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Ramazan Sevinci 4. Bölüm | Mehmet Dinç & Derda Yasir Yenal (22 Şubat 2026)
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00:06In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
00:15In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
00:16Dear viewers, tonight we will be talking about rooms with closed doors.
00:23Emre's door was tightly closed.
00:26It was a screen light that illuminated her face, that made her artificial worlds shine and glow in the best possible way.
00:35Emre was exposed to a wide variety of conflicting ideas.
00:41Be free; being religious is a weakness.
00:45That's all there is to life, he told himself.
00:49Underneath these words, Emre described himself as inadequate, his family as ordinary, and his life as unhappy.
00:59But there were many things Emre didn't know.
01:04He has no idea whether it's time for breaking the fast or not.
01:07His mother is preparing the iftar meals amidst the competition.
01:11His father has arrived home exhausted and is waiting.
01:15Emre spends his life in front of his phone screen, longing for that glamorous life he once lived.
01:22And finally, the time for breaking the fast is approaching.
01:25Emre's door was reluctantly being opened.
01:29When Emre slipped through the door and came to the table, there were three plates.
01:36And these plates seemed to represent different worlds.
01:41Three different worlds were seated at this table.
01:43Silence reigned, and Emre was still engrossed in his phone screen.
01:50Trying to lighten the mood, his mother asked, "How are you, my son?"
01:54"I'm fine," he simply said, but kept staring at the screen.
01:59His father asked if there was a problem.
02:04He said no, but there actually was a problem.
02:06Emre was unhappy.
02:08Emre was overwhelmed by the loneliness of the digital age he lived in, and felt bad about himself due to his perceived shortcomings.
02:18This period did not last very long.
02:21A sound of takbir, which is the call to prayer, was heard.
02:24Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
02:27This exclamation caused a shock in Emre's heart.
02:31Suddenly, he was transported back to the Tarawih prayers he had spent with his grandfather.
02:34He remembered the days when his mother would wake him up with her loving hands at dawn.
02:42And so, she placed the phone face down on the table, turning off the light, the screen light.
02:51And his mother, moved by this sight, said, "My son, we missed you so much."
02:58Emre understood what his mother meant.
03:01His father joined in this beautiful atmosphere with his warm gaze.
03:07Emre was impressed.
03:09Suddenly, the atmosphere transformed into one of joy for breaking the fast.
03:12And the ice between them melted, their souls merged.
03:18Dear viewers, the problem is when the screen light in a home is brighter than the light of a father's gaze.
03:25And if, in a home, the words of others are more influential than the mother's words, more effective than the mother's prayers, then it means there is a test underway.
03:38Yes, tonight we'll be talking about addiction, modern addictions, and how to train our willpower.
03:47We have two very distinguished guests.
03:50Our President of Eşilay, Associate Professor Dr. Mehmet Dinç, and actor Derda Yasir Yenal will be with us.
03:58Please don't leave us.
04:52M.K.
15:18Let him start, let him strengthen his will, let him use Ramadan as an excuse, but let him not fight alone.
15:24They should seek support from experts, from people who are knowledgeable in this field.
15:28We have 105 consulting centers that provide free services in this area.
15:32We can get help from these places.
15:34Yes, professor, what are our addictions during Ramadan, what are the addictions that are brought to our attention during Ramadan?
15:41We live by our habits, you know.
15:43When Ramadan arrives and we question ourselves, we realize the extent of our addiction.
15:52So, what addictions does Ramadan remind us of, and how does it encourage us to strengthen our willpower in order to regulate and manage them?
16:00Yes, of course, it's necessary to draw a clear line between addiction and attachment.
16:04Because addiction is a serious illness.
16:07Therefore, there are certain specific diseases that fall under that category, with defined treatments, defined symptoms, and specific characteristics.
16:16And then there are allegiances.
16:17These commitments are essential for human beings.
16:20So people want to connect, they want to belong.
16:24He wants to establish a relationship with himself, to connect with himself.
16:27He wants to be connected to his family, his loved ones, his mother, his father.
16:31They want to be connected to their society, culture, and beliefs.
16:34And ultimately, he wants to connect with her life, her existence.
16:38These are healthy forms of belonging.
16:40But what if these things aren't addressed properly, if effort isn't put into them, if their rights and legal protections aren't upheld, or if the commitments we have...
16:50If it is not protected, if its value is not appreciated, then it will slip away from us.
16:54And to compensate for this, we begin to form unhealthy attachments.
16:59What are unhealthy attachments?
17:01Please excuse my statement that we might overuse social media to fulfill our need for communication and relationships.
17:08We may use social media in an uncontrolled manner.
17:11Or we might fall into other patterns that we call bad habits.
17:15At this point, Ramazan says, "Wait a minute, there are some things you've forgotten, overlooked, neglected, or misunderstood."
17:23Let's think about these things again.
17:25First, you don't have to be swept away by the current.
17:28See, you can keep your mouth shut.
17:31You're not drinking water, you're not eating, you shouldn't get angry, you need to weigh your words carefully and use them wisely.
17:37At this point, Ramadan reminds us very clearly that we can exercise self-control and take a position to control the flow of our lives.
17:47Therefore, taking a position on this issue would be the greatest gift we could give ourselves during Ramadan.
17:53But we usually miss it.
17:56Yes, in other words, in order to train our willpower, manage our psychology, and meet our emotional needs, we need to be in communication with our environment.
18:08But it's important not to let these become an obsession or an addiction.
18:13Or, to create the right kind of addiction.
18:15Yes.
18:15So, the alternative to this...
18:16We need to build the right relationships.
18:18Yes.
18:18So, when we don't create the right kinds of addictions, there's a slogan we use a lot in our Green Crescent Counseling Centers:
18:26We say that addiction enters the void.
18:29We shouldn't leave meaningless gaps in life.
18:31The more meaningfully we can enrich our lives, the more we can enrich them.
18:35So how does Ramadan give meaning to these voids we've filled?
18:39Very good.
18:39You asked a very important question.
18:41Let me get straight to the point.
18:41First, we need to do a situation assessment and orientation.
18:46There's a very nice saying.
18:47He says that if you get on the wrong bus, you don't have to go all the way to the last stop.
18:51Now we'll take a look at ourselves.
18:53Are we on the right bus?
18:55In life, do our habits, behaviors, and relationships feel right to us or not?
19:01Someone wrote on a wall, "I'm taking the wrong road, but the view is amazing."
19:08I know it's not the right path, but the scenery is getting worse, he says.
19:10Now a person understands whether the path they are following is the right one, and whether their behaviors and habits are correct.
19:17They understand even if no one says anything.
19:18When you consult your heart, when you are alone with yourself, when you check yourself, you realize if something is wrong.
19:25Therefore, Ramadan should remind us of this.
19:28Am I on the right bus or not?
19:29Is the path I'm taking even the right path?
19:31Am I going down the wrong path?
19:32You mentioned it, right? Wait, Ramazan says this street is a dead end because of the crowds.
19:36I wonder if I keep going down dead ends; we need to check that.
19:41And firstly, it's very important that we are honest with ourselves about this.
19:45Secondly, we need to push ourselves a little harder.
19:48We need to do this without taking the easy way out, without making excuses, and without shifting our responsibilities onto others.
19:54What usually happens?
19:55People find excuses to change, to transform.
19:58Or they blame others.
20:00He's the reason I'm like this, and he's the reason I can't change.
20:03Because of this, instead of blaming anyone for continuing to make mistakes, we need to take responsibility for ourselves and look at life as an opportunity for recovery.
20:13Ramadan gives us this.
20:15Therefore, the first thing we need to do is to question ourselves.
20:20Then, developing key habits step by step.
20:25The key habit is this.
20:27When you acquire one good habit, ten more good habits follow.
20:31You don't need to go through the process of getting them individually again.
20:35Therefore, the more we incorporate these key habits into our lives, the more we enrich our lives and bring them to a more balanced state.
20:42Now, the following might immediately come to the minds of our viewers.
20:44So what is the key habit?
20:47Many examples could be given, but...
20:48Yes, that's an interesting phrase, key habits.
20:50This is a concept we use quite often, supposedly.
20:52Now I'm wondering if I have any key habits.
20:56That's a very good question.
20:57Everyone needs to ask themselves, "What are my key habits?"
21:01And this key habit of mine, the habits that bring other habits into my life and take some out, are they good for me or bad for me?
21:08For example, in my life, there's a key habit that I pay close attention to.
21:13Going to bed early and waking up early.
21:15When you go to bed early and wake up early, a lot of unwanted habits disappear from your life.
21:21Many things you desire also automatically enter your life.
21:24Let's ask Mr. Derda then, do you also have any key habits like that?
21:30Because our viewers are also very curious about the lives of the actors.
21:35Let me answer with a joke, sir.
21:37It's like going to bed late and getting up early.
21:39Now that you say that, teacher, I'm really envious.
21:42One of the things I most want to get used to right now is going to bed early.
21:46What you said is absolutely true.
21:48When you go to bed early in the evening, you distance yourself from so many things, and suddenly, by waking up early in the morning, you gain new things.
21:56It's really beautiful.
21:57Do I have any key habits?
21:59I guess I'd say making good friends.
22:02I care about him.
22:03Because when you have friends who are strong-willed and pure in their own lives, you somehow become like them, sharing a bed with them.
22:13And when you're inclined to make a mistake, it's your friends and siblings who warn you.
22:17I don't know if it could be a habit to use keys.
22:20Is this system acceptable, sir?
22:21Why not?
22:22Definitely.
22:24How is Ramadan going?
22:25We've only just begun, but is it already deep?
22:28Thank God, things are going well, we had a great start.
22:31So, thank God, when Ramadan comes, one feels a sense of happiness and joy inside.
22:37Of course, I'll start counting the days right away.
22:39Today is the fourth day.
22:40I woke up this morning thinking about him.
22:42How did four days pass so quickly?
22:43Again, we're getting closer to the end.
22:46This Ramadan, of course, we are experiencing a second joy because of our series, Vefa Sultan.
22:51But in a way, we were happy that our end was coming anyway.
22:54Ramadan is going very well for us right now.
22:56May God make it even better, inshallah.
22:59As my teacher said, I mean, let's be the kind of people who can re-evaluate our will, who focus on our inner selves rather than the outside world.
23:09So, if you'll allow me, I'd like to share a saying I heard in a place like this, related to that.
23:14It's a quote from an anonymous guy I don't know, but I like it so much.
23:18One day, while sitting somewhere, he said, "My inner self is like a hoarder's market."
23:22I've been tinkering with it for 45 years, but I still haven't finished it, so I can't bring myself to lift my head and look outside.
23:29So, I believe that he has been struggling in some way for 45 years, with his own state, his own spirit, his own heart, trying to discipline his ego.
23:38I really liked what someone said.
23:40Isn't this also a key habit, professor?
23:42For example, it's important for a person to take care of themselves.
23:46It's not about being obsessed with oneself, or always focusing on oneself, but about being aware of oneself, about being aware of one's own heart—that's what's important.
23:53Because we generally neglect our hearts too much.
23:55We can become blind to what's happening inside by focusing so much on the outside.
23:59Therefore, perhaps one of the things we should benefit from most during Ramadan is this opportunity.
24:04Let's take a look within ourselves.
24:05But now, in general, instead of focusing on attention, care, and indulging our egos, it seems we're always striving to nourish our physical selves or directing our efforts towards that.
24:18We understand, or at least we think it should be this way.
24:20But doesn't Ramadan, on the contrary, remind us that we should now turn inward, professor?
24:26Of course, our elders have many wonderful sayings.
24:29Let's call these keywords.
24:31There is no greater wisdom than knowing one's own shortcomings, he says.
24:34In other words, beyond knowledge and wisdom, the highest level of wisdom is for a person to recognize their own shortcomings.
24:40When a person recognizes their shortcomings, they take a step towards correcting them, they try to improve.
24:45Ramadan could provide us with such an opportunity if we consider it.
24:50What are my shortcomings, my deficiencies, that I want to improve and correct?
24:54We're talking about each account.
24:56Of course.
24:56Sir, our accounting will continue, God willing, but we have a veterinarian, and with this veterinarian, we tried to listen to the voice of the street.
25:05What do they think about these issues?
25:07Now let's all watch our veteran together.
25:16The eagerly awaited holy month of Ramadan has arrived.
25:19A blessed Ramadan, with its abundance, its tarawih prayers, its iftar meals, and its sahur meals.
25:24We pray to Almighty God that this will be beneficial for the entire world and for our Turkey.
25:28Ramadan is beautiful in Konya.
25:30From there, we went to the market to inquire about the blessings of Ramadan.
25:34Let's combine shopping with a bit of spiritual indulgence.
25:38Ramadan is so beautiful in Konya.
25:40When I think about Ramadan in terms of spirituality, I feel like I'm in closer contact with God.
25:46I feel closer to God now.
25:51We always pray, both during prayers and at other times.
25:55But I feel like the prayers offered during Ramadan are like entering into a closer connection with God.
26:00While I was in Konya, it felt like everyone could sense Ramadan even before it arrived.
26:07Lights, finials, decorations.
26:10Even people are approaching things with such enjoyment, enthusiasm, and how can I say, warmth.
26:16Whether we greeted them or not, everyone was smiling and friendly.
26:22That's usually how it goes.
26:24In Konya, we always welcome Ramadan joyfully and freely, thank God.
26:29We came to the mosque hoping for a pleasant time.
26:33We received a warm welcome, and hopefully things will continue well.
26:36Ramadan makes me more patient and more devout.
26:41I'd like them to improve it further.
26:42And I honestly love living my culture.
26:45I particularly enjoy seeing this culture progress here.
26:47I mean, to cultivate a spiritual feeling within myself, honestly, because in schools and classes we're already trying to improve ourselves technically.
26:55We are trying to improve it from that perspective.
26:57Of course, these things don't really matter much unless they develop in a way that is culturally and spiritually connected to our country.
27:02It provides such a wonderful environment for developing these things together.
27:06Ramadan has arrived.
27:09Ramadan in Konya is truly wonderful.
27:11I lived in Konya for 25 years.
27:14I'm in Antalya now.
27:15But I'm here especially to experience the spirit of Ramadan.
27:19I also visited the tomb of Mevlana a little while ago.
27:22We said our prayers.
27:24Konya was already very beautiful, but it has become even more beautiful.
27:29I actually liked it very much.
27:31I also really liked the spiritual atmosphere in every sense.
27:34I'm so glad I came.
27:43We've managed to bring the sounds of our street into our studio as well.
27:47Dear professor, if you pay attention, what struck me most there was the perception that Ramadan is a season that brings one closer to God.
27:56That's what our people say.
27:58And isn't that a really important realization?
28:01Of course.
28:01We're talking about attachment, about dependence.
28:04For example, the late Cem Karaca had a song called "Allah Yer" (God is the Earth).
28:08And in one of his statements, in one of his explanations, he said:
28:12He said that if there is one thing in the world worth loving and being devoted to, it is God.
28:18Say what?
28:18Sir, we need to believe.
28:21We need to rely on and trust in God.
28:23The more a person relies on and trusts in God,
28:26They will be able to cope with the problems and difficulties that life will inevitably bring much more strength.
28:32Because it has a foundation, a support system, a belief, and a hope.
28:37When you lose these things, it can be difficult to stay healthy, to survive, to stay on your feet.
28:43Research on psychological resilience clearly demonstrates this point.
28:48So if a person possesses a belief higher than themselves,
28:53to stay on one's feet, to survive, to cope with difficulties,
28:57Knowing and realizing that difficulties will one day pass,
29:01without getting stuck on difficulties or turning those difficulties into chronic illnesses,
29:05It becomes much easier for them to overcome it.
29:09Ramadan truly reminds us of this.
29:11There's a story that really touched me.
29:14If you'll allow me, I'll explain.
29:15It appears in a book by a South American author.
29:20An amnesia disease has started in a town.
29:24Because insomnia has become a widespread problem in the town.
29:27Insomnia is a contagious disease that spreads from person to person.
29:29And this insomnia disorder was initially very popular with people.
29:33They sleep less, they have more fun, they work more, and so on.
29:36It seems like a good thing.
29:37But it caused forgetfulness.
29:40When this caused forgetfulness, they decided to take some action.
29:44Because that forgetfulness is increasing day by day.
29:47So they started writing names on the items.
29:51This item is this, and it will be used for this purpose.
29:53Because tomorrow he'll forget what it is.
29:56But you write one, you write five.
29:59They couldn't cope.
30:00They said, "We won't be able to handle this."
30:02Not everything has names written on it.
30:04They said we'll forget about these things after a while.
30:07They then made the following decision.
30:09They said, "Let's write something in the town or village square."
30:14Something needs to happen, just one thing.
30:17If we forget it, whatever we remember will be useless.
30:21Let remembering Him be enough for us, no matter what else we forget.
30:25It's a huge thing.
30:26If I asked you to reconstruct that sentence, it would probably be difficult.
30:29I'll set it up, I'll gladly set it up.
30:30So they said, "Let's write something like that."
30:32Let it be enough for us to forget everything else if we remember him.
30:36If we forget him, even if we remember everything else, let it be a problem.
30:41What could it be?
30:43They thought about it, considered it, talked about it, debated it, and found the answer.
30:47They wrote something.
30:49This is what they wrote.
30:50God exists.
30:53God exists.
30:54If a person doesn't forget that God exists, even if they forget everything else, they will somehow find their way.
30:59But if a person forgets that God exists, then even if they remember everything else, they are still lost.
31:05Therefore, Ramadan absolutely reminds us of this.
31:10God exists.
31:11Now, as you know, Fatih is famous for its eccentrics.
31:15A madman, a madman somewhere between a madman and a saint.
31:19He was converting people.
31:21He was saying that God exists.
31:25He turns over one person, he turns over two people, he turns over a third person.
31:28Someone said, "We know, God exists."
31:30He said it's not what you think.
31:32It's not what you think.
31:33You are mistaken.
31:34You're misunderstanding.
31:36Therefore, we really need to take this opportunity during Ramadan to reflect deeply on the fact that God exists.
31:42We need to establish a good relationship with God.
31:45We need to renew our faith in God, our trust, our reliance on Him, our responsibilities towards God, and our love and respect for Him.
31:55Actually, professor, from one perspective, our relationship, connection, and obligation to all other beings is determined by our relationship with God.
32:06Isn't that right?
32:06That's a very nice expression, absolutely.
32:07That's the essence of it.
32:08A person who lacks love and respect for God, their Creator, also loses love and respect for creation.
32:16Yunus has already formulated this, as we all know.
32:19So he says he loves everything because of the Creator.
32:22So everything happens because of him, for him, by his power and will.
32:29How beautiful.
32:30So, a person who has adopted this philosophy, this understanding, would not harm an ant or violate the rights or laws of another...
32:39It is impossible for him to do evil, to break hearts, to violate rights, or to do wrong even if no one is watching.
32:45Because he/she isn't doing it so that someone will see it, appreciate it, or criticize it.
32:50He doesn't do it out of pleasure or punishment.
32:53He's doing it for God.
32:53He does it because he fears God, because it's wrong, and because he's accountable to God.
32:58When you lose this, you lose many things.
33:02Yes, exactly like our TV series, right?
33:04Vefa Sultan and our other series deal with these issues, Mr. Derda.
33:09How do you feel in this atmosphere?
33:15It's not just a role, is it?
33:17That's definitely not the case.
33:18First of all, this is what I felt during this conversation.
33:23There's a situation I see around me, and that we experience quite often.
33:26For a person to dedicate themselves to efforts aimed at improving themselves,
33:31Just because it was good doesn't mean it will always be good.
33:33My teacher said that if you get on the wrong bus, you don't have to go all the way to the last stop.
33:39We may make mistakes, we may do wrong, but the effort involved...
33:43Yes, saying "God exists" isn't something we have to say just because we've said it before.
33:48Even if we didn't say it yesterday, we might say it today, and we might regret it today.
33:52I wanted to emphasize this because I've seen it a lot around me for some reason.
33:55Because it happens so often, you know, like, "Brother, we've reached this age, and we haven't even been to that mosque."
34:02Go ahead, go at this age, nothing will change anyway.
34:05Just because you didn't go yesterday doesn't mean you can't go today.
34:07You can still go, whichever way you return from will be a win.
34:10I also apologize profusely for anything related to our atmosphere.
34:15Excuse me, let's underline a gold coin.
34:17Of course, sir.
34:17He really talked about something very important.
34:19One should never lose hope in oneself.
34:21When a person loses hope in themselves, they lose their connection with life.
34:25I see this disease in many people, too.
34:27Whatever we do, let's not lose hope in ourselves.
34:30As long as we breathe, we have the opportunity to change many things in our lives that are going wrong, that are amiss, that we don't like, or that we don't want.
34:37Life is a very precious thing.
34:39If there's life, there's a way.
34:41We mustn't lose this.
34:42Yes, sir, I apologize.
34:43Not at all, let me finish.
34:45Of course, we shouldn't lose hope in ourselves.
34:48As you already said, you know how we have that proverb,
34:51One should never lose hope in God.
34:52If only we could write "God is there" even when we've lost all hope in ourselves.
34:58Some to the village square, some to their own hearts.
35:00God exists, and He will give us that power.
35:02So that we can begin to hope again.
35:05I hope so too.
35:07So I haven't given up hope in that sense.
35:09Brother, our atmosphere was really great.
35:12So, this is our set environment.
35:14Of course, we cover these topics.
35:15It's very popular.
35:15Also, Fah Sultan is really very popular.
35:18Yes, that's why we're so happy.
35:21So we're very happy that it's so well-liked.
35:23But apart from that, we're doing a completely Sufi-oriented job.
35:27But all of the people working on our set, from the actors to the crew,
35:34From the production to the direction, it's about trying to live this way and making this effort.
35:39I think it made the business a bit more fruitful.
35:41Everyone has this problem right now.
35:43Maybe she'll win someone's heart.
35:45If one more person watches this, we will have contributed to a good cause.
35:49Or, conversely, while you're in the middle of it, look, this is the kind of work we're shooting.
35:53We have one shortcoming regarding ourselves.
35:55Let's finish it.
35:56Perhaps we can improve ourselves a little more as well.
36:00Everyone really got involved in this effort.
36:02An incredible atmosphere of brotherhood was created.
36:05There's a close-knit group of friends right now.
36:07How nice.
36:08In other words, it continues with enthusiasm.
36:09So, there's a progression from imitation to critical inquiry.
36:11Hopefully.
36:12The imitation part is complete, sir.
36:14The rest, God willing.
36:15It's probably already getting a lot of views because you're imitating someone, though.
36:18The investigation of the matter naturally takes place within your inner world.
36:22How nice.
36:23Yes, sir.
36:25Of course, this addiction is overcome through willpower training during the holy month of Ramadan, along with fasting.
36:31It increases our feeling of closeness to our Lord.
36:37The expression "melting the ice between us" might be a bit inaccurate, but there's also the issue of pleasure addiction, media addiction, etc., which is evident during Ramadan.
36:48Invisible addictions have now emerged in this era, in a wide variety of ways.
36:52So, overcoming these things isn't easy for a person either.
36:56How do you suggest we deal with these problems?
36:59Sir, this addiction issue is truly the most difficult and worst thing that can happen to a person.
37:04But we shouldn't just perceive this as the worst thing that can happen to a person.
37:09It is also the worst thing that can happen to a society.
37:13In other words, to the head of a society.
37:14It's something that affects the whole world, isn't it, professor?
37:17Therefore, we cannot simply look at this addiction issue with a "oh dear, what a pity, someone became addicted, I wish they weren't" attitude.
37:23If some people become addicted, we will all be affected by it in some way, and we will be seriously affected.
37:28Therefore, we need to think very seriously about the issue of addiction.
37:32And when it comes to addressing the addiction issue, when it comes to protecting people, this is the top priority.
37:39We will mobilize all our strength and resources to protect it.
37:45If we couldn't save them, if we couldn't protect them, then we will mobilize all our resources to save them.
37:50At this point, when we talk about addiction, the first thing to remember is to avoid becoming addicted at all, to avoid any addiction whatsoever.
37:57So, regarding the internet-related addictions you mentioned, we also have a problem with that.
38:03Whether it's social media or other addictions.
38:05The cost of this to us is very, very high.
38:09One of the most frequently used concepts during this period is brain fog.
38:14It prevents the brain from thinking.
38:16It prevents the brain from creating anything new.
38:19It interferes with the brain's ability to remember.
38:21It prevents the brain from analyzing and synthesizing information.
38:24It prevents the brain from distinguishing between important and unimportant matters.
38:27It costs us dearly when it comes to seriously evaluating the important aspects of life.
38:35Therefore, we are experiencing very significant losses.
38:36That's why we need to take the issue of addiction very seriously.
38:40Professor, there's also the issue of isolation, of being alone, and there's something that encourages that.
38:47Of course, we shouldn't act according to herd mentality, I agree, but bringing up the issue of a penguin's departure was a very good thing he did.
38:55Should everyone just take matters into their own hands, saying "There's no point in me living here anymore" and leaving?
39:01Isn't this another form of addiction?
39:04There's a very good saying, sir, that goes: the biggest lie is half the truth.
39:10Now, there's a bit of truth in the fact that this penguin just grabbed its head and flew away.
39:14But a half-truth becomes the biggest lie because it brings with it a lot of lonely messages.
39:19In other words, a person will absolutely, without a doubt, do the right thing even if they are alone when faced with a wrong course of action.
39:25Is this true?
39:26But of course, society is wrong, people are wrong, and to act contrary to that, to go my own way, to separate myself, to not be part of society, that too is wrong.
39:36Generally, the artificial agendas of social media give us half the truth.
39:41So, from one perspective, there's a truth to it that you can't deny.
39:45But when you open the package, it looks nice, a really nice, wonderful package, but when you open it, you find a lot of poison inside.
39:52It's coming out.
39:52Therefore, it's necessary to examine the contents of the package very carefully.
39:58What is the message conveyed in the agendas given to us?
40:01And we need to look at how we filter this.
40:07We have two major problems at this time.
40:10One of the problems is that people don't filter the information they receive, the material that enters their brains, their hearts, their eyes, and their ears.
40:22This is a great misfortune.
40:23So, it doesn't consider why I'm absorbing this into my brain, why I'm absorbing this into my heart.
40:27But our brain, our mind, is not a trash can.
40:31Not everything should be allowed in.
40:33One doesn't need to know everything.
40:35Millions of evil things happen all over the world, and we take it all into our minds.
40:41But how good does this feel to me?
40:43Is it turning my heart into a trash can?
40:45Does it diminish my trust in people?
40:47Does it cool down my relationship in real life?
40:49There are high costs involved.
40:50He is loving all of them.
40:51Doesn't that require selectivity?
40:54If this is not the case, if he lacks selective will or power, what will he do, professor?
40:59There, too, that's probably our second point, we lack a filter.
41:03So we haven't developed a system to separate them.
41:07At this point, a person needs to define their values, very fundamentally – and I'm not talking about something grand or complex.
41:16What are the values that I should uphold, protect, and cherish throughout my life?
41:22These are filtering values, right, sir?
41:24For example, they tell stories like that about Aristotle, if I remember correctly.
41:29A man came and said, "Sir, I have something to tell you."
41:32"One minute," he said, "I'll put those three through the filter."
41:34What did he say?
41:35Someone asked, "Is this related to me?"
41:37No, he said it's not relevant to you either.
41:39He said two, did you see this?
41:40No, someone told me.
41:42So, he asked, is it useful for me?
41:44So, he said, "It doesn't directly help, so don't tell me then."
41:46I'm not going to let that bother me.
41:48It's not about me, it's not useful to me, and I'm not sure if it's true or not.
41:51He said he wouldn't buy it.
41:53He developed such a filter.
41:54Nasreddin Hodja developed an even shorter version of this.
41:57The man came and said, "Sir, a tray of baklava is going away."
42:01What did he say to me?
42:02He said he's going to Sineve.
42:03What did you say?
42:04Shorter filter.
42:05Now we need to look at ourselves.
42:07Does it concern us?
42:09Is it true?
42:09Is it helpful?
42:10As we all know, our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)
42:14But there is a very important prayer, perhaps one that we have all abandoned, that is particularly sensitive to this issue.
42:19He says, "O Allah, I seek refuge in You from useless knowledge."
42:24There's hardly anyone who hasn't heard this.
42:25Yes.
42:26But how many people are there who shy away from the benefits of knowledge, who try to protect themselves, who strive to preserve their minds and hearts?
42:32I don't know.
42:33I am not one of them.
42:35Therefore, if we develop a sensitivity on this issue, it will not benefit us.
42:39perhaps harmful news, information, rumors,
42:43The more we distance ourselves, the more positively it will affect our mental health, our heart health, and our spiritual health.
42:51But we need to instill a sense of awareness on this issue.
42:55It's not about being sensitive.
42:56We all know this is true.
42:58But unfortunately, we are negligent when it comes to putting it into practice.
43:02The main reason for this negligence is that we underestimate the cost.
43:07We don't see it as causing that much harm.
43:09But it has very, very, very significant harmful effects.
43:11Does this damage become apparent over time, sir?
43:14So, did it emerge when things went wrong?
43:16We all see the damage this is causing, actually.
43:19As you mentioned earlier, we're distancing ourselves from ourselves, from our surroundings, and becoming isolated.
43:24This loneliness has become a topic of conversation for everyone.
43:27Fatigue has become a topic of conversation for everyone.
43:30So we also feel physically tired.
43:32Of course, we also feel physically tired.
43:34We also feel mentally exhausted.
43:36Young people, in particular, say they are experiencing a lot of mental fatigue.
43:40I'm mentally exhausted.
43:41Sir, as our bodies become more hungry now, we begin to long for iftar (the meal breaking the fast).
43:48Iftar time in Ankara.
43:51I wish all the wonderful people of our capital city a pleasant meal.
43:57May God accept your prayers, sir.
44:03May our Lord grant us goodness and beauty both in this world and in the hereafter.
44:11That is our hope.
44:12Actually, isn't this like a summary of our whole lives, professor?
44:17May God grant us goodness and blessings both in this world and in the hereafter.
44:22This is probably somewhat related to our preferences for what is good and beautiful.
44:27As we've always said at the beginning, times are moving very fast.
44:32We said our burden is heavy, and we are sometimes crushed under its weight.
44:36Information that was just a moment ago considered useless and unnecessary will now become a burden, even a form of knowledge.
44:44It might even divert us from the path we should be taking.
44:48And we have a youth that is also being crushed under this burden.
44:53And they get bored very quickly, they get overwhelmed very quickly.
44:58Ramadan is a time for training in patience, a test of patience.
45:03However, fasting during the winter months isn't as difficult as it used to be.
45:08I don't know, of course, it just seems that way to me.
45:09What do you think, Mr. Derda?
45:11I didn't have any difficulty either.
45:13So, I'd say I didn't find it difficult either; it went smoothly.
45:17Yes, that's why our young people get bored so quickly,
45:21I don't influence their perspectives on life either, sir.
45:24This isn't an addiction, but it's a serious problem that's developing.
45:30A disruption, let's just say there are very frequent disruptions.
45:33Say what?
45:34Sir, we cannot succeed in anything without our attention.
45:37Because in this world, delicate tasks, important tasks, and beautiful tasks always require attention and concentration.
45:44It's impossible to succeed without concentration.
45:46Even in this period, the biggest problem is not accessing information, not accessing the teacher, not accessing the book,
45:53That means demonstrating the ability to focus on the material we have at hand.
45:57Yes.
45:58We have a very big problem related to this.
46:00There's a study on this topic that has caught my attention.
46:03As you know, people often joke about having a short memory.
46:06Because fish have a very short memory.
46:09He doesn't remember me turning my head at all.
46:10Because fish have a very short attention span.
46:13A fish can focus on something for 9 seconds.
46:15He feels the need to turn his head every 9 seconds.
46:18Therefore, because he can't pay attention, he can't remember anything.
46:21What it perceives cannot transfer from short-term memory to long-term memory.
46:25There's a study that was conducted on university students in Canada.
46:29Some university students' attention spans have dropped to as little as 7-8 seconds.
46:33His memory has deteriorated to the point of being worse than a fish's.
46:37There is a very important book at this point.
46:39It's called stolen attention.
46:41Our young people, our children, have no problems in terms of intelligence, capacity, or talent.
46:47They are very, very good.
46:47They're even better than us.
46:49But we both have trouble concentrating.
46:54People no longer have the patience to concentrate, listen to each other, or focus on a task.
47:01And this isn't something that happened on its own; our attention is being stolen.
47:04At the root of this theft are the things we translate on social media.
47:10Their entire system is based on short bursts of activity, movement, you're spinning things rapidly without focusing on anything.
47:17Who's playing, sir?
47:19Sir, there is an industry for this.
47:20There is an industry dedicated to addiction.
47:22The social media industry is one of them.
47:24As you know, there have been court cases related to this recently.
47:28So, in some European countries, lawsuits have been filed against social media companies.
47:32It's about damaging the attention span of children and young people, it's about damaging their brains.
47:38Basically, let me repeat what I said at the beginning.
47:41Let's look after ourselves without shifting the blame to others, and let's not let our attention be diverted.
47:45So even if someone wants to steal it, we need to have a sense of responsibility to protect it.
47:51But it's impossible without attention.
47:53Without attention, a person cannot concentrate on themselves, their work, or their relationships.
47:57We're missing out on life again this time.
47:59When we miss out on life, we end up facing far more problems than we normally would, problems that we can't handle.
48:08We can cope with problems that occur in the normal course of events, but when we neglect ourselves, when we neglect our work, our relationships, then we suffer a setback from that direction as well.
48:18We cannot find anywhere to eat, to endure, to receive support, or to find strength.
48:22And then we continue to experience many other problems.
48:24Therefore, attention to detail is one of the most important skills we need to acquire and regain during this period, as it will be a remedy for our troubles.
48:33My teacher, the lover Seyrani, the lover Seyrani from Develi says: Do not be distressed and constrained, Seyrani, do not stray from divine will, Seyrani, the heart is the house of God, do not destroy it, Seyrani.
48:48Build a charitable institution if you can.
48:51In reality, happiness, peace, and feeling good about oneself require certain sacrifices and forging one's own resolve in certain areas.
49:05But our young people, especially, have a syndrome of unhappiness stemming from or influenced by these areas where they cut back and have difficulty concentrating.
49:16They keep saying things like, "I'm unhappy, I'm unhappy."
49:22Either they don't know what happiness is, or there's a problem with their definition of happiness. What do you think, professor?
49:26Sir, you've touched upon a very important point. Life requires effort.
49:30So if we want to live well, we have to work for it.
49:33And there's a very important observation related to this.
49:36He says happiness isn't invented, it's built.
49:39So, happiness isn't something hidden somewhere that we have to search for and find; it's something we need to build through hard work, effort, and dedication.
49:48Unfortunately, people expect happiness to come instantly, to be handed to them, for someone to bring it, for someone to offer it to them.
49:55Such happiness doesn't exist.
49:56True happiness comes from working hard, sweating, striving, and earning it; deserving it is also very important.
50:02It is the happiness it creates.
50:04To do this, one needs to look at life in the right way.
50:06Let me say one more thing related to this.
50:09The thing that makes people most unhappy is disappointment.
50:12Disappointment.
50:13He dreams, but it doesn't come true.
50:14He experiences disappointments.
50:15He struggles to hold on to life.
50:17Therefore, he becomes unhappy, etc.
50:19There's a great quote related to this.
50:20He says that if your dreams keep falling apart, you might have cut corners on the materials.
50:26So you're dreaming about the wrong things.
50:28You're imagining things that won't happen.
50:30You're dreaming of getting what you want without putting in the effort, using the wrong materials.
50:34I'm dreaming that I'll get what I want without trying; it's the wrong material.
50:38I'll get what I want without breaking a sweat, but it's the wrong material.
50:41If you start dreaming along with these things, then it just becomes a dream.
50:43But if our dreams keep being shattered, it means we're choosing the wrong materials.
50:46Yes.
50:47So, Mr. Derda, what are your dreams of happiness?
50:51So, are the things we're experiencing right now enough for happiness?
50:56I'm also dedicating some time to happiness and peace, sir.
50:59So I completely agree.
51:00You can truly build happiness through hard work.
51:04You can't just find it and pull it out from somewhere.
51:05But the criterion shouldn't be that we absolutely have to be happy or achieve something, but rather that we will find peace of mind.
51:12I am thinking.
51:13Being happy is wonderful, but being at peace is priceless, in my opinion.
51:17We're overlooking that a little bit too.
51:19Because of this social media phenomenon you mentioned, because people are constantly seeing other people's lives, it has become particularly distracting, especially among the younger generation.
51:30A desire to get things done quickly arises.
51:34When they can't achieve their goals, and when they cut corners on materials and fail to realize their dreams, then their peace of mind is disturbed.
51:39Instead of simply accepting their fate and living peacefully, saying "Either we couldn't do it, or we didn't have the opportunity, this is our destiny," they are disrupting the peace of both themselves and those around them.
51:48There's no rule that everyone has to sit in this seat, that seat, or the other seat.
51:52Let's say God has bestowed this seat upon me, I am sitting in this seat, and I remain at peace in this way.
51:57So we should be able to find happiness and peace with what we have.
52:03Teacher, the conversation was very nice, pleasant, and went by very quickly.
52:07Our time is limited, and it's almost time for breaking the fast in Istanbul, so we ask our guests to pray for us.
52:16If you would be so kind as to say "Amen" to our prayer at the time of breaking the fast, we would like to extend it until the Istanbul Adhan time.
52:26Let's pray.
52:27Here you go.
52:28In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
52:29O God, we give you endless thanks for allowing us to reach the blessed month of Ramadan.
52:34May God grant us the opportunity to reach many more Ramadans in good health, well-being, and unity.
52:41To appreciate the holy month of Ramadan, to become much better people at the end of Ramadan, to be filled with much more goodness, to have much more
52:48Grant me the ability to be beneficial to humanity.
52:51Make your loved ones love you, and make them love you.
52:53O God, do not let them fall in love with those they do not love, do not let them fall in love with those they do not love.
52:56May God grant you the blessing of being with your loved ones and of being among them.
53:01Grant our children a peaceful and happy future.
53:04May their paths and fortunes be bright.
53:06Make their morals beautiful.
53:07Be pleased with our parents.
53:10May God illuminate the graves of those we have sent to the hereafter, and grant them a place in Paradise.
53:15Forgive their sins.
53:17Grant relief to our troubled brothers and sisters, healing to our sick brothers and sisters, and repayment to our indebted brothers and sisters.
53:24May God grant our nation and our country a bright future filled with unity, harmony, peace, and well-being.
53:31O God, protect us from accidents, disasters, calamities, troubles, insecurity, unrest, and unhappiness.
53:41May God grant us the opportunity to experience many more beautiful Ramadans together.
53:44Accept our prayers.
53:46Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.
53:48Amine.
53:48Thank you very much, professor.
53:51Thank you for joining us and making our Ramadan Joy program so enjoyable.
53:54And it's almost time for breaking the fast in Istanbul.
53:59Enjoy your meal, dear brothers and friends of Istanbul.
54:03May God accept your prayers, sir.
54:06Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
56:04Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
56:07There is no god but Allah.
56:24Ladies and gentlemen, we have come to the end of our Ramadan Joy program on TRT 1 for this evening.
56:31The weather is a bit cold, but our hearts are filled with the joy of Ramadan.
56:35We had some very nice conversations tonight.
56:39How can we overcome our modern addictions with the chairman of Yeşilay, Associate Professor Dr. Mehmet Dinç?
56:46How do we train our willpower?
56:49And what does the holy month of Ramadan tell us about willpower training, and what contribution does it make?
56:54We discussed all of this in our studios this evening, and tomorrow, God willing, we will be back with two very important guests at the same time.
57:05Our Deputy Head of Religious Affairs, Hatice Boynukalın, the Şen Brothers, and Zeynep Eda İmamoğlu will be with us.
57:13Until we meet again tomorrow at the same time for Ramadan Joy, may God protect you.
57:19Goodbye.
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