00:00I'm Sarah Elise and I'm Amber and we've been together for six years and counting.
00:08We really like impressing each other, which I think is a huge strength as a couple.
00:17On our first date, we met at a cafe. I think it was called Pillow Cafe.
00:23I think it was actually called the Tea Room in Brooklyn.
00:27I talked about myself a lot.
00:30She's going to say, because I'm a Leo, I talked about myself the whole time.
00:34Amber pretty much talked about herself the entire time in true Leo fashion.
00:39It's largely because she only asked me questions about myself.
00:43So what am I supposed to do? I tried to change them around and ask her about herself.
00:48And she was just like, no, I want to know more about you.
00:51I wasn't happy with what she was wearing.
00:54So I decided that she, I didn't like her as much, which then made me less nervous.
01:00It was during the train ride between Tea and meeting my friends that I started to really crush hard on her.
01:11This woman across, we were sitting across from us, she looked at us and she was like,
01:15you all look great together. And we were like, thank you.
01:25We got married in Brooklyn. A friend of ours has this really amazing restaurant and garden space
01:32on Flatbush called Risbo. And he, you know, gave us the venue and was like, this is my gift to you.
01:39We read our own vows to each other. So there was a lot of nerves and energy that went into
01:45the ceremony, but it was so beautiful. It's like, yes, technically we are like married.
01:52Those, um, kind of like more limiting words we chose to remove. Um, and we asked the people that
01:58did attend, um, to not use like marriage if possible. You know, historically, the queer community has
02:05been excluded from marriage for so long. Same-sex couples that are getting married,
02:11we haven't been afforded, um, the same rights as a lot of our, you know, heterosexual counterparts.
02:19We're baby planning. So in order for me to not have to adopt my child, I have to marry my wife.
02:25You know, God forbid if something were to happen to be there for her, she needed to be there for me.
02:29You know, if we didn't get married, I can't show up. So we're not actually celebrating the fact
02:35that we're able to get married. We're celebrating our love for each other and our union of both
02:41being two separate whole people coming together in love. And to be able, for me personally,
02:50to get to that space when I've never pictured myself in that space and, you know, never felt
02:59like I would be able to connect with someone in that way that I'd want to commit to them in that way.
03:03It was just really, um, special and wonderful. And I still can't believe it.
03:15We define black love as being authentic, authentically ourselves. I think also it's really
03:25important for black people in particular to define love for themselves, um, and not based on past
03:35tradition or the way that you were raised in your family. I would want people to take from our love
03:42that love that love can look like and be anything.
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