00:00I was pregnant at 15 now I'm a mom of two. We got a lot of comments that we
00:04shouldn't have kids so young. You should be worried about school and being young
00:07not spreading your legs. Children shouldn't be having children. People
00:12assume that I'm going to leave or like the kids are mine. Single mom in the
00:16making. My dad and my stepmom were so angry they said I was too young to have
00:20a child. My dad was like no stay away from my daughter I don't want I don't
00:24want you near my daughter. As soon as my dad started to accept it I found out I
00:28was pregnant again. Today we're gonna have a conversation with my stepmom. I'm
00:31nervous to hear her actual thoughts. She usually doesn't hold back. How do you
00:35and my dad feel about the second pregnancy? I'm Trina and I'm 19. I'm Wilson and I'm
00:4519. And we're teen parents of two kids. One is two years old his name is Amir and
00:49then Jace he's four months old. I would describe Amir as funny. He's always like
00:54dancing and like making everyone laugh. And then Jace is really like calm and
00:59hungry. Like he's he wants that bottle like right away. When Amir was born I was 16.
01:07When Jace was born I was just turned 19. I always see myself as being a mom just not at
01:14this age. I never envisioned myself being a dad at such a early age. Never in a million
01:19years. It was a big turning point at that time. My whole perspective changed my life.
01:25My morning before I had kids I would just wake up and go to school and then
01:29after school I'll come back home and go to sleep. Now I wake up early. You have to
01:33wake up before 8.50 in the morning to give Jace his medicine. That's the huge
01:39responsibility I would say for now. It's like the hearing aids for Amir and his
01:42medicine. Amir! Music! Where's your microphone? Amir has a syndrome called
01:49Warneberg syndrome which causes eyes to be blue. Comes with hearing loss. They gave him
01:54hearing aids. Jace when he was born he was extremely yellow. He wasn't waking up.
01:59He wasn't crying. He wasn't eating. Found out that he had seizures and brain bleeds.
02:05Right now we just know he has epilepsy. There's a lot of responsibilities add on to our lives.
02:10I feel like I was very immature and I like made like a lot of mistakes when I was
02:14younger. Now I have kids like let me be mature. Let me grow up. We were really young.
02:19The only thing we were doing was going to school and coming home. The only thing
02:23that changed was like more so like us working, us having like more things to do
02:27like dropping the kids off daycare, doctor's appointments, having more things
02:31to do like add to our list. I mainly work since morning to the afternoon so all
02:36credits to her. She takes care of the kids from there. Then once I get home you
02:40know I help out. I can make a bottle. I take care of the little one. He eats a lot.
02:47Sometimes we feed him four ounces. He starts crying and then we give him like two
02:53more ounces and he just goes straight to sleep. I mainly just started posting about
02:58Amir's Warneberg just like get like answers and like clarity of like will my son be
03:02okay? I just wanted to show that I'm a teen parent like I wanted to let that be
03:05known. I used to get comments like your life must be so hard now. People saying
03:10you guys can take care of them right or you guys want your life. I feel like
03:14there's a lot of stigma about being teen parents because they probably don't think
03:18we can handle it or they probably think we aren't going to be as responsible as
03:23older people. You should be worried about school and being young not spreading your
03:26legs. Okay. There's a lot of people our age that do the same thing they just don't get the
03:35same results or they just choose a different result. We made that decision
03:38like to keep our kids so for us that's our own route.
03:43Single mom in the making. I love this girl to death. That would never happen to my part.
03:47Children shouldn't be having children. When you're 18 you're an adult just wait two
03:52years and finish high school. One we graduated on time. Two I'm still taking
03:58college classes. I actually brought my son on stage to grab my diploma so that was a very big
04:03moment for me as well. We went to her graduation as well and we were just shouting from the back.
04:07Hey there you go mama. Having a baby doesn't stop nothing. I'm still doing the same thing that kids my
04:12age are doing.
04:13They're in school. I'm still in school. They're living their life and I'm living mine
04:18just with kids. When I first got pregnant I was living with my parents and he was
04:24living with his mom. My family reacted very disappointed and upset. My dad was like
04:30didn't say nothing. He was more so crying and wouldn't like really look at me.
04:34My dad was like no stay away from my daughter. I don't want I don't want you near
04:38my daughter. He just didn't want to see him or talk to him. It was just very negative
04:43at that point. I had a lot of anger in me because I wasn't thinking about his
04:48perspective or anything. I was thinking about myself. I was thinking oh how can you
04:52not let me see her after this or like I was just really upset. Now that I look back at
04:56it
04:57I understand his perspective you know his daughter 15 having a baby. It was just
05:02our families clashing against each other because we didn't we never had like a
05:06talk. We never had a talk at that point. Hey guys how are you? Today we're gonna
05:11have a conversation with my stem mom. We haven't had a conversation about it since
05:14I was pregnant for a second time. I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts. She
05:18usually doesn't hold back. How did you feel when I was pregnant for the first time? Oh my
05:22God. I was in shock. I find out two days before you tell me and I was so upset.
05:30You dad was acting kind of weird those days when he called me that day at the
05:34room. I said what is it? He told me at once Trina is pregnant and I was like
05:40what? We are trying to do our best as a parent even I'm not your mom but I try to
05:46do the best for you guys and it hurt my feelings a lot. How did you and my dad feel
05:52about the second pregnancy? We were 18 we found out we were pregnant again. My
05:56dad I told him first. He was like why would you tell me this right now? I said
06:03mom she just didn't say nothing she was quiet and I couldn't like see her reaction.
06:09I'd say they were very like shocked and disappointed. We were so upset that I mean
06:16we were in shock especially the way that we find out. We held it in for so long
06:21because we weren't sure if Jace was going to make it or not because during the
06:27procedures they did tell me there was a high chance that he wasn't able he
06:30wasn't gonna make it so we didn't want everybody to like deal with what we were
06:34going through. But I would like to know it before even if something happened I was
06:38upset about the pregnancy the both pregnancy the way that we find out. I
06:42understand that you guys you and my dad were very disappointed and didn't agree with
06:47our decisions but I do respect that you guys were very helpful and still
06:53treated my kids like they were yours. I'm very grateful for that because most
06:56parents would have just kicked their kids out so I'm very grateful for that. I see
07:00that responsibility that you guys have and you guys are doing so well I'll be
07:04there for you always. Alright guys. Thank you. Me personally I have no regrets in my life I
07:12feel like this is probably the best thing that ever happened to me because it's
07:15changed my perspective and made me mature early on. It makes me work harder every
07:20single day. Like that's that's my why now. Parenting actually like it's like fun.
07:27Kids are always happy. They're like little angels. They're looking at us and they're
07:31just like smiling and it's just like why am I sad right now? I have my person like I
07:36have my babies. Gave us like a purpose in a way. There's no need to judge people for
07:41making their decisions at a young age. We're still doing what we have to do for our
07:45kids and also for ourselves and if you do judge it's not really our issue. Keep on
07:49hating. We're still living. We're still going to take care of our kids. We're still
07:53going to grow together and have fun. Just be positive man.
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