00:00We met at Main Event which is a entertainment venue and I was looking so
00:16good across the room that he couldn't help himself. I was on my grown man that
00:20night. Well I first saw her out of the corner of my eye and I was like hmm she fine okay.
00:24So I walked up to her in the poster and I gave her my number. We met at the Texas
00:29Southern University. Go Tigers! Soon she walked into class I knew she was the one
00:34and when she came out I just told her flat out I didn't even know her name I told her
00:39she's gonna be my wife one day. Our parents are best friends we grew up just
00:43always being around each other and we always just secretly liked each other we
00:47never said anything until about three years ago when we started dating. We're
00:51both in April and he was out with a group of his friends and I was out with a
00:55girlfriend and a cousin who whose birthday is in the same week with mine and
00:59he came over and asked me to dance and I gave him the stink eye and went yeah I
01:05guess so. Yeah I found love in the club.
01:10Mmm good question. I never gave up on love but I was like okay I wanted to make
01:16sure I was ready. When I did pop the question again it was like okay I'm
01:20getting older I want to be in a relationship I want to be in a
01:24marriage again and so I was like I'm gonna give it a try again and see. We
01:28we just bonded you know went on a date went to see the Wiz in San Francisco spent
01:34all night talking just you know really connecting you know right from the
01:39beginning. Got married a year later.
01:42We have been married for three years. Our blended family it was really easy I
01:49expected it to be a little hard with his children you know kids are usually on the
01:53mom's side and that type of thing but his children made it very very easy. We've
01:58been married for 24 years together 26 we have three grown children one just
02:04graduated from college and two are in college. We have a couple photos from us as
02:08kids you know just being around each other and we just appreciate that we
02:13knew each other all those years and we're able to be around each other and you
02:17know grow up together. This past Thursday we celebrated our 38th wedding
02:22anniversary. I think don't go to bed angry but we don't always follow it. I want to
02:32but I think that's really good advice because it just gives if you do go to bed
02:37angry it just gives things enough time to fester. Make sure you always have great
02:42communication skills with your wife and as men we kind of fall short of meeting
02:47our wives emotional needs so we got to kind of figure out how to open up their
02:52vulnerable side of us and make sure we meet their needs emotionally. I don't
02:56agree with going to bed angry just like he said communication is key there's
03:00nothing that you can't do as long as you work on it and work together basically
03:04you're on the same page so that emotional piece he was talking about it goes both ways.
03:08The best love advice I've received is to pour into your partner and pay
03:13attention to everything that they do.
03:15Happy wife happy life. People say that but everybody has to be happy and if both
03:27parties are not happy then there's no happy life.
03:29Putting a timeline on everything saying that you know this should happen at this
03:35time this happened at this time well really you don't want to rush anything you
03:39don't want to be running off anyone's other anyone else's timeline but God.
03:43Stop being so superficial about things. I had a list too but sometimes their lists have
03:51stupid things on them. Oh he needs to retire me I don't need to work and all of these things.
03:57Okay but he can retire you and then he can beat you up. I mean which one do you want?
04:02Get to know people don't like really rush into things.
04:06Make sure that you're a hundred percent whole. Michelle Obama was saying in her book
04:11nobody's gonna be 100% you know in regards to relationships so you have to go
04:16into a relationship whole. So my thing is self-care, wellness, mental health to make
04:20sure that you're okay individually so that you can be whole together.
04:24The singles I would say live it up when you're single. Don't take it the wrong way
04:28but live it up. Do you because when love comes it comes and you might know it you
04:32might not know it so just do you until it comes.
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