00:00I was pregnant at 15, now I'm a mom of two.
00:03We got a lot of comments that we shouldn't have kids so young.
00:06Children shouldn't be having children.
00:09People assume that I'm going to leave or like the kids aren't mine.
00:14Single mom in the making.
00:15My dad and my stepmom were so angry.
00:18They said I was too young to have a child.
00:20As soon as my dad started to accept it, I found out I was pregnant again.
00:25Today we're going to have a conversation with my stepmom.
00:27I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts.
00:29She usually doesn't hold back.
00:31How do you and my dad feel about the second pregnancy?
00:34Um.
00:35He's ready for your bottle.
00:37He's ready for the bottle.
00:38I'm Trina and I'm 19.
00:40I'm Wilson and I'm 19.
00:41And we're teen parents of two kids.
00:43One is two years old, his name is Amir.
00:45And then Jace, he's four months old.
00:47I would describe Amir as funny.
00:50He's always like dancing and like making everyone laugh.
00:52And then Jace is very like calm and hungry.
00:56Like he wants that bottle like right away.
01:01When Amir was born, I was 16.
01:04When Jace was born, I was just turned 19.
01:09I always see myself as being a mom, just not at this age.
01:12I never envisioned myself being a dad at such an early age.
01:16Never in the middle of the years.
01:17It was a big turning point at that time.
01:19Like my whole perspective changed my life.
01:22My morning before I had kids, I would just wake up and go to school.
01:26And then after school, I'd come back home and go to sleep.
01:28Now I wake up early.
01:29We have to wake up before 8.50 in the morning to give Jace his medicine.
01:35That's the huge responsibility I would say for now.
01:37It's like the hearing aids for Amir and his medicine.
01:40Amir, music.
01:42Where's your microphone?
01:43Amir has a syndrome called Warnenberg syndrome, which causes eyes to be blue.
01:49Comes with hearing loss.
01:50They gave him hearing aids.
01:52Jace, when he was born, he was extremely yellow.
01:55He wasn't waking up.
01:56He wasn't crying.
01:57He wasn't eating.
01:58He found out that he had seizures and brain bleeds.
02:01Right now we just know he has epilepsy.
02:03There's a lot of responsibilities add on to our lives.
02:07I feel like I was very immature.
02:09And I made a lot of mistakes when I was younger.
02:11Now I have kids.
02:12Let me be mature.
02:13Let me grow up.
02:14We were really young.
02:15Only thing we were doing was going to school and coming home.
02:19Only thing that changed was more so us working.
02:22Us having more things to do.
02:23Dropping the kids off daycare.
02:25Doctor's appointments.
02:26Having more things to do, like add to our list.
02:29I mainly work since morning to the afternoon.
02:32So all credits to her.
02:33She takes care of the kids from there.
02:35Then once I get home, you know, I help.
02:37I can make a bottle.
02:39I take care of the little one.
02:41He eats a lot.
02:42Sometimes we feed him four ounces and then he starts crying.
02:48And then we give him like two more ounces and he just goes first to sleep.
02:51When and why did you guys start posting on TikTok about being a parent?
02:55I mainly just started posting about Amira's Wordenberg.
02:58Just to like get like answers and like clarity on like, will my son be okay?
03:02I just wanted to show off that I'm a teen parent.
03:03Like I wanted to let that be known.
03:05I used to get comments like, your life must be so hard now.
03:08People saying you guys can take care of them right or you guys know your life.
03:12I feel like there's a lot of stigma about being teen parents because they probably don't
03:17think we can handle it or they probably think we aren't going to be as responsible as older
03:22people.
03:23You should be worried about school and being young, not spreading your legs.
03:29Okay.
03:30There's a lot of people our age that do the same thing.
03:33They just don't get the same results or they just choose a different result.
03:37We made that decision like to keep our kids.
03:39So for us, that's our own route.
03:42Single mom in the making.
03:44I love this girl to death.
03:45That would never happen for my part.
03:46Children shouldn't be having children.
03:49When you're 18, you're an adult.
03:50Just wait two years and finish high school.
03:52One, we graduated on time.
03:55Two, I'm still taking college classes.
03:58I actually brought my son on stage to grab my diploma.
04:01That was a very big moment for me as well.
04:03And we went to her graduation as well and we just shouting from the back, hey, there we go mama.
04:08Having a baby doesn't stop nothing.
04:10I'm still doing the same thing that kids my age are doing.
04:14They're in school.
04:14I'm still in school.
04:16They're living their life and I'm living mine just with kids.
04:20How did your families react when you found out you were pregnant?
04:23When I first got pregnant, I was living with my parents and he was living with his mom.
04:30My family reacted very disappointed and upset.
04:34My dad was like, didn't say nothing.
04:36He was more so crying and wouldn't like really look at me.
04:39My dad was like, no, stay away from my daughter.
04:41I don't want you near my daughter.
04:43He just didn't want to see him or talk to him.
04:45It was just very negative at that point.
04:49I had a lot of anger in me because I wasn't thinking about his perspective or anything.
04:53I was just thinking about myself.
04:55I was thinking, oh, how can you not let me see her after this?
04:58I was just really upset.
05:00Now that I look back at it, I understand his perspective.
05:03You know, his daughter, 15, having a baby.
05:06It was just our families clashing against each other because we didn't, we never had like a talk.
05:11We never had a talk at that point.
05:13Hey guys, how are you?
05:15Today we're going to have a conversation with my stem mom.
05:17We haven't had a conversation about it since I was pregnant for the second time.
05:20I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts.
05:22She usually doesn't hold back.
05:24How did you feel when I was pregnant for the first time?
05:26Oh my God, I was in shock.
05:30I found out two days before you tell me and I was so upset.
05:34Your dad was acting kind of weird those days.
05:37When he called me that day at the room, I said, what is it?
05:41He told me I was three nights pregnant.
05:44And I was like, what?
05:46We are trying to do our best as a parent.
05:49Even I'm not your mom, but I try to do the best for you guys.
05:53And it hurt my feelings a lot.
05:55How did you and my dad feel about the second pregnancy?
05:58We were 18 when we found out we were pregnant again.
06:01My dad, I told him first.
06:03He was like, why would you tell me this right now?
06:07My stem mom, she just didn't say nothing.
06:10She was just quiet.
06:11And I couldn't see her reaction.
06:14I'd say they were very shocked and disappointed.
06:18We were so upset.
06:20That means we were in shock, especially the way that we found out.
06:25We held it in for so long because we weren't sure if Jace was going to make it or not.
06:30Because during the procedures, they did tell me there was a high chance that he wasn't going to make it.
06:35So we didn't want everybody to deal with what we were going through.
06:39But I would like to know it before, even if something happened.
06:43I was upset about the pregnancies, the both pregnancies, the way that we found out.
06:47I understand that you guys, you and my dad, were very disappointed and didn't agree with our decisions.
06:53But I do respect that you guys were very helpful and still treated my kids like they were yours.
06:59I'm very grateful for that because most parents would have just kicked their kids out.
07:03So I'm very grateful for that.
07:04I see the responsibility that you guys have.
07:06And you guys are doing so well.
07:08I'll be there for you always.
07:10All right, guys.
07:12Do you have any regrets about having kids so young?
07:16Me, personally, I have no regrets in my life.
07:18I feel like this is probably the best thing that ever happened to me because it's changed my perspective and made me mature early on.
07:25It makes me work harder every single day.
07:27Like, that's my why now.
07:30Parenting, actually, like, it's like fun.
07:34Kids are always happy.
07:35They're like little angels.
07:37They're looking at us and they're just like smiling.
07:39And it's just like, why am I sad right now?
07:41I have my person.
07:42Like, I have my babies.
07:43It gave us, like, a purpose in a way.
07:45What message do you have for those who might judge you for being teen parents?
07:49There's no need to judge people for making their decisions at a young age.
07:53We're still doing what we have to do for our kids and also for ourselves.
07:56And if we do judge, it's not really our issue.
07:59Keep on hating.
08:00We're still living.
08:01We're still going to take care of our kids.
08:03We're still going to grow together and have fun.
08:05Just be positive, man.
08:11We're still going to grow together.
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