in-law may have been bad.
01:03:24But she's a grandmother.
01:03:26In other words, don't shut off your child's channel of love.
01:03:30We want the child to develop a healthy mental state.
01:03:33We always say this.
01:03:34Their character should be solid and strong.
01:03:35The more channels of love there are, the more resources there are.
01:03:40The child will be so strong.
01:03:43So she will receive that love from her aunt.
01:03:45They're all different.
01:03:46From his uncle, his maternal uncle, his maternal aunt.
01:03:48They're all different.
01:03:48Each one is different.
01:03:50Now, for example, let's say there are also restorative aspects.
01:03:53Other relatives, close friends, elders, etc.
01:03:58The child's relationship with the mother is not very good.
01:04:01He doesn't get a healthy role model from his mother.
01:04:03He is unable to form a good identification.
01:04:06Now we need second and third sources of support.
01:04:08That's so the child can develop a healthy identity there.
01:04:13There is still a good role model there.
01:04:16There's a healthy role model aunt.
01:04:18What is that little girl doing?
01:04:20He begins to empathize with her.
01:04:22They can fill the gaps that the mother can't close or repair.
01:04:27Or for uncle, aunt, or a young boy.
01:04:30You told me about grandfathers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers, and now I've included them too.
01:04:38We must not lose our extended family culture.
01:04:40We, meaning not just grandmothers, but everyone, will be rich.
01:04:46We'll get rich through our relatives.
01:04:48We will visit our relatives.
01:04:49We will be making frequent visits.
01:04:51Now, the wisdom behind these things is immense.
01:04:53We know his religious virtues.
01:04:55But I'll tell you about the psychological aspect.
01:04:57As a clinical psychologist.
01:05:00Children may not get along very well with their mothers and fathers.
01:05:04Especially during adolescence.
01:05:05It's not enough.
01:05:06But what is he doing?
01:05:08Who immediately filled the void there?
01:05:10Others.
01:05:11Cousins.
01:05:13Another relative of the uncle who lives there is different.
01:05:18Look, the bigger the chain gets, the more the child develops problem-solving skills.
01:05:24So it's not just about emotion.
01:05:25It doesn't just repair the feeling.
01:05:27How are problems resolved there as the relationship grows?
01:05:32He's observing them too.
01:05:33Good or bad, the child needs to see everything.
01:05:36Life isn't all rosy.
01:05:39We know this.
01:05:40Let's protect the child.
01:05:41He's still bad.
01:05:42That uncle is bad.
01:05:44That grandmother is awful.
01:05:45You said something really bad.
01:05:47You didn't leave anyone behind.
01:05:48That's bad according to you.
01:05:49You're depriving your child of vitamins.
01:05:52So there's no such thing as a human being who can be like a multivitamin in medicine.
01:05:57They are absolutely different; the role of an aunt, a maternal aunt, an uncle, a paternal uncle, a grandfather, a grandmother—each of them has a separate role in a child's education.
01:06:08As far as I understand, each of these has a separate function in its development.
01:06:13He desperately needs it.
01:06:14So it's not enough, especially in a time like this, when, as I said, children are left all alone, and the burden on parents...
01:06:23If they want to ease the burden on them, they need to involve their grandmothers.
01:06:29He needs to visit often.
01:06:31And there's another thing...
01:06:32We say, "I want my child to respect me in the future and not forget me."
01:06:38I want him to take care of me when I get old, and so on.
01:06:40How often do you visit your mother and father?
01:06:44The child hasn't seen it.
01:06:46How much respect do you have for your mother and father?
01:06:49How much do you value them?
01:06:51When you talk to your mother and father, how do you speak to them, and to what extent do you show them that same consideration?
01:06:59Tomorrow you are expecting that from your child.
01:07:01Now the child is coding them, looking at them.
01:07:03What kind of relationship does my mother have with her own mother or her own mother-in-law?
01:07:10He looks at his mother, he looks at his father.
01:07:14These are all forms of learning.
01:07:16The family is the first arena for imitation in life.
01:07:20The place where the test was conducted.
01:07:21That child is currently absorbing everything like an incredible sponge, taking it all in, and he's going to get it all out.
01:07:27It's waiting for its time.
01:07:29Dear Professor, I would like to address Professor Alev.
01:07:33Here you go.
01:07:34Dear Professor, we are also approaching the beginning of the fast for the new day.
01:07:39What are your thoughts on the future role of women in society, and where do you think they will be in the future?
01:07:51I honestly think they will be in a much better position.
01:07:54You are optimistic about this.
01:07:56I am optimistic.
01:07:57I believe that in every matter, having hope and striving is a necessity for achieving good results, especially.
01:08:07I generally have a positive outlook.
01:08:13Of course, with the help of others, I also want to make a small contribution to what my professor said.
01:08:19As the saying goes in our culture, it takes a whole village to raise one child.
01:08:24That's an African proverb, sir.
01:08:28Now we say that children should be raised well, but at the same time, women should also be active in social life.
01:08:36That's why we say we need to reach out from the nuclear family to our existing extended family channels.
01:08:45We need to hold them tightly.
01:08:49We need to make use of them.
01:08:51We need to always hold them in high regard so that mothers can fulfill their social responsibilities.
01:09:00This way, children won't be left alone, as the teacher explained, and they will definitely be able to learn from different role models.
01:09:08So, with solidarity, with good solidarity, the future will be bright, God willing.
01:09:17Hopefully.
01:09:18So, the child actually sees each of them in their mother and father.
01:09:23For example, we want our child to be a good child, but we need to show them how to be a good child.
01:09:29Exactly.
01:09:29There, he observes how his father and mother behave in front of his grandparents.
01:09:35That's the only way he can learn, either through his son or by observing his uncle, to learn about unclehood through the interaction between his father and his uncle, for example.
01:09:50why?
01:09:50Even being an uncle isn't enough; the child develops a much more comprehensive identity.
01:09:56Because when you look at the uncle, the uncle is ultimately also a man to that boy.
01:10:01So, my father is that kind of man, for example, he has aspects he doesn't like, but he also says there are good men out there.
01:10:09He can correct the wrong male part with the help of his uncle.
01:10:13Well, not all of them are like that.
01:10:14He says no.
01:10:15Because if a girl only grows up with her father, and that father is a bad role model, she'll think all men are bad, all men are rude.
01:10:22And he might not want to be like his father.
01:10:24But what if an older brother who grew up there came along, showed him affection, made him jump and bounce, met the child's needs—his need to play, his need for football, his need to run together?
01:10:39Because boys love to be active.
01:10:42Now, the father is also like that, sitting on the floor and not getting up.
01:10:45What happened? Now there's an empty spot there.
01:10:47Uncle has grown up, look how wonderful it turned out.
01:10:50Therefore, the chain of love here, the stronger the bonds the child forms, the more relationships they establish, that's what matters.
01:11:04That child, with God's permission, becomes a psychologically stable, confident, and strong individual.
01:11:10Yes, look at the approach of our beloved Prophet, 1450 years ago, regarding the development of children and gender development: girls are small, girls...
01:11:26When addressing his children, he adds "mother" to the end of their names.
01:11:30When addressing boys, he also adds "dad" at the end.
01:11:33And by addressing them in this way, he is preparing them for the identities they may develop in the future.
01:11:40Identity is, after all, an element that needs to be guided.
01:11:44Identity is not acquired at birth.
01:11:46It's not something you're born with.
01:11:49Yes.
01:11:50Children are shaped by parental guidance, upbringing, roles, and attitudes.
01:11:56We need to make an effort in the formation of our identity.
01:11:59Yes.
01:12:00We need to understand that these are all forms of learning.
01:12:03Identity is a very important responsibility.
01:12:05Thank you very much.
01:12:06Hopefully, our society will raise our youth in this manner, as you have described, and our civilization will continue as a legacy we have received from our ancestors.
01:12:23We are contributing to our civilization and ensuring that a healthy and beautiful civilization is passed on to future generations.
01:12:34I also pray most of all for good health, hoping that we will have a generation that is committed to its values in the future.
01:12:41But we think their essence is solid, those are the roots of that physicality.
01:12:44Our roots are very strong, thank God.
01:12:47Our roots are very strong.
01:12:48Hopefully, the transmission of this knowledge to our generation will continue in this way.
01:12:53Hopefully, it will resonate.
01:12:54I hope so, thank you very much.
01:12:56Thank you, Professor Alev.
01:12:58We also thank you very much.
01:13:00Thank you for your participation.
01:13:02Thank you.
01:13:03We will begin the fast of the new day together.
01:13:06May God make it easy for you.
01:13:08Amine.
01:13:08Great news, Professor Müjde, you've honored us with your presence.
01:13:12I thank you all as well.
01:13:13Dear viewers, we have come to the end of our program about the blessings of the pre-dawn meal.
01:13:17At the last minute, I am Professor Dr. Alev Erkilet, Faculty Member of the Sociology Department at Ibn Khaldun University.
01:13:29Our last name is a little difficult to pronounce, sir.
01:13:33Rather than saying the wrong thing, I preferred to say it while looking at it.
01:13:37And I would like to thank clinical psychologist Müjde Yahşi, my esteemed professor.
01:13:48I also wish you all health, well-being, and blessings from Almighty God during this new day of fasting.
01:13:55We hope that together we will be members of a powerful civilization that will illuminate and guide the world, and that we will raise our children in a way that they can be proud of us.
01:14:12a life in which we will represent our civilization to them.
01:14:15May our Lord grant it.
01:14:18May God Almighty protect our families, our children, our homes, our families, and our homeland.
01:14:24May your fast be blessed, sir/madam.
01:14:27Have a good day.
01:14:29Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar
01:14:54Allahu Akbar (God is Great)
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