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Laura and Zion met on a podcast where like-minded people debate the roles within society and relationships. They were immediately drawn to each other due to their shared views on gender roles within relationships and marriages. They got engaged within a week and married within three months of meeting. The couple have now been together for 10 months and live together in Yorkshire, England. Laura and Zion believe that a woman's role is to be submissive and serve a man. While Laura handles all the household chores such as cooking, cleaning, baking and keeping herself pretty and presentable, Zion takes on all of the financial stress and ‘leads’ the house. Laura says, “People think it’s degrading to take care of a man,” and some have challenged the couple's beliefs using feminist views and stances on equality. In this episode of Love Don't Judge we ask the public about their views on 'Trad marriage'.

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00:00I submit to my husband and my job is to keep him happy.
00:03Women have become lazy.
00:05They don't want to make any effort.
00:06They think it's freedom to say, I'm not going to cook for a man.
00:08I'm not going to clean.
00:09I'm not going to do anything.
00:10But it's purely laziness.
00:11Women are actually not designed to have to make decisions.
00:15This is the biggest load of internalized misogyny, BS.
00:18Are your husband's finances safe with you?
00:21Women were created for a man.
00:24A woman without a man to take care of,
00:25she becomes very empty, very soulless, very bitter.
00:29When I hear the term, trot wife,
00:31what comes to my mind is scary and probably a void.
00:36I'm Zion Zachary.
00:38I'm Laura and I am a proud wife of Mr. Zion Zachary.
00:43And I lead the household.
00:45My wife knows what her role is.
00:47Your husband cannot step up until you step down.
00:50I enjoy traditional marriage with traditional masculine and feminine roles.
00:56I think online is a parallel universe.
00:59What you see on social media a lot is women crying into the phone,
01:03telling you what a victim they are in their life.
01:06We do get quite a bit of negative comments.
01:08What we need to do as men is protect our wives and make sure we don't take our wives to
01:13the battle.
01:13Someone says it took 20 seconds of listening to you for me to throw up in my mouth a little.
01:19This is why I'm an atheist.
01:20This religious psychosis is packaged so beautifully.
01:26The high tier wife is always thinking about the bigger picture.
01:30She's thinking about how to help her husband get to the top of the mountain.
01:34This is the biggest load of internalized misogyny, BS.
01:37Are your husband's finances safe with you?
01:40Women have been lied to.
01:42The women that were less willing to submit were more emotionally reactive.
01:47They think that they will find fulfillment in building a career or trying to be some kind of boss babe.
01:53Everything that women do, it should be an expression of love.
01:56What the women have been taught is you're the most important thing.
01:59Always put yourself first.
02:01Many men are married to women, but they're not married to wives.
02:03This is so sad.
02:05I hope you recover from the Stockholm Syndrome soon.
02:08That's when you fall in love with your capture.
02:10That's like Beauty and the Beast fairytale.
02:12Yeah.
02:12And I've fallen in love with you.
02:14Yeah.
02:14But I have though, I have captured you.
02:16You're captured my heart.
02:17If this isn't satire, the algorithm needs a talking to.
02:22When I hear the term trot wife or trot husband, what comes to my mind is scary and probably a
02:29void.
02:29My husband is the lord of this house.
02:32Should a woman serve her husband?
02:33In my opinion, not at all.
02:35No, I don't think a woman should serve her husband.
02:39It should be that they serve each other in whatever way works for them.
02:43I don't think it's a woman's job to do the household chores.
02:45It shouldn't be more on one person than the other to be pulling their weight.
02:50Me looking nice inspires him.
02:52And he deserves to look at something beautiful.
02:55Would I expect my wife to look perfect to me?
02:57Uh, no.
02:58No.
02:59We have good days.
02:59We have bad days.
03:00We have late nights.
03:01We have early mornings.
03:02It's not the role of a woman to always have to look perfect for their husband.
03:05I think that's, that's ridiculous.
03:08If you want to look perfect for your husband, that's on you.
03:11That's great.
03:12Good for you.
03:12You shouldn't have to.
03:14The trad wife and trad husband should probably be left in the past.
03:17As long as you're happy in the house that you're in, then you're doing the right thing.
03:19We just got to keep doing what we're doing.
03:21When people post negative comments, we just keep going.
03:23Because we know what we're doing is for the greater good.
03:26I think women have already set themselves back.
03:28I don't think the way I live is making them set themselves back any further.
03:31I think they've already done that on their own.
03:34My job is always looking pretty and always keeping the house clean.
03:38I am a trad wife, but I'm more than a trad wife.
03:42I felt like I had met a female version of myself.
03:45She slid into my DMs and then it kicked off this whole thing.
03:49I was a bit despondent and thinking that maybe I'll be waiting forever.
03:53In this modern world, this feminist world, will I ever find
03:56a woman that would agree with my way of thinking?
03:59And I found her.
04:00Tread wife, I think, refers back to the traditional, what we've always done,
04:05male role, female role.
04:07My best friend rang me and I said to her, I was like,
04:09that's my husband, that I'm going to marry this man.
04:11And she was like, what?
04:13I said, that is the man I will marry.
04:15So September we met, December was our wedding.
04:19Yeah, just like that.
04:23I don't like modern fashion.
04:24I think it's vulgar.
04:26I do think that it's important that we make an effort,
04:31because it's not that we compete with other women.
04:33It's a respect.
04:34You know, how we dress shows what we think our husband deserves.
04:39Most women dress for the world, but not their husband.
04:46Do you like it?
04:48Oh, you look pretty.
04:50Do I look pretty?
04:53I think it is important for a woman to present herself well.
04:56If somehow there was a hypothetical scenario where it was,
04:59I'd just be like, honey, that's revealing this.
05:01And do you mind just changing into something else more appropriate?
05:04She doesn't have anything like that in her wardrobe anyway.
05:06And I'll tell her whether it's a yes, whether it's a no.
05:09Trust me, you guys are getting a tame version of me.
05:12I'm usually, every few seconds, just all over her face.
05:16I think it's important for me to present myself well
05:18and wear things that are respectable.
05:20But it's not necessarily onerous on me to do that.
05:25Women have become lazy.
05:26They don't want to make any effort.
05:27They think it's freedom to say,
05:28I'm not going to cook for a man.
05:30I'm not going to clean.
05:30I'm not going to do anything.
05:31But it's purely laziness.
05:32She probably doesn't know how to do it for a start.
05:35Am I pretty?
05:36Oh, you're not pretty.
05:37You're beautiful.
05:40My favorite thing is just your all out surrender,
05:43your full devotion and your servant heart.
05:51I always make sure that there is food on the table.
05:53I've got to feed my man.
05:55I do everything in the house.
05:57So I do the laundry, the cooking, the cleaning,
06:00most of the shopping, everything in the house I do.
06:03People think that the way that I live is degrading to women,
06:06but I just love taking care of my men.
06:08Diane doesn't love cooking, and I do.
06:11So I usually do it all.
06:12I can cook to survive, but not to enjoy.
06:16So it makes sense that I just stay in my lane,
06:18and he stays in his lane, and we don't cross over.
06:20I would say I have always held some level of traditional values,
06:25because I observed an element of it growing up.
06:28My mum was a stay-at-home wife, and my dad was the provider.
06:30So I grew up seeing that, and I naturally embodied it.
06:34Women were created for a man.
06:36So a woman without a man to take care of,
06:39she becomes very empty, very soulless, very bitter.
06:45Okay.
06:46So my role as the man, fundamentally, I'm the leader of the family.
06:50I'm technically the CEO, and you're my, you could say, personal assistant.
06:55Yeah, I'm in submission.
06:57She only works for me, basically.
06:59Is the yoke how you like it?
07:00Yeah, we haven't had politics in a while, so.
07:02I know.
07:02I'm the responsible person who is responsible for building,
07:06providing, to make sure that that vision is fulfilled.
07:09To lead my wife, love my wife, love my children.
07:12I don't ever want to see him with, like, a broom in his hand or anything.
07:15I don't want to ever see him. I just don't like it.
07:17She often gets upset when I pick up the beaver and try to do something.
07:21Please put that down.
07:22You'll think that I have rules, or that I wake up in the morning,
07:25and I am at your best sightseeing. Arise, woman, you know, fix me, fix me some food.
07:29No, it doesn't work like that.
07:31She's already living that lifestyle herself.
07:33We both want to do this, so we both thrive in it,
07:37and we both have a happy life because of it.
07:43When you have someone in your life that you really care about,
07:45and you're going to build a family,
07:47it changes you to become the best version of yourself,
07:49and that's what's happened to me.
07:50Like, Zion's taken so many things off my shoulders,
07:52that I don't have to worry about certain things,
07:54so it means that I've actually been able to discover who I am as a woman.
07:58So what would we say to people who judge us?
08:00Choose how you want to live your life carefully.
08:03A lot of people are just sheep.
08:04They just follow along, and they think that, you know,
08:07like, especially feminists, they think they're being rebellious
08:08while being a feminist, but they're not.
08:10They're just doing what everyone else is doing.
08:11It's the opposite of being rebellious.
08:13Being rebellious is actually...
08:15What we do.
08:15Yeah, exactly.
08:16I didn't know I could enjoy my life so much, and I could be happy.
08:20I didn't know I could do that, and it's beautiful.
08:22It's beautiful.
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