00:25Mga ka-RSP, how are you?
00:30Dagdag ka alaman para sarili ay mas maalagaan. Ako po si Coach Mike Celis.
00:34Alright. Myths about fatherhood. Yan ang ating tatalakayin ngayong araw.
00:40Yes, Joshua. So pag-usapan natin yan gamit ang wow, kung agree, or aw, kung disagree tayo sa mga popular
00:46na myth or misconceptions na may kaugnayan sa pagiging isang ama.
00:50At syempre, kasama pa rin natin ang ating RSP Barkada para sumagot din kung wow o aw.
00:56Ayan. Masaya ako ngayon. Kasama ko si Daddy.
01:02Alright. Simulan na natin.
01:03Sa myth number one, ang ama ng tahanan ang dapat laging masunod sa lahat ng bagay.
01:11RSP Barkada, wow o aw?
01:14Is it aw?
01:15Aw.
01:16Aw.
01:17Aw.
01:17Para ba tayo?
01:18Aw.
01:18Aw silang lahat.
01:19Aw, aw, aw.
01:22Okay. So tingnan natin, lumabas din tayo mga ka-RSP ng ating himpilan at nagtanong sa ating kawaw na si
01:30Anna kung anong kanyang sagot narito.
01:35Para sa akin hindi po. Dahil, um, as a parent, dapat pantay lang kami ng asawa ko. Kung baga, balance
01:45lang dapat. Yun lang.
01:49Aw din ako dyan, Coach. Dapat, baga, lahat ng desisyon, lalo na sa pamilya, ay pinagde-desisyonan ng buong pamilya.
01:59Hindi lang ng ama. Kasi maaaring meron ding sugestyon or magandang idea yung ina na pwedeng i-take into consideration.
02:09Correct. Okay. Ako, Aw din, no. Gone are the days kasi dati kasi, di ba, Joshua? Parang pag sinabi, ako
02:15ang ama, ako ang lalaki ng tahanan, kailangan ako lang masusunod.
02:18Pero ang pagiging pamilya kasi parang team yan, di ba?
02:22Everyone has to have a voice, di ba? And wala yung parang mas mabigat ang boses ng kusinuman.
02:28Dapat collective lagi yung decision para collective din yung pagtake ng responsibility.
02:33Yun. Well, now let's move on to myth number two.
02:36Hindi dapat magpakita na umiiyak ang isang ama sa kanyang pamilya.
02:41RSP Barkada, wow o aw?
02:46Ow, ow, ow, ow!
02:48Aw din silang lahat.
02:52May umiikot na wow, di ba?
02:54O, tignan natin. Narito naman ang sagot ng ating kawao na si Anna.
03:01An aw.
03:03Kasi, it's okay. It's okay to show your real feelings kasi towards your family specifically.
03:10Kasi, they are your unit, eh.
03:12Sila yung support.
03:13Kahit sabihin natin, father, the father also needs support, di ba?
03:17From the family.
03:18So, when he shows his emotions,
03:20everybody would be there to understand.
03:22And, you know, and see, like, how can they help their dad.
03:27Ako, coach, ano, conditional ako dito.
03:30Siguro, pwedeng wag muna magpakita ng weakness si father pag bata pa yung mga anak.
03:37Mmm.
03:38Yes.
03:38So, pwedeng siguro pagka umiedad na, may muwang na, ganyan, or may mga kanyang-kanyang pamilya,
03:42siguro, pwede na ipakita ng emotion.
03:44Pero, pagka bata, maganda siguro mag-set siya ng example na dapat maging strong.
03:47Iyon na naman yung isa.
03:49Ako, conditional din.
03:50Okay.
03:50May mga bagay kasi na hindi naman dapat makita na, di ba, ng mga kapamilya.
03:54Kung hindi dapat pag-usapan na heightened ang emotion.
03:58So, dapat tatansya hindi na mga fathers out there kung ano nga ba yung makakabuti lang.
04:03At tatansya na hindi niya kung ano nga ba status ng bawat miyembro bago siya magpakita na.
04:07Iyon.
04:08Tatangin natin si father, si daddy Jiraya.
04:11Bakit po?
04:12Bakit, bakit hindi, bakit au?
04:15Kapag-iiyak.
04:15Bakit au?
04:16Yung pag-iiyak.
04:17Oh, I think, personally, crying is conditional also for me.
04:22There are days that as a dad, from a dad's standpoint, you gotta show that you're strong in front of
04:28your children.
04:28You know, being vulnerable is one thing, but them seeing you strong in the very hard moments of their life
04:34lets them learn the power of resilience.
04:37The power of perseverance.
04:39And it's very important for us to model that.
04:41So, as our children grow, they understand that, oh, my dad is strong and he doesn't show that much emotion
04:46when the going gets tough.
04:47And they learn to adapt that and they learn to grow through the challenges and through the moments.
04:51Yeah, you know, when I ask, kaya kayo pag-awi ng asawa mo.
04:57Hey, you know what?
04:58Get inside of you.
05:00You're getting to my nerves.
05:02Alright, now let's move on to myth number three.
05:05Secondary lamang ang role ng mga ama kumpara sa mga ina ng kahanan.
05:11RSP Barkada, wow o aw?
05:12Ano?
05:13Secondary lang?
05:14Secondary lang.
05:15Secondary lang ba yung role?
05:17Kasi primary color is red, yellow, blue.
05:20Secondary.
05:21Pani.
05:22Pani.
05:23Sige, tingnan naman natin ang sagot ng ating kawao na si Nico.
05:28So, pagiging secondary is natabigil naman sa pagiging ama.
05:33So, pag sinabing iba na papaander, sobrang bata mo pa para makipag-asawa o makipag-relationship.
05:42Bilang lalaki na lang, if you want to be a better husband, trust your wife and be respectful.
05:52Well, ako din, awa ko dyan.
05:54Ako dyan na awa ko, coach.
05:56Josh, kasi ano eh, ang tatay kasi, well, they have to be the provider.
06:00Sila dapat yung magtaguyo ng pamilya.
06:02Pero dapat hindi, walang hierarchy.
06:05Dapat pantay lang pagdating sa pagiging magulang, pagdating sa mag-asawa.
06:11Ako, awa din ako dyan, Joshua.
06:13Sabi ko nga kanina, diba, parang team yan.
06:15Ang pamilya, isang team yan.
06:17So, walang primary or secondary role.
06:20More so, pagdating sa parenting.
06:21Kasi kailangan pareho kayo, working in harmony, para maibigay kung ano yung best for your family.
06:27And at the same time, acknowledging din kung ano yung contributions ng mga anak nyo dun sa relationships.
06:32Well, kay Father, kay Daddy Jiraya, secondary lang ba ang role mo or primary?
06:37For me, it's an all because as dads, we play a very pivotal role in leadership.
06:44And it's very important for us to understand na to be direct and to be able to lead regardless of
06:51the situation.
06:52Because our children looks up to us and also our wives.
06:56And having our wives' opinion is very important in the decision making.
07:00But ultimately, as a father, as a leader of the home, how do we lead and how do we stand
07:05up for what we lead?
07:06Very important po siya in life.
07:09So, the father is the lead.
07:10The leader.
07:11And the lead is the father.
07:12Yes.
07:14Very well said.
07:15Well, maraming maraming salamat.
07:16Multi-awarded life coach ng bayan, Coach Mike Celis.
07:19At sa ating mga ka-RSV, lagi po natin tatandaan na gawin nating wow ang ating buhay.
07:25Pag may aw, wag baliwalain.
07:27Dahil our wellness and well-being, especially our mental health matter.
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