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00:00My name is Balin, I'm 21 years old, and I have Tourette's Syndrome.
00:06And I like your baby weeny.
00:09Hey mother !
00:11Tourette's Syndrome causes me to have involuntary motor and vocal tics.
00:15This isn't good for you, because then you're, oh !
00:17I'm on ya !
00:19We put both hands on the panel bars.
00:21I'd describe our family as large, chaotic.
00:25I have four crazy and loud brothers.
00:28You can stop, kid, you can stop.
00:30And one younger sister, Sammy.
00:32Search what !
00:34Suck a wiener.
00:37That will not do.
00:39I have the world's best boyfriend, Colin.
00:42He's my medicine.
00:44So there's something I have to tell you guys.
00:47Me and Colin are gonna move in with each other.
00:50This isn't like moving in with a girlfriend who has no issues.
00:53I need Colin to understand that this is a challenge.
00:57My foot stock.
01:01Nothing better happen to my kid.
01:03Nothing.
01:06I would like to have both of your blessings to have your daughter's hand in marriage.
01:09I know what's coming, I just knew it.
01:11I don't really have an answer.
01:13As a guy, that's not what you're going into that conversation thinking that's how it's gonna go.
01:17I just wanna marry Balen.
01:19Balen, Alexandra, Dupree.
01:23Will you marry me?
01:25Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
01:29We're getting married.
01:31Life is just perfect.
01:32Someone asked me one time how many times do I tick today.
01:46But anyways, ticks come and go.
01:49I don't know.
01:50Believe it or not, I have a gun.
01:52We're on the night.
01:53Pluck it.
01:54Slap it.
01:55Wrap it.
01:56La la la la suck a wiener, bitch.
01:59Still loving the ring.
02:02We're still engaged.
02:04This is my ring.
02:05That's a big bitch.
02:07God damn.
02:08Dance did good.
02:09How many people have been asking you, do you have a date?
02:13That was the first thing that we got asked right after we got engaged.
02:17However, we haven't started a single thing.
02:19No wedding planning done.
02:20Yeah.
02:21Nothing.
02:22We're just living with the fact that we're just fiancé, you know?
02:25Living together is fun.
02:30At least in my eyes, I don't know what it's like living together.
02:33What it's like living with me, so.
02:36Every day is a new day.
02:38You never know what you're gonna hear or see.
02:42I'll take a grilled cheese up the ass.
02:44Sorry.
02:45I'm sorry.
02:46I love grilled cheese.
02:48They came out of left field.
02:51A lot of them come out of left field.
02:54All I do around this house is find socks.
02:59Not one.
03:03Have you ever lived with a man if the temperature isn't at 64 degrees in the house?
03:07He likes it at a ripe 65 Alaskan type of chill.
03:10We're just gonna boost it.
03:12If you just keep going until you hit the 80s, that's about where I like it.
03:16Okay.
03:17No!
03:18So about five years ago, I was diagnosed with Tourette's Syndrome, which is a neurological
03:28involuntary motor and vocal disorder.
03:31I have a nine inch penis.
03:32I decided to share my story with Tourette's on social media because I was done hiding from
03:42myself.
03:43Goddamn!
03:44So, to be able to help others not feel overwhelmed, a little bit confused, a little bit hopeless,
03:53is so important.
03:55Tourette's Syndrome is never isolated by itself.
04:00It's often accompanied by other conditions or comorbidities.
04:04like OCD, ADHD, depression, anxiety.
04:09And I have a lot of those.
04:15It's really good.
04:17That don't need no tweaking.
04:19This is really good.
04:23What?
04:24Why'd you?
04:25Get the ball!
04:26It's not bad.
04:27It's just...
04:28Oh!
04:29Goddamn!
04:30Get the ball!
04:31I have no idea where my kicking tick came from.
04:36The punch has been a common thing.
04:38She punches me in the balls.
04:40I'm sorry.
04:45I had to do that.
04:50I had the urge in my wrist to punch Cullen in the ball sack.
04:54And it feels electrifying.
04:56It's like itching, burning, um, hurting.
05:00Weaning.
05:01And when I let it out, the urge goes away, actually.
05:06Are you excited that it's Easter and that we're going to an alpaca farm today?
05:09You're not as excited as me.
05:11Yeah, I will never be as excited as you about all these alpacas.
05:15I'm so excited.
05:16I'm literally gonna cry.
05:17I'm gonna cry.
05:18And we get to walk with that.
05:19I hope you know that they're, like, more mean than horses.
05:23Not those ones at the farm.
05:24They spit on you.
05:25That's what llamas and alpacas do.
05:28I don't want that.
05:30My fondness for alpacas started when I was, like, 12 years old.
05:34This is where my OCD is a problem,
05:36because why am I obsessed with everything?
05:38They're just big, fluffy, lovable.
05:42They can't get enough.
05:43Yeah.
05:44And they eat sideways, yeah.
05:48Sorry.
05:49I know that.
05:52I suggested an alpaca farm for an Easter gathering with my family because, one, it's on my bucket list.
06:00And two, it's been a really long time since we've all been together.
06:06However, there's some things I want to clear up with my dad now that time has passed since we've gotten engaged.
06:12And considering that I don't really like confrontation, I'm a little nervous to approach my dad.
06:18And I just don't know how well it will go.
06:20This is amazing!
06:43Baylen's gonna lose her mind.
06:44Look at that!
06:45Look at that one, staring right at you.
06:47Look at him staring at you.
06:48She's, like, so obsessed.
06:50It's so crazy.
06:51Come on!
06:53There's so many.
06:55Oh, my God, they have him in the front yard.
06:57Oh, my God!
06:58We could at least fit six of them in the apartment.
07:01Episode five.
07:02Hey!
07:03Oh, my God!
07:04Oh, my God!
07:05We haven't seen my parents a ton because it's almost two hours difference to see them.
07:10This is what our front yard's gonna look like.
07:12Give me two years.
07:13You look so good!
07:15Happy Easter.
07:16Happy Easter, you're .
07:17What's up, Bay?
07:18It's been a couple of months since we've all been together as one group.
07:25Super excited.
07:26I'm so excited.
07:27Oh, my God.
07:28I'm so excited.
07:29I'm so excited for you.
07:30Happy Easter.
07:31It's not like Julie and Alan have softened up on me, but there is a difference.
07:36It's almost like they're more accepting in a way, but I think Julie and Alan are always
07:43gonna be hard on me because they're very protective parents.
07:46Like, that's just who they are.
07:47Hi.
07:48Hi.
07:49Hi.
07:50We haven't been ambushing Baylin with calls and stop-in visits because it's good to give
07:55them some space and time to establish their new normal, and she can be more assertive at
08:01attaining her own independence without us.
08:03I know you're excited, aren't you?
08:04Not really, but...
08:05I think her figuring it out on her own a little more is better for her, but it's still my
08:14daughter, and in my mindset, we are still gonna be her parents forever.
08:20Where's Sammy?
08:21Where's Sammy?
08:22Where's Sammy?
08:23So, everything was booked and she was ready to come here, and then stuff got out of sorts
08:28with too much anxiety, then her OCD crap was all kicking in.
08:31I was, Sammy, just do another time where you can come for a longer stretch, so then, like,
08:36the ends didn't justify the means, so...
08:38It's not just Baylin dealing with issues.
08:41To be completely honest, three out of the six kids, maybe four out of the six, have anxiety
08:48and OCD, it's just how it's elicited differently and how they cope differently.
08:52But, to me, the mystery is that there is a way to hide your OCD, and Sammy does a really
08:59good job of hiding it.
09:00She does a really good job with keeping things private that she wants to keep private.
09:05How has the house been with all guys?
09:08Community .
09:10A lot of .
09:11A lot of cleaning.
09:12We've helped.
09:13I've helped a lot.
09:14Do you do dishes?
09:15No.
09:16Nothing's changed, Baylin.
09:17Hey, you like my shirt.
09:19I love your shirt.
09:20I love how colorful it is.
09:21Banana up your ass.
09:22.
09:23When we get to, like...
09:25Where's the wedding at?
09:26Just don't tell mom about me and Colin are getting married in Alaska.
09:30It's gonna be a destination wedding.
09:32Did you guys pick out of a hat?
09:34Did you guys pick out of a hat?
09:37You suck for a living.
09:40So does Collin and Sammy.
09:42Collin sucked George Washington's .
09:44Collin's busy.
09:47Yeah.
09:48Why is everything, like, .
09:51And poor Collin George Washington.
09:56He's got time on his hands.
09:58I don't know.
09:59More than time, I guess, on his hands.
10:01Collin needs a second job.
10:02Yeah.
10:03Oh, hi.
10:04Welcome to Ever After Alpaca Farm.
10:07Hi.
10:08Hi.
10:09I'm Heidi.
10:10Hi.
10:11It's nice to see you.
10:12Are you guys ready for an alpaca adventure today?
10:13Yes.
10:14Yes.
10:15Good, good.
10:16We're gonna go in the field and hand feed the boys and interact with them.
10:19A couple of field rules.
10:20Rule number one, not gonna chase alpaca.
10:22Number two, don't stand behind them because they can kick.
10:25Ooh.
10:26Now, as adults, if they were to kick, it literally feels like you stubbed your toe.
10:30It hurts for five seconds.
10:32And most people who come here want to know, am I going to get spit on?
10:36Yes.
10:37Did you wonder that?
10:38Yeah.
10:39We're all asking ourselves on the way over here.
10:40I was gonna say.
10:41Now, if you were to get spit on, it's definitely stinky, but it doesn't harm us in any way.
10:46We have wipes.
10:47We will clean you up.
10:48How are you feeling?
10:49I'm good.
10:50My tics are good.
10:51My tics get a little bit more when I'm excited.
10:55There are no worries here.
10:56My tics can be elevated from any type of emotion.
11:00And even though my tics are very active right now, I'm not distressed.
11:05It's just because of how excited I am to touch the fluffy.
11:10Hi, everybody.
11:14Oh, my God.
11:16I love you.
11:17Hi, buddy.
11:18How you doing?
11:19That thing's giant.
11:20Oh!
11:21Hold on, bud.
11:22Here.
11:23Holy...
11:24Come here.
11:25I got the good stuff right there at the bottom.
11:26Jesus.
11:27Hey, hey, hey.
11:28The thing's stuck on there.
11:29The thing's stuck on there, buddy.
11:30There.
11:31Get out of there.
11:32Get out of there.
11:33They end up with a lot of farms.
11:34Oh, no!
11:35Somebody spit on me.
11:36Doctor, this guy just spit on me.
11:39Oh, hell no.
11:40No way.
11:41And that's why his lips hanging down.
11:43Oh, ho, ho, ho, ho.
11:45There we go.
11:46Come on.
11:47Sprint.
11:48Shake it.
11:49Look at him in a trot.
11:51I got you wet.
11:52Yum, yum.
11:54You're a sweetie.
11:56You don't do kisses?
11:59Me and Colin are planning a wedding.
12:01Do you guys let the alpacas be at weddings?
12:04We've taken a couple of alpacas to the wedding.
12:06Oh, wow.
12:07We had pictures with the bride and groom.
12:08So that's the first thing we're thinking about is if alpacas are coming.
12:12Have you done any other venue?
12:15Because you haven't really asked me for any help, so.
12:18We honestly, there's very, you're bald.
12:20There's very minimal planning.
12:21We haven't started.
12:22Okay.
12:23But we need to start looking for venues.
12:24I thought maybe you were leaving me out.
12:25No.
12:26Let you know.
12:27Being that's our first child that's engaged to be married, I would love to be super involved.
12:35Al wants to be in the wedding.
12:37Al wants to be making the plans.
12:38I'm already in the wedding.
12:39I'm already guaranteed a dance.
12:40Al's already making videos.
12:42Al's getting baby pictures.
12:44Al's crying at night.
12:46I'm gonna, I'm, it's gonna, it's fine.
12:49It's alright.
12:50Oh my goodness.
12:52Hey, can we, can we talk?
12:54Huh?
12:55Can we talk?
12:56Yeah honey.
12:57Okay.
12:58Where?
12:59Right now?
13:00Yeah.
13:01Like, over there.
13:02Just recently, Colin shared with me that when he went to go talk to my parents about
13:09getting a blessing, my dad said that he had no, no blessing to give.
13:13I would like to have both of your blessings to have your daughter's hand in marriage.
13:15return to marriage. I knew it was coming. I just knew it. I don't really have an answer
13:19other than whatever Balaam wants to do, she's got our blessing. I am just confused. I don't
13:30think I actually do have his blessing. Colin knows that I plan on talking to my dad about it,
13:37but this isn't about Colin. This is about me and my dad, because with wedding planning
13:45and everything coming around the corner, I need clarity.
13:50So with our wedding coming up, you're bald. With wedding planning, and I wanted to ask you
13:58because I heard that when Colin went to suck George Washington's
14:03when I heard that Colin went to you and mom to ask for y'all's blessing, and you said
14:11that there was no blessing to give, and I just want to know what that meant.
14:20I expected Balaam to actually bring this up at some point. I mean, not today.
14:28It's important to have this conversation, but I'm nervous, yeah.
14:33When I leave the house, I have to flick the lights three times before I leave, because
14:39if I only do it once, then something bad's going to happen on the way to the airport.
14:43Sammy's anxiety and OCD becomes disabling.
14:46She has done a very good job at hiding it.
14:50I can't really enjoy anything.
14:51You're like a prisoner to your own thoughts.
14:54We have been talking about our marriage, and it started with some premarital counseling.
15:04I'm confused with why they're bringing up counseling.
15:08Colin looks pissed.
15:10I was confused with when you said that there was no blessing to give, and I just want to
15:27know what that meant.
15:28I didn't mean it to be like, oh my God, well, I don't prove a cop.
15:33Like, I'll do whatever Balaam wants to do.
15:36That is my blessing.
15:37That is my, like, hey, if Balaam's okay, we are okay.
15:42What's really sunk in that now it's them.
15:45It's not her, it's them.
15:46Anyone who's in your life needs to protect you.
15:50I know where you were when you're manic, and from where you are right now to where you
15:55were.
15:56Great.
15:57Amazing.
15:57Amazing.
15:58When he stepped into your life, it's kind of like at a time where I think that's really
16:04helped you move forward.
16:07There's such a realism with this condition, because my whole focus up until she met Colin
16:13was, how can we get Balaam better?
16:16Four to five years ago, Balaam was in the darkest place of her life.
16:19There's some things that people don't know.
16:21A lot of things.
16:23And something that I'm still grappling with.
16:28I just want to make sure that, like, suck a fat bitch.
16:32That there was no harsh feelings.
16:35Oh my God, no.
16:37We love you guys, okay?
16:39We're just truly grateful to even, like, be on this adventure.
16:43And whatever you guys want to do in your wedding is fine by me.
16:45I'm 100%.
16:46You're talking about this adventure.
16:47Dad, without you and Mom, I wouldn't be here.
16:49So, thank you.
16:50You're the best dad ever.
16:51I love you.
16:52Thanks.
16:53I love you.
16:54I'm here to help you whenever you need, okay?
16:57I love you.
16:59I'm very, very glad that we talked, because I was able to get more clarity.
17:03But also, at the end of the day, like, I'm still marrying Colin.
17:06It's actually crazy that we're walking out back.
17:08Yeah, it's way cooler than I thought.
17:10I hope that my parents are now starting to see how amazing Colin is, because he's proved
17:15over and over and over and time and time again that he's for me.
17:19What's going on, Graham?
17:24Your hair looks so good.
17:38You look so much greater.
17:41Candy is Mima, and she is my mom.
17:46Wow, you look a little fried today.
17:48I got all the sun today.
17:50You're so tired.
17:52Mima lives both in New York and in Florida, but she will not let life get in the way of
18:00being a part of her grandkids' lives.
18:01I'm excited to be here, because I don't even remember when the last time was that I spent
18:11Easter with the family.
18:12Oh, dear.
18:13Yeah, so are you.
18:15Easter.
18:17Everything that they're involved in, I want to be involved in.
18:20I love them to death.
18:21Baylin has always had that special place in my heart.
18:24And I don't look at Bay as having Tourette's.
18:28I see Bay as she's got the biggest heart.
18:31Oh, Bay, it's beautiful.
18:34I think Baylin and Colin make a great couple.
18:36I think the engagement was awesome.
18:39Is Colin here?
18:40Mm-mm.
18:40No Colin?
18:40He's at work.
18:41Oh, that bitch.
18:43I know.
18:46Where's Sammy?
18:47No, Sammy.
18:48She just couldn't do it.
18:49You know how it goes with her.
18:51I know.
18:51And she felt bad, and I didn't want to make her feel bad.
18:53Come on, Winnie.
18:54Let's go outside.
18:55I'm going to take Winnie out.
18:57I'm going to FaceTime Sammy about the alpaca farm.
19:00Come on.
19:01He needs to go out.
19:04I miss Sammy, and I love her.
19:06And I know it's getting harder and harder for her to travel.
19:09Sammy's anxiety and OCD becomes disabling.
19:12She has done a very good job at hiding it,
19:16but it has become more difficult for her to travel
19:21because of it being at a very high peak.
19:29Are you taking a ?
19:31Pick up.
19:35Hi.
19:36Hi.
19:37You look sunburned.
19:38I said,
19:38No, it was a long day.
19:40I'm not kidding you.
19:41We missed you.
19:42I know.
19:43I miss you guys, too.
19:44But I'm the only one that really has to take a flight there.
19:47So then when mom's like,
19:48Oh, just get on the flight.
19:50It's fine.
19:51Like, oh, it's just a quick little flight.
19:52Like, it's not.
19:53When I leave the house,
19:54I have to flick the lights three times before me
19:57because if I only do it once,
19:58then something bad's going to happen on the way to the airport.
20:00I can only say certain things.
20:02I can only wear a certain pair of shoes.
20:05I have to sit in row 13 or 14 right over the wing in the aisle seat.
20:09Every time I get on the plane,
20:10I have to, like, look at the cockpit
20:12and make sure that all of the buttons are on.
20:15When I was eight years old,
20:16I knew I had to do things a certain way,
20:17but I wasn't sure why.
20:19And that's when I started therapy
20:20because if I didn't do something
20:22the way that my brain would tell me to,
20:24something was going to happen.
20:26Like, not terrible, like,
20:27Oh, I'm going to get an F in school.
20:29Terrible, like, I'm going to die.
20:31Somebody in my family is going to die.
20:33Car accidents.
20:33Like, my brain goes AWOL.
20:36I can't really, like, enjoy anything.
20:37You're like a prisoner to your own thoughts.
20:40For me, everything has to feel perfect
20:42or else I will redo it 60 times.
20:44Like, if I were to throw that marker over there on the table
20:47and it were to land sideways, I'd flip it.
20:49Or I'd flip it again because it doesn't feel right.
20:51Or I'd twist it because it doesn't feel right.
20:53Or I'd need to do it again
20:54and throw it in the right angle
20:55at the right time at the right place.
20:56It's literally, like, mind controlling.
20:58Like, I'm in my own prison locked behind bars.
21:00No one knows or no one sees.
21:03It's, like, always constantly...
21:05In your head.
21:06Uh-huh.
21:06That was a big struggle growing up,
21:08watching Balan deal with all of her own issues
21:10and then also dealing with mine.
21:12It's almost like we both failed, my parents.
21:14How were we raised by two absolutely selfless,
21:17caring, supportive parents
21:20and then we're both, like, down in the basement
21:22because we shared a room, like, struggling.
21:25But also in a way, like, I found comfort and safety
21:27within Balan because we did both struggle
21:29with kind of sort of the same things,
21:30even if they were a little bit different
21:32on each sides of the spectrum.
21:35I still do want to see you
21:37and I also have a wedding to plan
21:39and I need my maid of honor to do that, so...
21:42Okay, boo.
21:47Sammy knows that she's my maid of honor
21:49because, like, it would be so rude
21:52if I picked someone else over her.
21:54Like, no one gets her place.
21:55Okay!
21:57I'm so excited.
22:02So are there any plans?
22:04Are there any wedding plans?
22:05What is... what's...
22:07I mean, it's like, I think that they've been, like,
22:08scrolling online and glancing.
22:10That's the idea I'm getting from her,
22:11but you just hear within the next year.
22:15And things are different.
22:15Like, when we got married, we had...
22:17Like, if you're gonna get married in the church,
22:18the church makes you go through the counseling.
22:22And then after that, then you can set up your...
22:24And then you...
22:25Like, it was kind of laid out for you.
22:27You had a plan.
22:28And Julie and I have talked about this.
22:30Even if it's not even called counseling,
22:31maybe if it's just, you know, marriage guidance
22:33or whatever it is,
22:34I think that's something they should look into.
22:37It's not like something that you go,
22:38I wish I would have never went there.
22:40Nobody's gonna lay out in counseling
22:42or marriage guidance exactly how things are gonna pan out for you
22:45because people change over time.
22:48Your finances change over time.
22:49The demands of children and family and...
22:51Like, all of the things change
22:53and you change and develop as people.
22:55I think those are really important things
22:57that that third party will make them more aware of.
23:01Yeah.
23:02I just feel like that would be a bonus
23:03and that's why I'm a really big fan
23:05of, like, mentioning it to them.
23:07I just don't want them to be offended.
23:09His family is very religious.
23:12Very.
23:13Very spiritual people.
23:14Yes.
23:14Good people.
23:15So they're probably going to want the same thing, okay?
23:18Where's your connection spiritually?
23:20Are they going to continue to live where they're at?
23:22I don't know.
23:23I don't know what all of those things are,
23:26but that's the whole premise of this.
23:28I feel a little bit in the dark.
23:30I think knowing what Colin wants to do
23:33after the military would be kind of a relief.
23:36But we don't want to be overbearing.
23:37Al was a little tough with him.
23:40He was, like, very in his face,
23:42like, this is my girl.
23:43And Colin so far has passed the test
23:46through Alan's toughness.
23:48But that doesn't mean that there isn't
23:50some, like, residual feelings of, like,
23:52you know, here your parents are kind of,
23:54you know, intervening in our life again.
23:58We're thinking about heading there this week
24:01and kind of introducing it to them.
24:05And I hope the talk doesn't go awry.
24:17Personally, I don't feel the best
24:18about going to the grocery store myself.
24:21Me and grocery stores have a very complicated relationship
24:24because of my tics.
24:24If I don't get my tics and anxiety under control,
24:30I'm going to end up on the ground.
24:31I am making my first homemade red velvet cake
24:47from scratch for Colin's 25th birthday.
24:51Colin has no idea.
24:52Colin's going to be really surprised.
24:54Do I want a cupcake?
25:04I love it so much.
25:05I love the sprinkles.
25:07I'll come back for you.
25:08Don't you worry.
25:09Personally, I don't feel the best
25:10about going to the grocery store myself
25:12because me and grocery stores
25:14have a very complicated relationship
25:16because of my tics.
25:18This isn't good for you
25:19because then you're a
25:19That hurt really bad.
25:24How are you going to do this
25:25when you're holding on your own, Bailen?
25:31But since me and Colin
25:33have been living with each other,
25:34there's been times
25:35where I go to the grocery store by myself
25:36and every time that I go to the grocery store,
25:39it's different.
25:40Let's go find purpose flour.
25:42There's no signs, okay?
25:46I've been recorded throughout stores.
25:49People staring at me.
25:51Everyone noticing I'm different.
25:53It gives me a lot of anxiety
25:55to go out in public.
25:57Wait, I think there's vanilla pudding.
26:00Hold up.
26:01We got vanilla pudding.
26:03Wait, do I need jello
26:05or do I need pudding?
26:06What the f*** is the difference?
26:08I don't want to f*** this up.
26:10Is this pudding?
26:12I have never shot
26:14for half these ingredients before.
26:16Buttermilk.
26:17That'd be like
26:18buttermilk pancakes
26:19or like...
26:20I don't think pancake mix
26:22goes in cakes.
26:23And I honestly have no idea
26:25what I'm looking for.
26:27F***.
26:27Heavy whipping cream.
26:28Mascarone, cheese.
26:30Okay, none of that's down here.
26:32Did I pronounce that right?
26:34Mascarone?
26:36Mascarone?
26:38F***.
26:39F***.
26:39F***.
26:40It's got some French-Italian bougie.
26:43Mascarone.
26:45Ha!
26:45Woo-hoo!
26:47Bread all-purpose.
26:49I'm starting to get anxious
26:51and my tics are acting up
26:53and...
26:54especially...
26:56my motor tics.
26:58Ha!
26:58And when my anxiety
27:01goes up...
27:02my OCD gets worse.
27:06I'm like really distracted
27:07right now.
27:11F*** you, bitch.
27:14Hey, f***ing almond bitch.
27:16If I don't get my tics
27:17and anxiety under control,
27:18I won't be able to walk
27:19through the grocery store.
27:20Okay, heavy whipping...
27:22I'm gonna end up on the ground.
27:27Oh, f*** you, bitch.
27:30Goddamn!
27:31If I want to finish this
27:33and get home...
27:34It's time to put these on.
27:37I need to put headphones on.
27:39Headphones and music
27:40is the one thing
27:42that soothes my tics.
27:44So it's kind of like
27:45distracting your brain.
27:46The type of music
27:47that I listen to
27:48to help my tics
27:49is country music,
27:51Christian music,
27:53because they're soothing.
27:55Ha!
27:55Found the buttermilk.
27:57If I can put headphones on
27:58to ease my anxiety,
28:00it's almost like
28:01my body is calm.
28:06Mascarone cheese.
28:08Oh my God,
28:09I don't know if they have it.
28:11What's in this jar?
28:14No?
28:16I have a question.
28:22Yes?
28:23Where would the
28:24Mascarone cheese be?
28:26It would be right there.
28:27Go, uh...
28:28I'll tell you where to stop.
28:30Okay.
28:30Little more, little more,
28:31little more.
28:32It should be right there.
28:33Ha! Yes!
28:34Thank you!
28:35All right.
28:36It feels really good
28:37to push through something
28:38that I was scared to do
28:40in the first place.
28:43Oh my God,
28:44it smells so good.
28:45I'm getting two.
28:45Of course the cupcake's a reward.
28:48When I do hard things,
28:49I give myself tweets.
28:52Oh no, no, no, no!
28:54I have Tourette's syndrome,
28:56so if you notice anything,
28:58just don't mind me.
28:59No, it's not good.
29:00Okay.
29:00It's not good.
29:01The shopping trip
29:04wasn't perfect,
29:05but it was successful,
29:06and I did it by myself.
29:08It takes time.
29:10Anything with time,
29:11anything with practice,
29:11like, I feel more comfortable.
29:13I don't like the name Mike.
29:15Oh, man.
29:17Oh, God, no!
29:18Now I gotta go home
29:19and bake this sucker.
29:21You know?
29:21There we go.
29:28It's really nerve-wracking
29:30to bake your first cake
29:32from scratch.
29:33Weenie!
29:34Colin gets home
29:35from work at five.
29:36Wait, wait.
29:37My parents are coming later.
29:39I feel like
29:39it's a race against time.
29:41I'm more than nervous,
29:42actually.
29:43It's really nerve-wracking
30:09to bake your first cake
30:11from scratch
30:12for your significant
30:13other's birthday.
30:14Did me!
30:15I've used the oven before.
30:17Not a good idea.
30:18There was one time
30:18I made cookies.
30:22Listen, they were baking
30:23all night.
30:23What do you want me to say?
30:25I forgot to turn
30:27the oven off.
30:29That's not safe.
30:31But it's really important
30:33for me to be able
30:34to use the kitchen
30:36by also not hurting myself,
30:38hurting others,
30:39or burning down
30:40our whole apartment.
30:42What are you guys doing?
30:44Colin gets home
30:45from work at five.
30:46My parents are coming
30:47over later for his birthday,
30:48and I appreciate
30:49my parents making efforts
30:50to get closer to Colin.
30:53So that means
30:54I have a total
30:54of about five hours
30:56to finish this cake.
30:59You guys are
30:59going to look at that!
31:01Thank God,
31:01I do have reinforcement.
31:04Oh, my goodness!
31:05Here, let me take this.
31:08Look at that!
31:08They look so cute!
31:10They got their hair cut
31:11for the baby!
31:12Oh, my goodness!
31:12They can see!
31:14Leela and I met
31:16off of a friendship-making app.
31:18I have everything laid out
31:20that I think we need.
31:21Perfect!
31:22I still talk to Eileen
31:24and Olivia.
31:25They're still very close
31:26people in my life.
31:27They're just out of state,
31:29so I don't see them as much,
31:30so I decided to sign up
31:31for a friendship app
31:32and meet new people,
31:34and we really just
31:35hit it off.
31:36We're very aligned
31:37in the head.
31:38Like, I get her,
31:40and she is very
31:42good with my tics.
31:44The vision may not be
31:46what we're actually
31:47replicating.
31:48Balen did not say
31:49that she had Tourette's Syndrome.
31:51On her friendship app profile,
31:53she texted me
31:54before we were about
31:55to go out to eat
31:55that she has Tourette's Syndrome.
31:57Look at this!
31:58Step-by-step instructions.
31:59Pre-heat oven!
32:00I literally online-ed
32:02looked it up
32:03because I didn't want
32:03to offend Balen
32:04in any type of way
32:05because she was really
32:06like the first person
32:07that I met
32:08who had Tourette's Syndrome.
32:09We're going to do
32:09a red velvet 2-5 cake
32:11because he's turning 25.
32:13And then we're going
32:14to cut out
32:15these little pictures
32:15and stick them on sticks
32:16and put them in there.
32:17I never made something
32:18so extravagant before.
32:19He may get a 2-3
32:21for his birthday
32:22for all I know.
32:23Me and Balen
32:23have done cooking
32:24and baking in the past.
32:26We're doing teamwork.
32:27There you go.
32:27Do you want to try it?
32:28Yeah, I do.
32:28I've learned
32:32to be more helpful
32:33to her.
32:34You've got to be
32:35almost kind of ready
32:35for anything.
32:36Okay, there we go.
32:39I try to be mindful
32:40and make it a bit safer.
32:45What did you just do?
32:46Oh my God, smell that.
32:47Oh my God!
32:48It feels like
32:49it's been left out
32:50for nine years.
32:51There's a lot of scents
32:52that set my tics off
32:54and this is the first time
32:56I'm smelling buttermilk.
32:57This smells like
32:58Beckner's feet
32:59after his baseball game
33:00last week.
33:00Wait, wait, wait.
33:02There's trash.
33:03There's buttermilk.
33:0510 out of 10.
33:05Disgusting.
33:07Ever seen an egg
33:07crack this way?
33:08Weenie!
33:10Perfect.
33:11See that?
33:11Just two more times.
33:12Just two more?
33:13Yeah, don't put your hand
33:13there because I don't want
33:14that going to hurt.
33:17We tapped that weenie.
33:18Tap the rotisserie chicken.
33:20I did so good
33:21for the longest time.
33:22I really did.
33:24Throughout the day,
33:26my tics always progress.
33:32He's going to love it.
33:34I think he will like it.
33:35It's just,
33:36when am I going to finish this?
33:38So this is going to bake
33:39for 30 minutes
33:40and then we can get it
33:41all set up to where
33:42you can just do
33:43the decorating, you know?
33:44Okay.
33:45It's a little ambitious.
33:47Perfect.
33:48Do you care putting
33:48both them in?
33:49Yeah, I can do that.
33:50I'll put it down.
33:50And I'm going to put
33:52a timer on my phone.
33:54I put it for 26 minutes
33:55instead of 25 minutes
33:56because I do everything
33:57in three sixes or nines.
33:59And that's my OCD
34:00is everything has to be
34:01in threes.
34:01It just makes sense
34:02in my head.
34:03Okay.
34:04It doesn't make sense
34:05in Collins
34:05and Colin adjusts
34:06to it very, very well.
34:07It's literally constant.
34:09Yes, it's all day,
34:10every day.
34:11I didn't really know
34:12that she had OCD
34:13so aggressively.
34:15Even the time
34:16it has to be in threes
34:17and I'm like,
34:18I cannot do that
34:18head math, so.
34:20Um, it's fine.
34:22It's fine.
34:27Oh, there's a timer.
34:29All right,
34:29let's check her out.
34:32Oh, she's done.
34:34You're done.
34:35You're done.
34:36I am very proud
34:37of Vaylin
34:38because she's making
34:39progress to be
34:40more independent
34:40and she's able
34:41to do more
34:42by herself now.
34:45Your mom squirted.
34:47I'm sorry.
34:49Okay, okay,
34:49my chair is going
34:50to be here
34:51in three minutes.
34:52Send me a picture
34:52of it when it's done.
34:54I will.
34:54Love you.
34:55Sorry I couldn't
34:55stay longer.
34:56No, you're fine.
34:57We didn't get very far.
34:58It's been a long time
35:00but it's not,
35:00it didn't get very far
35:01so we'll see how it goes.
35:04I'm going to get
35:05the door for you.
35:06Am I nervous?
35:07I'm more than nervous
35:08actually to have
35:09leave and have me
35:11finish the cake
35:11by myself.
35:12Bye.
35:13Bye.
35:13Okay, I have a little
35:15bit of time.
35:16I hope.
35:17I feel like it's
35:18a race against time
35:19and I'm a perfectionist.
35:21I just want you guys
35:22to know I have no idea
35:23what I'm doing.
35:23I hope you guys know that.
35:25Ah!
35:26Happy birthday.
35:27Thanks.
35:28Walking into the apartment
35:29for Colin's birthday
35:30were a little reserved
35:31to bring up
35:32marital counseling.
35:33I hope this goes
35:34as well as we've
35:35talked about.
35:36I think it would be
35:37a good tool to have.
35:39I'm sure this wasn't
35:40the birthday
35:40Colin was expecting.
35:57Don't look at me
35:58with that side eye.
35:59You're about to
36:00fall over, Tootie.
36:02Guys,
36:03why are you trying
36:04to take your crown off,
36:05Laf?
36:05You guys,
36:06stay put for Colin.
36:08I'm gonna get the cake.
36:12I'm really excited
36:13about the finished product
36:14and how it turned out.
36:16I'm ready to rumble!
36:18But the way that I had
36:19envisioned it was not
36:20the way that it turned
36:21out looking.
36:22Please do not mess up.
36:25Oh my, please.
36:26Holy balls, man!
36:36It's up the whole cake.
36:39But it's for Colin
36:41and if I see a smile
36:42on his face
36:43then that's all that matters.
36:47Happy birthday!
36:48What do you guys
36:52have on?
36:52Oh my goodness!
36:54Oh, babe.
36:55What the heck?
36:56Babe, this is sick.
36:58How did you do all that?
36:59You got my sunburnt
37:00picture on there?
37:00Oh yeah,
37:01you didn't need sunscreen.
37:02That's awesome.
37:04I was working on this
37:05all day
37:05and I picked out
37:0525 photos.
37:07Pumpkin still hasn't moved.
37:09Pumpkin.
37:10Oh, there you go.
37:12All better.
37:12Are you gonna wear it?
37:14If I'm wearing one,
37:15you gotta wear one.
37:17This is cool, babe.
37:18Thank you so much.
37:19I wasn't making
37:19tiramisu.
37:20That's too much
37:21for the first time.
37:23Wait, you made this
37:24cake from scratch?
37:25Yeah.
37:25You didn't buy it?
37:26No.
37:27Wow, that's impressive.
37:29Balen has always
37:30struggled with being
37:31in the kitchen
37:32so for her to spend
37:33all day making a cake
37:35it just shows that
37:36she is trying to
37:38improve on her
37:38independence
37:39and it just makes
37:40me super proud of her.
37:43Oh, my goodness.
37:45Hey, bitch.
37:46Hi.
37:46How are you doing, babe?
37:47Thanks for coming.
37:48Happy birthday, Colin.
37:51Happy birthday, buddy.
37:52Thanks.
37:53Walking into the apartment
37:54for Colin's birthday
37:55were a little reserved
37:57to bring up
37:57marital counseling.
37:59Happy birthday.
38:01This is not us
38:02criticizing or evaluating
38:03the relationship
38:04so I hope this goes
38:06as well as
38:07we've talked about.
38:09So, you made the cake?
38:11Me and Leela.
38:12Yeah.
38:12Oh, Leela came.
38:14Mm-hmm.
38:14It looks great.
38:15So this is how it started
38:16and then I cut it
38:18with my plastic knives.
38:20Oh, my gosh, stop.
38:21Yeah.
38:21It's surreal.
38:22It's unbelievable.
38:23I don't have the adjectives
38:24to describe how
38:25my mama heart feels.
38:27It was so much fun to make.
38:29I'm glad you liked it.
38:30Yeah.
38:31Where she's come
38:32in the last,
38:34I guess, even six months
38:35but where she started
38:35from five, six years ago
38:37to this point
38:38is astounding
38:40to say the least.
38:41Well, thanks for letting us
38:42ambush your birthday.
38:44Of course.
38:44Yeah.
38:45I definitely feel like
38:46Colin has improved
38:47Balen's self-confidence
38:48and overall
38:50well-being.
38:52This is good.
38:54I made it.
38:55That's really good.
38:55It tastes like ice cream.
38:56I'm not even a red velvet person
38:58and I'm loving it.
38:58I think that you could
38:59make the wedding cake.
39:01We're sitting here,
39:02the mood is good
39:03and I'm thinking to myself,
39:05they have no idea
39:06what we're about to tell them.
39:07We've practiced
39:09how we're going
39:09to articulate it enough
39:11so that I think
39:12our presentation
39:13is going to be smooth.
39:14I hope that it is perceived well.
39:19All right,
39:20so this is kind of off topic
39:21but there is just
39:24something kind of important
39:26that Al and I would like
39:28to talk to you guys about.
39:29Mm-hmm.
39:29But don't be worried.
39:32Okay.
39:34So
39:34we have been talking
39:39about our marriage
39:40and like the steps
39:42of, you know,
39:44to where we're at
39:46and the parts of it
39:47that have made us successful
39:49and it started
39:50with some premarital counseling.
39:54Mm-hmm.
39:55This isn't like a
39:59like a
40:00let's see if we fit
40:01and if we don't
40:02we're breaking up.
40:02That's not...
40:04It's more like...
40:05More like guidance.
40:06Like, hey,
40:06this is what you're in for, right?
40:07Like, are you on the same
40:09mindset and principles
40:11and fundamentals
40:13regarding things in life?
40:15And I don't want you guys
40:16to be offended
40:17but I think
40:19I think it would be
40:21a good tool to have.
40:25I had a conversation
40:26with my dad
40:27that I thought
40:28went well.
40:31So I'm confused
40:32with why they're
40:33bringing up counseling.
40:35I'm sure this wasn't
40:37the birthday
40:37Colin was expecting.
40:39Colin looks pissed.
40:42Yeah, I thought
40:43everything was fine
40:45but this is
40:46definitely a curveball.
40:48Do they think
40:48our relationship
40:50is not in good standing?
40:55I can't look at the chickens.
41:03Chase after the weenie.
41:05Joe Biden does crystal math.
41:07I have Tourette syndrome, stupid.
41:09Tourette syndrome
41:10is a neurological
41:11involuntary motor
41:12and vocal disorder.
41:13You're bald, Chuck.
41:15Just in case
41:15you weren't aware already.
41:16Yeah.
41:17I would like to have
41:18a bouncy house
41:18at the wedding.
41:19Are you four years old?
41:22Two girls night.
41:24Oh my God.
41:26I'm not like
41:26every other bride.
41:27Have you guys ever
41:28had alpacas at a wedding?
41:31Nice to meet you.
41:32Nice to meet you.
41:32I'm the owner here.
41:34Dick.
41:35You okay?
41:37Eat a bag of this.
41:38In thinking about
41:39your budget,
41:40you're not gonna love
41:41what I have to tell you.
41:42What if we can't
41:44have our dream wedding?
41:45I would be devastated.
41:47We're making
41:48the right decision, right?
41:50I don't know, are we?
41:51Oh my God!
41:53Oh my gosh!
41:55Dylan!
41:56What do you think?
41:57It's amazing.
41:59I want her to be able
42:00to say,
42:01this is the best day ever.
42:04Each time I crawl
42:05Take me the world
42:07to me, okay?
42:07You made me a lion
42:09and I'm ready to roll
42:11You guys are getting married.
42:13You're gonna eventually
42:14want children.
42:15I get a steady paycheck
42:16in the military
42:17and my contract
42:20will be expiring
42:21in about a year.
42:22A medical plan
42:23is probably
42:24the number one thing
42:26when it comes to jobs.
42:27Our father,
42:28he's having a lot
42:30of influence
42:31on our lives right now.
42:34His life is tough.
42:35You add children.
42:36them kids.
42:37Please don't be offended.
42:39My parents bringing
42:40up premarital counseling.
42:41Kind of just felt weird.
42:42We're going one step forward
42:43and three steps.
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