00:00 This is Chloe. She fell in love with Taylor.
00:04 I first realised that I'm transgender when I was about 5 or 6.
00:08 To call me a lesbian is incorrect because I am not with another woman.
00:13 I am with a man.
00:14 We're just not a conventional couple.
00:16 After falling madly in love, the pair now want to have a baby.
00:20 I actually froze my eggs.
00:22 However, their happy bubble burst after Taylor came out online.
00:27 You may have chopped off your ***** and grew a beard, but you are still a female.
00:31 I think one of the worst comments that I've ever seen online is for Taylor to ***** himself.
00:36 This is my testosterone supply.
00:40 I take one injection every 12 weeks.
00:43 I always wanted to be a man and it helped my body get more masculine.
00:49 My voice changed.
00:50 It was like going through puberty all over again.
00:52 I started to get facial hair and body hair in some places where maybe I didn't want it.
00:59 Ever since that he started testosterone, you can really tell that his confidence just really blossomed.
01:05 It's like he was finally in the person he wanted to be, in the right body.
01:09 We met almost seven years ago.
01:11 We met on a dating app and we started talking.
01:14 We spoke for...
01:15 Non-stop.
01:16 Yeah, literally non-stop.
01:18 And then we went on a nice coffee date and then by our third date, we went to Paris.
01:24 When we met, Taylor already was using male pronouns, was already like...
01:29 Male presenting.
01:29 Male presenting.
01:31 So we didn't really have a conversation of, you know, "Oh, I'm trans."
01:34 It was very organic.
01:36 It was the next year where you wanted to start hormones.
01:41 She took the reins.
01:41 Yeah. I actually felt quite excited about you transitioning.
01:45 I really wanted to be like the supportive girlfriend and make sure that, you know, no matter what, I'll be there for him.
01:51 We do get a lot of hateful comments online because Chloe's in a relationship with a trans man.
01:56 We get a lot of religious comments from people who try to explain that it is not right in the eyes of God.
02:04 We do get the people who call me biologically still a female,
02:09 even though they don't get the difference between gender and biological sex.
02:13 Even though I was born a female, so I'm biologically a female.
02:17 I'm very aware that I can't change my DNA.
02:20 I'm very aware of the basic biology that we all learn in high school.
02:24 A lot of people just think that I'm a lesbian.
02:26 They don't understand the difference between sex and gender.
02:31 I am not with another woman.
02:33 I am with a man.
02:35 I'm pansexual, so I have the ability to be attracted to all different types of people.
02:39 The comment says, "You identify as a man, but you ain't a man, so you're lesbians."
02:43 "She's a woman dressed as a man."
02:46 "You may have chopped off your b***h and grew a beard, but you're still a female."
02:52 There we go.
02:53 I think one of the worst comments that I've ever seen online is for Taylor to f*** himself.
02:58 I don't even like saying that out loud because it makes me emotional.
03:01 I remember one specifically when someone told me to f*** myself just because I'm transgender.
03:06 "Someone please validate her great ovarian sacrifice."
03:09 I believe they are referring to the fact that I froze my eggs.
03:14 We get the comments that we should not start a family.
03:17 Basically, there's a lot of people telling us what we should or shouldn't do.
03:22 They are forgetting that it's our lives in the end, and we don't care.
03:26 I believe we respond to the judgment that we face with as much grace as possible.
03:31 We always try to be more educational and hoping that the people would actually take the time
03:38 to really listen to what we have to say.
03:41 Trans people can definitely have children.
03:44 The process is similar to other cis couples or even single people.
03:48 We do a type of IVF, but a lot of other people also go through IVF.
03:53 Just because we can't conceive naturally, that doesn't mean we cannot have babies.
03:58 A lot of comments that we get about starting a family are actually quite positive.
04:03 They're really excited for us and they can't wait for us to share more of our journey together.
04:08 When I decided to finally freeze my eggs, I went through a process where I had to inject myself with hormones.
04:14 After 10 days, I was scheduled to have the actual procedure.
04:18 I actually managed to harvest 8 matured eggs.
04:21 The way that we're going to have children is that the eggs will get defrosted.
04:26 They will get fertilised with the donor and then that will get implanted into me
04:32 and then I'll be the one to carry our baby to term.
04:36 There are cis couples out there who cannot conceive naturally
04:39 and they will appeal to the IVF treatment in order to have a family.
04:43 It's just that stigma with people thinking that because I'm transgender, I should not have kids.
04:49 We actually were really lucky. We have some amazing friends who thought,
04:53 "Let me gift them some stuff." So we got this really cute baby girl.
04:58 How sweet is that?
05:00 It's actually a tradition in my culture, me coming from Romania, to gift baby clothes.
05:04 It means good luck.
05:06 I think Taylor will definitely be the fun parent.
05:10 I think our kid will get away with so much with you and I'll be more of the disciplinarian.
05:14 Yeah, I think Chloe is going to be the very strict one.
05:19 The process of finding our sperm donor online was quite an extensive one.
05:24 You kind of felt like you were shopping but you weren't shopping
05:27 because you were looking for something for your future family.
05:30 We just picked the one that we thought was best suited for our family.
05:34 Somebody who was quite intelligent, somebody who loved their family,
05:39 somebody who has lots of different hobbies.
05:42 Some people seem to think that trans people should not have kids
05:45 because this might confuse their kids growing up
05:48 but actually they can understand a lot better what is going on
05:52 rather than an adult who already has some ideologies implanted in their brain.
05:57 So in this photo, for example, I know I was 18 and I just finished high school
06:02 and we went to the prom.
06:05 So I had to wear a dress, I couldn't go in a suit.
06:08 You can see here that I'm actually smiling but I was like screaming inside.
06:13 I started my medical transition almost six years ago.
06:17 You can see through my photos that I was starting to present
06:21 and look more and more masculine as I was growing up.
06:24 Before I had my top surgery, I used to wear very baggy clothes.
06:29 Mainly I used to wear hoodies because it was preventing other people
06:33 from seeing that I actually have a chest.
06:35 When it comes to bottom surgery, I don't necessarily like to tell people
06:40 if I did have or have not had bottom surgery
06:42 because what's between my legs does not define me as a person.
06:46 Moving away from my birth country, from Romania,
06:49 it really changed the views on myself in terms of possibilities
06:53 and I realised that there is much more to the world out there
06:57 and the world is actually a much better place when people are more accepting.
07:02 I'm just so happy that now his insides matches what he looks like on the outside.
07:08 One of the things that I love about her is that she's very sassy in a good way.
07:13 That's on camera now, so you can't see. You love sassiness.
07:16 I do, I love your sassiness.
07:18 Taylor's definitely changed my life for the better.
07:21 Meeting him has just been the best thing in my life
07:25 that I've ever felt so deeply about somebody.
07:28 I appreciate that she looked past beyond my transness
07:33 and saw the person that I was inside and saw my soul.
07:38 In the future, I hope that we have a couple of babies
07:41 and I hope that we can get married and just live a really happy life together.
07:47 Triplets.
07:48 No, no triplets.
07:51 We can grow.
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