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00:00I realize this isn't going to be easy, you little bitch.
00:03Yep.
00:04What are we doing?
00:06I've been working on a surprise I want to share with the family, but especially Balin.
00:11Let's have the wedding here in the backyard.
00:16I don't think my parents' backyard is Colin's first wedding venue choice.
00:20And honestly, I'm a little afraid to ask.
00:30I want to party tonight.
00:40Merry weenies.
00:41I want to party.
00:44Hey, guys.
00:48Hey, babe.
00:48Smells good in here.
00:50How was work?
00:51Work was good.
00:52Long.
00:53But I'm here.
00:55What are you making?
00:56Wanted up cooking up a home-cooked meal.
01:00After Colin opened up in couples therapy about how stressed he's been with money, I thought that it would be a good idea to start not eating out as much, so I'm cooking more.
01:11The stove is still a danger to me because I can still easily burn myself, so I'm trying out safer options like a slow cooker.
01:19I'm doing some pulled chicken motions right now.
01:22I did have to spend a little bit of money.
01:24I have some pretty cool kitchen gadgets that help me with shredding and cutting so I don't have to use sharp objects.
01:31It's a tick-proof tool.
01:33And then I made mac and cheese, which probably needs to be stirred.
01:37Whoa.
01:37It's not warm because I had to start it off.
01:41It's okay.
01:42It looks good.
01:44I'm a little nervous.
01:45My parents are coming to join us.
01:47The last time I saw my dad, he pitched,
01:49The backyard is a wedding venue.
01:51It's hard for me to have serious conversations because I don't like confrontation, so I haven't even told Colin yet.
01:58That's exactly why I invited my parents to dinner.
02:00That's 100% my dad's job.
02:02Wow, it smells really good.
02:12Thanks.
02:13I've been cooking all day.
02:14Yeah.
02:15I shredded a whole block of cheese with a cheese hand grater that you get from the nail slime.
02:20Yeah.
02:28Fucking bitch.
02:29And it started setting off my dystonic tics.
02:33So then I got really worried that I wouldn't, like, be able to finish.
02:37So I put country music on my headphones so it helped soothe my tics.
02:41So I was able to do all of it.
02:43Yeah.
02:44And I made a salad.
02:45I made a salad.
02:50We know how much effort it takes for Balin just to cook a dish, let alone an entire meal.
02:56So we were happily surprised by the random dinner invite.
02:59You're killing me.
03:01You got to tell me what this whole thing is about.
03:04Yeah, this was quite a little last-minute surprise.
03:07Yeah.
03:07Special meal at the Dupree Dooley house.
03:11Well, I knew we had some things to talk about.
03:14Oh, the chicken's good.
03:17Yeah.
03:17So what's the latest with wedding planning?
03:20Have you guys looked at venues?
03:24Balin, have you thought about...
03:26Have you told Colin?
03:27No.
03:28What better time to do that than now?
03:30You're...
03:31Are you kidding me?
03:34Tell me what.
03:35Colin.
03:36Wait.
03:37Hold on, Colin.
03:37Here, Colin.
03:38Here's...
03:38You might want to sit down.
03:42Okay.
03:42So?
03:43When I went to go, you know, barbecue with the family, we had a very nice discussion of
03:51a layout in the backyard for our wedding.
03:53Like having our wedding in my parents' backyard.
04:01That was the Al...
04:01How do you feel about that?
04:03That was the Al suggestion.
04:06Having our wedding.
04:08Our wedding in the backyard.
04:09You picture it.
04:10You open up the door, and you see me walking down the stairs.
04:14I really don't have words.
04:17I'm really just trying to wrap my head around it all.
04:20Like, I wouldn't really picture our wedding being there.
04:24I mean, there's a lot of bugs.
04:26There's also a lot of dog poop in the yard.
04:29I just offered it out there because I know if she needed an emotional break due to overstimulation,
04:37ticks, she could have her emotional break in the house.
04:40That's all I wanted to offer, and that's all it is.
04:46I mean, listen, Balin.
04:48I am warming up to the idea of certain aspects of it, only because I know that your struggles
04:54are real.
04:55Mm-hmm.
04:56And I know finances mean a lot to you.
04:59Okay.
05:00Scumbag.
05:01Yeah.
05:01This is kind of like a tricky situation.
05:04I really am concerned about the expenses kind of getting out of hand for the wedding, so
05:09I don't want to ignore a way for us to save money.
05:13But on the other hand, Balin has really been working really hard to be more independent.
05:18Having this wedding in her parents' backyard would be kind of like pushing her back into
05:23the fold.
05:24Yeah.
05:25I mean, I think it really just comes down to what we can find, right?
05:29Like, if we can't really find anything within our budget.
05:32But that's all.
05:33You got options, man.
05:34Yeah.
05:35Definitely.
05:36It doesn't hurt to have options.
05:37Yes.
05:37Yeah.
05:38It's good to have options.
05:40You could have told me yourself, you know?
05:43I mean, I know, but I just still don't know how I feel about it, so.
05:47All right.
05:47We're out of here.
05:48Everything was so good.
05:50Plus, I really don't want to hurt my dad's feelings.
05:53He put dick.
05:54A lot of thought into this.
05:56Dick.
05:57All right.
05:57I love you.
05:58Thanks, bae.
05:58Thanks, Colin.
05:59So, the big question is, are we able to make everyone happy, including ourselves?
06:05Yeah.
06:05So, right now, we'll keep the backyard option on the table.
06:21Just tap it in.
06:23Just tap.
06:23Oh, it's good.
06:24That's a great restart for me.
06:30Oh, that's stroke three.
06:32We needed a mini break from wedding planning.
06:36And what's more mini than mini golf?
06:39It's all nips.
06:40It's all nips.
06:41We're doing mini golf because we've got a pro golfer over here.
06:44I just started pulling in, but I am competitive.
06:49I'm in the water.
06:51You pulled it.
06:54No re-dos.
06:55Play it where it was.
06:57Sweet.
06:59That was a good shot.
07:00Two.
07:00Thanks.
07:01Seven to three.
07:03Six.
07:04To three.
07:06Sir.
07:10Oh.
07:11Because of my dicks.
07:13I do have to face a few obstacles that require a lot of stopping and going.
07:18Colin, I lost my ball.
07:20I know.
07:21I'm not fishing for it either.
07:23Eat a bag of dicks.
07:24Let's go get you a new ball.
07:27One minute.
07:28Someone's calling me.
07:29Hey, Mom.
07:30Hi, baby.
07:31How are you?
07:32What are you doing?
07:33Little mini golf date.
07:34Ian Colin.
07:35Oh, my gosh.
07:35That sounds like so much fun.
07:37It honestly is.
07:38I'm beating him.
07:39Oh, my gosh.
07:40He's probably losing his mind.
07:42Well, I won't keep you too long, but Vector, I would like to have, like, a sleepover, like,
07:47a hangout with you for the weekend.
07:50Okay.
07:51And he brought it up.
07:52He wants to.
07:53Of course he does.
07:54Yeah.
07:55I'm surprised that Beckner requested to have a sleepover with me because, like me, he suffers
08:00from anxiety.
08:01Since moving outside of the house, I don't really know how bad Beckner's anxiety has been.
08:06But I do know it prevents him from doing a lot of things.
08:09I mean, I wasn't really surprised when he brought it up because, like, he misses his sisters.
08:14Like, the boys are a lot sometimes.
08:16He's a lot, but he obviously knows what he wants.
08:20Okay.
08:21I'm definitely thrilled.
08:23I would be thrilled to host Beckner.
08:25I honestly would.
08:26I'm a little, like, nervous.
08:27I've never hosted a kid before.
08:29I'm sure it'll be fine.
08:30Colin, would you care if Beckner spent the night for the weekend?
08:33This weekend?
08:35Yeah.
08:36I have golf plans this weekend, so I don't know how much I would be around.
08:40Okay.
08:41It'll be fine, though.
08:43Yeah.
08:44Take a dick.
08:47Things just got way more complicated.
08:49I'm supposed to do this by myself.
08:51When I get overwhelmed, my tics act up, but I love Beckner, and I want to be able to spend
08:59some time with him.
09:01I know it's a little daunting.
09:02I just think it's good for you.
09:04It's good for him.
09:05We're testing our limits.
09:08Okay.
09:08It'll be a fun little weekend.
09:10He's a handful.
09:12Yeah.
09:13I know.
09:14He's an actual handful.
09:15Mom, he's eight handfuls.
09:16Yep.
09:17So you better be ready.
09:18Okay, bye.
09:20I have no idea what to expect.
09:22This is going to be interesting.
09:27Hola.
09:28Como está?
09:29Muy bien.
09:30You guys ready for this damn sleepover?
09:34It's okay.
09:35It's okay.
09:35Do you think that there's any part of this where you're still just trying to hold on to
09:41Balin?
09:43I haven't shared this story with that many people.
09:47It's just, you know, when I went to pick her up and when I talked about it.
09:51Oh my gosh, we're not talking about this again.
09:59Maybe I was the same as you when I was 15, except back then I still had been.
10:05Big dreams, always listen to the others.
10:07Now my eardrums bleed from the noise inside my head.
10:11Joe fucking buying him.
10:13Give me a chair.
10:15Joe is a young kid that I met at a Tourette's event a couple years ago.
10:19He has Tourette's syndrome.
10:20We stayed in touch through social media.
10:23And that's when I kind of got inspired by who he really is.
10:28Hi, can you see, can you see me?
10:32Yeah, I can see you.
10:33Okay, sweet.
10:34How are you?
10:35I'm good.
10:35How are you?
10:36I'm good.
10:38Joe fucking Biden.
10:39Where did that tick come from?
10:41Remember when the election was going on?
10:44I watched a solid three minutes of the total debate.
10:47Joe fucking Biden's buried in my backyard.
10:50And it's come back.
10:55But yeah, I got it from watching the debate.
10:58Anyways, how are you doing?
11:00How is college?
11:02LSU is really cool.
11:04I'm actually taking summer classes now.
11:06Oh, yeah.
11:08That's another thing about Joe.
11:09He's 12.
11:10And in college.
11:12Obviously, like, people in my class is like six foot, like, plays football.
11:17And I'm just sitting there with my boys like this.
11:20It's hard to make friends.
11:22What are you studying?
11:24Sports management.
11:25I just really like basketball.
11:26Are you good at it?
11:28Yeah.
11:29You sound like you're like my brother Beckner.
11:31He is so cocky.
11:33You're like, yeah, I'm the shit.
11:36Joe reminds me a lot of my brother Beckner because they both like sports.
11:40They're both around the same age.
11:42They're both outdoorsy.
11:43They're both hands-on.
11:44They're both, in a way, mature, well beyond their years.
11:52So how have you been feeling physically lately?
11:54I'm doing good.
11:55Hmm.
11:55Woo-hoo.
11:56Woo-hoo.
11:56Woo-hoo.
11:57I feel like chatting helps my tics a lot because it distracts me from my tics.
12:02I know specifically that I suffer with very, very bad OCD.
12:06I have ADHD and anxiety, and I have ADHD traits.
12:09Do you know what type of co-occurring conditions, like, you specifically have with your Tourette?
12:13OCD and anxiety, definitely.
12:16Tourette syndrome manifests itself differently in everybody.
12:20Joe has verbal and motor tics because he has Tourette syndrome, and you have to have both
12:27to have Tourette syndrome.
12:28Today, I can't assume that he's not ticking because he probably is ticking, but underneath
12:34the table, and we just can't tell.
12:37Joe, what's the hardest thing about making friends your age?
12:41Kids always make fun of me.
12:42Mm-hmm.
12:43On my way to summer camp, I got jumped on the bus because I was ticking.
12:47I was, like, yelling and cursing, and I was blinking my eyes, and I broke my nose and
12:52had a concussion.
12:54Um, so it was rough, but I managed to pull through it.
12:58Joe fucking Biden.
12:59Fucking A-man.
13:02I'm very sorry that that happened.
13:04I mean, it's terrible.
13:08Yeah.
13:10When I hear that Joe got jumped on the school bus, Joe fucking Biden, it's disheartening.
13:17I was also bullied in high school.
13:20I've been recorded throughout stores.
13:23I mean, I get recorded everywhere I go, and people think that it's okay, but that's also
13:28bullying.
13:28Unfortunately, I know what it feels like, but I also want you to know that, like, you're
13:35so loved.
13:36Yeah, and you are loved, too, by the way, so you, too.
13:40Thanks, Joe.
13:41I love to help others with Tourette's when I can because I know what it's like to hate
13:50yourself because of a condition that you have no control over, and I don't want anyone to
13:55feel that, ever.
13:56Gosh, it was so lovely to talk to you, Joe fucking Biden.
14:00I'm Joe.
14:01Yeah, me too.
14:03Bye.
14:04I'm Joe fucking Biden.
14:06Hearing Joe talk really makes me think about Beckner and the way that kids are when you're
14:14younger.
14:16The more I think about it, I want to get those two boys together when Beckner's here.
14:21I have a feeling it'll be good for them, for me, everybody.
14:41My mom and Beckner should be here any minute, so you have to make sure that everything's
14:44perfect.
14:45Okay.
14:46How are you feeling about it?
14:49I'm fine.
14:49I'm a little nervous on how to host a kid, but it's fine.
14:53I mean, I'm just anxious to host somebody and then be in charge of that person.
14:57Yeah, but it's not like he's a two-year-old.
15:00It's not like we have to sit there and wipe his butt on the toilet.
15:02Listen, listen, let me tell you, if we did.
15:08Hola, como estas?
15:09Muy bien, you too?
15:11Muy bien.
15:14What's up, guys?
15:15How you doing?
15:17Good.
15:17How you doing, man?
15:18Good.
15:19You guys ready for this damn sleepover?
15:22What's up, y'all?
15:23It's okay?
15:26Shit's about to get real.
15:27Fill me in on, like, the lowdown of everything, because I really can't stay long.
15:33I have things to make ice cream sundaes.
15:35Games you can play.
15:36I have things to bedazzle.
15:38Beckner will love to bedazzle.
15:40Have you ever bedazzled anything?
15:41I don't know what bedazzle says.
15:43Bedazzle says.
15:44Okay.
15:46I know Baylin does have some nervous jitters about hosting Beckner this weekend for the
15:51first time ever.
15:52Okay, bye, guys.
15:53Bye.
15:53Bye.
15:54Love you.
15:54Get home safe.
15:55But I also know that she's come so far just with her independence and knowing who she
16:00is and what her boundaries are in her life in regards to what she can and can't do.
16:07So this is, I mean, this is groundbreaking, honestly.
16:11It makes my mama heart really proud of her.
16:14Okay, I'm going to show you how to bedazzle.
16:16I'm going to take this, and it goes in the wax.
16:18Well, before y'all get started, bedazzle some stuff.
16:23Bedazzle.
16:24I'm going to go ahead and head out and go golfing, all right?
16:26Okay.
16:26Love you.
16:27I love you.
16:28I had already made plans to go golfing before Baylin scheduled this sleepover with Beckner,
16:32but things are off to a really smooth start, so I feel a lot more comfortable leaving.
16:38I have the brown ones that go over here for B.
16:41Plus, now Baylin and Beckner can have a little one-on-one time.
16:45So?
16:47Wait, I could color them.
16:48No, no, no.
16:52Is something burning?
16:55Wait, wait, wait, what's over there burning?
16:59Yeah, what's burning?
17:02What?
17:02Why is this burning?
17:05Why is this burning?
17:09Yeah, what's burning?
17:15What?
17:17Something's burning.
17:18When I start seeing smoke come out of the stove topper, I'm very much confused.
17:28I mean, I can't go over there.
17:31I mean, one of the knobs was on.
17:34Somebody must have bumped it or something.
17:35My instinct is probably run to the shower and turn it on.
17:42What is the shower going to do for us in this kitchen?
17:45Because if you're burning, just sit in the shower.
17:48It's running water.
17:49We're not burning.
17:51The stovetop is.
17:54Okay.
17:56It's not smoking anymore.
17:58Nothing is going on.
18:00Let's move away from there.
18:02Just be careful when walking by.
18:03This is the exact kind of thing that can push me over the edge.
18:08So I'm very proud that I was able to stay calm.
18:12But now my anxiety is definitely on high alert.
18:17I don't know.
18:18This has never happened.
18:27I can't believe this is our first real do-something date in a century.
18:3130 years?
18:3220 years?
18:33I don't know.
18:35Uh, I think, I think it's-
18:38This is what leads to more kids, but-
18:41What did you just say?
18:43Backner's out of the house for the weekend, so Julie and I thought we'd go out too.
18:47And we haven't had a date night in 25 years because it's been kids and diapers and lack of babysitters.
18:54It's pretty important, I think, in this moment and time for us to still spend time with each other and kind of rekindle why we are together.
19:04Hi.
19:05Hello.
19:06We're here.
19:07Welcome, Al.
19:08Okay.
19:08How are you doing?
19:09Hi.
19:09Al, nice to meet you.
19:10Hi, Al.
19:11I'm April.
19:11So nice to meet you.
19:12Welcome, welcome.
19:12I was like, we could do pottery or bowling, quick dance lesson, and Al was all about, he's like, yeah, let's do pottery.
19:20Then I booked the dance lesson.
19:25Gentle.
19:26Practice.
19:26Gentle.
19:26Go five, six, seven, eight, and one, two, three, four, five, six.
19:33What are you doing?
19:34One, two, one.
19:37You're not leading.
19:38You're not touching your feet.
19:39We're going to take a timeout in a second.
19:40How do we feel?
19:42Can I switch partners?
19:44Yeah, I'm all, like, this is, like, here, let's get the underhooks on this.
19:50Okay.
19:50Julie and I usually have fun no matter what we do.
19:55We met at my cousin's wedding when she was a waitress there.
19:58I was 28, 29 years old, and Julie was 18, 19.
20:02We were the perfect gift for each other at that moment in time.
20:08An accident happened after we got engaged.
20:11It wasn't an accident.
20:12It was.
20:12And I got pregnant with baby Berkey.
20:16And we had already started the plan.
20:18There was no preventative action.
20:20We had started.
20:21Anywhere at all.
20:22We had started the planning changes of the wedding.
20:25You could plan on.
20:26Wedding.
20:27Yes.
20:28We wanted to make sure his birth was legitimate, so we got married at the courthouse before
20:32he was born.
20:33And then we had another wedding seven months later, so I could actually wear the dress.
20:37And, of course, we had baby Berkey with us.
20:40Three or four children is kind of what we both agreed upon.
20:45Yes.
20:46Somehow we garnered up some extra stamina.
20:49What are we doing?
20:50You're just trying to grind my leg.
20:52I'm not trying to grind anything.
20:53If I was, it wouldn't be your leg.
20:57Right?
20:58The one thing I believe that helps make our relationship work is the fact that we admire
21:03each other.
21:03And that truly enhances our commitment to each other.
21:11All right.
21:12Thank you, guys.
21:13Yay.
21:14Very, very welcome.
21:15Let's go check my phone.
21:16Yeah.
21:16Yeah, yeah, yeah.
21:17It's nice that we've taken this time for each other, but the kids are always on our minds.
21:23Truly, that's the first thing I think about when we're done on the dance floor is checking
21:26to make sure that Beckner is okay and things are going smooth.
21:30He hasn't called yet, and she hasn't called.
21:32No news is good news, so I'm all about it.
21:36So.
21:37Do you think Beckner's grilling her over the wedding, or where are they going to have
21:41it?
21:41Are they going to have it at the house?
21:42Oh, gosh.
21:42No, Beckner doesn't.
21:43He's so excited about wanting to have it at the house.
21:47I literally think he doesn't even care about the wedding.
21:50He just wants people to play wiffle ball.
21:51No, I think he's the first person you've definitely convinced.
21:53You have one person on your team.
21:56Al is still really championing this idea of the wedding in the backyard.
22:00It's such a comfortable, safe space, so there's, like, this logical side to it.
22:05And then I also think that Al is stuck, just hanging on to all the pieces of her life.
22:12Do you think that there's any part of this where you're still just trying to hold on to
22:18Balin?
22:19I don't mean in a negative way.
22:21She's your girl.
22:22Hmm.
22:23It's really about, did I do everything that I could to make sure, like, her day was amazing?
22:38It's just, you know, when I went to pick her up and when I talked about her.
22:42Oh, my gosh.
22:43We're not talking about this again.
22:44I haven't shared this story with that many people.
22:49Four years ago, Balin was in college.
22:52We had kind of talked her into going.
22:56Calls.
22:57She's manic.
22:59I get to there, it's a three-plus-hour drive.
23:02And then when I went in there, she was just curled up on the bed with her dog.
23:07And she was like, I'm such a burden.
23:10I'm such a burden.
23:11I can't, I'm like, you're not a burden.
23:13Stop talking like that.
23:14I give her a big hug and I'm like, you're going to be fine.
23:16And she's like, I'm not going to be fine.
23:17I'm not doing good.
23:18And I was like, well, you can't talk like this because it's worrisome.
23:25And I just asked her for my own well-being, like, hey, like, you're not thinking about, like, doing something bad.
23:37Like, you're not thinking about, like, killing yourself, are you?
23:40And she's, like, this far away hugging me.
23:43And she just turned and looked at me and she's, like, this close.
23:46And she's, like, that's all I've thought about for four days is how can I just jump off this roof?
23:54And I was, like, never thought that reaction.
23:58I just never knew what to say.
24:00I just didn't know.
24:01Like, all I kept doing was just hugging her and, like, telling her, like, you don't even know what, like, tomorrow is going to be.
24:10Like, you don't.
24:11You haven't, you haven't, fuck, you haven't even lived your best day.
24:14You don't, you haven't held your own baby.
24:16You haven't, like, gotten married.
24:18You don't know what it's like to, to experience, like, true love, like somebody who'll do anything for me.
24:26Thinking back at that day, I was really just trying to give her hope.
24:35And now what I had said, actually, is coming to fruition, like it's here.
24:40I just don't want her to be in a place where it's an emotional wreck for her and all she ever remembers about her wedding is...
24:54Not enjoying her day.
24:55Yeah.
24:56This is it.
24:56So it matters big time.
24:58It matters to me big time.
24:59Al is holding on to some of his pain from the past in regards to Valen.
25:12I can't relate as deeply because I didn't live in that moment, that deep, dark moment that he experienced with her.
25:20But I can understand because I want to protect her, too.
25:22So I think that that's why this idea of a backyard wedding is so important to him.
25:30Don't put too much pressure on yourself.
25:32You've already done everything.
25:35You've already been the best dad ever.
25:38And we're going to make sure that she has the best, most comfortable day accommodating to her.
25:46And, of course, Colin is part of this, too.
25:50But Colin does a great job with taking the back seat.
25:54He does a good job.
25:54He's happy to be sacrificial and take the back seat because he knows that her needs come before his in a lot of ways.
26:01And that makes him a great human.
26:04Just don't feel heartbroken if this is not the avenue they pick.
26:09And I'm sure she'll still let her dad have some input.
26:14Why?
26:15Well.
26:15One of the traits that I admire most about Alan is just how deeply and unconditionally he cares about our children.
26:28I've always said that it's going to be and it is harder for Al to let go.
26:34Have you decided where you're having your wedding at?
26:40We're still looking.
26:41Well, there's always an open option.
26:43The backyard.
26:44In the backyard?
26:46Yeah.
26:47I know exactly who put Beckner up to this.
26:50Thank you, Alan.
26:52My dad is bald.
26:53Oh, I'm drooping them over the sides.
27:07Dirty martini style?
27:09Mm-hmm.
27:09I don't even know what that is, but yeah.
27:10It's fine.
27:11So, after the fire's been kaput, I'm pretty confident now that me and Beckner can get back to what we're doing.
27:20We're going to have a good night and not tell mom until the morning.
27:22My stomach's already hurting.
27:31I feel like at the end of this, I'm going to have diabetes.
27:34I mean, God.
27:36Please stop.
27:42When my dad found out that I was having a sleepover at Bane Collins' apartment, he gave me a little task.
27:49Have you decided where you're having your wedding at?
27:52Nope.
27:54Sex out.
27:56We're still looking.
27:59We got no idea.
28:01Well, there's always an open option.
28:06The backyard.
28:08Just think about it.
28:09What the flip-flop?
28:14Boy.
28:15First my dad, now Beckner?
28:17I really do kind of like the idea of the backyard wedding.
28:21You save a lot of money.
28:22You don't have to keep looking for stuff.
28:24Get it done way sooner.
28:26What are you talking about?
28:27Where the venue is.
28:30In the backyard?
28:31Yeah.
28:32I know exactly who put Beckner up to this.
28:35Thank you, Alan.
28:38My dad is bald.
28:40It would honestly make dad so happy.
28:42It's just, it'd be nice to just roll out of bed 15 minutes before the wedding.
28:49I would like to have a bouncy house at the wedding.
28:53I don't mean to be rude, darling.
28:54Four years old.
28:55Dad is really pushing hard for this.
29:01But I'm not anywhere close to saying yes to a backyard wedding.
29:05We've only seen one wedding venue so far, so we have no idea what else is out there for us to choose from.
29:11I mean, I only plan on getting married one time, so let's make this one time special.
29:18All right, let's get buff.
29:20I mean, we did just eat ice cream.
29:21I walk right at my own speed.
29:24I don't run for a nobody.
29:28Oh, yeah.
29:29I walk my own way.
29:30No matter what they say.
29:33I like it that way.
29:36When did you get this gym equipment?
29:38I got it because it's hard for me to go to the gym because of my nerves.
29:41It's hard for me to go to the gym because of my social anxiety.
29:43It's hard for me to go there in general.
29:47Being in the gym with another person that's...
29:52Oh.
29:52So I work out here.
29:55Me and Beckner have always had a cute little special bond.
29:59I would say out of all the siblings, me and Beckner are the most alike.
30:04He has a lot of anxiety just like I had a lot growing up.
30:08But with me, he doesn't feel like he has to hide it.
30:10He knows he can say something and I'll get it.
30:13I also have a problem with like being in the same room with people that like are sweating
30:18and there's sweats just everywhere.
30:20You get it, right?
30:22Yeah.
30:24I don't really know how to say it, but I do have anxiety.
30:28Yeah.
30:28Like, are you anxious about sleeping over here?
30:32I have to be near a wall when I sleep.
30:35I just don't know like how bad or how intense your anxiety is.
30:39So that's just why I ask.
30:41Every time I leave my room, I have to leave it better or the same when I walk into it.
30:47And what if you don't?
30:48I'll think about it all the time.
30:51And the first thing I'll do when I get back is I'll fix it.
30:55And if I do have anxiety, I just tap.
30:59Like, I'll sit down and I'll be like...
31:07I mean, like everything at school, like with my binder, my books, my Mac books and all that,
31:14it has to be perfectly even, even with everything.
31:18Like, you probably didn't see, but when I got off, I was going like this to try to make it even
31:24and completely straight.
31:26If I don't do that, I'll probably think about it a lot.
31:30I don't know why, but...
31:33Listening to Beckner is raising some concerns for me.
31:37My sister Sammy and I both went through something similar to this.
31:41And we both ended up with a diagnosis of OCD.
31:46So I'm wondering if Beckner could benefit from some kind of medical help.
31:50But first, he would need a diagnosis, and I'm not really sure how my parents feel about that.
31:58Yeah, do you care, Mom, if we talk for a second?
32:00Oh, my gosh.
32:01What are we doing?
32:02I just want to talk to you about Beckner.
32:05Who is expressing to me...
32:07What?
32:08They're all running.
32:09I can't look at them.
32:10Okay.
32:11Mark, mark, mark, mark!
32:22Okay.
32:23That's a first.
32:24Haven't done that since seventh grade.
32:26Since Beckner is here with me for the weekend, I reached out to my friend Joe's mom to see
32:32if I would be able to get them together.
32:34Splash!
32:35They live in New York, but they're so excited.
32:38She told me that it'll be absolutely nothing for them to get down here.
32:43Yeah!
32:44Holy bullet!
32:46And honestly, I thought it'd be really cool for Joe because it's been really hard for him
32:49to make friends because of his Tourette.
32:51Why is there chickens in my neighborhood?
32:57You're in the hood?
32:57Mark, mark, mark, mark, mark, mark!
33:01Hey.
33:02I can't look at the chickens.
33:05I can't look at the chickens.
33:08Sometimes seeing chickens sets off my ticks.
33:11Kind of a lot of animals set my ticks off, especially farm animals.
33:17I mean, not a farm animal, but dolphins.
33:20Sorry.
33:22That was spot on.
33:24Dude, that was perfect.
33:25I'm going to look this way.
33:31Beckner, they're here.
33:33Hi!
33:34How are you?
33:34Hi, Annie.
33:35It's so nice to see you.
33:37Hi.
33:38Hi, I'm Annie.
33:38Nice to see you.
33:39Nice.
33:41Oh, my God.
33:42I'm so excited to see you guys hang out.
33:44How was the travel here?
33:45It was a little weird when we got here with the chickens and stuff.
33:48I know.
33:48You know, from New York, you know?
33:51Yeah, and like, where's the graffiti?
33:53So, how old are you?
33:5611.
33:57Oh, okay.
33:58So, he just turned 12.
33:59So, they're like the same age.
34:01Want to play now?
34:02Sure.
34:03All right.
34:03You guys are going to play.
34:05Me and Annie are going to go over there.
34:06How about a one-on-one?
34:07All right.
34:08First to five?
34:09Sure.
34:10Shoot for ball.
34:10I'll shoot for it.
34:21I'm so glad they were able to connect.
34:23It made me so sad to think that he doesn't have friends.
34:26I know.
34:26And it's hard.
34:27Thank you so much.
34:28This, like, means the world to him.
34:29Of course.
34:30If you don't mind me asking, like, what type of tics do you have?
34:33Like, physical?
34:36Mostly, uh, blanking.
34:40Sometimes cursing.
34:42I usually just have, like, anxiety.
34:45One thing that I always do, and it's tapping.
34:51I talked to Bae about it yesterday, and she asked me, like, what I do to, like, help it.
34:56But it's like, I don't know how.
34:59You know what I mean?
34:59Yeah.
35:00Like, it's kind of weird.
35:03My first impressions on Joe, he's really nice, cool, fun to hang around, chill.
35:09I don't know how severe Joe's tics are, but I didn't really notice him ticking today.
35:14Is Joe the only kid?
35:15Yes, he's, like, my one and only, so.
35:18When he was younger, looking back at videos at his preschool, he's singing, and he's slapping himself in the face.
35:23And I was like, oh, he's so cute.
35:24He's anxious, just like his mom.
35:26Like, he's quirky.
35:27And then, like, he had this one phenomenal teacher who was like, do you notice his, like, blinking?
35:32And because of her, he got tested.
35:34We found out that he had the Tourette's diagnosis, and I was like, oh.
35:38Like, how did I not see that?
35:40My mom has six kids, and she hasn't noticed half the things.
35:44As a parent, you really don't, so, like, be gentle with her.
35:47And also, like, at, like, my parents, their generation, like, you don't get diagnosis.
35:52Right.
35:53But it helps at least answer questions about the way that you're feeling.
35:57The mantra is, like, don't put it in their head, but it's like, it's already there.
36:01The more that I talk to Joe's mom, the more I feel like I need to advocate for Beckner.
36:06For me, finally hearing Tourette's syndrome made sense why things felt so hard.
36:13Like, you can't get help.
36:15Right.
36:15Medically without a literal diagnosis.
36:18So, I do want to say something to my mom.
36:20I just don't really know how she will react to the whole thing.
36:23Just talk to your mom, you know?
36:24Mm-hmm.
36:24I just want to do what's right for Beckner.
36:26I want him to get the help that he needs.
36:29Hey.
36:30Oh, there's my mom.
36:32Hi.
36:32Hi.
36:33How are you?
36:34I'm good.
36:34How are you?
36:34Good seeing you.
36:35Oh, well, this was nice to organize this.
36:38Oh, my God.
36:39Oh.
36:40So, how was sleepover weekend?
36:42We had a blast.
36:44We had ice cream for dinner.
36:45Oh.
36:46Yep.
36:46Just ice cream?
36:47You guys didn't order in?
36:48You didn't?
36:49No.
36:49We had ice cream.
36:50Oh.
36:51It looks like they might be done.
36:53Bye, guys.
36:54So, have you two had fun hanging out?
36:56Yeah.
36:56I am definitely glad that Balin introduced me to Beckner because he's cool, funny, and
37:02he gets me.
37:03He's like a younger Balin, but like a cooler Balin.
37:08With a lot of hair.
37:09I was going to say that.
37:10I was going to say that.
37:13Thanks.
37:14Bye, you guys.
37:15It was so nice to see you.
37:16Yeah, man.
37:16Thank you so much for coming.
37:17But we'll talk.
37:18Yes, please.
37:19Bye.
37:20Bye.
37:20Bye.
37:20Babe, can I get front?
37:21Babe, can I get front?
37:22Yeah.
37:23Do you care, Mom, if we talk for a second?
37:25What?
37:25Do you care if I talk to you for a second?
37:26Yeah, no, that's fine.
37:29Oh, my gosh.
37:30What are we doing?
37:31What's up?
37:32I just want to talk to you about Beckner.
37:34What?
37:34What happened?
37:35He was expressing to me.
37:37What?
37:38They're all running.
37:39I can't look at them.
37:40Okay.
37:43Yeah, can we switch sides, actually?
37:45Okay.
37:45I cannot look at them.
37:47Okay.
37:48All the chickens.
37:48I really want to be able to share this with my mom, but I'm very nervous with how she will
37:56react or what she will say.
37:58I hope she doesn't get offended or defensive.
38:02Beckner expressed to me his anxiety.
38:05Yeah.
38:06It's a really big issue.
38:07Marlene's a dirty, fat, filthy, horny fucking whore.
38:13I hope I don't say that to you in front of your mom.
38:15She knows that you can't control it, so look her right in the eyes and you say exactly that.
38:21No.
38:21This is so pretty.
38:24This is so pretty.
38:25It's like a little mushroom.
38:29I'm so excited to get back into touring wedding venues.
38:32Everything about this place seems perfect, but is this a place that fits within our budget?
38:39Something else that came up is her...
38:41I'm so excited to get back into it, so I'm so excited to get back into it, so I'm so excited to get back into it.
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