00:00I'm Gabby and I'm Andrew and we have been married for eight years we've been
00:07together for 13 years we are pastors also authors and we are committed to
00:14loving one another and making sure that we're working for justice for our people
00:20I think our strengths are I think we listen to each other
00:28it's cliche but we really have been friends for a very long time so that
00:33friendship keeps us going and that connectivity where we actually enjoy
00:36spending time with each other where our other friends get mad because we always
00:39bring each other but you know we enjoy each other's company so that's a strength
00:43that helps keep our relationship going so Andrew and I kind of really do have like
00:52a HBCU love story because I actually learned of him through his aunt Gabby was
01:00thinking about going to Spelman which is where my aunt works she ended up not
01:04going to Spelman and deciding instead to go to Hampton and so my aunt said oh well
01:08I have a nephew that's going to Hampton that's me and so she introduced the to
01:12us and here's where you may hear divergent stories we emailed and we ended up
01:18talking swatching numbers talking like the whole summer then we finally met in
01:23person on campus and he claimed that over the summer the talking period was a
01:30friendship talking and not a relationship talking because he had never met me I
01:36needed to get to a place where I could be fully in and committed in a
01:42relationship he was just being one of what's the what's the ratio at HBCUs like
01:4710 women to every man he was just being a HBCU dude that's what he was so the
01:52first thing that I knew is that Gabby was a great conversationalist that she
01:57brings an incredible level of reflection and considerate judgment he was very
02:02much like if we're gonna be in a real relationship like I need to hear what
02:05you're thinking and I need to be able to share what I'm thinking and so when he
02:09did that I realized that there was something different we got married when
02:16we were in our mid-20s and so there was a sense of you know clarity and
02:20resolution on our parts but everybody around us didn't necessarily get it
02:24heart was beating like a million miles a minute and I didn't know why because we
02:28have been together for like five years so it's not like I had any uncertainty
02:31about the Union but for me it was like entering adulthood I remember after we
02:37exchanged vows after we were pronounced husband and wife right before we hopped
02:40over that broom I lost it
02:45black people have been conditioned not to love each other we've been conditioned to
02:49be in opposition to each other we've been conditioned to think that only one of
02:52us can win only one of us can thrive even going black to slavery they would
02:56separate the man from the woman the family from each other so to choose black
02:59love to choose to love each other is a radical act to choose to love each other
03:03is radical
03:09you
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