00:00I became a grandma at 33, and now my 14-year-old daughter is pregnant.
00:04When I found out, it's just...
00:07...mess.
00:08It's scary.
00:09What are some negative things people have said about her view on the internet?
00:14Disgusting.
00:15She's too young.
00:16She's not ready to be a mother.
00:18About your boyfriend, how did he react to the news?
00:20Happy.
00:23I think you did it on purpose.
00:25I think you trapped her.
00:28Yeah, I think I should make sure you start to get all that.
00:31Yep.
00:31There you go.
00:32She has to learn how to cook to prepare for her son's arrival.
00:37And plus, she loves to cook.
00:39J, how long is it until your baby is due?
00:42September 16th, so like four months.
00:44Feel ready?
00:45You feel nervous?
00:46I'm really...
00:48I'm just scared to see when he do come, like how am I going to be a mother and how
00:54am I going to take care of him.
00:56But I'm excited too, because I don't know, I'm just, I'm excited to be a mother.
01:00I was 14 when I first became pregnant as well.
01:04It was a shock.
01:05I just didn't think it would happen to me.
01:07But I cook with it well.
01:09I had a village, so I was able to still do everything I wanted to do.
01:13I beat the odds because I went to school and I played ball.
01:17I went to college for ball, had good grades, and I was working.
01:21Plus taking care of my son.
01:22It could be done.
01:23Maybe the plan was for me to have a baby young to prepare her.
01:28So you're already a grandma?
01:30Yes.
01:31He's six months today.
01:33I was 33 when I became a grandmother.
01:36Desmond, my oldest, he's 19 now.
01:39And he was 18 when he had his son.
01:42He's doing good as a dad.
01:44He's really, really good actually.
01:46How did it feel to be grandma at 32?
01:50Honestly?
01:51I'm like 33?
01:53Grandma?
01:54Like, you know, you can't call me grandma.
01:57Call me Jeannie.
01:59So Jeannie, did you ever imagine you were going to be a mom at 14?
02:03No.
02:04I feel like I got to grow up fast.
02:06On top of your story is unique because she got pregnant on birth control.
02:10And she didn't find out until her second trimester.
02:12I was sick so bad.
02:14I didn't even know.
02:16Yeah.
02:18You okay?
02:20Yeah.
02:21Do you feel like you let her down?
02:23Yes.
02:24Yes.
02:25Because she asked me multiple times if I was sexual.
02:28And I told her no.
02:30And my mom, she's not stupid.
02:32So she kind of knows.
02:33And so she got me on the birth patrol.
02:36And that did not.
02:37The birth patrol just...
02:39When did you first suspect something was up?
02:41You have to take a pregnancy test to get on birth control.
02:45It was negative.
02:46She on birth control.
02:47Then her body started shutting down.
02:49Like, she can't move at all.
02:51So then I called the doctor.
02:52They did another pregnancy test.
02:54It was negative.
02:55But then they did the blood work.
02:57The doctor called.
02:58And I'm like, what did they say?
03:00She said, the test is positive.
03:02How, Majeya?
03:03I don't know.
03:03Yes, you do.
03:04Jeremiah!
03:06Araya!
03:07Time to eat!
03:09You think your sister's ready to be a mom?
03:11I'm not sure.
03:12Because she has a lot of growing up to do.
03:14But I want to hope for her as much as I can.
03:18How did you react?
03:19I was like, surprised.
03:20Because she's still like a teen.
03:22Are you excited to be a grandma of two?
03:24Yeah.
03:24I do feel like she should have waited a little longer.
03:27But hey, who am I to judge?
03:30I don't get it.
03:31You don't get it?
03:33Do you think that you're going to become a mom as a teenager?
03:37I don't want no kids.
03:40You don't want no kids?
03:41She said she don't want no kids either.
03:42I said the same thing.
03:44How has life changed since you've become pregnant?
03:46I don't know how to explain it.
03:48But I'm like always in the house.
03:50My attitude has got worse.
03:53Has this pregnancy affected your studies in your school?
03:56Yes.
03:57I was doing good.
03:58All my grades were good.
03:59I was going on talking to class, everything.
04:01And it's like when I found that I was pregnant, it's just, it wasn't good.
04:04I tried my hardest and everything.
04:06It just wasn't, it wasn't going right.
04:09Her peers actually supported her.
04:11It kind of was cool to see.
04:13But there's been a lot of conflict online.
04:16A lot of bad comments that she's had to deal with.
04:19Why did you start posting on social media about this?
04:22I always wanted to do social media.
04:24I love it.
04:25Say good morning, everybody.
04:27Good morning.
04:28Say good morning, Jaya.
04:29I just feel like people would want to be interested in seeing how me and my kids are raised and
04:33how I live life.
04:34I'm doing some type of content every day just to keep my algorithm going.
04:39Hi y'all.
04:40I just cooked some fried chicken my first time.
04:44Yeah.
04:45My mom got me into recording.
04:47It's fine.
04:48You and my mom are too quick.
04:55You have to get to a point where you're like, you don't care what other people think.
04:59Which video got the most negative reaction?
05:01This one.
05:02This is the ultrasound video I posted of Jaya.
05:06Do you have any concerns initially about revealing Jaya's pregnancy online?
05:11Yeah.
05:11But she's the one who told me to post.
05:14Told her, I said, I bet if you post it, it's going to go up.
05:17And she posted it.
05:19And it went up.
05:19And it went up.
05:21Disgusting.
05:22She's too young.
05:24Definitely not a flex.
05:26She's not ready to be a mother.
05:28This is not to brag about better choices, please.
05:31She's only 14 with a belly piercing and a nose piercing.
05:35You just let her do anything she wants.
05:38That irritates me when people say I let her get pregnant.
05:41Like, how did I let her?
05:44Do you think that your mom would let you?
05:46No.
05:46Because how can my mom let me get pregnant?
05:50Like, they said the same thing about my older brother.
05:52The man is 19.
05:54How can she let my brother get pregnant at the age of 18?
05:57Like, that don't make sense to me.
05:59How does it feel to read those comments?
06:01I really don't care.
06:02I don't care.
06:03Because one thing I like to do is prove people wrong in the future.
06:07Because they're going to follow just because they're going to want to know.
06:10They're going to want to, and we're going to prove them wrong.
06:12Yeah, are you going to continue to document and post your pregnancy online?
06:17Yeah, I am.
06:18I'm going to post through my whole pregnancy online.
06:20Delivery.
06:21Why?
06:22I've been watching YouTube videos about it, and it looks like they blow up for it.
06:27And I just think for me to be a 14-year-old and making videos like that and going through
06:31my pregnancy, it would be good.
06:38Hi.
06:39Hi.
06:40Hi, everybody.
06:41He does a lot for me.
06:43He's all about her.
06:44Yeah.
06:45He acts too obsessed with her.
06:47His name is Josiah, and he's 16 years old.
06:49How did he react to the news?
06:51Happy.
06:52Did he say that?
06:54He was very happy.
06:56He wanted to think about it a little bit.
06:58Lies.
06:59He was scared.
07:00At first he was scared, but he was happy.
07:02He's the one who told me that we should talk about it and just keep it.
07:07Because I didn't really want to keep it.
07:10I was just mad.
07:12Like, not mad, scared.
07:15It's a hard choice.
07:16When she called me, I thought she was going to be like, you can't come back over it.
07:22That's how you worried about her.
07:24See, I told you that she worried about coming to see her.
07:27I think you did it on purpose.
07:28I think you trapped her.
07:31She felt like, no, it's too white.
07:33Look at her like, nah, she's tired.
07:35On my uncle, I didn't.
07:37When they first got together, what kind of steps did you take to try to prevent Jaya from getting pregnant?
07:42There was rules in place when it came to him being in the room, doors open.
07:48Eventually, the way he was acting about her, because like I said, he's in love with her.
07:53I, in my brain, I was like, no, he's too in love.
07:57We got her on Berkshire show.
07:58I called my grandma.
08:00I'm like, grandma, it's a problem.
08:01She was like, what?
08:02Then I told her, she was like, well, you got to do what you got to do.
08:06And she just was like, I knew it.
08:08I knew it.
08:09And now Joe got to be a man.
08:10He got to step up to the plate.
08:12First, I was kind of like upset because he's a teenager and I wanted him to do what teenagers do.
08:18And so, but now that the baby's coming, we have to, you know, get prepared for it.
08:22You got to put his priorities first.
08:23It's going to be some hard days, but just got to make the best of it.
08:27But I believe he's going to do good because, you know, I raised Joe's side to be respectful.
08:32Sometimes he don't like the communication.
08:33He don't want to hear my mouth, but he knows I'm going to tell him the truth.
08:36And, you know, sometimes the truth hurts, but it helps.
08:38And then, plus, you're just a responsible kid.
08:40I just want him to graduate.
08:42That's all that matters to me.
08:43So, y'all got to look at the baby as a blessing, not a mistake.
08:46Y'all might not have made the right decisions, but the baby's a blessing, you know, so.
08:54I'm happy.
08:54Be happy, you got to be prepared, you know, your mindset and everything.
08:58Jay, do you have any regrets?
09:00No, I don't have no regrets of keeping a child because I know I have a lot of help in
09:06my hands.
09:07I'm proud of her.
09:09Yeah.
09:09I'm proud of you.
09:10I can see you becoming a mom already.
09:13Do you want to have more children in the future?
09:15I can't say no to that one, but I don't know.
09:18But we're going to try to wait longer.
09:20Yes.
09:20Yeah.
09:20Of course that.
09:22A little longer.
09:23I want to be able to have that bond with my child, how my mom has a bond with all
09:27of us.
09:27And I want to be a good parent like that and always, you know, be there.
09:37I want to chill out their needs.
09:39Please listen to your child.
09:41See you on that.
09:42You should remember that Borderlands.
09:43It's going to be able to intervene without those of you.
09:44I didn't get any questions too early.
09:45To ourограф Freeman looks like God has a piece of love.
09:45And we've contributed with his favour and productivity.
09:45If you all got scared of it when, you take your child.
09:45I can tell you where you can tell you about your mind.
09:48You
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