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00:00This programme contains strong language and themes of an adult nature throughout.
00:05This is a no-holds-barred conversation.
00:08I was two hours late to a concert.
00:10Two hours?
00:11For a date.
00:12Oh no.
00:13Duncan from Blue.
00:14Who is, sorry seems to be the hardest word.
00:18This very relevant Duncan for this episode.
00:20I have a bad habit of saying the wrong name.
00:24And I've said it at the most inappropriate time you can imagine.
00:27Oh no!
00:30I'm Sophie Gravia.
00:31I'm Christine McGuinness.
00:33And we are here to walk you through this messy world we call Situationships.
00:37We are.
00:39What have you been up to this week?
00:40I have had such a quiet week.
00:43I've been in the house, I've had a deadline, so I've been writing like mad again.
00:47The kids were off as well, so my wee one wasn't feeling that great.
00:52So we've just been in our jammies all week, it's been lovely.
00:55Yeah, same.
00:56Same man, I've been off school as well.
00:58But it's been lovely.
00:59With it being cold, it's nice to just stay in nice and cosy and warm.
01:02Yeah.
01:02Well, you know, today we're talking about situationships that aren't too good,
01:08when it's more of a situationship.
01:10Can I say that?
01:12When the situationship isn't quite cruising along and it hits an iceberg.
01:17Yep.
01:17Have you heard of the five love languages?
01:19Of course, yes.
01:20Physical touch, here I am.
01:22But anyway, so the same doctor has now done the five apology languages, which I have loved
01:29learning about.
01:30So, some people think that expressing regret, which is a simple like, I'm sorry, that's
01:36the typical, most common apology, I think.
01:39Yeah.
01:39Then there's accepting responsibility, which I love accountability, obviously.
01:43The third one is making restitution, which is more like, how can I make things right?
01:49Yeah.
01:49Which I do like that.
01:50The fourth one is genuine repentance, which means sharing a plan to change and not repeat
01:55the offence.
01:56And the fifth one is requesting forgiveness, which is what it's asking for forgiveness,
02:00which I don't love at all.
02:02No, no.
02:03But it's been really interesting for me because I've realised that the simple I'm sorry's
02:09that I get quite a lot from people, it goes straight over my head.
02:14It's like it doesn't even go into my mind.
02:15Yeah, you don't appreciate it.
02:17Well, I just, yeah, it's not that I don't appreciate it.
02:21I just, I don't feel it.
02:22Yeah.
02:23And I don't want a groveling apology.
02:25I actually don't like anybody to feel like they have to apologise to me like that.
02:30You really don't.
02:31But you want it sincere.
02:32I want it sincere.
02:33It doesn't feel sincere.
02:34No, I just want it to not happen.
02:35Just don't do it.
02:36Don't do whatever you've done that you need to apologise for.
02:39So I think I've realised from reading this that I actually want more of a plan of like,
02:46okay, yeah, I've messed up.
02:48I'm sorry I've messed up.
02:49What can I do to just not do this again?
02:51That's what I think I am.
02:52So if I've done something that I feel I shouldn't have done that sort of thing,
02:58I'd be, I would like have a discussion about it.
03:00I'd be like, I'm really sorry I've done this, but let's talk about it.
03:04And I'll stop putting your clothes on the tumble dryer.
03:07I was shrinking everything in my house.
03:10So like we'll have a discussion about it.
03:12So if it's like a genuine thing, so it doesn't hurt my game because it's not,
03:17I don't want to hurt someone like that I care about.
03:20Do you know what I mean?
03:20So I wouldn't deliberately go and do that.
03:23So if I'm sorry, I would genuinely make a plan and try and fix it.
03:26Yeah.
03:27So obviously there's been big things, big drama drops with the Beckhams.
03:33How do you think when it's such a public, somebody's done something publicly.
03:39So in the public eye, obviously, they've had a massive family fallout.
03:44How do they approach like this?
03:46I think because their fallout was so public,
03:48then any apology doesn't need to be that public as well, unfortunately.
03:52And that's what they've just set that up to be like that themselves.
03:55You think it has to be public?
03:56I think it's going to have to be because of how public they've made the argument.
03:59But I don't think any of it should have been public.
04:01To be honest, I think it all could have been done a lot quieter and a lot classier.
04:06You know, there's fallouts with every family, with friendship,
04:09with relationships all the time.
04:11I don't think in any way he's not being appreciative of his name
04:14or the life that his family have given him.
04:17Yeah.
04:17It is simply choices.
04:18And unfortunately, as adults, you are allowed to move on and live a different life
04:24and do stuff that your parents might not approve of or agree to or whatever.
04:27Yeah.
04:28And he's allowed to choose that.
04:30But the fallout between them, with it being so public,
04:35it does seem very, very like possibly a permanent or at least a long-term fallout.
04:42A long-term, yeah.
04:42I don't think there's going to be an apology coming anytime soon.
04:45But everyone's entitled to go and do what they want.
04:48Yeah.
04:48It's really...
04:49I feel...
04:50I feel for the parents because I can't imagine any of my children
04:54cutting me out of their lives like that.
04:56Yeah.
04:56It's horrible.
04:57I know it's horrible to think.
04:58Well, obviously it happens, but it's horrible to think about.
05:01It is.
05:01It is actually really devastating.
05:03I know for everybody reading it, it's showbiz gossip.
05:06Yeah.
05:06But it is a family and that's, you know, he's their son
05:08and they're going to miss him like mad.
05:11But he is entitled to come and choose his own life in his own way.
05:15So if they were apologising, what language?
05:18I think they need a sit-down discussion, don't they?
05:20Oh, God.
05:21They need...
05:21What are we doing differently?
05:22They need the doctor in the room.
05:23They need the doctor.
05:24With a full plan.
05:26100%.
05:27100%.
05:27They do, definitely.
05:29So I have always struggled with saying, I'm sorry for how late I am all the time
05:34and kind of going, you are the latest person I've ever met.
05:39I've been really good.
05:40But I just saw that.
05:41You've been amazing.
05:41I was all the time saying.
05:43Yeah, yeah.
05:43See, when I came in, I was like, is Christine here?
05:45And they were like, yeah.
05:46And I was like, what?
05:47Don't, ready, off early 6 o'clock this morning.
05:50Yeah, I'm trying because I think I've avoided it for so long
05:54and sort of, not blamed it on things, because I have got my reasons.
05:58Kids, life, me just...
05:59I mean, my watch now, it says half past five.
06:03So, yeah.
06:03So, just Maine.
06:04Maine is like...
06:06Five past twelve.
06:07Is it five past twelve?
06:09Well, it's not half past five.
06:10No, it's not.
06:12So, there's all of that.
06:13I do miss trains.
06:15I do, you know, there is traffic.
06:16There's stuff that I can't control.
06:17And I'll kind of be like, I'm so sorry I'm late.
06:19But the time when I really felt it and I really, really meant it
06:24was when I was two hours late to a concert.
06:27Two hours?
06:28For a date.
06:28Oh, no.
06:29So, obviously, the concert was over.
06:33And, yeah.
06:34Did you say sorry?
06:36Yeah, I said sorry, but I really struggled with that one
06:41because I knew that that meant a lot to her that date.
06:46So, you struggled apologising because you knew that you were totally on their own.
06:53I'd left someone town to see Leon Thomas.
06:56And it was, you know the song?
06:57No.
06:58You must have heard of Mott.
06:59No.
07:00Oh, my God.
07:01I don't think so.
07:02Well, she missed her favourite song anyway
07:03because she was just waiting for me outside.
07:06No, it's not.
07:07She waited outside as well.
07:09She waited for me outside, yeah.
07:11Because she had the tickets.
07:12I was driving there.
07:13Oh, no.
07:14That's her son.
07:14I know.
07:15So, the times where I've struggled to apologise and it's like that,
07:21because you know it's going to be a bit awkward,
07:24is I've missed people's weddings and just not turned up.
07:28How?
07:29Most of the time, it'll be a good excuse.
07:32So, sometimes I'm just so busy and then I know that I've got something on
07:38and then I just think, I'm so fucking tired, I cannot.
07:41Would you let them know before the day?
07:43No.
07:44Yeah, see, I used to be like that a lot.
07:47Because rather than have that awkward conversation.
07:50You'd just rather not turn up.
07:51I'd just rather pretend that I wasn't there and then it's like,
07:56do I bring this up and be like, oh, by the way, sorry I missed the most important day.
08:00So, there's also like the personality traits in people where there's like an attached and avoidant and anxious,
08:06like it's like your style, isn't it?
08:07Yep.
08:08So, are you an avoidant then?
08:09I'm obviously an avoidant, yes.
08:12Because sometimes I just get so overwhelmed.
08:16Like, see, sometimes I would be in the house and I know I've got something to hand in for that
08:21day
08:21and I just can't physically do it.
08:24Like, I can't bring myself to do it because I'm just like, I know it's too much.
08:30The pressure.
08:30It's going on in my head and I'm like, I fucking need to do this.
08:32And then I'll just start doing the washing.
08:37So, it's just avoidance.
08:39It's avoiding doing the task that you need to do.
08:40So, if I wake up that day and I really don't want to go, I'm not going to go.
08:45Yeah.
08:45And you've also done message.
08:47But then, looking back now, it's not nice.
08:50Like, I should have dealt with that differently.
08:52Yeah.
08:53So, see like, for instance, work-wise, I'm the complete opposite.
08:56So, if I know, so if I know, I was going to use a lash appointment there as an example,
09:03which is not work.
09:04So, for instance, if I know that I'm going to get my lashes done at 3 o'clock during the
09:10day,
09:10I will do absolutely, I won't be able to work in the morning.
09:14So, I won't be able to write in the morning because I'll know that I've got this lash appointment.
09:19And then I'll wait and then I'll maybe leave an hour before and it takes me 20 minutes to get
09:24there.
09:25And I'll wait outside it to make sure that I'm definitely there in time so I don't want to let
09:29that person down.
09:30See, this is common, you know, for ADHD, where we kind of live in a time zone that is now
09:36or not now.
09:38Yeah.
09:38And if it's not now, we don't need to think about it.
09:41Yeah.
09:41And then when it is now, we give ourselves two minutes to go out the door.
09:45See, I give myself more because I'm worried.
09:48And then because I start thinking, what about the traffic or what about this or what about that?
09:52And I start worrying about more or what if something comes up?
09:57See, I think I'm giving myself more time.
09:58But if I make an appointment, if I've got a choice when to put a Zoom in, for example,
10:02I'll always pick like after midnight.
10:05It'll always be one o'clock or two o'clock because I think then I've got all day to get
10:09myself ready to make notes to think about what I'm going to do on this Zoom.
10:13Yeah.
10:13But it doesn't work like that. Actually, I spend all day sitting there going, OK, not doing anything with the
10:22time.
10:23Yeah.
10:23That's what I do.
10:23Because you're waiting for that to happen.
10:25Yeah.
10:25So what I've learned is with this ADHD coaching that I've been reading about is that really,
10:30we need to put our appointments in early because then we get up and we just do it.
10:35And then you've got the rest of your day.
10:37Then you've got the rest of the day.
10:37And we don't have to apologise to anyone.
10:40Exactly.
10:45OK, so it is time for our hot mess hotline.
10:48Where have we got?
10:49So this girl is 22.
10:53She wants to remain anonymous and this wee voice note has been voiced by someone else.
10:57OK.
11:00Hey guys, I was staying with my boyfriend and I overheard his sister and her partner having an argument next
11:06door.
11:06She was accusing him of fancying me.
11:08I found this really weird because I'd barely ever spoken to her boyfriend.
11:13It came to a head one night when I was sleeping over at my boyfriend's house.
11:16During the night, I heard our bedroom door open.
11:19And when I opened my eyes, my boyfriend's sister was standing over me.
11:24My boyfriend had to pin her down to keep her from lunging at me.
11:28My boyfriend apologised and said his sister is going through a hard time.
11:32He's asked me if I would meet with her to talk it out.
11:35I don't want to put him in an awkward position with his family.
11:39But to me, she crossed a line and I don't want anything to do with her.
11:43What should I do?
11:46Yeah, I mean, I don't blame her.
11:48No.
11:48Refume her.
11:49She can go and get a restraining order.
11:51That's mental.
11:52That is crazy.
11:53She's obviously, the girl's obviously very insecure.
11:56I was just going to say, bless the other one.
11:58Like, she's clearly losing the plot over this guy that she thinks fancies her.
12:05Oh.
12:06No.
12:06That is so awkward.
12:08That's awkward at the summer barbecue.
12:10Yeah.
12:11All of them sat around together.
12:13Why would she just come in the room in the middle of the night?
12:16Yeah, it's too much of that.
12:17Just the fact that she'd overheard the argument was quite a lot.
12:20I thought, what's she supposed to do about that?
12:23Even just telling her boyfriend?
12:24Like, morning!
12:25I know, it's just awkward.
12:27Yeah.
12:28I just...
12:29If you think about it seriously, she's not only been put in quite an uncomfortable situation
12:36anyway.
12:37Yes, you're sleeping, so you're quite vulnerable anyway when you're sleeping.
12:40And then the fact that she's...
12:41It's a shame, because her relationship's going quite nicely with this girl's brother,
12:46that I'm assuming that she's not going to be rushing around for a cup of tea again anytime
12:49soon on the sleepover in case the sister walks in the room again.
12:52Mm-hmm.
12:53So, how are they supposed to progress if she's not comfortable being around the sister?
12:58Yeah, I would make a point of being like, I'm not going back to that house when she's
13:03there.
13:03Like, I would make a point because, obviously, it's unsafe and you just won't feel comfortable
13:09anyway.
13:10Would you sit and talk to...
13:12Would you be open to having, like, a conversation with everybody all together to figure out, like,
13:16how you can move forward?
13:17I just think, what's the point?
13:19I don't know.
13:20Can you forgive that?
13:21I don't think I would sleep.
13:22I don't think I'd be comfortable sleeping.
13:24No, 100%.
13:24No, it's not safe.
13:25I feel, if that was me, that would be it.
13:28And I think, is he really the right one?
13:31Because that's just going to keep coming back up every family I've been, every...
13:35Yeah.
13:36Everything.
13:36Realistically, can you move forward in the relationship long-term?
13:40Yeah.
13:41Can you get married?
13:41Can you have children together?
13:42Aye.
13:43You're not staying at your eyes.
13:44Yeah, exactly.
13:46Now, that's quite a lot.
13:48Well, I just hope that she's safe and okay, because that's quite scary.
13:52I'll be having nightmares.
13:53Yeah, 100%.
13:54I hope she's scared to go asleep.
13:55Yeah, I don't think an apology, a simple I'm sorry is going to be good enough for that
14:00one.
14:00She's been put in quite a vulnerable position, I think, and yeah, it does need a conversation
14:07whether she wants to be there or not.
14:08It certainly needs a conversation between the brother and sister.
14:11Yeah.
14:12Yeah.
14:12100%.
14:13But if you don't feel safe, stay away.
14:16It's not worth it.
14:17100%.
14:17There's 7 billion people on the planet.
14:20Yeah.
14:20Like, you're fine.
14:25Okay, so the drama drop this week is reality check inside America's Next Top Model.
14:33Oh my God.
14:34I know you've been all over this.
14:35I have, of course I have.
14:37I know you have.
14:38I love it.
14:39They spilled the tea and it was awesome.
14:40So I've not finished the series yet, but I've started it and how was that shit allowed
14:46to happen on the telly?
14:48But when I was a wee girl, I was absolutely obsessed with that programme.
14:51Me too.
14:52But obviously times have changed a lot.
14:54100%.
14:55So I loved it because I was a model.
14:58I was a model quite young.
14:59Yes.
14:59I started pageants when I was 12, beauty pageants.
15:01Oh my God.
15:01And I won some modelling contracts.
15:04And by 14, I was covering billboards all over the city centre.
15:08Oh my God.
15:09And I was obsessed with America's Next Top Model.
15:12So watching it and seeing how it was, now it's mind blowing to think that that is how
15:18it was for me in real life, not as extreme, but I was told to lose weight when I was
15:24already
15:25really, really tiny.
15:26I was like a size six to eight UK.
15:28Oh my God.
15:28I was really small.
15:30I was told that if I really wanted to make it in the modelling industry, I would need
15:34to cut my hair into a bob to be a bit more edgy.
15:37Edgy.
15:38I was told to be quiet, that my job was to be quiet.
15:43So I didn't know back then that I was autistic.
15:45I just always felt a little bit different.
15:47And I remember a photo shoot, really big photo shoot.
15:50And I didn't like the fabric of one of the jumpers that I had to wear.
15:55And I didn't complain.
15:56I wasn't complaining.
15:57I was dead shy and quiet.
15:58But I just remember kind of going, oh, does anybody know when I'm putting a different
16:03outfit on?
16:04Because it was so itchy on my skin.
16:07And it was one of the assistants somewhere just kind of took me to one side and said,
16:12your job is to not comment on the fabric of the clothes and you're a blank canvas.
16:17And there was very similar lines used in America's Next Top Model.
16:21So basically, yeah, the girls have come out about how badly they've been treated.
16:24Yeah.
16:24I mean, that was like, say what you want about it.
16:27It's obviously looking back now, years later, it shouldn't have happened.
16:31It was terrible.
16:32You know, we're very, very lucky.
16:34I feel very lucky in this industry to have been able to work with friends and make friends
16:39from work.
16:40Yeah.
16:40And there is this kind of relationship where obviously it's not, it's not an intimate
16:46relationship, but you do build a bond when you're working with someone.
16:51And there are times where I've been working with people for a couple of months and it
16:54feels like that's your family.
16:56When I was obviously working in the hospital and stuff like that, the friendships, they
17:00are, I think it's molded around the horrific experiences that we encountered in the
17:05hospital.
17:05And it's just obviously quite a sad environment.
17:09But when you're surrounded by that team and you know that if we obviously worked, we worked
17:14in quite an acute area.
17:16So patients were really, really sick.
17:17So you know that if you're on shift with certain people that were your friends, it was going
17:21to be fine because you've always got somebody to be like, come and give me a hand.
17:24This is happening, blah, blah, blah.
17:25And you just work so much better as well.
17:27That sounds like a healthy trauma bond.
17:30Yeah.
17:31Or a total trauma bond.
17:32Have you heard of trauma bonds?
17:32Yes.
17:32When you first meet someone, I've done that and I didn't know what it was.
17:35And now I avoid it like the plague, I will say.
17:38But before I started this situation shipping now, we were talking a lot and I was very aware
17:44that a lot of the stuff we were sharing that we had in common, that it could potentially
17:50build a trauma bond.
17:51And I only knew that because I'd done it previously.
17:54And it is the last bond that I want to build with anybody.
17:58Because although it's nice to have shared experiences, it's almost quite a toxic bond
18:05because it's negative.
18:06Yeah, a negative bond.
18:06And you're going to keep, yeah, you talk about, oh, this happened in childhood or might
18:10have you done this or whatever.
18:12And it's always like dumb and gloom.
18:14Yeah.
18:14Whereas with your situation working in the hospital, the trauma bond and being able to
18:19talk to each other is more.
18:21Because you see nice things as well.
18:22You get like, you got people through the door and you were thinking, oh my God, like
18:27this is, what are we even doing here trying to fix this?
18:30Yeah.
18:30But then you go in the next shift and they're sitting up having a cup of tea and you're like,
18:35oh my God.
18:35But it just shows you how amazing it is.
18:37Like everybody working together.
18:39There's so many people in the team.
18:41And then like that group of friendship.
18:44And obviously I've just left the hospital, but like I will, they going home from work
18:50and speaking to them every day.
18:51And like, even how's this person?
18:53How's that person?
18:54And just getting that wee catch up.
18:55I don't think you could get that anywhere.
18:57I mean, I couldn't even get that with my friends that like my best friends.
19:00I can only imagine there must have been an element of like sympathy and understanding
19:05if when things didn't go well, if you've been looking after a patient or something, or it's
19:09just been a really difficult, stressful day.
19:12The only people that are really going to understand you.
19:15Is the people that are doing it as well.
19:16Is the people that you're working with.
19:17I done a job not long ago.
19:19Well, it was for charity, where I went on the run and I went with my best friend,
19:24Duncan.
19:25Duncan from Blue.
19:25Duncan from Blue.
19:28Sorry seems to be the hardest word.
19:30That's very relevant Duncan for this episode.
19:33I always, always, I introduce him as this is Duncan from Blue.
19:38Just in case she's a forgot.
19:40But he was amazing for me.
19:42We found ourselves in some really tricky places.
19:46I didn't know where we were staying, where we were eating because we were on the run for
19:50charity.
19:50So we just had to keep moving and it's almost like a game.
19:53You're being chased by the hunters.
19:55But I get quite scared, even though I knew it was a TV show and I knew it was a
19:59bit of fun.
19:59Yeah.
20:00I was very on edge because my autism probably comes into it.
20:04And I didn't like not knowing where we were going, what car I was getting in, where we
20:08were sleeping.
20:09And Duncan was just amazing.
20:11And being a supportive friend, holding my hand, always just reminding me that it's okay.
20:17You're not on your own.
20:18I'm here with you.
20:19Yeah.
20:19And yeah, he still is just, just the best to this day of being a good supportive friend.
20:26I love that.
20:27Yeah.
20:28Yeah.
20:28He's the only one I've got.
20:29So I've got to try.
20:30That's not true.
20:32That's not true.
20:33Matthew's nuts.
20:39Okay, so imagine you're in a new situationship.
20:43Okay.
20:43It's very early on.
20:45You're in the honeymoon period.
20:47Okay.
20:48Is this romantic or creepy?
20:51All right, okay.
20:52Showing up to your workplace to surprise you.
20:55Oh, creepy.
20:55I'd hate it.
20:56Creepy?
20:57I'd hate it.
20:58It's over now.
20:59Oh.
20:59It's too much.
20:59And I feel like I like, if I was in the hospital, why are you coming to see me?
21:03Like, I'm too busy to deal with that.
21:05Yeah.
21:06Too busy.
21:06Yeah.
21:07No.
21:07No, I wouldn't.
21:09I wouldn't like that at all.
21:10No.
21:10Would you like it later on?
21:12Is it cute later?
21:13Maybe if I forgot my lunch or something.
21:16If I forgot like, if I'm like, oh, I'm starving.
21:18Chris has done that before.
21:19I've been like moaning, saying I've went and left my lunch sitting in the bunker and I'm starving.
21:24Oh, okay.
21:25And he's waiting and got me like a nicer sandwich from Sam was shopping that.
21:29And it just left at the reception.
21:30I didn't have to come out because I was almost too busy.
21:32Oh, you didn't?
21:32I was going to say, was he just coming to see you in your necklace uniform?
21:35No, I just dropped off.
21:35He wouldn't even that bum.
21:37Has he just dropped the lunch?
21:37No, I dropped it off because I says to him, I won't be able to come out.
21:40And he was like, I'll just leave it at the reception.
21:42So it was nice.
21:43What about making references to things that you've put on your social media?
21:47I don't think that's wrong.
21:49Like if it was something, if it was something that you say, for instance, you had met someone
21:54one time and then the second time you went to see them, if it was something they made reference
21:58to that happened in that week period, like, oh yeah, I seen you went to the gym on Tuesday.
22:03Absolutely fine.
22:04But if he did say, I seen you went to Turkey in 2013, blah, blah, blah, then it's creepy.
22:10Even although I would 100% know that.
22:12You would go all the way down.
22:12I would know that.
22:13But I would keep it to myself.
22:16See, at first, I used to find it like quite sexy.
22:19I think it would almost give me a bit of a kick.
22:22If someone was like, oh, I seen what you were seeing out the other night or I liked what
22:26you were wearing or something like that.
22:28And I'd be like, yeah, you better be watching my social media all day, every day.
22:31You better, you better like every single one.
22:33But then now it kind of gives me anxiety.
22:36Because you don't know what you're going to put on.
22:38That's why.
22:39Yeah.
22:39Or like if I've done something that I probably shouldn't have put on.
22:42And then they get, oh, I've seen on your Instagram the other day.
22:45And I think, oh, what did I put?
22:47What did I put?
22:47What did I say?
22:48I've been sarcastic.
22:50Yeah.
22:50Yeah.
22:50It gives me anxiety now.
22:51But in the beginning, I think it's quite nice.
22:53You want to know that they're interested.
22:55You want to know that they're looking at you.
22:57Although I wouldn't.
22:58I'd use a private profile to go and stalk those.
23:02I don't want to look too keen, but I expect it the other way around.
23:05Yeah.
23:06Oh, so you wouldn't go on their stories?
23:08In a different thing, in a different.
23:10Aye, but you wouldn't do it from your account, no?
23:12Oh, really?
23:13I don't want them to know that I'm looking at them every day.
23:16Oh, Christine, you're such a red flag.
23:19Really?
23:20Yeah, that's just pure mind games.
23:22I don't want to look too stalkerish.
23:23I know, but it's just mind games.
23:24Just own it.
23:25Be like, oh, you look nice and yeah.
23:27Oh, it was only for a couple of weeks before we met.
23:30Oh, was it before you met?
23:31Right, okay.
23:32No, no, I get that.
23:33I thought you met now.
23:34I still do it now.
23:37I just don't want to look too keen.
23:40Oh, Christine.
23:41No, I don't.
23:42I get embarrassed, but I do expect it the other way around.
23:45Yeah.
23:45What about pet names?
23:46Should you have a pet name in a situation, Chef?
23:49No, I think pet names are quite creepy, but I call everybody babe, or-
23:53and I call people-
23:55Sometimes I've-
23:56Sometimes I've been in the hospital and moved.
23:59Somebody meant, right, my name, babe.
24:00And then I thought, inappropriate.
24:04I was like, sorry about that, Jim.
24:08I say babe or baby because, oh God, I'm telling myself to shut my mouth.
24:18I have to say babe or baby because I have a bad habit of saying the wrong name.
24:23Oh.
24:24Oh.
24:25And I've said it at the most inappropriate time you can imagine.
24:27Oh.
24:29No.
24:30No.
24:31No.
24:32It was so awful.
24:34It was so bad.
24:36And since that day, when I said the wrong name.
24:39Christine.
24:40And now we're going to call everyone's babe.
24:43Yeah.
24:44Just to keep it simple.
24:44Everyone.
24:45Everyone is babe.
24:46What about using AI to generate a picture of what your child would look like?
24:51No.
24:52Do you know what's really funny?
24:55So, I had maybe went out with Chris a few times.
24:59The girls hadn't met him.
25:02And we were- I can't even remember when we were out.
25:04We were out at like the pictures or something.
25:06And my youngest had texted me.
25:09And she just gets really excited with things like that, right?
25:12And she'd obviously snipped on his Instagram and stuff like that.
25:15And I clicked on the picture and it was like this ugly looking baby, right?
25:21And I was like, ugh.
25:23And then I clicked and she wrote, I've went on AI and I've made what you and Christopher's
25:27baby will look like.
25:28This is my little brother.
25:30Oh my.
25:30And I was sitting next to Chris though, because I told him to make all the times.
25:33And I'm like, aww.
25:35How long have you known each other?
25:36Well, we've known each other for years, but-
25:39Did you find it funny or creepy?
25:40It was killing his cell laughing.
25:42He's like, go and send me out to it.
25:43So, it was fine.
25:44But, I mean, that had potential red flag all over it.
25:47I'm like, for God's sake.
25:49I'm going to admit, right, I'd done something.
25:51Oh no.
25:52Twice.
25:55But I felt like I was doing it in quite a comedic way.
25:59I was being funny.
26:00But now when I think about it-
26:02Did you do wedding pictures on AI?
26:04So, with two different situationships.
26:06So, with one, she'd gone on holiday with her friends and sent me a photo of them all.
26:11So, I photoshopped myself.
26:13That's funny.
26:14I sent a photo and sent it back.
26:15Like, I'm there with you.
26:17Like, just, it was more of a funny thing.
26:19But now I look at it and go, God, if someone done that to me, I'd be like, what the
26:22fuck.
26:22You're an absolute weird girl.
26:23This one was even worse.
26:25So, there's my situationship, my most recent one.
26:29It was very, very early on.
26:30We'd probably had one or two dates.
26:34Where I had a photo of us, like, with an engagement kind of.
26:43But it was in a very joke and funny way because I'd been saying to her for months,
26:49we were talking before we dated and I'd been going, there's absolutely no way I'm never,
26:52ever getting married.
26:53Yeah.
26:53And then I was just kind of saying, like, you know, after those two dates, yeah, do you know what?
26:57I think I'd put like, she said, yeah.
26:59Yeah.
27:00Yeah.
27:00It was a nice time.
27:01Yeah.
27:01So, that's nice.
27:02Yeah.
27:05And that is us finished for this week.
27:08I've loved this episode.
27:10I know.
27:11It's so fun.
27:12I absolutely love it.
27:13We're lucky.
27:14Our friendship situationship is working with us.
27:16Oh, yes, it is.
27:17We don't have to apologise.
27:19Our ship comes in.
27:19No soddies on that ship.
27:24No, I've loved it.
27:25I've absolutely loved it.
27:26I'm excited for next week too.
27:27Yes.
27:28Can't wait.
27:29See you soon.
27:30If you would like advice from Sophie and me on your situationship,
27:35then contact us at situationships at bbc.co.uk
27:39and on WhatsApp on 08000 224448.
27:44Please only contact us if you are over the age of 18.
27:48Further information can be found at bbc.co.uk
27:52forward slash Radio Scotland.
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