00:00it's not that you can't get over him it's that he did something to your brain and i'm going to show
00:06you how to fix it save this because once you understand what's actually going on it's going
00:11to explain everything so most women think they're struggling to get over an ex because the connection
00:16was deep or because he was the one or maybe even a twin flame no that's that's not what it is
00:23what you're actually trying to get over is a neurochemical pattern here's what actually is
00:29happening when a man comes in hot all open connective emotionally available your entire
00:36pleasure center lights up it's like hitting the jackpot ding ding ding ding your brain floods with
00:44dopamine oxytocin and adrenaline creating a chemical cocktail recognized in the body as bonding then he
00:54pulls away so your nervous system crashes you go into chemical cocktail withdrawal and now you're
01:01back at the machine pulling the lever again and again trying to recreate that first jackpot this
01:09is not love or fate it is textbook neurochemical conditioning intermittent reinforcement is one
01:15of the strongest reinforcement loops in psychology it literally wires your brain into obsession patterns
01:23even when you know better logically you're not in love with him your brain is addicted to the drama
01:32that came from his inconsistency so what do you do you need to go cold turkey no contact no checking the
01:41socials no just one more conversation to hear what he has to say no rereading old texts because every
01:50tiny re-engagement gives your brain just enough of the reward to lock the pattern back in once you've
01:57gone cold turkey the real rewiring begins because now your job is to retrain your reward center to
02:04associate dopamine with you so every time he pops into your mind you redirect the energy back into your
02:11own expansion go to the gym take a walk work on your business read something that grows you do something
02:18that makes you hotter smarter or more successful you have to reinforce identity not the chemical addiction
02:27every intrusive thought becomes a cue reinvest in myself instead if you do this long enough your
02:34brain learns this is the new source of pleasure now this is where the reward lives that's how you break the
02:42pattern that's how you stop craving the person who hurt you and that's how you become the woman who
02:50attracts love that doesn't confuse your nervous system but actually calms it
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