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AVON and London met on Facebook a year ago. He told Love Don't Judge, "She popped up on my friend requests, and I was like, wait, this girl is pretty. I honestly thought she was too pretty for me." The pair began chatting and would FaceTime throughout the day. London said, "We'd eat on the phone, we would shower while we were on the phone. We talked so much on the phone to the point we had to start Googling questions to ask each other." They met a month later, when London travelled from Pittsburgh to New York to meet Avon. He asked her to be his girlfriend, and they were long-distance until they decided to live together in an apartment in New York. The couple have gone viral online, with many people not realising that they are both transgender. But once they opened up about their transitions, they were hit with a barrage of hate, with people questioning their sexualities. Avon explained, "People always say, why did you guys transition? Why didn't you just stay the way you were before and just start dating?" London said, "I didn't know him before. Nor did Avon know who I was. We just crossed paths, and everything just happened. [Transitioning] is a gender identity, not a sexuality. And that's what we're trying to get people to understand. People, when they see trans, they sexualise us."
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00:00I'm London. It's my partner, Avon.
00:02People judge us because we're both trans.
00:04People always say, like, oh, why did you guys transition?
00:07Why didn't you just stay the way you were before and just start dating?
00:11Somebody said, wait, huh? He's a she and she's a he, so what's the point really?
00:16They come in my DMs, like, you think the beard makes you more the man than me?
00:20So is this a straight couple?
00:22We're laughing emoji. Lord, you have to act for birth certificates now.
00:26Why y'all didn't keep the same just to be together?
00:31So who's doing the bending?
00:35I'm Avon, and this is my partner, London, and we're both trans.
00:38She popped up on my Facebook on friend requests, and I was like, wait, this girl's pretty pretty.
00:43I honestly thought she was too pretty for me.
00:45And then she texted me, and then from there, we started talking.
00:49Once I see him, I'm like, this man is handsome.
00:52Like, ain't you trans and you look like that? Like, you got a whole beard.
00:55And then you had, like, a fresh haircut.
00:57And I was just like, wow.
01:00Before we met, we would FaceTime every day.
01:02We would sleep on the phone, we would eat on the phone, we would shower while we were on the
01:05phone.
01:05It was like, we talked so much on the phone to the point we literally had to start Googling questions
01:09to ask each other.
01:10We just, like, bonded over being long-distance.
01:14I just felt like my dating history was just, like, trash.
01:16I just felt like my next person was not in Pittsburgh, where I'm from.
01:20And the crazy thing is, my first time coming to New York was last year in January.
01:23And once I left New York, then I seen his post.
01:27We just, like, tried to make it a thing where I came out here every month.
01:30And then I would come out here for, like, what, like, four days every time?
01:33Like, three, four days?
01:34Every single time she would come to visit me, she'd miss her flight when it was time to leave.
01:39I was just like, you know what, why not just move here?
01:41And we just decided to, like, move this to this apartment together.
01:45And we've been here ever since.
01:48Nobody ever knows we're trans.
01:50Sometimes even trans people don't even know we're trans.
01:53Like, you really only know we're trans because we posted on social media.
01:56Our first official picture together was on my Instagram.
02:01I became his girlfriend February 24th.
02:03The first picture was posted February 25th, because I wanted everybody to know he was mine.
02:07We went viral again.
02:08We did, like, this video, but nobody knew we were trans.
02:10It has, like, 20 million views on TikTok.
02:13Our whole plan was to not even mention we were trans until we already gained, like, a bunch of following.
02:18But us saying we're trans, it'll make us go even more viral.
02:21If it's going to grab your attention and make all eyes on us, why not?
02:25Hey, what's up? What's up?
02:27We just get a bunch of positive stuff.
02:29We only get the negative when we go viral.
02:31So, like, the comments that we usually get, like, for example, like, this one has 2,000 likes on this
02:37comment.
02:38They'd be like, so is this a straight couple?
02:40We're laughing emojis.
02:42And then this other one is, I'm not even trying to be funny, but why y'all didn't keep the
02:46same s*** just to be together?
02:49People just wonder why we didn't just stay the same gender.
02:53And then this one would be, like, Lord, you have to ask for birth certificates now.
02:57And then I'd be having, like, a lot of men comment because they don't have a beard and I do.
03:01And they come in my DM, like, do you think the beard makes you more the man than me?
03:06The women, most of them is just like, wow, we got to be careful out here.
03:09You know, we can't tell nowadays.
03:11This is enough internet for today.
03:13Who's doing the bending?
03:15So y'all straight just backwards.
03:19Somebody said, wait, huh?
03:21He's a she and she's a he.
03:23So what's the point really?
03:25Oh, why did you turn into a woman to date a woman?
03:28And why did you turn into a man to date a man?
03:30And it's just like, if you see a man and you see a woman, then clearly we're not gay because
03:35we're not the same gender we used to be.
03:37People always say like, oh, why did you guys transition?
03:40Why didn't you just stay the way you were before and just start dating?
03:44I didn't know him before.
03:45Nor did Avon know who I was.
03:47Nor was Avon even thinking about me because before I was focused on dating heterosexual straight men and he was
03:52focused on dating straight biologically born females.
03:56So it's like we didn't know about each other.
03:59We just crossed paths and everything just happened.
04:03It's exhausting trying to explain because I just feel like people choose to be so ignorant.
04:08People just like making it this trend.
04:10They see it and then they want to add on to it.
04:12As far as the judgment, sometimes I'll just cry about stuff because like, I mean, I'm human, but like for
04:17the most part, I don't care.
04:19I'm going to live in a moment and enjoy my life or I'm not going to give up.
04:23People defend us.
04:24There's a comment that says, I think it's where y'all in the comments asking about private parts and et
04:27cetera.
04:28Why is that anybody's business?
04:29Somebody said, I'm going to hold your hand when I say this.
04:32Someone doesn't become trans because they want to date a gender.
04:35They're trans simply because they want to change their own gender.
04:38Somebody was like, being trans and sexual orientation is two different things.
04:41Who they like has nothing to do with it.
04:43Exactly.
04:44It's a gender identity, not a sexuality.
04:45And that's what we're trying to get people to understand.
04:47Like people, when they see trans, they just sexualize us.
04:50The crazy thing is, y'all be so worried about sexual stuff and me and him didn't even have a
04:54conversation about nothing sexual until we were already like in a relationship.
04:57Because we were focused on each other and getting to know each other.
05:01It's just weird.
05:02Especially when we go viral, most of the comments are really about our genitalia and it's really annoying.
05:07My style before our transition, I was like scared to wear skirts or scared to wear shorts.
05:12For a long time, I would wear like shorts that were like almost to my knee.
05:16But then once I transitioned and got comfortable, I'm like girly.
05:20Like I love girly things.
05:21I love pink.
05:23We like to coordinate office because we like to take pictures.
05:26I just like that she's fun with it.
05:28She's not basic like me.
05:29She makes me want to step out.
05:31I like her fun style.
05:32Thanks.
05:33You like mine?
05:34Basic style.
05:35Yeah.
05:35I love my grandpa.
05:39So I'm actually thinking about showing you some pictures from before.
05:43I've been transitioning physically like 10 years.
05:46I started hormones in 2019.
05:49But as far as like transitioning, I was already identifying as a female.
05:53Like all my teachers in school and high school was calling me she and stuff.
05:56I have this picture from, I want to say I was in like fifth grade.
06:02I used to have piercings.
06:03I was like young and I had piercings.
06:06And I have a picture of me when like I was, I think I want to say a freshman in
06:09high school.
06:10It's like kind of proof that I always just been this way.
06:13The proof is in the pudding that this is just my walk of life.
06:15And then I have a picture of me when I got my breast augmentation.
06:21Crazy how far you come?
06:22Yeah, cause I used to like dream of wearing weave and dream of being a girl.
06:27And being able to like wear what I want.
06:29I was always tomboyish my whole life always.
06:33And medically I started in 2019.
06:35I tried to be a little feminine for my mom.
06:38I would go to the salon and get all this stuff done.
06:41One of the last pictures I took before I stopped dressing feminine.
06:47As you can see just by the pose, I tried to be girly.
06:51I couldn't.
06:51But it was horrible.
06:52And as you can see this was after I started transitioning.
06:55I started getting facial hair.
06:58And here, 2020, this was literally maybe like seven months after I tried transitioning.
07:04I cut all my hair off.
07:07And I got waves.
07:09I just wanted to feel more masculine.
07:12I feel like he was always like masculine.
07:16So like when I see his old pictures, he was always attractive.
07:19Either way he looked good.
07:21I feel like before I transitioned I was pretending.
07:24And now I'm just like being myself.
07:26So like I don't really recall this person cause I just feel like it was just like an act.
07:32The way London changed my life for the better is she has helped me find the confidence in me that
07:37I didn't see in me before.
07:38And also she makes me feel like there's low limits.
07:41I can do whatever I want in this world.
07:43And I feel like he's made me see myself for who I am.
07:45I'm a lot happier with him.
07:47And a lot more at peace with life.
07:49Stay my life 100% peaceful.
07:51We're going to be ourselves whether people like it or not.
07:53So it's just like it don't matter what anybody says.
07:56We're still going to be together.
07:59We're still going to be trans.
08:00It's just like we're happy.
08:02And if us being happy bothers you so much then there's a lot of self reflecting to do.
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