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Ramazan Sevinci 21. Bölüm | Hülya Terzioğlu & Fatma Meriç Yılmaz (11 Mart 2026)
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00:00:12In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
00:00:21Dear viewers, the Surah An-Naml in the Quran takes us to a unique scene.
00:00:30A vast and immense army composed of humans, jinn, and birds, led by a powerful prophet like King Solomon.
00:00:41And one day this powerful prophet sets out towards the Valley of Ants, or his path leads him to the Valley of Ants.
00:00:51The majestic, terrifying footsteps of that army startle the ants.
00:01:00One of them says, "O ants, Solomon's army is coming! Return quickly to your nests, lest you be crushed and destroyed under their feet."
00:01:11Prophet Solomon (peace be upon him) hears these words, he hears this cry, and a compassionate smile appears on his face.
00:01:21And he says to his Lord, "O Lord, inspire me to be grateful for the blessings You bestowed upon my parents and to perform deeds that will please You."
00:01:35One day, that powerful prophet engaged in a conversation with that ant, that wise ant.
00:01:43He asks him, "How much sustenance do you receive throughout the year?"
00:01:49The ant says, "O Prophet, O Messenger of God, a single grain of wheat will suffice me for a year."
00:01:57Prophet Solomon (peace be upon him) decided to test the ant, so he placed it in a box and put a grain of wheat next to it.
00:02:07So he leaves it alone with a grain of wheat and positions it so it can breathe.
00:02:13A full year passes, and after a year, Prophet Solomon (peace be upon him) opens the box.
00:02:20And what did it see? The ant was alive, but half of the wheat next to it had been eaten.
00:02:26And the ant left the other half behind.
00:02:29He says, "O ant, you told me you could eat one grain of wheat for a whole year, but you left it half-eaten."
00:02:37From where?
00:02:39The ant says, "O Solomon, my sustenance comes directly from God."
00:02:47That's how I lived when I was underground, and I never worried.
00:02:51Because my Lord never neglected me, never forgot me, and always provided for me.
00:02:56But when you guaranteed my sustenance, I worried that Solomon might not open this box, might never come back, and might forget me.
00:03:07And if I'm still stuck in that box a year later, I've left half of it to ensure I have food," he says.
00:03:15Dear viewers, our situation is like that of an ant in a box.
00:03:20When we fail to fully appreciate the blessings our Lord has bestowed upon us, and that our sustenance comes from Him, a worry about the future begins.
00:03:31The positions and resources we possess, God forbid, lead us to arrogance and conceit.
00:03:39But if only we knew that our Lord is the Provider of the universe and that He will never forget us, and will never cease His blessings upon us,
00:03:48If we could understand this, we would actually find true peace.
00:03:53We have very special guests again tonight on our Ramadan Joy program.
00:03:59Prof. Dr. Hülya Terzioğlu and Prof. Dr. Fatma Meriç Yılmaz will be with us.
00:04:05Please don't leave us.
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00:13:18On the one hand, we conduct social assessments. We try to identify those in need.
00:13:24But we know that when the month of Ramadan arrives, it will be an opportunity for us to provide more help and kindness to those in need.
00:13:32It's very intense in some ways, but also very peaceful in others.
00:13:36I think your peace of mind is very valuable. It's a wonderful thing.
00:13:40Let's get straight to the point, sir.
00:13:43A family crisis is frequently discussed today.
00:13:48So these kinds of crises are not just talked about, they are actually experienced.
00:13:53As a theologian, what are the factors in this modern world that cause these crises that challenge the family?
00:14:01Let's start from here, if you like.
00:14:02Thank you, professor.
00:14:04Actually, I'd like to address the context of the family crisis from the perspective of a theologian as well.
00:14:12I think we need to broaden the scope a bit more beforehand.
00:14:16Because it's a sociological phenomenon.
00:14:18It also has an economic aspect, a sociological aspect, and a psychological aspect.
00:14:23It's possible to look at it from many different angles.
00:14:25In general terms, I would say it's a reflection of the spirit of our time.
00:14:30What do I mean?
00:14:32We call the era we live in the modern age, but actually, the period after the millennium has different names like late modern, second modern, etc.
00:14:41Sociologists also give it different names such as the fluid century, the information age, and the digital age.
00:14:45What is the spirit of this age?
00:14:47In the spirit of this age, they actually see more or less three types of oil.
00:14:51I'm saying this to illustrate how these things affect the family.
00:14:55Firstly, the overwhelming spread of urbanization.
00:15:00Today, or rather recently, I listened to a presentation at an important place, from an important person.
00:15:06For example, in the 1990s, 49% of the population in Türkiye lived in rural areas.
00:15:1349.9 is almost half.
00:15:16By 2024, this rate had dropped to 6.6%.
00:15:20So there's that much of a gap.
00:15:22A second factor is the widespread use of the internet.
00:15:26The third is that consumer marketing benefits every budget and pocket.
00:15:32Let me tell you, it has evolved into a world that forces everyone to constantly shop.
00:15:36When you put all of this together, it's a process that leads you towards secularization.
00:15:41There are even doctoral studies on this subject.
00:15:43Therefore, precisely when we talk about secularization,
00:15:46secularism, or a process in which the influence of religion is removed from the life of society, if not from the life of the individual,
00:15:55We are confronted with secularism as an ideology, a worldview.
00:15:59How does secularism affect the family, professor?
00:16:04Yes, sir, ultimately this dynamism, this movement,
00:16:10So, let's start with a joke.
00:16:12Now, in a process, a journey that we can perhaps trace back 200 years,
00:16:17We have actually experienced modernism.
00:16:19We wanted to modernize, and we wanted to do it by Westernizing.
00:16:22We've had some struggles along the way.
00:16:24We've done some great things, but we've also had setbacks.
00:16:27But today we have begun to discuss the problems of modernism.
00:16:32So it turned out that we weren't satisfied with the outcomes of the struggle we waged.
00:16:37In what way does it affect the family?
00:16:39Now, family refers to a shared experience that embraces and surrounds us, something we call home.
00:16:48Actually, from an Islamic point of view, the family,
00:16:51Family law matters, which the Quran refers to as personal status,
00:16:56It constitutes the largest part of the legal issues.
00:16:59You look at the prophets, all the prophets,
00:17:02Except for Jesus and John the Baptist, they were all married.
00:17:05They live many lives.
00:17:08You can read about their struggles in real life through their lived experiences.
00:17:14With all its blessings and burdens, being a family is undoubtedly of immense importance.
00:17:19The consequences of the modern world, professor, are that women and men have separate roles within the family.
00:17:25We got these bad results because it affected children as well.
00:17:30Let me put it this way, motherhood, for example, is like the female bird building the nest.
00:17:38There's an expression that's become quite common in our language.
00:17:41That's absolutely true.
00:17:41Underlying this, of course, is the blessing and embrace of the family,
00:17:46There is an emphasis on mothers who support with their mercy, affection, and guardianship.
00:17:52This was done by weakening motherhood.
00:17:55So, being a woman was considered important, not motherhood.
00:17:59So, regarding this issue in the West, there are feminist movements, for example...
00:18:04its reflection also extends to our geographies,
00:18:07and entered our lives through discussions that were not very healthy,
00:18:13It presented itself as a story that entered our social fabric.
00:18:16Because why?
00:18:18Motherhood, because it's not a profile that fits the capitalist structure.
00:18:23Because motherhood means sacrifice.
00:18:25Because motherhood means feeding your child even when you yourself don't eat.
00:18:28Because motherhood means hugging.
00:18:30Because motherhood means transformation.
00:18:33It means to seek refuge.
00:18:34If you want to disrupt a situation,
00:18:36You need to dismantle women's motherhood.
00:18:39So you need to distribute the maternal traits.
00:18:42Let me also mention this, dear professor.
00:18:44Now, for example, at least some feminists,
00:18:48They base their argument on the thesis that Islam degrades women.
00:18:52One of the points they raised here is,
00:18:55Sir, well, Islam doesn't give much importance to women.
00:19:00He values his mother.
00:19:01A woman's quality is not that of a mother,
00:19:05How should we put it, there is no such thing...
00:19:06It has no value.
00:19:08Paradise lies at the feet of mothers.
00:19:09But it's only valuable if you're a mother, and so on.
00:19:13But something is being overlooked here.
00:19:16When you look at the way Islam is interpreted,
00:19:18Quran, Sunnah, Prophet Muhammad,
00:19:20No matter where you walk from.
00:19:22All women are mothers, in essence.
00:19:24She has the potential to be a mother.
00:19:26So, with its biology, its psychology,
00:19:30with their social standing, their roles within the family.
00:19:32As for giving birth, that's a matter of fate.
00:19:35In the Quran, Prophet Abraham is mentioned...
00:19:37We are looking at the Prophet Zechariah.
00:19:39He who says, "My Lord, do not leave a single soul behind, and You are the best of inheritors."
00:19:41Prophet Zechariah asks God for a child.
00:19:44So, God will grant it if He wills.
00:19:46There is a challenge in this regard.
00:19:48Therefore, yes, motherhood is very sacred.
00:19:51It is very noble.
00:19:52It is undeniably valuable.
00:19:56But all women have the potential to be mothers.
00:19:58Giving birth is a matter of fate.
00:19:59For example, a woman who has no children,
00:20:02She is like the mother of her elderly parents.
00:20:04She is like a mother to every child.
00:20:06She is like a mother to everyone in need.
00:20:08That's how we should think.
00:20:09As a heading, that is.
00:20:11Definitely.
00:20:12So, I think we shouldn't separate womanhood from motherhood, professor.
00:20:15Okay, alright.
00:20:15Madam Fatma, you also said that this month, of course,
00:20:21You said you were busy, and in this blessed atmosphere, your workload is increasing.
00:20:26What kind of process is taking place during Ramadan on this occasion?
00:20:30In terms of mutual assistance and solidarity, as our Red Crescent?
00:20:32Now, when Ramadan comes, of course, our tradition is not only unique to our country,
00:20:41It is a tradition in the Muslim world that religious and financial acts of worship increase during the month of Ramadan.
00:20:48Ramadan is a month in which zakat, fitra, and fidyah are given, and charitable acts are performed.
00:20:55When we say Turkish Red Crescent, we are actually defining it as a 157-year-old volunteer family.
00:21:05This volunteer family may not be able to donate money, but they are certainly giving their time.
00:21:12He is giving his strength, his effort, and trying to be a part of that movement of kindness within this climate of mutual support.
00:21:19During Ramadan, we define ourselves as a bridge of kindness, an ambassador of kindness for our valued donors.
00:21:26Essentially, we offer a portfolio where they can direct their donations to specific categories.
00:21:34This applies to both domestic and international markets, and this portfolio includes, for example, food products.
00:21:44There are always hot meals, iftar tables are set up, and there are holiday gifts, both in terms of clothing and holiday money.
00:21:55When we look at the world's geography, we see that the needs have increased dramatically in Gaza on one side, Syria on another, Yemen on yet another, and Sudan on even more extreme levels.
00:22:05And all these families in need know that more help will come to them during Ramadan.
00:22:13In this sense, we experience the month of Ramadan in a very blessed and festive way.
00:22:19On the one hand, your Turkish Red Crescent Women's Organization is organizing "Mother's Hand" iftar dinners.
00:22:24This year, there will be over 120 iftar dinners prepared by mothers.
00:22:27These are for university students who are not with their parents,
00:22:34The volunteers from the Turkish Red Crescent Women's Organization served meals they had cooked at home.
00:22:39Approximately 120 iftar dinners prepared by mothers will be organized this year.
00:22:43Last year, over 100 events were organized again.
00:22:46You also have a mother-centered approach.
00:22:48Of course.
00:22:49So, family is actually one of the main priorities of the Turkish Red Crescent.
00:22:55When we say "our Turkish Red Crescent family," we are actually saying that we are a volunteer organization.
00:23:00It's not widely known.
00:23:01Sometimes, people still think of the Turkish Red Crescent as a state institution.
00:23:06It is believed that those working at the Turkish Red Crescent are salaried employees.
00:23:10However, the Turkish Red Crescent is a non-governmental organization.
00:23:13A family that, with the help of volunteers, tries to deliver the donations entrusted to them by the people to those in need.
00:23:20And when we look at our volunteer organizations within this family, we see that we are a family.
00:23:25You have a Turkish Red Crescent Women's Organization.
00:23:26We have a Youth Red Crescent.
00:23:28And actually, within this family, on one side we have our mothers, your Red Crescent Women's Organization, and on the other side, our young people.
00:23:37Ultimately, a biological link is not necessary.
00:23:40They are our children, our future.
00:23:42And if I were to add anything to where my teacher left off, I strongly believe this:
00:23:48Sometimes, certain topics are much better when discussed from a positive rather than a negative perspective.
00:23:54What do I mean?
00:23:55When we talk about being a family, the focus is often on the difficulties of being a family.
00:24:02It's the same when you look at social media.
00:24:04Or they started to get scared when they saw the children among themselves.
00:24:09Will we be able to get along with each other?
00:24:12If we have children, will we be able to raise them?
00:24:15We discuss these things among ourselves as well.
00:24:18We have organized youth Red Crescent branches in all universities.
00:24:23Over 155,000.
00:24:25They started a family academy last year.
00:24:30In this family academy, these issues were discussed with 120,000 university students.
00:24:36What are the thoughts of a thousand university students on starting a family or having children?
00:24:45What are the problems?
00:24:46How can we overcome these?
00:24:47What are the proposed solutions?
00:24:49These things were discussed.
00:24:50Our Turkish Red Crescent Women's Organization has launched a family academy specifically for women.
00:24:55This is where communication comes in.
00:24:57How to communicate with children?
00:24:59I believe you have some campaigns going on.
00:25:02Let's start those too.
00:25:03Yes, of course.
00:25:05We launched this year's Ramadan campaign with the motto "We stand by those who are alone."
00:25:12There is actually a reference to our soup kitchens here.
00:25:16We have launched our "81 soup kitchens in 81 provinces" campaign.
00:25:19As of the beginning of this year.
00:25:21Actually, soup kitchens are a tradition of the Turkish Red Crescent; 43 soup kitchens deliver hot meals to 40,000 to 50,000 people in their homes every day.
00:25:32He is being taken away.
00:25:33Here too, starting from the family model, we are talking about our elderly people who live alone,
00:25:38Elderly or disabled individuals who are unable to cook for themselves should not be left alone.
00:25:45Let's begin by making a reference to this during Ramadan, saying that we are there for those who are alone.
00:25:50So how will it be right beside him?
00:25:52How will we be by your side?
00:25:54On the one hand, as we said, we will be by their side with financial assistance.
00:25:59On the one hand, we will be right beside them with their iftar meals.
00:26:02On the one hand, we deliver 60,000 hot meals to homes every day from our soup kitchens.
00:26:08This isn't about providing a hot meal; we'll simply be there to ask if you need anything.
00:26:13Ultimately, when we look at those in need, both domestically and internationally, they are waiting to see if anyone is listening to them.
00:26:25We, as the Turkish Red Crescent family, also tell them that during the month of Ramadan, together with our donors and volunteers,
00:26:32We are saying that we are with you in our prayers.
00:26:35How beautiful, how beautiful.
00:26:37These are undoubtedly very important activities.
00:26:40Professor Hülya, returning to the topic of family, we are already talking about family again, but...
00:26:47So, within the framework we've just discussed, for example, we consider the family as a kind of school.
00:26:55We regard it as a trust, and this trust is nurtured by Quranic religious values.
00:27:03How should we interpret the family through these examples?
00:27:08Teacher, as you know, the Quran is a book of truth.
00:27:11So, he also expresses himself in a language that reconciles nature, that is, Islam, with nature.
00:27:18Te'eqimi veciheke liddini hanifâ fıtratallâhilleti fatarannâsâ aleyhâ.
00:27:23In other words, the Quran states that it was revealed as a religion suitable to human nature.
00:27:28Life itself is the Quran.
00:27:30Therefore, when we look at the family profiles in the Quran,
00:27:35Even when we look at the beginning of humanity, life starts with a family.
00:27:39Adam and his wife, the first humans, experience marriage in a sense.
00:27:47And a trial, a test, begins to manifest itself through his children.
00:27:53Now, there's a very important detail there, frankly, in this first creation story.
00:27:57I would like to underline it.
00:27:59Now, when Adam and his wife ate of the forbidden fruit, their private parts became visible to them, and they felt ashamed and covered themselves.
00:28:09They cover themselves, as stated in the Quran.
00:28:12So, the first characteristic that actually emerges in humans is the capacity for shame.
00:28:18It is a characteristic of modesty.
00:28:20As the Quran states, modesty is a part of faith.
00:28:23In other words, it is the name of a stance that should be understood in conjunction with faith.
00:28:28This actually gives us the most important concept that strengthens the family, professor.
00:28:36That's privacy, too.
00:28:38So, a family's understanding of the Quran, or at least this is how I humbly read it.
00:28:44The entire strength, power, and honor of a family lies in its privacy.
00:28:50So, you've had experiences, both good and bad, you may have aspects that align with each other, aspects that don't align, and things you disagree on.
00:28:59The stronger your family is, the better your ability to resolve these issues among yourselves.
00:29:05When you open these up and decipher them, you may find that even if they contain very beautiful experiences, you won't see much benefit from them.
00:29:12So the situation could evolve in a different direction.
00:29:14Therefore, I understand the emphasis on modesty in that first story, and the Prophet's linking of it to faith, as follows...
00:29:24Families should understand, feel, and live by the fact that while they may behave in all their relationships according to others, they are also fulfilling their responsibility to God by protecting privacy.
00:29:37Now, the prophets use this first event as one of the most important references in the Quran to emphasize and strengthen the meaning that the Quran assigns to the family.
00:29:44This.
00:29:45Privacy.
00:29:46So we must emphasize this point repeatedly.
00:29:48Unfortunately, in the century we live in, it has evolved into something that is particularly transformed by social media.
00:29:54So, nowadays everyone knows that privacy used to be defined by law, religions, traditions, and so on.
00:30:00Now, social media is also defining things; people are creating their own private space, their own network, to put it in modern terms.
00:30:07She throws out what she wants, keeps in what she wants, and can share her most intimate things there.
00:30:13So she shares her happiness, she shares it 24/7, even depending on the situation.
00:30:18The second point, sir, is that we need to emphasize the fact that the Quran is a book of life.
00:30:23The Quran presents the family to us through fragments based on real-life experiences.
00:30:29The Quran contains excerpts from the life and family of the Prophet Muhammad, as well as from the lives of other prophets.
00:30:34As you know, one-third of the Quran consists of stories, and these stories also deal with issues of family life.
00:30:41And there are also the trials that the prophets faced with their families, mind you.
00:30:46There are so many lessons here, for example, when we look at the present day,
00:30:49For example, one of the most frequently complained about issues in conservative circles is...
00:30:52We cannot provide for our children, we cannot teach our children to pray.
00:30:55Or, for example, we don't like certain behaviors of our children, and we don't know what to do.
00:31:00For example, why does the Quran mention that the descendants of Prophet Noah did not believe in him?
00:31:06Why, when Abu Jahl had it, why not so many other things, let me tell you...
00:31:11While there are many prominent individuals who have insulted the Prophet,
00:31:14Through Abu Lahab, Allah Almighty says in a verse:
00:31:18By describing how Abu Lahab would be punished,
00:31:21In a sense, by expanding the circle a little more, including family ties,
00:31:26to religious brotherhood,
00:31:28اِنَّمَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ اِخْوَيَ
00:31:29We also see that it has evolved into a more transformative family concept.
00:31:33So the events described in the Quran are not like fairy tales,
00:31:37The prophets faced many struggles.
00:31:39Even the Prophet Muhammad himself experienced some difficulties with his wives,
00:31:44It has become associated with the Quran.
00:31:45For example, as you know, there is the verse about purification (tahhir).
00:31:47It is mentioned in the Surah Al-Ahzab.
00:31:49Here are some examples of Muslims who achieved a slightly higher standard of living during the Medina period:
00:31:52Here's a more delicious meal,
00:31:54when they have the opportunity to dress better,
00:31:57with the Prophet's wives, naturally and instinctively, as a human reflex,
00:32:00They said to the Prophet:
00:32:02O Messenger of Allah, why don't we dress more beautifully?
00:32:04Why don't we eat better things, for example?
00:32:07He makes a complaint.
00:32:08This is actually a complaint.
00:32:09But the principle of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) was...
00:32:12big goals,
00:32:14In other words, aiming for the top.
00:32:16but being modest about his private life,
00:32:19That is the way of Allah.
00:32:20And he says,
00:32:21I can divorce you if you want.
00:32:23If you want Allah and His Messenger,
00:32:25You will live with this humility.
00:32:27And the Ummah of the Believers will of course do what is necessary,
00:32:29They have turned back from this.
00:32:31And they believed that life with our Prophet was a greater honor.
00:32:34Thanks.
00:32:35Dear viewers,
00:32:37we every day,
00:32:39you know,
00:32:40We are listening to the sounds of the street.
00:32:42This time it's my hometown,
00:32:43We are in Kayseri.
00:32:44Let's see what our citizens on the street think.
00:32:47What are his thoughts on these issues?
00:32:56The robustness of society,
00:32:58It stems from the strength of the families.
00:33:00Children, generations,
00:33:01He learns everything with his family.
00:33:03Love, respect,
00:33:04solidarity,
00:33:05mutual assistance
00:33:07being together,
00:33:08self-confidence
00:33:09togetherness,
00:33:09togetherness,
00:33:11to his homeland,
00:33:11to his nation,
00:33:12to its flag,
00:33:13to its flag,
00:33:14loyalty from the first family
00:33:15learning,
00:33:17is acquiring.
00:33:18Therefore,
00:33:19families at this point,
00:33:21to pass on to generations,
00:33:22There are many cultural aspects.
00:33:23Socially,
00:33:24psychologically.
00:33:25Family is our center.
00:33:28First of all, it is provided by the child's development,
00:33:30from birth to death,
00:33:32shaped,
00:33:33their behaviors,
00:33:34This is where it was updated.
00:33:36For that reason,
00:33:36First of all, we need to live within the family.
00:33:39So, based on advice,
00:33:40You do this, my dear.
00:33:41No, don't do that.
00:33:42This is a sin.
00:33:43Not in the sense of "this is a virtuous act," but...
00:33:45Parents should set an example.
00:33:47that's what I think.
00:33:48When you establish unity and togetherness first within the family,
00:33:50on the other side,
00:33:51at school,
00:33:52He will do this with his friends as well.
00:33:54Compared to the family structure of the past,
00:33:56The most important difference between today's family structure and the past is...
00:33:58I think it was created by social media.
00:34:00Because when social media entered our lives,
00:34:03He had actually joined to revitalize communication.
00:34:05But over time,
00:34:06Communication has reached a point of complete blindness.
00:34:08For example, today when people come home from work,
00:34:11Instead of relaxing by spending time with their families,
00:34:14They prefer to relax by spending time on their phones and on social media.
00:34:17But in the end, family is a person's safest haven.
00:34:20Therefore, by spending some time with family,
00:34:22between the present and the past,
00:34:24So I believe that those current family ties will be kept alive even more.
00:34:28Ramadan programs that we have been familiar with since infancy,
00:34:32Iftars, holidays,
00:34:33They are preparing us for our future lives.
00:34:36We get together with our relatives during holidays.
00:34:39At iftar meals, we eat the same dishes with our loved ones.
00:34:43These behaviors are very influential in helping us develop a sense of community in the future.
00:34:47Islam's emphasis on family relationships fosters a sense of community among Muslims.
00:34:51The advice we received from our elders in the past,
00:34:54Hopefully, we will start with our families and preserve our traditions and culture.
00:34:59If we, as adults, live this way and then pass it on to our children...
00:35:02Hopefully, this has instilled a sense of community in the Muslim community.
00:35:07And we will pass it on to future generations.
00:35:16Sir, we send our greetings and love to Kayseri, our homeland.
00:35:21And the Ramadan Joy program continues at full speed in our studio.
00:35:26I would like to remind you of something in the meantime.
00:35:28As you know, many organizations, such as the Turkish Red Crescent, have been guests here.
00:35:34We will give you a specific number to help them.
00:35:41And by writing things like iftar, sahur, fitra, fidyah there, for example at 18.77
00:35:50You can make a donation of 240 TL.
00:35:53We also expect your support for this campaign.
00:35:56I want to get back to the owner of this campaign immediately.
00:36:00Ms. Fatma, of course, your geography is also the geography of the Muslim community.
00:36:08And here too, there is a great deal of cooperation and solidarity.
00:36:11You are touching those places, you are touching hearts.
00:36:15You are treating this family as part of a global community.
00:36:19What kind of activities do you engage in?
00:36:21What was the view like when you arrived there?
00:36:23Now, of course, the world is changing every day, and sometimes we talk about it amongst ourselves like that.
00:36:29We wonder if it started with the pandemic.
00:36:31We never got back to normal.
00:36:33There was a pandemic.
00:36:35After that, we experienced a major earthquake in Türkiye.
00:36:37Immediately after that, following that earthquake,
00:36:39Let's remember the earthquake in Afghanistan and the floods in Libya.
00:36:43While these natural disasters were ongoing, the Gaza crisis began.
00:36:46For perhaps three years, we woke up every day thinking about Gaza.
00:36:51A part of our hearts is there.
00:36:53What has been happening in Syria for 13 years is clear for all to see.
00:36:56Now they may be trying to turn back, but...
00:36:59When they returned, they found a ruined country.
00:37:02A country that needs to be rebuilt.
00:37:05Today, 25 million people in Sudan are living on the brink of starvation.
00:37:11When we look at Yemen, when we look at Afghanistan
00:37:13There are such challenging geographical areas.
00:37:16And at the end of the day, we, as the Turkish Red Crescent
00:37:18or the entire Turkish Red Crescent Movement
00:37:22as a humanitarian aid movement
00:37:24valuing people simply because they are human
00:37:27And in all circumstances, both during disasters and in normal times.
00:37:31even during extraordinary times
00:37:33A family that does everything it can in terms of humanitarian aid.
00:37:37Of course, Gaza remains a very important issue for us during Ramadan.
00:37:43We are also guided by the donations we receive, to be honest.
00:37:47Because wherever the donation is sent
00:37:51Thanks to our donors, we are becoming more active there.
00:37:54Can you categorize them like this?
00:37:56Of course.
00:37:57Of course.
00:37:57Wherever they want to send them
00:38:00For example, a separate donation channel for Syria.
00:38:02There is a separate donation channel for Gaza.
00:38:03For example, they could set up their iftar table in Türkiye.
00:38:07They are able to set up iftar tables in Gaza as well.
00:38:09We have two soup kitchens in Gaza.
00:38:11In the Northern and Central Region.
00:38:13We haven't stopped for three years.
00:38:15Sometimes the doors closed.
00:38:16So, with the donation he will make while sitting at home.
00:38:19They are able to provide iftar meals for those people there.
00:38:21Of course, when he joined the Palestinian Soup Kitchen channel
00:38:24There are various donation channels.
00:38:26On Kızılay.org.tr or on the mobile application they downloaded
00:38:30Or even if they typed "Gaza Soup Kitchen donation" into Google.
00:38:34It redirects directly to the Gaza soup kitchen.
00:38:37We kept our soup kitchen there very active from the beginning.
00:38:42Because Gaza is not only being tested by war, not only by bombs.
00:38:48Gaza is also facing the threat of famine.
00:38:50The doors are closing.
00:38:52There was a period of three and a half months during which no trucks entered the area.
00:38:57And we know that babies were actually dying of starvation during that period.
00:39:02Hunger already weakens the immune system.
00:39:06It increases infections.
00:39:08Therefore, our main concern here is related to Gaza.
00:39:13just as we prioritize basic human needs during a disaster
00:39:19We are still in that situation in Gaza.
00:39:21Having our delegation inside,
00:39:24Our delegation was present even before these events,
00:39:28This enabled these soup kitchens to increase their activities and produce hot meals every day.
00:39:38We are currently distributing iftar and sahur meals to 60,000 people daily in Gaza.
00:39:43We distribute them as hot meals.
00:39:45They can come and pick these up from us if necessary.
00:39:48patients in tent cities and hospitals,
00:39:51We can distribute them to the nurses and doctors working there.
00:39:54And videos of them are coming in every day.
00:39:57That's what I always say.
00:39:59When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I do is check the donations for the Ramadan fundraising campaign.
00:40:03I thank God that we will be able to reach even more people.
00:40:06Right after that we have our Palestine group, our WhatsApp group.
00:40:10Images have emerged from soup kitchens in Palestine.
00:40:13Then I look at those images.
00:40:14I praise my Lord.
00:40:16How nice.
00:40:17Health aid continues in Gaza.
00:40:19Two hospitals, the entire expenses of the hospital run by the Palestinian Red Crescent,
00:40:24We, as the Turkish Red Crescent, are covering the costs.
00:40:26We are sending ships of kindness.
00:40:28Our 20th and 21st charity ships are somewhat timed to coincide with the outbreak of the war with Iran.
00:40:34And it coincided with a period when the closure was implemented again, using that place as an excuse.
00:40:39But just a moment ago, about an hour ago, some news came in.
00:40:42For some time now, ever since this Iran issue started, none of our trucks have been able to enter.
00:40:47Two of our trucks have entered.
00:40:49We thanked Him.
00:40:51Thanks.
00:40:51Therefore, as we said, a part of our heart is also in regions in need.
00:40:57How nice.
00:40:57We will reach 7.5 million people during Ramadan.
00:41:01We started with 1 billion 800.
00:41:04It currently looks like it will reach around 2.2 billion.
00:41:07We will be distributing aid totaling 2 billion 200 thousand Turkish Lira.
00:41:11Of the 7.5 million people, 4.5 are within the country.
00:41:14Three million of them will be abroad.
00:41:16We will be in Syria, we will be in Yemen, we will be in Sudan.
00:41:20So we are everywhere.
00:41:22We are everywhere.
00:41:22Yes, that's wonderful.
00:41:23Yes, Professor Hülya, of course, at the root of many problems, and generally speaking when we talk to our guests, is the feeling of "I" and selfishness, and as a result, ego.
00:41:38Adopting a self-centered lifestyle, feelings like self-prioritization.
00:41:44This is actually completely contrary to the family's fundamental philosophy.
00:41:49It causes the loss of the sense of "we".
00:41:52From this perspective, how do you think we can create this awareness in families?
00:41:57Professor, you've highlighted a very, very important point.
00:42:00Now, when we look at divorce rates, according to Turkish Statistical Institute (TÜİK) reports, as well as the reports from the Ministry of Family, NGOs, and relevant institutions, the top one is...
00:42:07When we look at the work he has done, first of all, contrary to what is thought, for example, violence can be cited, economic disagreements can be cited, this can be cited, that can be cited,
00:42:18It can be said.
00:42:18But the case mostly presents us with a profile that, as you precisely described, operates with the mentality of "it's my life," thus avoiding responsibility.
00:42:30So we are faced with a profile of someone who cannot grasp or understand the seriousness of family, who still lives as if they are single and only wants to experience the comfort of marriage.
00:42:42I even wrote down a spot I frequently use at sea, and I'm hoping to publish something about it soon.
00:42:47For example, a phrase that might fuel this sense of not being able to be a "we," often used in divorced families, is: "I only have one life."
00:42:57Am I going to take a picture of you?
00:42:58Why should I endure this marriage? I only have one life. The phrase "I only have one life" might actually be said carelessly.
00:43:07This could also be true, independently of the observation I'm about to make, but...
00:43:09Beyond that, it definitely gives one the feeling of having a problem of faith.
00:43:13Because we don't just have one life. We actually...
00:43:19We have another life in which we need to prepare for the afterlife.
00:43:23That is what truly endures, that is where one will ultimately find their way.
00:43:28Professor, as I mentioned at the beginning of the program, these processes have made people very individualistic and competitive.
00:43:36It isolated, it made things desolate. Actually, we're not the ones saying this.
00:43:40I remember the late Professor Erbakan with fondness. He once said in a speech, "The strongest testimony is the testimony of one's adversary."
00:43:46Now I will give an example from the West.
00:43:47For example, there's a French female philosopher.
00:43:51Elizabeth Badinter says in one of her publications that she writes extensively on feminism.
00:43:57He says we actually thought we were discussing social power struggles.
00:44:03Beneath these topics, beneath these headings, we suddenly find ourselves discussing our very nature.
00:44:09So, being a woman, being a man, and that's where competition immediately comes into play.
00:44:13My life, my choices, my body, even my teacher—this situation is evolving into something much more dangerous.
00:44:22My sins, my mistakes.
00:44:24So, there are also justifications for sin and error.
00:44:27So if I did it, I did it.
00:44:29We don't see any reason to be ashamed of this, or to back down from this point.
00:44:35Of course, there's a lot of context to all of this, sir.
00:44:37So this program has many aspects that go beyond what is currently discussed.
00:44:39First of all, the world, as you know, is going through very serious difficulties in the current situation; we are surrounded by a ring of fire.
00:44:48The world wants elite people, sir.
00:44:52Therefore, one goal is to prevent young people from forming families by individualizing them.
00:44:59And very significant steps have been taken in this direction.
00:45:01This includes population planning, social media content, and films.
00:45:08And so on and so forth, but sadly, when you look back, you see that Eric Fromm is a very famous sociologist.
00:45:16Eric Fromm, a German sociologist of Jewish origin.
00:45:19He's writing a book called "Escape from Freedom".
00:45:22What a nuisance this thing they describe as freedom actually creates,
00:45:27how it isolates the individual, how vulnerable it makes them,
00:45:31He reveals how he displaced people by writing about it himself.
00:45:35Therefore, professor, these are the disadvantages of the era we live in.
00:45:39Of course, I think the real question is, where is the answer to this, or where is the solution?
00:45:44I think that's the most valuable place.
00:45:46So, if it's about detection, everyone can see everything.
00:45:50Knowing is no longer the issue.
00:45:52The real challenge is being able to do it, sir.
00:45:54So how can we ensure that we are ourselves?
00:45:56How will we provide it?
00:45:57Sir, there's no magic formula, really.
00:45:59But I can say that it has a very clear formula.
00:46:03Teacher, we will renew our faith.
00:46:05We will renew our actions in accordance with our faith.
00:46:08As we know, when Islamic thinkers talk about reason, they actually mean...
00:46:11So, there are many definitions that can be given, but one of my favorites is this:
00:46:15Reason means to perceive and understand things as they truly are.
00:46:20Morality also means treating things as they are.
00:46:25So, in this case, it's necessary to treat the child as a child,
00:46:29Treating women with respect for their feminine qualities,
00:46:33You will make your regulations accordingly.
00:46:35You will structure your concept of the welfare state accordingly.
00:46:38In other words, it is our need to come to our senses through reasoning.
00:46:43It is also very important that we come to our senses in terms of our moral development.
00:46:46There is actually an important point here.
00:46:48All of this now confirms the existence of a conflict environment, whether externally or internally driven.
00:46:55There is a problem with gender roles.
00:46:59It's as if they're being pitted against each other.
00:47:01I have this thing where dominant, or recessive, elements clash with each other.
00:47:11So shouldn't these roles actually be based on solidarity rather than conflict?
00:47:17Without a doubt.
00:47:18Professor, there are distinct influences on both male and female genders.
00:47:23They both have advantages and disadvantages compared to each other.
00:47:25As we know, God Almighty possesses unparalleled power in everything He creates.
00:47:30Therefore, each of his creations is unique.
00:47:32Therefore, it makes no sense to compare women to men.
00:47:35In fact, comparing women to other women makes no sense.
00:47:39Because each one is created uniquely.
00:47:41They are all created to be perpetrators, to be servants of God with full criminal responsibility.
00:47:49So when I said we're going back to our own code, this is what I meant.
00:47:53In essence, our faith is equivalent to true freedom.
00:47:58It is a faith based solely on being a servant of God.
00:48:01Therefore, when you turn these things into competition, life loses its enjoyment.
00:48:05Because there will always be someone who is superior to you.
00:48:07The important thing is to multiply beauty.
00:48:09What my professor said is actually very valuable.
00:48:11The problematic aspects of marriage are being discussed.
00:48:14The hard times of life and all that.
00:48:16Life is already too short.
00:48:19Instead of focusing on happiness, people seem to be preoccupied with divisions.
00:48:23There are also groups behind this that fuel and benefit from it.
00:48:28Of course, there are also malicious groups.
00:48:30We will multiply good examples, sir.
00:48:32As the old saying goes, a bad example is not an example at all.
00:48:35They say water is not an example, but it's not really an example.
00:48:37Yes.
00:48:38Ms. Fatma, in your work, regarding zakat, donations, and delivering them, as far as we understand, the Turkish Red Crescent has a very serious organizational structure, both internally and externally.
00:48:50It's also available outside.
00:48:51This makes us happy.
00:48:53Of course, it's wonderful that our civil society organizations are able to provide such services to people all over the world.
00:48:59This shows that they are the tangible pillars and concrete ambassadors of both our civilization and our faith.
00:49:06How do you manage these donations?
00:49:08So, when we look at it, it's not an easy thing to do.
00:49:12Now, in our culture of doing good deeds or giving, there's actually a tradition of "let not one hand know what the other hand is giving."
00:49:24But times are changing.
00:49:27In places where the world and times have changed, in cities, in huge housing complexes, we sometimes think that there are no people in need left around us.
00:49:38However, when we go to another neighborhood within the same city, or even within the same apartment building, the needs there might be different.
00:49:48We might not be able to reach them.
00:49:50Therefore, civil society organizations need to have very effective systems in place to find those who are truly in need and to reach those who are truly in need.
00:50:00It is necessary.
00:50:01We at the Turkish Red Crescent are also striving for this.
00:50:03Social studies are very important to us.
00:50:06Our branches conduct social assessments every day of the year, 12 months a year.
00:50:11During these social assessments, sometimes a person may come to the branch and apply saying, "I need help."
00:50:17Sometimes a neighbor might apply saying, "My neighbor needs help."
00:50:22Or a village headman or someone else might say there's a need here.
00:50:26But ultimately, for every need that reaches us, we will definitely knock on that door with our volunteer teams.
00:50:34How nice.
00:50:35We go inside the house and sit opposite each other.
00:50:37We look at the children there with our social investigation form, we assess the situation.
00:50:42For example, sometimes you might find that the most important need in a home is a hygiene kit.
00:50:49But sometimes you see that there are school-aged children in that house.
00:50:54It doesn't occur to the mother or father at that moment.
00:50:57At that moment they may have a desire related to food or nutrition, but we know that when school time comes, those children...
00:51:05They will need stationery.
00:51:07Or they will need coats when winter comes.
00:51:10When summer comes, they will need different types of shoes.
00:51:14In all of our branches, we actually keep a record of the information about the families we reached as a result of social investigations.
00:51:22What does this provide us with?
00:51:24It allows for a more fair and transparent distribution of any donations received, starting with those most in need.
00:51:32With regard to its objective.
00:51:33Yes.
00:51:33Because this is very important for us.
00:51:37If we receive a donation, that donation is our responsibility.
00:51:40For us, it's not enough to simply deliver the donation to a place; it's important to deliver it to those who need it most.
00:51:48Thanks.
00:51:48Because it is now a trust and a matter of fulfilling one's duty to us, to deliver it to the right place.
00:51:53The second issue is, of course, socioeconomic empowerment.
00:51:58I think it's very important to talk about this.
00:52:02When we talk about socioeconomic empowerment, we don't mean providing one-time assistance to families.
00:52:08This is one of the things that social research provides us with.
00:52:11If the problem for that family is really that the father of that family is unable to work
00:52:16or if the mother, who has lost her father, does not have a job up to that point
00:52:21For us, socioeconomic empowerment means that the family can somehow generate an income and get back on their feet.
00:52:30For example, we applied this very intensively after the Maraş earthquake.
00:52:38We provided hot meals to tradespeople and farmers for a period during the recovery phase as we worked to erase the effects of the earthquake.
00:52:49As soon as they were able to move into containers and cook their own meals, we immediately converted it into food parcels.
00:52:55Then we launched support programs for tradespeople and farmers.
00:52:59Tens of thousands of people applied, and let's say everyone who applied already had, for example, a textile shop or a grocery store.
00:53:07But he's devastated now, he's lost his job.
00:53:09He is now permanently in need.
00:53:12Socioeconomic empowerment means that person taking back control of their own life.
00:53:17Or, if they don't have a job until then, they could start with a vocational training activity, for example, a hairdressing course.
00:53:26Or, our workshops became places where lives were forged through kindness.
00:53:29The aim is to enable women to find jobs very quickly by receiving training in industrial kitchens.
00:53:36In our aid efforts, we place great importance on socioeconomic empowerment and enabling individuals and families to become self-sufficient.
00:53:44And of course, everyone in that family is different.
00:53:48A mother's needs are different from a father's needs.
00:53:51Children are very important to us.
00:53:53Children have different needs.
00:53:55We also try to reach out to children, especially encouraging them to get into university or to continue their education.
00:54:06Here we see how many different dimensions there are to mutual assistance and delivering aid.
00:54:13Professor Hülya, in the fast-paced modern life, we naturally communicate very quickly.
00:54:22Within the family, and with our environment.
00:54:24Especially within families, the language and style of communication are being shaped by new modern tools, and this has both advantages and disadvantages.
00:54:35And what should we do to transform this communication style into a healthy family communication style?
00:54:41So, for example, there's cold communication and then there's warm communication, right?
00:54:47Then there are the disagreements, the communication problems in the language of communication.
00:54:52Say what?
00:54:53Professor, actually, in any process in life, at least half of the failures are due to communication failures.
00:55:01So whether it's in economic indicators, or other indicators, or even in family relationships, these are actually the consequences of not being able to communicate effectively.
00:55:10We live that way most of the time.
00:55:12In this family, of course, it manifests itself in a more crucial way, with more hurtful and damaging consequences.
00:55:19Actually, what we should do might be more individual, but we can unite as families on what we shouldn't do.
00:55:29This is very valuable.
00:55:31For example, we shouldn't repeat very familiar things or commonplace information, but we should keep the language of love very strong.
00:55:39And we extend this to others, to those opposite us, to our children, spouses, siblings, and relatives, including maintaining family ties.
00:55:47Sadly, in the modern world, when we talk about family, we now see only that micro-structure consisting of a mother, father, and children.
00:55:55And we are watching.
00:55:56Actually, sir, when we look at the Quran, the practices of the Prophet Muhammad are similar to this.
00:56:03So the family includes orphaned children as well.
00:56:06Orphans have rights, which are mentioned quite a bit in the Quran, and as my professor mentioned earlier, those disadvantaged children...
00:56:12Doesn't our job feel so much better when we talk about aid given only to children?
00:56:17In the past, every household had an orphaned child, and the Quran outlines the rights of orphans.
00:56:21Likewise, the elderly, the bedridden, or even, let's not go so far, I remember from my own childhood.
00:56:27In every household, a child of a relative from the village or the countryside would come to study there and stay in houses, not dormitories.
00:56:34So the family was a larger family.
00:56:37And the smiling face of the family is the mother, sir.
00:56:39Look, the biggest investment in this communication actually comes from the mother.
00:56:45Because that's what I always think.
00:56:47For example, visiting relatives, right?
00:56:49It is very important that this is also described in the Quran as a characteristic of believers.
00:56:52Even when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) told his wife that the first revelation came to her...
00:56:58"You look after your relatives; to whom else would they turn?" said Hazrat Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her).
00:57:03Therefore, for example, when Ja'fari Tayyar was explaining the path of our Prophet's cause to Negus...
00:57:10He mentions that the Prophet protected his relatives during the migration to Abyssinia.
00:57:15In other words, as a distinguishing feature.
00:57:17All these connections, professor, mean effective communication.
00:57:21So, the key to achieving Sıla's return is effective communication.
00:57:24And believe me, its strongest pillar, let's say its strongest supporter, is women.
00:57:31Maintaining family ties is actually represented by women.
00:57:34From where?
00:57:34From where?
00:57:35Because women are more open to communication.
00:57:37They are more talkative, have a warmer demeanor, and are more cheerful.
00:57:42Of course, the modern world is based on constantly striving for profit in every aspect, it is based on commodities.
00:57:47In this respect, it has primarily focused on exploiting women.
00:57:51Sometimes they do this in a way that borders on abuse, which I don't want to exemplify because it's not in keeping with the program's integrity.
00:57:57Therefore, women's communication skills are much warmer.
00:58:01It is more constructive, more fruitful.
00:58:03Furthermore, professor, I would like to emphasize the following point.
00:58:08For example, men, let's say, have historically distinguished themselves and been observed to contribute more to public life.
00:58:13Women were predominantly involved in domestic production, at least that was the case before the industrial revolution.
00:58:20But even though women work today, mothers and women are still the smiling faces of the home.
00:58:26If a woman isn't smiling, if her communication style isn't healthy, guests won't easily come to that house, sir.
00:58:34Therefore, the mother's constructive role in establishing this communication has a very foundational value.
00:58:41So, investing in the mother is investing in the child, the family, and society—it's like the real army of society, let me use a slightly provocative phrase, the greatest army.
00:58:52It's actually family, sir.
00:58:54Because armies also come from that family.
00:58:56So, it's the big hearts of mothers who send their beloved sons off to military service that carry them there.
00:59:02So, what I mean is that mothers who send their children off with love, affection, and a hug are probably the ones who establish that communication language best.
00:59:09Let's focus on how we shouldn't behave.
00:59:14Everyone should decide for themselves how to behave.
00:59:16Because the language of love is different.
00:59:17So how should we not behave then?
00:59:19How should we not behave?
00:59:20First of all, professor, let's determine this based on the person we're dealing with.
00:59:24They talk about empathy in the modern world.
00:59:26So, he should empathize with his wife.
00:59:28Definitely.
00:59:29Empathy is the greatest thing, in my opinion. It's like the Prophet Muhammad's (peace be upon him) teaching: not doing to others what you wouldn't want done to yourself. It's the simplest thing.
00:59:37It presents itself as the most fundamental moral principle.
00:59:42Setting an example through behavior.
00:59:44So, for once, our children need to run home.
00:59:46Because homes are no longer production centers anyway.
00:59:49In the modern world, institutions and organizations have taken over all the functions of a household.
00:59:53Psychologists, psychiatrists, professional playgrounds, shopping malls, family coaches, hospitals, doctors, and so on and so forth.
01:00:04How much is left to get home today?
01:00:06All that's left is to cuddle, to love, to caress, to smell.
01:00:10Parents who withhold even this from their families, who come home very tired, and who bring all the stress of their work home, are a very wrong investment.
01:00:23I think they are doing it.
01:00:25As much compassion, mercy, affection, grace, and guardianship as possible, my teacher.
01:00:31This is also very important.
01:00:32These are Quranic concepts, as you know.
01:00:34It's related to family.
01:00:35Custody means being able to act on each other's behalf.
01:00:38That means competence.
01:00:40Therefore, it means self-deception.
01:00:41So, what I mean is that couples who are compatible and suited to each other getting married is a path to healthy homes and healthy communication.
01:00:49Thanks.
01:00:50Ladies and gentlemen, in our Ramadan Joy program, the time for breaking the fast is approaching in Ankara.
01:00:55Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
01:00:56The call to prayer has been recited.
01:00:57May God accept your prayers, sir.
01:01:01Dear viewers, Ankara is having its iftar meal.
01:01:05All across our country, there are people waiting at their tables to break their fast.
01:01:10We are slowly getting closer to Istanbul.
01:01:13We've deepened our conversation on the Ramadan Joy program and we're continuing it.
01:01:18The Turkish Red Crescent, of course, does wonderful work in many different geographical areas, but generally in the Muslim world.
01:01:29They are delivering aid to those areas, and this aid is reaching the camps.
01:01:35Are there any events there that caught your attention, that affected you as a person?
01:01:43Now, if you'll allow me, let me mention two brief points, one concerning Gaza and the other the earthquake region.
01:01:50One of them is Gaza.
01:01:52As you know, an open-air prison has formed in Gaza for the past three years.
01:01:57Only one team was allowed to leave the country for health reasons, and some of them came to Türkiye.
01:02:05Of course, within this scope, under the coordination of AFAD (Disaster and Emergency Management Presidency), we requested their assistance and said that we would like to receive a team.
01:02:12These are a mother and child.
01:02:14Because they allow someone to come with the children when they are sick.
01:02:18They can't come as a family.
01:02:19Therefore, of the more than 2000 Gazans who came here, some are either with their father, mother, or another person – part of their family.
01:02:28He arrived there to be there.
01:02:30At our social services center, mothers and children often come together.
01:02:35The other day, they even hosted an iftar meal for us, with food they cooked themselves, those mothers of ours.
01:02:40One of our children there, Adraet, has hemophilia, and if he doesn't take certain medications regularly, his survival is very unlikely.
01:02:51She is coming to Türkiye with her mother and is going to Ankara.
01:02:55We also visit around that time.
01:02:57How are you? Are you well?
01:02:59One day the Palestinian ambassador came to visit.
01:03:02We're talking about what we did there.
01:03:05I said, "May I?"
01:03:06Let's take those children back to their mothers.
01:03:09They need to feel like they're not alone here.
01:03:12Speak to them in their own language.
01:03:14We went with our ambassador.
01:03:17Our ambassador, of course, speaks Arabic.
01:03:18Our colleagues are also doing the translation.
01:03:20We're trying to understand it, albeit partially.
01:03:23"What do you want?" he asked the children, of course.
01:03:26So, what does a child want?
01:03:27We think they'll want chocolate, balloons, toys, and so on.
01:03:31Riot raised his hand, boy.
01:03:34He said, "I want to return to my country."
01:03:38It's so clear, so resolute.
01:03:41But he said there is a war there now.
01:03:43Here you are, you're sick, and you're receiving treatment.
01:03:46You cannot return to your country while there is a war going on.
01:03:50That needs to end first.
01:03:51"If I don't go back now, perhaps I won't have a country left to return to," he said.
01:03:55Riot is a seven-year-old kid.
01:03:57I'll never forget him.
01:03:59And of course, when we travel to different geographies, different places, we see so many things.
01:04:05We are learning so much.
01:04:08We often realize that the things we define as problems in life aren't actually problems at all.
01:04:13And what I'm going to talk about regarding our earthquake region is actually about how volunteering heals people.
01:04:22We also have a girl named Kübra in Kahramanmaraş.
01:04:26He lost everyone in his family in the earthquake.
01:04:30Nobody is left.
01:04:31Alone.
01:04:32A girl in her early twenties.
01:04:36Then, of course, there's our volunteer.
01:04:38We're also employing him as part of our team in some way.
01:04:44They work at our community service center.
01:04:46We went to visit one day.
01:04:48They wrote Kübra's story.
01:04:50Let's put something on the notice board there.
01:04:53He talks about losing his whole family and being left all alone.
01:04:57It was still the early stages of the earthquake.
01:04:59Of course, you get emotional, something gets stuck in your chest.
01:05:05You want to cry, but you shouldn't.
01:05:07You need to stay strong.
01:05:09Because you shouldn't remind her of anything bad.
01:05:13Then Kübra arrived, laughing.
01:05:15"That's me, Kübra," she said.
01:05:17That's what my wife said.
01:05:20"I first recovered thanks to the Red Crescent," he said.
01:05:24Then I rebuilt my family in Kızılay.
01:05:27That volunteering was with one of her friends, with whom she was volunteering together.
01:05:31During that process, Kübra got married.
01:05:35They both continued working together at the Turkish Red Crescent.
01:05:39And that really made a big impact on me.
01:05:43I heard a lot more about it afterwards.
01:05:45When we went into the field, we saw strength, resilience, and faith in the people we perceived and positioned as victims.
01:05:55You mentioned reliance on God at the beginning.
01:05:57Hallelujah.
01:05:57I think he's very impressive.
01:06:00And there's something we hear from almost all of them.
01:06:03We heal by doing good.
01:06:06They say they're part of the Turkish Red Crescent family.
01:06:08This issue is really about helping families overcome the problems they are experiencing regarding their own situations,
01:06:15Here are some examples: they visit a nursing home, or they see a patient in a hospital, whether they know them or not.
01:06:24It contains love, compassion, kindness, and goodness.
01:06:29Especially in the Prophet Muhammad's family environment, compassion, kindness, and love were very prevalent.
01:06:35So, the Prophet Muhammad addressed his daughter as "mother," referring to our mother Fatima.
01:06:42He stands up when she arrives and offers her his seat.
01:06:46There is such a thing as a language of love and respect.
01:06:49Can we bring this kind of communication to our families today?
01:06:56Teacher, now, this is also discussed in Surah An-Nur...
01:06:59Let me give you a very extreme example.
01:07:02The Prophet's wife was slandered, wasn't she?
01:07:05The verse of the Quran declared Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) to be pure.
01:07:09During the interval until it is cleaned,
01:07:13Our Prophet, being human after all, was affected and perhaps felt a little hurt.
01:07:17We know that Aisha went to her father's house during that period.
01:07:22We know that he went to the house of Hazrat Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him).
01:07:25Then, after being purified by verses from the Quran, he returned.
01:07:28The Prophet's reaction was simply to remain silent, to show some displeasure.
01:07:34Or it manifested itself as a bit of a wait-and-see, like waiting to see how things would develop.
01:07:41So, let's say, finding the most suitable partner for a man is one of the biggest problems, isn't it?
01:07:49The emergence of such an issue concerning his wife.
01:07:51Even there, our Prophet observed the timing, waited, and for example, some events that are happening today,
01:08:00There are traumas, murders, for example.
01:08:04I wanted to emphasize this point so that we don't forget the example set by the Prophet Muhammad.
01:08:09For example, the Quran mentions Noah's unbelieving wife.
01:08:14For example, he also mentions Pharaoh's believing wife.
01:08:16Look, both of them are in Surah At-Tahrim, right next to each other, in verses 10 and 11; in one of them, it's about Prophet Noah and...
01:08:24It mentions that Lot's wife will go to hell along with those destined for hell.
01:08:29His Holiness, meaning his wives, are prophets, and this is, of course, a matter of guidance.
01:08:36As for Pharaoh's wife, she drank the cup of martyrdom because she said "Aventub-i Rabbi Musa" (Moses is the Lord of the Worlds).
01:08:42He closed his eyes, saying, "Lord, build me a house in your paradise."
01:08:46Therefore, there is great wisdom in the stories of the prophets.
01:08:49Our Prophet, of course, well, maybe time was running out, I don't know.
01:08:53You know better than I do, but let me tell you this.
01:08:56The Prophet (peace be upon him) had a very genuine relationship with his wives.
01:09:00We even see this in their policies targeting women in all aspects.
01:09:03For example, he empowers them by obtaining their allegiance.
01:09:06So, receiving allegiance is equivalent to voting in today's terms.
01:09:10So it means support.
01:09:12You know, we do these things with your spouses.
01:09:14He didn't say you are also subject to them.
01:09:15For example, there's the Bayat al-Nisa, which falls under the category of biography (sira).
01:09:20In other words, the women's allegiance.
01:09:21He opened a door for them in the mosque and gave them training.
01:09:26He consulted with his wives about everything, let me tell you.
01:09:29And he accomplished these things through healthy language and communication,
01:09:34because he accomplished these things in a loving environment
01:09:36Love, sir, also suggests a dynamic process in the life of the Prophet (peace be upon him).
01:09:43Today we're looking at what experts are saying about love.
01:09:46Love is a state that can be described through a series of processes including attention, knowledge, responsibility, and respect.
01:09:56Or is saying "I love you very much" not love?
01:09:58Even if you were to say this verbally to a child today, "But why don't you ever buy chocolate?"
01:10:03By saying this, they can motivate you to take action.
01:10:05So he wants to see some action.
01:10:07This is a right that the Prophet (peace be upon him) fulfilled by consulting with his wives.
01:10:11We even know that at some very critical points, he personally listened to, for example, Umm Salama, the mother of the Prophet.
01:10:18We know he's subservient to her.
01:10:21At Hudaybiyya, when he wanted to return, he said, "If you shave first, they can also leave the state of ihram."
01:10:26By saying "O Messenger of Allah," our mother Umm Salama is, in a sense, saying something that opens up new perspectives.
01:10:32And that's how the Prophet behaved.
01:10:35So we see that he also acts based on the wisdom and guidance of women.
01:10:39Yes, this is a dynamic and genuine, authentic relationship, and that's what I wanted to emphasize, professor.
01:10:43Dear viewers, today on TRT1, we had very important guests for the joy of Ramadan.
01:10:51Prof. Dr. Fatma Meriç Yılmaz, President of the Turkish Red Crescent, and Prof. Dr. Hülya Terzioğlu, Faculty Member of the Theology Faculty at Sakarya University.
01:11:04We would like to extend our sincere thanks to our guests.
01:11:07Thank you.
01:11:07It was a very pleasant conversation. Thank you. I hope it was helpful.
01:11:12Let us also go to the Istanbul iftar with a short prayer. Amen.
01:11:16Praise be to Allah, praise be to Allah, praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.
01:11:20And salatu wa salamu ala Resulina Muhammedin ve ala alihi ve sahabihi ecmain.
01:11:25O Lord of the Worlds, accept our fasts.
01:11:28Grant us all the ability to perform our acts of worship in a way that pleases You.
01:11:33May You accept, grant, and bestow upon us, in a way that is beneficial to us, all the good and virtuous intentions and desires that we cannot express in our hearts.
01:11:45Do not take action, help our brothers and sisters in need, in need of prayer, throughout the entire Muslim world.
01:11:53May God grant them the strength to rise again. Amen.
01:11:57Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.
01:12:00Dear viewers, it is now time for iftar in Istanbul.
01:12:06May God accept your prayers, sir.
01:12:08Allahu akbar, Allahu akbar, Allahu akbar.
01:12:16Eşhedu an la ilaha illa Allah.
01:12:26Eşhedu an la ilaha illa Allah.
01:12:38Eşhedu anna muhammadan rasulullah.
01:12:52Eşhedu anna muhammadan rasulullah.
01:13:09I bear witness that Muhammad is the Prophet.
01:13:22Eşhedu anna muhammadan rasulullah.
01:13:24Eşhedu anna muhammadan rasulullah.
01:14:28Dear viewers, we have come to the end of our Ramadan Joy program on TRT1.
01:14:34As the poet says, if you cannot play the lute of love, neither touch the fret nor harm the string.
01:14:41If you cannot bear the tenderness of the heart, neither touch the thorn nor harm the rose.
01:14:46Sir, our families are built on love and affection.
01:14:51Here, the strings may occasionally go out of tune, but there's no need to break the string instead of adjusting the tuning.
01:14:58What kind of atmosphere will we create with our family tonight?
01:15:03How can we better preserve and maintain peace, goodness, beauty, love, and that sacred roof?
01:15:11We discussed these things within the framework of the Quran, within the framework of faith, and we talked about mutual assistance and solidarity.
01:15:18We will be together again tomorrow at the same time on the Ramadan Joy program.
01:15:23We are now in the final 10 days of the holy month of Ramadan.
01:15:27It is slowly saying goodbye to us.
01:15:29We must work harder and strive more to increase the frequency of our acts of worship and benefit from them more.
01:15:38Sir, we have two more very valuable guests tomorrow.
01:15:42Prof. Dr. Hasan Kamil Yılmaz and Hayati İnanç.
01:15:46Looking forward to meeting again at the same time.
01:15:49May God protect you, goodbye dear viewers.