Author Pamela Benner - Her passion, her healing, and her legacy "To Touch One Heart' - video Dailymotion

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#podcast #yayadiamond #authorinterviews  https://pamelabenner.com/  To Touch One Heart To Touch One Heart—Part 1 is my testimony of trauma, trials, and triumphs—from birth until the passing of both my parents. I liken my life to a tapestry: a rich, intricate weave of experiences, emotions, challenges, and growth. Each thread—joyful or sorrowful, positive or painful—shaped who I was becoming. No two lives unfold the same way, just as no two tapestries are identical. Through this lens, I began to see the beauty and purpose in every moment, even those that once felt meaningless. My story invites readers to reflect on their own lives as tapestries—woven with visible and hidden threads that shape identity and meaning. Life isn’t a straight path but an interconnected design, stitched by every choice, emotion, and encounter. At times, my journey felt like the tangled underside of a tapestry—frayed, chaotic, and without pattern. But when turned over, I saw the Creator’s masterful design. God, the Master Weaver, uses every thread—good or bad—with intention, crafting a story of redemption and glory. His promises are the unbreakable strands stretching across time, weaving every tribe, tongue, and nation into a masterpiece of divine love. The road has been long, yet the journey is worth it. This painting is called TRANSPARENCY. It takes a depth to expose your most tender of scars and to have them written on pages that others will judge. The woman in this painting walks into the soul that has transformed pain into a colorful description of THE HEALING. I, Dorine Lovejoy painted this for my bestie because I witnessed the transformation of scars and wounds turn to a beautiful moment of courage and trust.  https://podopshost.com/yayadiamond   ⚡ VidChapter AI generated these chapters, try it out https://vidchapter.com/?affiliate=yayadiamond Recommended podcast platform get 10% off: https://podopshost.com/register/?ref=yaya   Tools and Services I use: Appsumo has the best lifetime deals ever!!! I love this site.  appsumo.8odi.net/yayadiamond The easiest way to make your graphics: https://buff.ly/2RTQLn0 Best website for musicians. Try it for free on me: https://buff.ly/2GMYugG Make money with Fiverr.com: https://buff.ly/2KjTVvV   Our Amazon store: https://buff.ly/34RYNlm DISCLAIMER: Links included in this description might be affiliate links. If you purchase a product or service with the links that I provide I may receive a small commission. My affiliate links usually provide either a free trial or discount so go try them out on me! Thank you for supporting DreamChasersRadio.com  so I can continue to provide you with free content each week! Privacy Policy: https://buff.ly/2XSrflS ™Yaya Diamond Red Hot Reality Ent. LLC

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00:00Yeah, you're diamonds, dream chasers, we won't wait

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00:20Inspiration flowin' just like the breeze

00:23Chase your dreams and feel at ease

00:30Be good, be very good

00:33I know, I've never heard enough of that

00:36I just, be good, be very good

00:39That was one of the things my mom said

00:41And she's been gone almost two years now

00:44But every time I see it, it just makes me feel closer

00:47That she's still here with me today

00:48I want to thank you guys so much for tuning in

00:51I haven't guessed, and you can hear her in the background

00:53Man, let me tell you something

00:54She is a Sarasota girl

00:57Went to high school in Sarasota

00:58I don't know what you're talking about

01:00I live in Sarasota, this is wonderful

01:02Pamela Benner is here

01:04Thank you so much for being here

01:06Thank you for having me, it's a pleasure

01:08Oh, the pleasure is mine

01:10Man, I tell you what

01:11I absolutely love interviewing people

01:13I have this thing where I want to know what you're doing

01:17Maybe that's being nosy in a really creative way

01:20I don't know

01:20I like that

01:22But I want to thank you so much for joining us

01:25You know, you wrote a book

01:27And I want to go ahead and show people the book

01:28So I'm going to go ahead and go to your website really quick

01:31And make sure that people can see it

01:33It's called To Touch One Heart

01:36I absolutely love that

01:38I think that that is beautiful

01:39And here is the book right here

01:42And the theme of the book and everything

01:43Tell me, you know, as people that write books

01:47And you write

01:48I never thought I would be able to write a book

01:50Did you ever want to write a book?

01:53Was that something you wanted or did you find yourself?

01:56Yeah, I would think at some point it was something that I desired to do

02:00I just didn't know when exactly I would start writing

02:04But from the time I was a teenager

02:07I liked to write poems and do creative things of that nature

02:12So it wasn't until later on in life that I actually took my writing seriously

02:16What was your writing process like?

02:19I mean, because I know you don't live in Sarasota anymore, do you?

02:22I live in Tarpon Springs, Florida

02:24Oh, that's not too far

02:25Yeah

02:26That's not too far

02:27I actually went to school in Sarasota

02:29I went to Ringling School of Art and Design

02:31Nice

02:32For about a year and a half

02:34Nice

02:35And that's when I actually started to begin to write after I had left school

02:42So what is your writing process like?

02:45Because everybody has something different that they do

02:47Yeah, mine is kind of repetitious

02:50I write just about anything that comes to mind

02:55I don't have any kind of order to it

02:58I don't have any rhyme or reason of what I'm actually writing

03:03It's just something that I think about at a moment

03:08And I just sit down and begin to write

03:10And then it kind of flows from there

03:12Once I get all the ideas down on paper

03:19What I normally do is I read it and read it and read it and reorganize it

03:25And, you know, I do a lot of reputation on that

03:30Because it's making me clarify the things that I want to write

03:37Right

03:38It doesn't all come at one shot

03:40You know, I don't just sit down and actually write a book

03:43I have to continually exercise it like a muscle

03:49You know, I have to continue to write down everything that comes to me at that moment

03:55I have to, you know, get up at night

03:58Any time of the day

04:00Be ready to actually write what needs to be written

04:04And if I don't write it right then

04:06Sometimes it gets lost in my thoughts

04:09But at some time it usually comes back to me

04:11While I'm doing other writing

04:14And then I actually write it at that point

04:17Wow

04:18Well, you've shared some really intimate and deep and personal things in this book

04:24Triumph, trauma

04:27What motivated you to do this?

04:31Well, I began when I had left school in Sarasota

04:36I wanted to go back

04:37I was going through a big separation with my two daughters

04:41And I wanted to go back to New Jersey, which is where I was from

04:45And I wanted to actually be a part of their lives

04:51But it didn't work out that way

04:53I stayed there for about a month

04:56And then I returned back to my parents' home

05:01I had returned after 20 years

05:04And they graciously allowed me to come back in

05:09And from that point I began to write

05:12I was just writing any old thing

05:15Actually, I was writing about Cinderella

05:17Which kind of sounds funny

05:19But I didn't really know what I was going to be writing at the time

05:23And as I continued to write after a couple of years

05:27I realized that I could write

05:30And I decided to pursue that

05:35Actually, the first book that I actually took seriously was called Faith to Believe

05:42And I wrote the manuscript

05:45And I was working with a publisher at the time

05:48And I was going through a lot of emotional things at that time

05:54And I was on my way to a prayer meeting

05:58And I had decided to take the manuscript

06:01And I threw it over the bridge into the water

06:05Over in Tampa

06:08And I said, I never want to, you know, see this manuscript again

06:13And I don't really ever want to write

06:16So I was kind of having an argument with myself about it

06:20Went back to the prayer meeting

06:22And then about a month later

06:25I received an email from a stranger

06:27That said, I have your manuscript

06:32My husband found it while he was fishing

06:35And would you like to meet up with me

06:39She was about 25 minutes from my home

06:42And so I agreed to do that

06:45And really the outstanding thing about that whole thing was

06:50When I actually received the manuscript back from her

06:54There was no signs of water damage or anything to the manuscript

06:59Or to the things that I had included in the envelope

07:03Upon throwing it out into the rocky waters

07:06So he had said to me

07:09I hope you don't mind

07:11But I read your manuscript

07:12And I think you should get it published

07:14It would help a lot of people

07:16So from then on

07:19I decided I was going to

07:21You know, publish it

07:23And continue to move on

07:24At that point

07:26So I did

07:26I wrote for 12 years

07:28And I wrote a series of 12 books

07:31And I gave them out

07:34For eight years

07:36And it wasn't until my mom and dad's passing

07:41That I had given them all out

07:44And I had decided at that point

07:46I was not going to write anymore

07:49So it took me a good three years

07:54Before I decided

07:55I was going to write my testimony

07:57Because I was bombarded with doing that for a lot of years

08:03While I was doing the series

08:04And I just wasn't ready to put myself out there completely

08:10Because I do testify somewhat in the book series

08:14But not quite as in-depth as I do with this book

08:17So it took me a while to decide to do it

08:21Probably around 10 years

08:23Before I came to peace with it

08:26And said okay

08:27Because I was given a promise

08:29If I was to write this book

08:30That God was going to heal my life

08:34He wasn't just going to heal my wounds

08:37Because he had done that through the book series

08:39He healed me emotionally, spiritually, and physically

08:43While I wrote those books

08:44So this other promise was

08:48That he was going to heal my life

08:50And I really didn't know what that meant

08:51At the time

08:53But now that I've written the book

08:55I have a greater understanding of what that all means

08:58Yeah, wow

09:00And I do believe it's going to help other people

09:02And they're going to heal through reading the book as well

09:05So your spirituality is kind of like the main thing

09:09I see that you were running from this a couple of times

09:12Yes

09:13You can't do that

09:14I was a runner

09:15I know a runner when I see one now

09:17I was definitely a runner

09:19And I can tell you

09:21I was running from writing this book as well

09:23I didn't want to do it

09:25You know

09:26I didn't even want to be bothered with any of it

09:30Because I was so overdoing all that I had done

09:34I had written every day

09:36Morning, noon, and night

09:39When I wrote the book series

09:40So I didn't really want to be bothered doing it again

09:44Because I had done it four times

09:45This was the fourth time

09:47That I was actually going to do the book series over

09:49Because I am doing the book series over

09:51As I was doing this book

09:55And I didn't want to do it over again

09:57You know, over and over

09:59Because I had different situations come about

10:01That it would start and stop

10:04And, you know, things in life would happen

10:06And so it took me now

10:08To actually put these books on platforms

10:11And get them out to people

10:13Yeah, I hear you

10:15But sometimes it takes that long

10:17Sometimes, you know

10:18The healing process and all that

10:20You were talking about that a minute ago

10:22Your spirituality, your healing

10:24In writing this book

10:25Did you find that your healing process

10:29Came along with the book?

10:31Yes

10:31Or was it because of the healing process

10:33That you wrote the book?

10:35No, it was during the writing

10:37Of the book series

10:39That actually

10:40I didn't even realize it at the time

10:42Until after they were completed

10:44That they actually healed me

10:46And then I was given the promise

10:49If I wrote my whole testimony

10:52That it would heal my life

10:54So I was willing to do that

10:57You know, it was at that place

10:59Where I was more willing

11:01To do it quicker than later

11:03Do you advise people

11:06Who are going to write a book?

11:08I tell people all the time

11:10Because I run into people

11:13That say to me

11:14Well, I want to write a book

11:16I'd like to do that too

11:18And, you know

11:19I usually have a conversation

11:20With people that are interested

11:22In writing a book of some sort

11:24And I try to encourage them

11:26In every aspect of writing

11:28That it does you

11:31Greater than what you would

11:33Even imagine

11:34Because you just start out

11:36With nothing

11:37And you really gain

11:38Something in the end

11:40At least I see it that way

11:42It was a big gain for me

11:44Personally

11:45In my growth

11:46And in

11:47Just my life

11:48Even for my children

11:50And for my grandchildren

11:51Because I wrote this book

11:52Basically for my generational line

11:55And that was for my grandsons

11:57Wow, wow

12:00You know

12:00Explain your book to someone

12:02In a paragraph

12:04Something that would

12:06Explain to them

12:07Not exactly what the book is about

12:09But what the book can do for them

12:12And what it's done for you

12:13What would you tell them?

12:14What would you say?

12:15Well, I think for myself

12:17The book begins from my birth

12:20To my parents' passing

12:22And I've spoken to a couple

12:27Of people already

12:28That have gotten my book

12:30And they've identified

12:32With the pain in their life

12:35For what I have written

12:36In regards to certain things

12:38That they had actually

12:40Forgotten about it

12:41They had actually

12:44Remembered it

12:46The moment they began

12:47To write the book

12:48And I think it's so important

12:51That this book

12:53Will spark people's emotions

12:55They'll spark people's minds

12:58They'll spark them

13:00In a way that

13:01They will be able

13:02To remember those things

13:04Because a lot of people

13:04They just bury themselves

13:06In all of their woundedness

13:09And I did that

13:10You know

13:11I had to unbury myself

13:13In order to write this book

13:15Wow

13:16So it's just

13:17A lot of things

13:19That were miraculously

13:21Done in this book

13:23For me

13:23And I don't want

13:25To take anything

13:26Away from the reader

13:27Right now

13:28But God was very faithful

13:30Even to the very end

13:31Of my parents' life

13:33And how he

13:34Used that

13:3520 years

13:36That I lived with them

13:37To bring healing

13:39To me

13:40As well as to them

13:41That was the biggest

13:42Blessing

13:43Yeah

13:44Wow

13:45You know

13:45It's hard sometimes

13:47To put those things

13:48Down on paper

13:48When you started writing

13:50What was the moment

13:52That really broke you down?

13:55I think it was

13:58Just the fact

13:59That I was able

14:00To put it on paper

14:03Because throughout my life

14:05I always recalled

14:07Those memories

14:08Especially the traumatic memories

14:10And it was very hard

14:13To actually

14:14Want to

14:15You know

14:15Actually write about it

14:16And actually

14:18You know

14:19Feel it in some respects

14:21You know

14:21Yeah

14:22A lot of people

14:23Don't want to feel

14:24That pain again

14:25And that's really

14:26What I had to do

14:27I had to feel

14:28I had to cry

14:30I had to

14:31You know

14:32Be angry

14:33And feel certain emotions

14:35Again

14:35Which I would have

14:36Rather not have done

14:38Yeah

14:39You know

14:39I do know

14:40And that is the hard part

14:43Because there is pain

14:45In healing

14:45I don't care

14:46If it's spiritual healing

14:47Physical healing

14:49Mental healing

14:50Or even emotional healing

14:52It all connects back

14:53To having to feel pain

14:55Of some sort

14:56Yeah

14:57So

14:57I try to tell people

14:59It's well worth it

15:00Because with God anyway

15:02He

15:03He

15:03Touches you

15:05In such a way

15:06That once you

15:07Acknowledge the pain

15:09It's gone in a heartbeat

15:11It doesn't linger

15:13It doesn't stay with me

15:14It's just

15:15It's just healed

15:17And

15:18It's done

15:19And that's what this book

15:21Did for me

15:22And I

15:22Just have the faith

15:24To believe that

15:25It will do it

15:25For other people

15:26As well

15:27Because we don't

15:28Even realize

15:29Sometimes

15:30How much pain

15:31We endure

15:33Even in

15:34You know

15:35A normal situation

15:36Sometimes

15:37Like there's so many triggers

15:39Oh

15:40Yeah

15:40You know

15:41And I lived a life

15:43Of triggers

15:43That's what

15:44That's how I lived my life

15:45For the last

15:46You know

15:4840 years

15:49Were on triggers

15:50And I didn't even know

15:52What a trigger was

15:53Until I read

15:53Until I wrote my book

15:54Wow

15:55You know

15:56I had dealt with that

15:58For so long

15:59That it just became

16:00A part of my life

16:01And you know

16:04It's fresh in my mind

16:06My mom passing

16:07So to write it down

16:08Probably not ready

16:09To do that yet

16:10You know what I mean

16:10Yeah

16:11But I can see

16:13How it could be

16:15Very much so healing

16:16For me

16:17And anyone actually

16:18Who's a loved one

16:20Or anyone close to them

16:21To actually write that down

16:23To tell that story

16:24You know

16:25It's just so

16:26It's such a blessing

16:27To have you here

16:28And I'm just so thankful

16:29That you are here

16:30What would you tell people

16:33If you had to tell them

16:34Something like

16:35Hey

16:35You know

16:36Be encouraged to write

16:37Or what kind of advice

16:39Would you give a person

16:40Or even inspiration

16:41Yeah

16:42Well like I said

16:43I tell people all the time

16:45The best healing

16:47Is within

16:48It's not

16:49Running after something

16:51On the outside

16:52Or thinking

16:53Somebody else

16:53Is going to

16:54To do the healing

16:55For you

16:56You need to look

16:57Within yourself

16:58Because everything

16:58That we need

16:59As a person

17:00Especially those

17:02That are close

17:03To God's

17:04You know

17:05Will and way

17:05You know

17:06He will do

17:07The work within

17:08Because it's

17:09It's what's coming

17:10And happening

17:11Within you

17:12That will manifest

17:14On the outside

17:15Yeah

17:15And that's true

17:17No matter whether

17:19It's still the pain

17:20This pain

17:21Still manifests

17:22By the way

17:23We you know

17:24React to things

17:25How we

17:25How we handle

17:26Situations

17:27I was big on

17:29Rage

17:29When I was married

17:31I had a lot of rage

17:33So

17:33That's how

17:36I realized

17:37That inside

17:38I was

17:39A total mess

17:40People look at me

17:43Now and say

17:43I can't believe

17:45You you would have

17:46Been like that

17:47Because I was

17:48I know who I was

17:50Then

17:51And

17:51There was a great

17:53Work that was

17:54Done within me

17:55Because I couldn't

17:57Handle myself

17:58Anymore

17:58I mean I actually

17:59Snapped

18:00At some point

18:01And my brain

18:03Was like

18:04Fried

18:04That's when I

18:06Had gone back

18:06To

18:07You know

18:08Sarasota

18:09And I was

18:10My brain

18:11Was actually

18:11Being put back

18:12Together again

18:13Because

18:14That's

18:15I couldn't even

18:16Really think

18:17For myself

18:18Back then

18:18Wow

18:21There's a lot

18:23Of

18:23There's a lot

18:24Of healing

18:24A lot

18:25Of different

18:26Ways of healing

18:26Yeah

18:27You know

18:28But the thing

18:29Is is that

18:29The real

18:30True healing

18:31Came from

18:32Within myself

18:33And through

18:34My dedication

18:35Of writing

18:35And having

18:36Faith

18:37To believe

18:37That God

18:38Would do it

18:39Yeah

18:39Even when

18:40I didn't

18:40Even know

18:41How he

18:41Would do it

18:42Or you know

18:43Whatever the

18:44Road was

18:45I just said

18:46Yes to it

18:47And kept

18:47Saying yes

18:48To it

18:48And never

18:49Quit

18:50Never gave

18:50Up

18:50Yeah

18:51Wow

18:52That's just

18:53Yeah

18:55You've inspired

18:56Me

18:56Definitely

18:56I'm not ready

18:57I mean

18:57When did

18:58You know

18:59When did

18:59You know

19:00Okay

19:00I'm ready

19:01Because there

19:01Has to be

19:02A point

19:02Where you

19:03Say

19:03Okay

19:03Now

19:04How many

19:05Years later

19:06Was it

19:06A lot of

19:07People grieve

19:07Differently

19:08And so

19:09That's

19:09I mean

19:09You know

19:10That's the

19:10Point I

19:11Want to

19:11Know

19:11Yeah

19:13I think

19:14You have

19:14To just

19:15Search your

19:16Own heart

19:16And what

19:18You want

19:19To express

19:21You know

19:22Even regards

19:22To your

19:23Own parents

19:24Passing

19:25And what

19:26Has kind

19:27Of hindered

19:27You

19:28Because it

19:28Will hinder

19:29You

19:29Those things

19:30Do hinder

19:31Us

19:31In our

19:32Creativity

19:32They hinder

19:33Us

19:33In our

19:33Everyday

19:34Life

19:34It hinders

19:36Us

19:36Where we

19:37Don't move

19:38Past a

19:38Certain point

19:39And I

19:41Didn't want

19:41Those hindrances

19:42In my life

19:43Anymore

19:43I wanted

19:43To be free

19:44Of it all

19:45Yeah

19:46Yeah

19:46And I

19:48Can suggest

19:48You to

19:49Read my

19:50Book

19:50And read

19:51The last

19:51Chapter of

19:52My book

19:53Because that's

19:54The miraculous

19:54Part of

19:55My parents

19:56Passing

19:56I mean

19:57It wasn't

19:57Just the fact

19:58That my

19:58Mother and

19:59My father

19:59Passed

20:00It was

20:00What God

20:01Had done

20:01During that

20:02Time of

20:02Their passing

20:03And how

20:04He made

20:05Everything work

20:06Together for

20:07Good

20:07Which I had

20:08No understanding

20:09Of that when

20:10I entered

20:10Their door

20:1120 years

20:12Earlier

20:12Wow

20:13It was such

20:15A transformation

20:16Wow

20:19Well thank you

20:20So much

20:21Pamela for

20:22Being on the

20:22Show I

20:22Appreciate it

20:23Is there

20:23Anything we

20:24Missed

20:24Today you

20:25Like to

20:25Say

20:25No but

20:27I just

20:27Encourage

20:28Anyone

20:28And no

20:29Matter what

20:30You think

20:30What may

20:31Seem like

20:32A little

20:32Bit in

20:33Terms of

20:33Writing

20:34If you

20:35Take a

20:35Little bit

20:36Of time

20:37Each day

20:37And write

20:38You will

20:39Have a

20:39Book in

20:40Time

20:40And it

20:41May not

20:42Make a

20:42Whole lot

20:42Of sense

20:43In the

20:43Beginning

20:43But once

20:44You decide

20:46To do

20:46It you'll

20:47See that

20:48It will

20:48Happen

20:49Because it

20:50Is something

20:51That just

20:51Happens

20:52It's not

20:52Something that

20:53I even

20:54Plan

20:54On

20:54Wow

20:55Well thank

20:57You so

20:57Much

20:58Pamela

20:58Thank you

20:59Thank you

20:59And I

21:00Look forward

21:00To seeing

21:01You soon

21:01Okay

21:02I'm looking

21:03Forward to

21:04Talking to

21:04You again

21:05On my

21:05Second book

21:06Yes

21:06You have

21:07To

21:07Yes

21:09Part two

21:09Coming out

21:10Yeah

21:11Awesome

21:12Awesome

21:12That is

21:12Good

21:13That is

21:13Great

21:14Wow

21:15I will

21:15Definitely

21:16Be speaking

21:16With you

21:17Again

21:17That's

21:18That's a

21:18Beautiful

21:19Thing

21:19Thank you

21:19So much

21:20And I'm

21:21Going to

21:21Go ahead

21:21And put

21:21The book

21:22Link

21:22And also

21:22Your website

21:23So your

21:23Website

21:24Here I

21:24Want to

21:24Show people

21:25Your website

21:25And they

21:26Can go

21:26To go

21:27Ahead

21:27And go

21:27To

21:27Pamela

21:28Banner

21:29Or

21:30Yep

21:30Dot com

21:31So that's

21:31Pamela

21:32And then

21:32B

21:32As in

21:33Boy

21:33E

21:34N

21:34As in

21:34Nancy

21:35E

21:35R

21:36Dot com

21:36We're

21:37Going to

21:37Put that

21:37Link

21:37In the

21:38Description

21:38Box

21:38So that

21:39It'll

21:39Be

21:49To write

21:49This

21:50Down

21:50Maybe

21:51You

21:51Be

21:51Encouraged

21:52To write

21:52Your own

21:52Book

21:52As well

21:53You need

21:54To get

21:54The book

21:54I want

21:55To thank

21:55You guys

21:56So much

21:56For tuning

21:56In

21:57Don't forget

21:57To dare

21:57To be

21:58Different

21:58Pamela

21:58Thank you

21:59Thank you

22:00So much

22:01Have a

22:01Great

22:01Day

22:02All right

22:02You too

22:03Guys

22:04Don't forget

22:04To what

22:05Be good

22:06Be very

22:06Good

22:07Bye

22:08Bye

22:08Thank you

22:21For

22:21Watching

Author Pamela Benner - Her passion, her healing, and her legacy "To Touch One Heart'

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