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POLYAMOROUS parents Trell, Emily and Allie are back - and this time, there are new additions to their family. When they appeared on Love Don't Judge back in 2022, they were living happily as a polyamorous triad with two children - LiLi (now 16) and Reign, who was a baby at the time. Now, the triad has become a quad, after they met new girlfriend Kiley on Thanksgiving last year. Kiley told Truly that although this was her first multi-partner relationship, she was always "an open person" and she quickly eased into polyamorous life. Trell admits that initially Reign took "a little time adjusting" to Kiley joining the family, but Allie says that Reign now sees Kiley as another "parent figure". As if that was not enough, though, Allie was pregnant again. She gave birth to baby Chicago two months ago and with Reign now four years old, the parents have plenty to keep them busy. Allie and Emily agree that having Kiley around has been invaluable, as she helps care for Chicago when Emily and Allie need an extra pair of hands and the parents all help to raise Reign. Although the quad have now settled into their new dynamic, Trell acknowledges that they do receive negative feedback - with people often suggesting there is an "expiration date" on the relationship and that "it's not going to last." Kiley admits, too, that she did lose friends when she told them that she was joining a polyamorous family - but she quickly made peace with the situation, telling Truly: "If you can't accept the way that I choose to live my life then you don't need to be in my life." But there's another person even closer to home who took issue with Kiley joining the previously established family setup: Trell's sister Essence. With Essence coming over today and Trell ready to ask, for the first time ever, her opinion on him raising a poly family... Will her response send shockwaves through the family? Or does she agree that it "takes a village to raise a family"?
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00:00We're a polyquad with three children.
00:02The negative feedback we get is people have like
00:05an expiration date on our relationship.
00:07Oh, that's cute.
00:08It's not going to last.
00:09It will screw the kids up.
00:11My sister took a little bit of an issue.
00:14Now, how do you feel about Kylie
00:15going into the relationship?
00:18Hey, hey, hey.
00:19What's up, everybody?
00:21So check this out.
00:22A lot has changed in our lives since the last time we saw you.
00:24We are a polyamorous triad.
00:26We met Ally, and we've been together now for two years.
00:28OK, OK.
00:29So as you guys know from the last episode,
00:31this is my wife, Ally.
00:32This is my wife, Emily.
00:33Of course, she remembers Rain.
00:35And this is baby Chicago.
00:38She's two months old.
00:39So, you know, everybody say hello.
00:42And also, we have a new addition to the family.
00:45Hey, guys.
00:47This is Kylie.
00:48Show some love now.
00:50Here, baby.
00:53How does life feel different since Kylie joined your family?
00:56Life has been easier, I'd say.
00:59She's definitely another helping hand.
01:01She's Rain's favorite by far.
01:03She forgot all about us since Kylie's been here.
01:06We wasn't looking for another person to join our relationship.
01:09It just naturally happened that way.
01:11When we met her, she just had a different energy.
01:14We were stuck like glue.
01:16You were saying this is the first time you've been in a multi-partner relationship?
01:20I've always been an open person, so this isn't, like, far out of my scope.
01:24It's something I was definitely was open to.
01:27It just happens to be my first time being in a multi-partner relationship.
01:34Kind of through mutual friends, we were around each other, and then we just ended up with
01:41Yeah.
01:42And then you stayed.
01:43We stole you.
01:44We stole you from the world.
01:47It was, like, an organic thing.
01:48It wasn't, like, will you be my girlfriend or will you be our girlfriend?
01:52Yeah.
01:53It was more so, like, you came and then you just never left.
01:56Well, Trell and I are married.
01:58We're not yet married to Ali and Kylie yet.
02:01It's just about the proper timing, you know?
02:04Every woman deserves the proper proposal, I would say.
02:07We do not sleep separately.
02:09That's not our dynamic.
02:10We're literally just, like, piled onto the bed.
02:14Exciting.
02:15Were you worried about how the kids would react when Kylie joined the family?
02:19I think our oldest daughter had a little time adjusting to it, though, because all she's
02:24known is Emily and Ali.
02:26Thank you, man.
02:27Now they like this.
02:28Do you like having a three-mom thing?
02:30No.
02:31No?
02:31Well, she always says...
02:33I like two moms.
02:33Yeah.
02:34She always says two moms.
02:35Kylie's newer to this situation.
02:37Yeah.
02:38So, she definitely looks at Kylie like a parent figure.
02:40She loves and adores Kylie, but she's still, you know, new to that situation.
02:44She's still says two moms.
02:46You got the seat up?
02:47Yeah.
02:49Society tends to think of poly relationships as inappropriate for children, but that's
02:54not the case.
02:55They are not in our love life.
02:57They are in our life, as far as we take care of them, we provide for them, and we love
03:04them.
03:04So, that's all they know.
03:05All they know is they got more love in our house.
03:09Ali is Chicago's biological mom.
03:12Emily is like, you know, her mom as well, so she does the mom duties.
03:17I help with Chicago as well.
03:20We all take care of Chicago.
03:22Everybody is here to make sure the children are being well taken care of.
03:25I don't know how single moms do it, because even when it was just like me and Ali, we're
03:33still tired.
03:34If I just get like a little bit of a power nap for a few hours, I'll get back up
03:37and she'll
03:38go back to sleep, so we can just like alternate.
03:40Kylie kind of just like comes in when we need her outside of like what we're doing.
03:44Yeah.
03:44How many more children would we like to have together?
03:46We don't have a number, but that's just more of a natural thing.
03:49If something progresses and it happens, it happens.
03:53I would say one of the challenges of being in a polyquad, sometimes dating.
04:00Just like any other group of people, we have to align our schedules with each other to be
04:05able to spend that quality time.
04:07And then we have to get the kids in order and stuff like that.
04:09And then, of course, sometimes, you know, if we go, if we all go out as a group, I'm
04:14out with three beautiful women, right?
04:16Who in the hell is going to assume they're all mine?
04:20That's true.
04:21Like, it's not like that's a normal thing you come across.
04:23It just is.
04:24We always get the, oh, yo, who is shorty?
04:28Which one?
04:29Which one can I?
04:31And then they think I'm hating.
04:32They think I'm hating.
04:33They be like, nah, you trying to claim them all.
04:35You trying to claim them all.
04:36They not like, bro, these really my ladies.
04:38They're in a real relationship.
04:40So sometimes they don't realize until they know us.
04:42They're like, oh, this is real.
04:44They really together.
04:44Or we'll bring up the Instagram.
04:46Look.
04:47I would say the negative feedback that we get is people have, like, an expiration date
04:54on our relationship.
04:55So I feel like a lot of people go, oh, that's cute.
04:58It's not going to last.
05:00No, none of them should procreate.
05:02Okay, if we love each other and we have a family and we're building a family,
05:08what does that have to do with you?
05:10Like, why do you have, you know, other people's families?
05:12You know what I mean?
05:13So I think that's just people just projecting their, yeah, it's ignorant, pretty much.
05:19He's a , one of his girls needs to give him an offspring.
05:23New age nonsense.
05:24So let me make this clear.
05:26The person that commented that has no sense because this is the thing.
05:31If I was a , why would I be trying to have children?
05:35Yeah, that makes no sense.
05:37I don't want to create kids for myself.
05:38No, it will screw the kids up.
05:42They said that six years ago.
05:44Just living proof.
05:46They probably will say it again.
05:46They need to focus on raising their own children.
05:49It's a blessing to have multiple people in the home that's caring for you.
05:52Have any of you lost any friends or family along the way?
05:55I personally have lost a couple friends due to the relationship,
05:59just because of their own personal opinion on it.
06:02And for me, then, good riddance.
06:06Like, if you can't accept how I choose to live my life and love the people that I love,
06:12then, you don't need to be alone.
06:15If you love one person and that's what you want to do with your life,
06:18we completely support that.
06:20We love that for you.
06:21It's just not for us.
06:23It's not what we want to do.
06:24We don't shame monogamous people.
06:26We love love, period.
06:27So, if you love one person, if you love 10, that's your business.
06:30Because if you have multiple kids, you're not going to love one child.
06:33There we go.
06:39My sister essence took a little bit of an issue only because she's spoiled.
06:45So, she likes her brother to be focused on her for the most part.
06:49I've been meaning to ask you, you know,
06:52how do you feel about me being in a poly relationship?
06:54I don't think I ever actually asked you that question.
06:56It'd be like my only little dynamic through it is the sharing part.
06:59But that's been since I was little.
07:01But I feel like it takes a village.
07:03So, it doesn't really, like, affect me in no way.
07:05Or do I feel like it affects my nieces?
07:07So, it's like, it's a good thing for me.
07:09It's just heavy on the sharing part.
07:10No, that's real.
07:11And then, you know, you a mother.
07:15How do you feel about being poly?
07:17Do you think it impacts children negatively?
07:19No, I think being poly is like, it is what you make it.
07:22A parent is a parent.
07:23It don't matter how many parents it is.
07:25Rain gets to go to school, she can teach the other kids.
07:27Like, this don't affect me at all.
07:28I just know I'm getting loved by multiple people.
07:30That's it.
07:31I appreciate that, sis.
07:32Of course.
07:36We just want to keep building, keep doing content.
07:39I know that's our goal.
07:41Everybody, you know, used to say, they'd say,
07:43Oh, you guys weren't going to last, and this is just temporary.
07:47And look at us now, six years later.
07:51Now in a new relationship, a great relationship with Kylie.
07:55We know the future for us will be everything we dream of and imagine.
07:59We are at that relationship with Kylie for a few years later.
08:04We are at it with Claritas who's a band here.
08:09And from a particular relationship with Kylie shares, it's very guaranteed.
08:13See you .
08:13You
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