00:00We're a married couple, and we have a girlfriend.
00:03Since 2020, we have dated about 60 people.
00:07When it comes to our children, we didn't really sit down and have a specific conversation about
00:11mommy and daddy are polyamorous.
00:14Probably took about two and a half months before they were like,
00:17okay, wait a minute, this is somebody special.
00:19I thought Bella really wanted me and maybe didn't really want Eve.
00:24Bella broke it to me that actually she preferred Eve and wasn't really into me.
00:28So I have this guy, he thinks that his outline of ideal woman is impossible to find.
00:35I became an dating coach 18 years ago as an accident.
00:38There are only five skills you need for a woman to find you more attractive.
00:42I actually got voted the number one dating coach in the world three years in a row.
00:45His detail list is so detailed.
00:47What are you telling him?
00:48Well, I'm telling him to revise his list a little bit, basically.
00:51We've been running the company together.
00:53We've helped over 350,000 people in the world get their ideal relationship.
00:59Once he applies this, he will never have a problem with dating ever again.
01:04I know this stuff inside and out and it is impossible to be in a relationship and not apply it.
01:09In our relationship, we have our dynamic, my dynamic with our partner, Eve's dynamic with our partner,
01:16and then our dynamic all together.
01:18So it's a lot more communication.
01:20So you just have to welcome a lot of very uncomfortable discussions that lead to wonderful results.
01:25Oh, let's go home.
01:28Nice.
01:29We've been together for 10 years, almost 11 years.
01:32When we first met at Austin Fashion Week, I was in a relationship with another woman
01:36and she actually saw Eve first and said,
01:40Oh my gosh, I have to date that woman.
01:42And so I went up and said, hi.
01:44I didn't really specifically was seeking for Poliana's relationship per se.
01:48I was going with the flow.
01:49But over time, it developed into a real relationship
01:52and the three of us ended up living together.
01:54For six years, we had children together.
01:56She's still one of our incredibly good friends,
01:58but the relationship part of it has fallen aside and turned into more of a friendship.
02:02And that happened a few years ago now.
02:03And since then, me and Eve have continued that lifestyle and dating other people.
02:11We have five kids.
02:13Oliver, Dante, Orion, Ivy and Story.
02:18Our parenting styles, I would say, pretty standard actually.
02:22I'm more of a strict parent than he is.
02:24I would say I'm the bad cop.
02:25He's a good cop.
02:27We homeschooling our kids because we believe that standard education
02:30is a bit too rigid and not very flexible.
02:33We spend every day with our children.
02:35But they have chores they have to complete in the morning.
02:38They're all very advanced, but they're also social.
02:40Our eldest son, at 14, we have spoken to him about people and relationships.
02:45He knows there is monogamy.
02:46He knows there is polyamory.
02:48Polyamory is dating multiple people at the same time.
02:52They didn't really need to explain to me that they were polyamorous.
02:57I kind of figured it out after a while and they did tell me at a certain point.
03:01But I just realized that my dad dated multiple people and that was just normal to me.
03:08When it comes to our children, we didn't really sit down and have a specific conversation about
03:13mommy and daddy polyamorous.
03:14So for them, we're just not a friend, basically, right?
03:16Until about like six months.
03:20Just want to see how the children interact with the person we're dating as well
03:23before we get serious with anybody.
03:26Like, and that's important.
03:27Have you met many of your parents' partners?
03:29We do get to meet them after a while, but not until they feel comfortable with like making
03:37sure that it'll be okay for them to meet us.
03:39In the last four years, despite the fact that we've dated 60 people, there's really only
03:43been three that have actually interacted with the kids more than at like a group setting.
03:49When I talk to my friends about Bella, I usually do bring up the fact that she is my parents'
03:55partner.
03:55Hi, hon.
03:57Good to meet you.
03:58Well, romantically, we've been together since January, so a couple of months, but I've known
04:04them for years.
04:05There was this really awkward moment where I thought Bella really wanted me and maybe
04:10didn't really want Eve.
04:12Bella broke it to me that actually she preferred Eve and wasn't really into me.
04:16And she's like, you're okay.
04:18She's like, Eve's like a perfect 10 and you're like a six.
04:23And that's accurate numbers.
04:25I hadn't really been in a relationship with three people or two other people before.
04:30It's still like a learning progress type of thing.
04:34Since 2020, we've dated about 60 people, give or take.
04:39We have definitely dated more than one person at a time.
04:43But the dynamic tends to work best when we have the throttle.
04:46Everything else is fun, wild time.
04:48I don't define any specific rigid rules.
04:51It's just a relationship that you make work.
04:54By your own rules.
04:57Family is super accepting.
04:58Friends, mostly accepting.
05:00The friends that aren't accepting have gone.
05:02Yeah, they're not friends, right?
05:03Again, why would I live my life according to someone else's standards, right?
05:07It's my life.
05:08That's my strangers.
05:09We get all kind of reactions.
05:10Some people are very supportive and ethical of questions.
05:13They're the same.
05:15Which, you know, I answer at the time.
05:17And some, of course, are very detrimental, right?
05:18And tell me that I have no self-esteem or no value.
05:21We absolutely have people try telling us that our lifestyle is going to have some kind of negative impact on our children.
05:28I don't believe our dating life impacts our children in any major way.
05:32Other than to help them be more tolerant and open to other ideals.
05:37Are we the best parents in the world?
05:39Probably not.
05:39Yes, we are.
05:40Probably.
05:41Our children don't get confused about our dating life because we don't make our children part of our dating life.
05:46I think a lot of people in some extent of our dating life think we will just live in a big compound and we have a lot of f*** in front of our kids.
05:54So the biggest misconception is that we are too promiscuous and we're damaging our children, basically, which is not against nine members.
06:01Yeah, I think that's true.
06:03That's a massive misconception for us.
06:04Yeah, but still, yeah.
06:05How did you feel when Adam and Eve told you that they had five children?
06:10I was definitely a little overwhelmed at first, but getting to know them, they're so wonderful, they're so cute, and they're so funny.
06:18My age kind of does help me connect with them on levels that they might not.
06:25I definitely still have a lot more, I don't want to say energy.
06:29You guys still have, like, a lot of energy.
06:30Just throw me in the face, she's in, like, 20s, and I'm, like, 80.
06:35I don't think you're almost there.
06:37She's a political adult, I double-checked.
06:42Good job.
06:44I'm making a bear.
06:46We're baking two cakes, a lemon one and a chocolate one.
06:49That's how they met her, was as a friend, and, of course, when she was hanging out, she started baking with them, and they pretty much fell in love with her.
06:56As our relationship developed, they really just knew Bella as a friend that came over, and it probably took about two months, two and a half months, before they were like, okay, wait a minute, like, this is somebody special.
07:07Push in and pull.
07:08There we go.
07:09Good job.
07:10She teach me so much that I'm able to do eggs now.
07:14What does it mean to you to see your children and girlfriend bonding like this?
07:18Very, very special, of course.
07:19It's for me the most important part.
07:20Our kids like her, and she just fits really well.
07:23The best thing about being in a poly relationship is that, again, you're making your own rules.
07:27It's like you have your cake and eat.
07:30If my children grow up to be happy, wonderful people, that's all I really care about.
07:35I just need them to be happy and to be as successful as they want to be in their own world.
07:44I just need them to be happy and to be happy and to be happy for you.
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