00:00Triggers aren't bad, but anytime they come up, it's showing you there's something that's looking
00:04to be tended to inside of you. So a trigger shows you there's a projection happening. So for example,
00:09if my partner, I am triggered by his anger, that's showing me something about my relationship with my
00:14own anger. And rather than getting stuck and lost and trying to manage and control him, I look at
00:19what is this reflecting to me about my own relationship with anger. And oftentimes our
00:23partners express what we repress. And so maybe I was in a household where anger wasn't allowed,
00:29but anger is an emotion. There's nothing wrong with anger. Violence is a behavior. And so my
00:33partner is teaching me how to be with my own anger to allow it, to breathe into it, to move through
00:39it, but to shift my relationship rather than trying to get him to be different. And ironically, as I
00:44shift my relationship with the anger, one of two things happen. Either I'm no longer triggered by
00:48my partner anymore because I see what it was pointing to and reflecting to inside of me, or it
00:53just doesn't come up anymore. That's the power of doing the work at the root. You shift it in you
00:57and you're not stuck trying to manage the person. You really focus on what's the pattern. What is the
01:02pattern showing me about myself and how do I use this to heal and evolve?
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