Trolls Ask Why I 'Became A Man To Be With A Man?' | LOVE DON'T JUDGE - video Dailymotion

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Treint and LaDamien met on a dating site 3 years ago. Treint calls it a successful tinder love story, but in the beginning he wasn’t very confident about approaching men, or being with men, because he didn’t feel secure in his masculinity. When they first met, Treint loved the fact that LaDamien was in touch with his feminine side, which allowed Treint to show up as more masculine. Treint is a trans man and has only ever dated women before LaDamien. It was also LaDamien's first time being with someone who is trans. In the beginning, the pair received a lot of backlash from friends and family. They didn’t like the idea of them together. It was a lot for the family to process. Many people could not understand why he would 'become a man to then end up with a man'. Not only did they not understand, but hundreds of people online also could not grasp the situation. Many people in the LGBTQ+  felt that he is not in a 'real gay relationship'. After a year of them being together the pair decided they they wanted to get married. They decided to elope and get married in Vegas. Due to the backlash they would receive, they didn’t tell any family members about it beforehand. Instead they told them after. Treint knew that they would try and stop it from happening...

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00:00I'm in love with a trans man.

00:02I didn't start dating guys until about five years

00:06into my transition.

00:07I've heard that, like, I'm the devil.

00:10I'm spitting image of him.

00:12People can have a different belief system than you.

00:15And that's just how it is.

00:16And you just got to accept it.

00:18Somebody said, why not just stay a female and date a male?

00:24What do you say to that?

00:26I'm LaDamian.

00:27I'm Trent.

00:28And we're married and happily in love.

00:32I'm in love with a trans man.

00:34I had never dated a trans man before Trent.

00:37So he's the first trans man I've ever been with.

00:40When we met, I had not fully transitioned.

00:42I was about halfway in the middle.

00:44I had my name changed.

00:45Mostly he had dated females.

00:47So this was, like, totally new for him.

00:50It was totally new for me.

00:51People can't understand why I transitioned to be a man

00:54to marry a man.

00:56So we actually met on Tinder.

00:58He swiped right on me.

01:00I don't think he read my bio for real.

01:02I had read his profile, so I knew that he was trans.

01:05But I didn't even know what that would look like for me.

01:10I'm glad, though.

01:11I'm glad I downloaded Tinder because I wasn't going to download it.

01:13I'm listening.

01:14I got my birth certificate changed with you.

01:16Yeah.

01:17My social changed.

01:18I got my top surgery changed with you.

01:19Yeah.

01:20Or changed.

01:21I got my top surgery with you.

01:22Yeah, it's a lot of monuments, I guess.

01:23I threw him a little surprise dinner and got a case made

01:26with his birth certificate on it because they changed his gender

01:29and his name on there.

01:30Damien backs me up on pretty much anything

01:33when it comes to my life, my transition.

01:35So we've been married for a year now, and we've been together

01:38going on four.

01:39So I didn't start dating guys until about five years

01:44into my transition.

01:45That's when I kind of started dealing with guys and going

01:48from there.

01:48But yeah, it was all female.

01:51We balance each other out.

01:52So there is no person who wears the pants over the other.

01:56In certain things, he's more masculine.

01:58And in certain areas, I'm more masculine.

02:00So we've definitely had some speed bumps when it comes to me

02:04being a trans man and him being a cis man because more so

02:07interpretation, like you said, in a sense of I might take

02:10something because I'm wired off emotion a certain way.

02:14And he's wired off logic.

02:16When you're gay and like in our community,

02:18it's just kind of hard to like find somebody who's actually

02:21willing and ready to do the work.

02:23Even if you don't know what it takes, you're willing to try to

02:25learn what it takes to be in a healthy relationship.

02:30At the beginning of my transition, when it came to my friends,

02:33there was 100% support.

02:34When it came to my family in regards to the transition, I can

02:38say my parents were a little bit not keen to it.

02:42You know, we didn't speak for a while on that.

02:44I feel like once I started posting like heavy on my TikTok,

02:48then more of the negative comments started to come in.

02:50I feel like when we came out as dating, I would get ridiculed from

02:54outsiders, insiders.

02:55However, I feel like it wasn't until we actually got married and I

02:59started posting more that they actually came out the woodworks with

03:03everything.

03:04Definitely, we get a lot of backlash in our own community as well as

03:09outsiders.

03:10Of course, outsiders, they don't get it in general.

03:12For one, I'm trans and then we're gay.

03:15You would think it's rocket science to them.

03:16The reaction is definitely 100% way worse online.

03:20Someone said, I guess he attracted to the feminine side of him.

03:24Wait, who's on top?

03:25And someone said, this made my stomach hurt.

03:28Somebody said, why not just stay a female and date a male?

03:34What do you say to that?

03:36People are dumb.

03:38He'll ignore it.

03:39I won't.

03:40I'm petty.

03:42So I fight back.

03:43He just kind of like ignore it, like whatever.

03:46It doesn't bother him.

03:46He's used to that.

03:47I'm not.

03:48When I was younger and I first started transitioning,

03:51I couldn't find people who look like me within the community.

03:54Yes, there were lots of like white trans presenting people,

03:58but even how I heal, you know, I'm going to heal differently

04:01than a white person.

04:03So I didn't have that much representation of people who

04:05look like me.

04:06Once I actually posted my top surgery results and everything,

04:10it's like, because I cried in the video as well.

04:13So people are like, oh, you're still a woman.

04:15You're just crying.

04:16I'm looked at as I'm mutilating my body.

04:19My scars is going to scare kids.

04:21And I've heard that like I'm the devil.

04:23Like I'm spitting image of him.

04:26Somebody said scary.

04:28It'd be a lot of just emoji comments as well.

04:30And they just be like the sad face emoji or the disgusted

04:33emojis.

04:34To be honest, half the comments, the grammar's off.

04:37So I can't even get past the first sentence.

04:39We can't even understand what you're saying.

04:41What?

04:42It definitely was a relief when I started transitioning.

04:44I was 18 when I just started my transition and it felt like

04:47I was a trans man.

04:49Honestly, I don't know how old I was in this picture,

04:51but no, look, this picture is my favorite picture.

04:53I had a little question mark ponytail.

04:57I used to have to fake these braids.

04:59My family used to make me get braids to be a little bit more

05:02feminine presenting.

05:04When I was about 18, the person I was dating at the time,

05:08they knew some trans people and things.

05:09And we kind of started hanging.

05:10I'm like, I started asking them about their lifestyle.

05:13Once I started doing research and everything,

05:14and I was like, oh, yeah.

05:16I didn't know there was a word for what I've been feeling.

05:18And that's how I actually got started.

05:20And I've just been there ever since.

05:22I've been happy as hell.

05:24I can't lie.

05:26I'm trying to sag and be some thug.

05:29With some girl clothes on looking like this.

05:31You can definitely tell I'm way more.

05:34I mean, I was definitely comfortable in this picture.

05:36My transition journey is complete.

05:38I don't want for bottom surgery at the moment.

05:41However, I got my top surgery.

05:43My name is changed.

05:45Pretty much everything aligns with Trent.

05:48So I don't really have anything else

05:50besides continuing my testosterone.

05:52And that's pretty much it.

05:54We are getting ready for church.

05:56We're about to get dressed.

05:58Usually I have him iron my clothes because I hate ironing.

06:02But we're out there today.

06:03Let him go wrinkle today.

06:06Got all our fine jewelry and stuff here.

06:10Louisiana is in the south.

06:11So it is pretty much a Bible Belt community.

06:15Louisiana really hasn't progressed a whole lot.

06:20Probably especially being in the LGBTQ community.

06:25We don't go to church every Sunday.

06:27But whenever we're together, we try to make sure we go.

06:30At the beginning of our relationship,

06:32I was a little standoffish when it came to religion.

06:35But I told him that and he was always there for me and still would educate me on things.

06:40We pray.

06:40We go to church.

06:41We try to, like you said, do better and live right how we should.

06:45Even though some people may try to stray us away or tell us.

06:49We're not living the right way is the way the people think.

06:53People can have a different belief system than you.

06:56And that's just how it is.

06:58And you just got to accept it.

07:00You know, it is what it is.

07:01But not everybody is going to practice the same religion and not everybody is going to abide by the next person's belief.

07:10I'm the type of person that I am.

07:13I'm going to let you be who you are and who you want to be.

07:17I would always make him feel comfortable in his body because I love his body.

07:23I'm always supporting him.

07:24And so if he wants to make a change, then I'm going to be with him on the journey to make the changes he wants to make.

07:29I love how he treats me.

07:31That's, like, I've never been with a person that has done and that treats me like he treats me.

07:40So what I want to say to anybody who has a problem with something that's a little different than what you're used to,

07:46you probably should be worried about yourself.

07:48Nothing's wrong with me loving my husband.

07:52If I didn't have him in my life, I genuinely don't know where I would be.

07:55I love you, honey.

07:56Love you, too.

07:59Love you, too.

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