Baylen Out Loud (2025) Season 2 Episode 7

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00:00You just did it, four.

00:03Five, okay, six, we're good.

00:07Six, that was three, three and three, we're good.

00:09Your father's having a lot of influence

00:13on our lives right now.

00:16I don't think they 100% trust us.

00:20You don't think so?

00:21Whether it's the venues or what career I want to go into.

00:25Ho, ho, ho your ass out the door, bitch.

00:28I asked Baylin to have a conversation with her father.

00:33You don't want Baylin to go communicate for you

00:36every time there's a concern.

00:39How do you feel about having a conversation with Alan?

00:46Your mom and I want to celebrate your engagement.

00:48Like an engagement party?

00:50Absolutely.

00:51So where is this party going to be?

00:53Right in the backyard.

00:55This is definitely Alan's way of saying,

00:58hey, the backyard could definitely be

00:59a wedding spot for you guys.

01:03So how was your trip to Roanoke?

01:04We went and saw a wedding venue close to them.

01:08Yeah.

01:09Okay.

01:10Colin invited them.

01:11I wish my parents were a little bit more involved

01:13because I feel like Colin inviting his family

01:16to the wedding venue that they toured

01:17stripped them of it a little bit,

01:19of experiencing that with their daughter.

01:21So, today's Baylin's engagement party.

01:31You're bald, Chuck.

01:33Just in case you weren't aware already.

01:34Yeah.

01:35And it's looking pretty amazing.

01:37This is so beautiful.

01:38And if they want to have a wedding in the backyard,

01:40I would build 10 times better than this

01:42to have these guys have an amazing day.

01:45I could really picture the wedding back here.

01:48Could you?

01:49Yeah.

01:50We have to announce our wedding venue,

01:52and I'm second-guessing it.

01:55Where we will be having our wedding will be at...

02:00Where we will be having our wedding will be at...

02:24An amazing, beautiful venue on top of a mountain.

02:37And it's a place where Baylin feels the most comfortable

02:42to take freely.

02:43It's beautiful...

02:44I have Tourette Syndrome, stupid.

02:46What mountain?

02:47You all will be there.

02:48What mountain will we be on?

02:49It's close to Roanoke.

02:50Okay.

02:51Near my family.

02:53We're happy that we found the right one.

02:55We have finally decided where we're going to get married.

02:58The seclusion.

03:01Holy crap.

03:02Oh, this is phenomenal.

03:05This venue is a gorgeous private wedding venue

03:09on top of a flippin' mountain.

03:12We did consider the backyard today as an option.

03:15I didn't know that it could look like that.

03:16It transformed overnight.

03:20But we just couldn't deny the views.

03:22It's so opened, and I feel really comfortable taking freely there.

03:28As excited as we are, I'm still a little bit worried that I might have disappointed my

03:32dad.

03:33Thank you guys for coming.

03:34Woo!

03:35Okay.

03:36Thank God.

03:37How's your dad doing?

03:38Is your dad holding it together?

03:39No.

03:40Come on.

03:42Hey, congratulations on finally picking one.

03:46Yep, thank you.

03:48I think they made a perfect choice for this venue because they picked one in Roanoke, closer

03:53to Colin's family, our family.

03:55Congratulations, dear.

03:57I'm not losing a son, I'm gaining a dog.

04:01And so I'm just so, so blessed to have both of them in my life.

04:07I do think Al must be a little bit disappointed that they didn't choose this as their venue.

04:16And ironically, I was kind of coming around a little bit myself, especially after seeing

04:24his idea of the engagement party come to fruition.

04:27I need to know more.

04:29But definitely more questions than answers in terms of the venue announcement.

04:35Hey, Dad.

04:36What are you doing, bae?

04:37I just came to tell you that it meant a lot to me today.

04:46Everything that you did.

04:47The alpacas.

04:48Oh my gosh.

04:49Like, I didn't expect the alpacas.

04:50Like, I mean, you put me in full-blown happiness tears.

04:54What means more to me is you set up for yourself and are brave enough to say, I made my own decision

05:03and this is what I want.

05:04Right?

05:05And that you didn't worry about my feelings.

05:08You worry about your own.

05:09Right?

05:10Well, I do worry about yours.

05:12Well, listen, mine are in the background.

05:15Think of it like this, okay?

05:21As a dad or as a parent, I've walked beside you and I've watched you grow into your own

05:32person.

05:33It's far more important to me than being something that I want you to be.

05:40I want you to be you.

05:42I want you to be all the things that you dream about.

05:45Don't be the things that I want you to be.

05:47You be the things for you, okay?

05:51I want you to be the things that I want you to be.

05:53I want you to be the things that I want you to be.

05:55I want you to be the things that I want you to be the things that I want you to be.

05:59Okay?

05:59I want you to be the things that I want you to be the things that I want you to be.

06:03Honey, honey, give me the world to me, okay?

06:07Enjoy the rest of your day.

06:08Stop crying, all right?

06:09Stop crying.

06:12It's a huge relief, feeling my dad's reassurance.

06:15All right, let's go back and see all your buddies that travel a long way, okay?

06:20Even though today went well, me and Colin are still trying to talk to my dad about boundaries

06:25going forward.

06:25It's an uncomfortable conversation to be had, but it's something that needs to happen

06:30for me and Colin to start building a relationship and life together.

06:33We just need to find the right time.

06:37Okay, thank you for having us.

06:38Congrats once again.

06:40Thank you for coming.

06:45So now that we have the wedding venue out of the way, really it's pedal to the floor

06:52and we are...

06:53Pedal to the middle, bitch.

06:55Going full speed into this wedding planning.

06:58See you, Travis.

06:59Thank you for coming.

07:00We only have 11 months until our wedding and there's a lot of stuff to do in a short amount

07:04of time.

07:05We've got a lot of vendors to find out.

07:07Bye, Sunny D.

07:08So, are you ready for this?

07:11Are you ready for this?

07:14You ready for this?

07:16Are you ready for this?

07:21Yeah?

07:22Take a the ass.

07:24Yeah.

07:25I'd rather not.

07:26I love you.

07:27Throw that in the laundry room, please.

07:48And then come stand over here.

07:51I'm going to have you dry these.

07:54Maybe Burke will dry the dishes.

07:57Or a party, huh?

07:58I think yesterday's party was a major success.

08:01When I went to bed, there were still things going on.

08:03Like the bonfire is still smoldering outside.

08:06And since the party went so late, we didn't get a chance to discuss the wedding venue with

08:11Bae and Colin.

08:12But we're hoping that we get more information soon.

08:15Dad, how do you feel about the wedding not being in the backyard?

08:18I feel a little bit of relief that I don't have six months' worth of projects to work on.

08:24Like just to do this was a lot of work.

08:26It's a big commitment.

08:27And that doesn't mean that you didn't want to do it.

08:28But now you can be like, okay, they found something that's better.

08:32I mean, we still need to like look more into it or whatever.

08:35She sent me the link to the venue.

08:37Do you want to see it?

08:38Oh, so she gave you the name.

08:40I was waiting for the text.

08:42I was like, are we going to get a name to this place?

08:45Mountain Top.

08:45Mountain Top Venues.

08:46I'm not scared to listen.

08:48Okay.

08:49To me, time frame.

08:50That would give me an idea.

08:51Like what month?

08:52Or to be picked a day.

08:54Let's kind of start at that.

08:57We know nothing about budget.

08:58We know nothing if this is a five-course meal or if this is a buffet.

09:01We don't know if we're inviting the great aunts or if we're cutting the line at brothers and sisters.

09:06We really know nothing.

09:11My God.

09:12This is like where she'd like get ready and hang out afterwards.

09:16Is this where the ceremony happens?

09:18It has to be.

09:18Is this the ceremony?

09:20Wait, is this where Colin would ride in on the stallion?

09:24Okay.

09:25I'm going to bet you that price tag right there is gigantic.

09:28I'm kind of taken back like, wow.

09:32Oh my gosh, that's nice.

09:34It's pivotal in their pending marriage that they learn how to budget and save money now.

09:41The venue is stunning, but I'm thinking, cha-ching.

09:45So now that the venue's finally been revealed, and obviously you and Balen have already talked about, like you being made of honor and whatever, how much do you feel like you can do being there?

09:58I can't just drive down the road and see you, you know?

10:00So it's kind of like I feel bad that I can't be here sometimes.

10:03I don't want to miss dress shopping with Bae, and I don't want to miss picking her veil out and a pair of shoes, and I don't want to miss that.

10:11So it's like, I would never want to miss Balen's pivotal moments in her life, never.

10:18But with my schedule and anxiety and OCD and traveling and coming back here and unpacking and doing all the things and then going back and getting back into my real life, I don't know, it's 500 things.

10:30Like, I just can't shut my mind off.

10:33You shouldn't have to miss it.

10:34Yeah, I wouldn't have to miss that.

10:35As far as I'm concerned, that's not an option.

10:37You missing it is not an option.

10:39But the reality is that this is really difficult for you.

10:43I'm super thankful that Sammy was able to make it here for the engagement party, although I feel like it's going to be a minute before we see her again.

10:54Even though she wants to be here, she's a little bit into kind of like a dark place with some of her anxious thoughts and OCD, and I think that she really needs to work on herself right now.

11:09Maybe for a little while, the ends won't justify the means.

11:14Seeing the venue, though, made me excited because I at least have a blueprint for sakes.

11:19Oh my gosh, I know.

11:21We're all just grateful to hear a location and a place.

11:27I don't want to overwhelm Balin.

11:29I do know how quickly Balin can get overstressed and overwhelmed and all the overs, and that can lead down a slippery slope of not good.

11:40But the clock is ticking.

11:42It's really time that we start to talk through a few things, wedding, so that we can get a jump on some stuff.

11:51We're in therapy right now discussing Dad.

11:58Oh gosh, Colin really wants a relationship with Dad, and he's scared.

12:05I know they have the best intentions for us.

12:09However, I'm going to make whatever decision I'm going to make, and I don't care what anybody else has to say.

12:15The engagement party at my parents' house yesterday was genuinely so incredible.

12:42The alpaca surprise, Sammy and all my friends making it, the excitement I got from my dad with our wedding venue.

12:51However, yesterday's high has been tanked after reading some comments on social media.

12:57I got a couple, and what I mean by a couple, a lot of couple, of not nice comments towards my body.

13:07Social media is hard, especially when you're reading comments and those type of things, and it's like,

13:12Oh my God, I had no idea you're pregnant. Congratulations.

13:15What? I'm sorry. There was never an announcement.

13:18That's not happening.

13:22Hey, what are you doing?

13:24Laundry.

13:25Fun.

13:26Yeah, fun times.

13:28Loved these shorts, but it just won't fit, and neither will those.

13:35What's going on?

13:37Nothing fits.

13:39My jeans don't fit. My jean shorts don't fit.

13:42Is it from the new medication you've been trying out?

13:45Is weight gain one of the side effects?

13:48Yep.

13:49The number one side effect.

13:51On top of, like, being, like, scared to go to the gym because of my germs.

13:57I've gained 18 pounds that I cannot lose.

14:01It's definitely frustrating because I really do like this medication.

14:06Just throw them away. I'm never going to fit in them.

14:08This medication is intended to treat my mood.

14:12I feel better. I sleep better.

14:16But at the end of the day, with the waking, it's definitely affecting my self-confidence.

14:20Do I keep these? Yes.

14:23So how do you think yesterday was with the whole engagement party and everything?

14:27I think it went lovely.

14:29I'm just really excited that your parents were there.

14:32Speaking of my parents, my mom told me

14:35that my dad had about four or five glasses of the spiked lemonade.

14:40That's hilarious because he probably hasn't had

14:43that amount of alcohol.

14:46In his life?

14:47Since he was probably 18.

14:49Them explosions!

14:50So, yeah, he had no idea.

14:55He didn't feel anything or anything.

14:59What comes next?

15:01Like, with steps and wedding planning.

15:03Uh, save the dates, RSVPs.

15:06When do I pick out the cake?

15:07I don't, I don't know.

15:09I am very stressed between wedding planning, budgeting, and pretty much everything that

15:17comes with it.

15:19And with that, makes my OCD worse.

15:22I'm seeing my mom later, so it's probably a good time to gauge her thoughts.

15:26Because I'm already overwhelmed.

15:27I really want to get in shape before the wedding.

15:33And I know that I want to get in shape before the wedding as well.

15:37Why don't we find an avenue or way that we can work out together?

15:43I know, without you touching gym equipment,

15:46if you do some research and find a class that you want to do, I'll do it with you.

15:53Okay.

15:54And that's a scary statement, because I don't know what the hell you're going to find.

16:00I have a great idea for a workout we can do together.

16:03Yeah, that means it's probably going to be something like Pilates or, you know.

16:06Something more exciting.

16:08I'm sure.

16:09Dick.

16:11Nowhere we're waterboarding in a pool.

16:13I don't know if I want to get punky a black tux.

16:31No, we've got to get him pink.

16:33I don't know if I want to get punky a black tux.

16:35Oh, wait.

16:36Hi.

16:37Thanks for inviting me.

16:38Okay.

16:38To shop with you.

16:40Look at the sock burglar.

16:41Okay, what are we doing?

16:42I'm shopping for Tootie, Punkie, and Falaf.

16:45I'm definitely craving a little bit more involvement in the wedding planning preparations.

16:50And this is not exactly what I had in mind.

16:54We're getting a lot of dog clothes.

16:57No, you're on a budget.

16:58You're getting married.

17:00You're on a budget.

17:02Do they have shopping carts?

17:03Oh, yes, of course.

17:05Do you not have a wedding budget?

17:07I have a toy list.

17:10Balen.

17:11Okay, do I put the llamas back?

17:12You're worrying me.

17:14I know you want the most expensive wedding in the whole world, and we're filling our shirt with dog toys.

17:19Falaf's going to love that.

17:20What do you think I need to do?

17:22Mom, I don't know.

17:23I don't know either.

17:24I'm this way.

17:25I don't come show.

17:25What about a wedding coordinator?

17:27I know it's like an extra cost for a wedding coordinator, but somebody that knows what they're doing.

17:32What are you doing?

17:33This truly is not the best place to discuss the wedding.

17:37Nothing wedding is going to be accomplished here today.

17:40I think either one, she's completely clueless, or two, she would just rather not think about it.

17:49Oh, my God, they spin!

17:51What do you think the reality is of Sammy coming back to helping me plan my wedding in person?

17:58Oh, it's not happening anytime soon.

18:00No, she's not in a good spot with traveling.

18:03Because her anxiety is a little bit out of peak.

18:06And I don't want to stress her out.

18:07I think what's important is for you to decide.

18:12Marlene Dooley.

18:15Them explosions.

18:16How you want to utilize people.

18:17Like sending out and making Save the Dates.

18:20There's so much.

18:21Like, I know that that's next, and I know that I'm going to need help writing down everyone's addresses.

18:26Yes, I can help you with that.

18:28But you can't do Save the Dates spiel until you have a guest list.

18:31Until the guest list is 100% final?

18:33But we're picking out dog dresses.

18:35You need to have the numbers.

18:37We'll back away.

18:37You need to have, like, the numbers situated.

18:41It's super, super important that I have my mom help me with all the ins and outs of wedding planning.

18:47Because it can get stressful and overwhelming.

18:51And those type of things make my tics worse.

18:53I could see fluffing on on this for, like, six years.

18:56Put that back.

18:57What the?

18:57Is this a leg?

18:59So to be able to have her time means the world to me.

19:03Can you just start with one?

19:06No.

19:07So what's the latest with couples counseling?

19:10What?

19:11Nothing.

19:11Wait, bad?

19:12Nothing.

19:13What's going on?

19:14We're just having some conversations.

19:17I'm completely so.

19:19Are you acting weird?

19:20Um.

19:23I'm reluctant to tell my mom that dad's been brought up in therapy because I just don't know what she's going to say or what she's going to think.

19:31Are you acting weird?

19:33Because we're in therapy right now discussing dad.

19:36Oh, gosh.

19:38Mm-hmm.

19:38Why are you discussing dad?

19:39We're working on coming up with a way to bring up to dad that me and Colin kind of want to, like, take things our own way, if that makes any sense.

19:56No, it doesn't help your mom out.

20:03I've been putting off talking to my parents because things were so good at the engagement party.

20:09But I know it's better to rip that Band-Aid off now and tell my mom first to see what she thinks.

20:15I just hope I'm not making things worse for Colin by sharing this with my mom.

20:19Me and Colin kind of want to, like, take things our own way, if that makes any sense.

20:34No, it doesn't help your mom out.

20:39We had initially presented the idea of premarital counseling to Bay and Colin to work on their relationship.

20:46So it has been a little bit surprising to find out that they have been talking about Colin and Alan's relationship.

20:54Colin really wants a relationship with dad, like that bond and that relationship with him.

21:00And he's scared.

21:02He's scared after the initial, I mean, who wouldn't be?

21:07I do feel kind of bad that Colin still feels that way.

21:10And I don't want him to feel, and your dad does not want him to feel any kind of way.

21:15Do you think that we should even bring it up?

21:18Honestly.

21:19I don't know that it necessarily has to be my dad, dad, dad.

21:24I think it needs to be boundaries in general.

21:28And I think that we want to do everything that we can do to make him feel comfortable.

21:32You and Colin come to the house.

21:35Barbecue.

21:36Fanadia!

21:37It'll just be one more step of showing.

21:39You're done.

21:40And, you know, like, okay, I don't want to get hurt.

21:43I don't think my dad's overstepping by chiming in.

21:46He just wants what's best for his kids and wants to make sure that we're all taken care of.

21:52However, I love Colin, and I want to support Colin, and I understand where he's coming from with my dad.

22:00Thanks for taking those from me.

22:02Do you want me to take this?

22:03No.

22:04Your dad can have a lighthearted conversation and be like, Colin, like, we're good.

22:10Knowing the ways that Colin and my dad have clashed before, I would just like it to be less intense and have to just two people having a conversation.

22:23But I have no idea how the conversation is going to go.

22:26This is making me really anxious to think about.

22:31Yeah.

22:31Tip, tip, tip, tip, tip.

22:31They're just reaching out.

22:33Are we ready to go shopping?

22:34Okay, yes.

22:34Go shopping.

22:34Jeez, then.

22:35Okay, where do we go?

22:37Happy hell on that day.

22:39Yeehaw.

22:39Okay, this is it.

22:54Turn left.

22:56Okay.

22:57We're here.

22:59Where are we?

23:00Yes, you're just going to have to find out when we get inside, sweetheart.

23:06I have no idea where Balen's taking me today.

23:09Dickville.

23:10It's supposed to.

23:11It's supposed to.

23:15Colin.

23:17Dickville.

23:18Okay.

23:18Your mom goes to Dickville.

23:19I'm sorry, Marlene.

23:22Balen and I both want to get in better shape for the wedding.

23:25This is supposed to be a workout class, but knowing her, it's not something like pole dancing or something, right?

23:33I'm not pole dancing, so absolutely not.

23:37I just saw a sign that said yoga.

23:39Please, no.

23:42Don't worry.

23:43It's a sport you've already done, and I'm sure you're really good at it.

23:46Somehow that doesn't make me feel any better at all.

23:51Ride the horse.

23:52Like, dude, we're already late.

23:55Let's go.

23:56Ride the horse.

23:59What the is this?

24:03Ride the horse.

24:08Okay, everyone.

24:09So we're going to start with a warm-up, get our body loose.

24:11We're riding horse heads on a stick.

24:14How is this a workout?

24:15Oh, it's a legit sport.

24:17It's a sport.

24:18I don't.

24:19Saw it on social media.

24:21There is a U.S. championship for this.

24:24Think about it.

24:24Horseback riding is like the same thing, but we are the horse.

24:27So instead of the horse jumping over the barrels, we are jumping over the barrels.

24:31So technically, it's a great exercise for us instead of horsies.

24:36Yeah.

24:37What horse do you want?

24:38What horse do you want?

24:40You pick.

24:43How are you doing?

24:43My name is Greg.

24:44Nice to meet you all.

24:44Nice to meet you.

24:45Nice to meet you.

24:45Ride the horse.

24:46Nice to meet you.

24:47Going to a hobby horse class is different than going to the gym with my OCD because when

24:52I go to the gym, I have a specific fear of germs, but germs on the equipment, germs not

24:57being wiped down.

24:58We all have our own horse.

25:00So compared going to the gym, it's one thing you're touching versus 20 things you're touching.

25:06What exactly is this?

25:08So, you know, we're doing fitness a long time.

25:10We're going to have a cardio workout, but it's inspired by the hobby horse.

25:14So...

25:14I learned about Colin riding a hobby horse around his house naked.

25:21Actually, from his mom.

25:22She showed me a photo.

25:24I just did it butt-ass naked before every shower.

25:28I just thought you would like it and it would bring back memories.

25:33Everybody, if we can line up in rows, please.

25:35You get in the middle.

25:36Okay.

25:37I'm getting in the middle.

25:39Ride the horse.

25:40Today, we're going to have a fitness class inspired by hobby horses.

25:45We're going to go over some movements.

25:46The walk, the trot.

25:48Dick.

25:49Moo.

25:50Bitch.

25:51As we raise our knee up, our toes are pointed downward.

25:54Woo-hoo.

25:55Keep going.

25:56A couple more times.

25:56Get a bag of dicks.

25:57I'm watching.

25:58Did I mention I have Tourette's, anybody?

26:00You...

26:01I feel really comfortable in the hobby horse class.

26:08It's just really nice to be able to tick and not be judged or looked at or stared at or talked about.

26:14I mean, we're all standing here holding horse heads.

26:16So I feel like these people are willing to go with anything.

26:19Right here.

26:20Boom.

26:21Toes pointed downward.

26:24Try to look up right.

26:25Don't look at the horse.

26:26this horse.

26:28Yeah.

26:29Keep going.

26:30Six, five, four, three.

26:32Yeah, it's pretty humiliating to be in the front row with a stick between your legs and a horse on the other end.

26:37All right, next we're going to go from a canter to a flying change, similar to a skit.

26:48Got it.

26:50Yeah.

26:51Ride the horse.

26:54I was taking it serious.

26:55It's called a workout class.

26:57It's called you work out in the workout class.

26:59I was worked out.

27:01How many laps are you doing?

27:02I'm having flashbacks.

27:03Ha, ha, ha, ha.

27:04Ha, ha, ha.

27:07We're going to gallop, jump, jump, jump.

27:14Ooh.

27:15Grace, look at that.

27:16Ha, ha, ha, ha.

27:20Oh, I don't know.

27:21Sweet.

27:23All right, everyone, that is class.

27:25Let me collect the horses.

27:27Make some jumps.

27:28Yeah, back in the stalls.

27:29They've got to be boarded.

27:30I don't think that going to hobby horse classes on a consistent basis

27:37is going to help you lose weight.

27:39I guarantee you, I probably burned less than 100 calories in that class.

27:43Did everyone have fun?

27:44Yeah.

27:45Woo!

27:47Let me catch my breath for a second.

27:49So what'd you think?

27:52Ride the horse.

27:53Yeah, I mean...

27:55It was something that I'll never forget.

27:57I can tell you that.

27:58Uh-huh.

28:00I would probably not take this class again.

28:04Just because there's a lot of running.

28:07All fast.

28:09But it's fine.

28:09I'll think long and hard next time before we pick another sport.

28:13Go rat-tay.

28:16So, speaking of things that we don't want to do,

28:19we still need to have that conversation with your father.

28:22So, are we still going to have that conversation, or no?

28:27I don't know.

28:30I have a feeling it's not going to end well.

28:34But my mom has asked me how couples therapy is going,

28:39and I told her that dad has come up.

28:44How did that conversation go?

28:46Just about as well as I thought it would be.

28:48I mean, I think it's okay to discuss something

28:54about what happens in couples counseling,

28:57but when it's something like this

28:59that we've kind of went back and forth on,

29:01and it's kind of a big deal,

29:04and it involves her parents,

29:06I just wish she would have, like,

29:08brought it up to me first or something.

29:11I know they have the best intentions for us.

29:15However...

29:17You just don't want to hear you should do this job.

29:20I'm just saying it's hard to hear from somebody.

29:23That you should do the same thing over and over again?

29:26No, that I, like, if I get a job offer

29:28that doesn't have health care, don't take it,

29:31even if that's something that I want to do.

29:33So that's hard to hear as the person

29:36that is now trying to take over the reins from him,

29:39and I don't care who it upsets.

29:41I'm going to do what's best for me

29:42and what I think is best for the both of us.

29:45That's it.

29:47I'm headed into a completely different career path

29:50for me outside of the military,

29:52and I wish I had, like, their trust more

29:58and to be able to make these types of decisions.

30:01So I think that it's important

30:03that we all sit down and have a conversation together

30:07just so we can talk through this at their house.

30:12Okay.

30:13I mean, I'm fine with having a low-key conversation.

30:18All right?

30:19But I'm going to make whatever decision I'm going to make,

30:22and I don't care what anybody else has to say.

30:24They've got to figure out finance, budget,

30:29and I think that we need to, like, confront that head-on.

30:32And I know that he still has some feelings

30:35about yours and his relationship.

30:38I'm not surprised that I've come up

30:39in their therapy sessions,

30:41but I am curious to know why.

30:43You're almost done?

30:58Oh, you are done.

30:59Yeah, it looks good.

31:00Oh, good stuff.

31:01They should be here any moment, I think.

31:03Did you just talk to her?

31:04Did you get a text?

31:05Yeah, they're on their way.

31:06Yeah.

31:06She was like, who's all going to be there?

31:08And I was like, uh, just your dad and I,

31:11because the boys are golfing,

31:12and Beck's at a sleepover.

31:14Holla.

31:15Bailen and Colin are coming over tonight

31:16to talk about the wedding planning

31:18and also some things that have come up in therapy.

31:22It's kind of actually nice that the boys aren't here,

31:24because, like, you can talk.

31:25We can talk.

31:26I mean, I know, obviously,

31:28the intention is to talk about wedding stuff a lot,

31:32because we've got to start this.

31:34I mean, this is pathetic.

31:36They've got to figure out finance, budget,

31:38like, I don't even know.

31:40There's just a lot, so I'm excited.

31:41Do you really think there's a budget?

31:42Well, I think that's the point,

31:44to ask some questions and find out.

31:45You already said words that probably

31:46they've never heard before.

31:48Plan, budget.

31:51Talking with Bailen at the pet shop

31:53made me realize that she definitely

31:57is in a little bit over her head

32:00with this wedding planning.

32:01We know that they decided on a venue,

32:04and therefore they picked a date,

32:06which is next year,

32:07and that is only 11 months away.

32:09That's not a lot of time.

32:11They are going to need a little more help

32:14planning this event.

32:15Somebody like maybe myself.

32:17They lost money, too.

32:18Yeah, that's true.

32:19So there, add that to the list.

32:22Mm-hmm.

32:23I'm excited.

32:25Yeah, me too.

32:25But I'm nervous, too,

32:26because it's like,

32:26let's not be unrealistic.

32:28Like, let's really, like,

32:30buckle down with all this

32:31and make sure that

32:32you're in the right realm

32:33with everything.

32:35If maybe you're not,

32:36now's a good time to pivot.

32:39You know, and be like,

32:40okay, well, maybe that won't work.

32:41Thank you for bringing that up

32:42kind of a thing.

32:43Yeah.

32:44And I know that

32:45they've even had

32:47some things brought up,

32:50you know,

32:50since they started

32:51the premarital counseling.

32:54So I know they even have some stuff,

32:57like, if we even make it

32:58to that topic.

33:00I know that he still has

33:02some feelings about yours

33:04and his relationship

33:05and whatever,

33:07and I think that we need to, like,

33:09confront that head on.

33:11I hadn't told Alan

33:14until now

33:15that he had came up

33:16in their therapy session

33:18because I don't want

33:20his feelings

33:21to be prematurely hurt

33:22when maybe it's not

33:24as big of a deal

33:25as it would

33:27come across as being.

33:30It's kind of unsettling,

33:32but I'm not surprised

33:34that I've come up

33:34in their therapy sessions,

33:36but I am curious

33:37to know why.

33:40Nobody's here.

33:40Like, we can have a private conversation

33:42because the kids

33:43are not around.

33:44I'm willing to talk about it.

33:45Okay.

33:50Are you nervous at all

33:51to go, like, to my parents?

33:54This is a conversation

33:55that's needed to...

33:58been had for a long time.

34:01We've needed to have

34:02this conversation.

34:03I think it's really important

34:06for there to be boundaries.

34:10We're about to get married,

34:12and you don't want to

34:14wait and put it off,

34:16and the next thing you know,

34:17we have kids,

34:18and it gets to a point

34:20where it's too late

34:22to be able to set those boundaries.

34:24I'm going to just say

34:28that there's been a decision

34:29that's been made

34:30regarding my career choice,

34:34and I want to go into real estate,

34:37so let's be honest here.

34:39Let's be honest, bitch.

34:40I'm choosing a career field

34:43that your dad told me not to choose.

34:45When we take that chance,

34:47we just want you guys

34:48to be with us.

34:50I wouldn't even call it a chance.

34:52What would you call it?

34:54I would just call it a career,

34:57a decision.

34:58It's not a chance.

35:00When you go into something

35:01with that kind of a mindset,

35:02you're going to fail

35:03every single time.

35:04So how do you go into it?

35:07Saying that you're not going to fail.

35:11So what happens if you fail?

35:13It's not a chance.

35:16I don't know.

35:17We're taking a chance.

35:21Exactly.

35:22We can fail

35:23at this conversation.

35:25I know we can.

35:30It's really important to me

35:31that Colin feels heard

35:32and seen and understood.

35:34It just feels like

35:35an impossible balance

35:36to deal with right now, though,

35:38between him and my parents.

35:39It feels very overwhelming

35:40to always be in the middle.

35:43You got what you're going to say

35:44figured out?

35:45Sure.

35:46All right.

35:47Here we go.

35:48We're finally here.

35:51My God.

35:52Are they bringing their dogs?

36:02I have no idea.

36:04Hi, guys.

36:05Hi.

36:07It is quiet here.

36:08Where's Toot?

36:10We didn't bring them

36:11because we have to go

36:11all the way back.

36:12No, doggies.

36:15Where?

36:15I'm not trying to say

36:16your dad loves Toot

36:17more than he loves you,

36:18but your dad loves Toot.

36:19No, I was just

36:20wondering, maybe

36:21I could go around

36:22like a teacher.

36:23Don't say.

36:24I made her a hamburger.

36:27Alan and I

36:28don't always see eye to eye.

36:30We have different approaches,

36:32different opinions on things.

36:34Every decision that I make,

36:35it's,

36:36hey, you shouldn't do that,

36:37or hey, that's risky,

36:39or hey, like this.

36:40Ultimately, at the end of the day,

36:41like, I'm gonna make

36:43whatever decision

36:44that I think is best

36:46for my life,

36:47regardless of what

36:48anybody else has to say

36:49about it.

36:50So I'm glad you came

36:52because we,

36:54all four of us,

36:55haven't had the opportunity

36:56to talk more about

36:58the wedding-ish plans.

37:00Mm, this is so good.

37:02What are some of the things

37:03that you guys have discussed?

37:05Or do you like,

37:06I mean, do you have like

37:07notepads?

37:07Discussed for what?

37:08For the wedding.

37:09Yeah.

37:10You're bald.

37:13The only thing that we have,

37:14we need to like,

37:16100% finish

37:17before the save the dates,

37:18which would be like

37:18our next steps,

37:19is the guest list.

37:20Because we've nailed

37:22in the coffin

37:23at least 120 people.

37:25120 people.

37:26That's a bad term to use.

37:30We nailed in the coffin, yeah.

37:32Nailed 120 people

37:33in the coffin.

37:34Coffin.

37:34Yeah.

37:35Dick.

37:36Do you have a budget?

37:37Have you looked at each other

37:38and said,

37:39Hey, this is the amount of money

37:41that we want to spend

37:42and how can we find a way

37:45to stay within that budget?

37:47Whatever it is,

37:47double it and then double that.

37:49That's probably what it'll be.

37:51I'm not surprised at all

37:52that my parents are hitting us

37:54with a bunch of wedding questions.

37:55We're still in the dark

37:56about a lot of this,

37:57so they're great questions,

37:59but we have no idea

38:02how to answer them.

38:03We have sat down and talked about

38:05how much we want to put in.

38:07Okay.

38:07We haven't sat down

38:08and thought about

38:08how much we want to individually spend

38:10on, like, florists

38:11and makeup and hair.

38:12Because I've thought about

38:13getting one of my friends

38:14to do my makeup.

38:15Like, if it comes down

38:16to getting my makeup done

38:17and getting all my bridesmaids done

38:19is $15,000,

38:20I'm not going to pay for that

38:22when all of us can do our...

38:23By all means,

38:24we'll get their bridesmaids...

38:24$15,000?

38:25What is this?

38:26Reconstructive surgery?

38:27Well, that would be your part

38:30that you would pay.

38:30How the somebody

38:32is going to make up and fix it?

38:33That would be the part

38:34you guys pay.

38:35And then the horse for Colin

38:37would come out of your lump.

38:41I feel like we're kind of, like,

38:43working, like, backwards.

38:44Like, we're figuring out

38:45all, like, the small stuff.

38:47Okay.

38:47And we don't have any, like,

38:48the major stuff done.

38:49Like, the guest list or...

38:50We probably do.

38:52We've been discussing

38:52on whether we should get

38:53a wedding planner or not.

38:54Oh.

38:55And we were kind of waiting on...

38:56Oh, I think after tonight

38:57you probably should be

38:58on a yes checkbox.

38:59I mean, I'm even clueless.

39:00Okay.

39:01Because I'm feeling the stress

39:02for you guys.

39:04Yes.

39:05I'm not feeling no stress yet.

39:06If you just don't think about it.

39:08If you just don't think about it.

39:10I love that technique.

39:11Yeah, I'm learning it in therapy.

39:12It's called procrastinating.

39:14It's called avoiding.

39:15No, no, no.

39:16It's not procrastinating.

39:17It just gets bigger.

39:18It's called avoidance.

39:18It's something I'm very

39:20f***ing good at.

39:21You are.

39:22Yup.

39:23Yeah.

39:23Yup.

39:25Oh, my gosh.

39:26Speaking of therapy.

39:27Speaking of therapy.

39:29Hold your dad

39:30a little bit of what you said

39:32to me in the...

39:32Yeah, where am I at in therapy?

39:39I don't want to tell my dad

39:40that my dad's been brought up

39:41in therapy.

39:42I'm honestly freaking out

39:46because I have no idea

39:48what my parents are going to think

39:49when we finally put our feet down

39:51about boundaries,

39:52especially with Colin's career.

39:55I'm worried that this might go

39:56really, really bad.

39:59What's the deal?

40:00What am I doing?

40:01What am I doing?

40:04Uh, so...

40:09In therapy, we were talking

40:11about stressors

40:12and knowing that, like,

40:14whatever decision that I make

40:16is not only affecting me,

40:17but her.

40:18It's a long road

40:19to that dead end.

40:21This is why I hate confrontation

40:23because it feels like

40:24there's so much

40:25to lose.

40:26If this doesn't work out,

40:28what are you going to do?

40:32I love it.

40:33Hi!

40:34How are you?

40:35We're really hoping

40:35that the wedding planner

40:36can help us with, one,

40:38everything.

40:39I want alpacas.

40:40Alpacas.

40:41A horse.

40:43Have you guys ever done

40:44a queso fountain?

40:45A queso fountain.

40:47Part of our job

40:49is educating them

40:50so that we can be like,

40:51okay, this is what reality is.

40:54In thinking about your budget,

40:56you're not going to love

40:57what I have to tell you.

41:02He knows how to swim.

41:04If I'm going to

41:05want a horse in our wedding,

41:07do you want to work

41:08on your fear of horses?

41:11We're going to do

41:12the exposure therapy today

41:13with the horses.

41:15I want to cry.

41:17It's okay.

41:17They can throw you off.

41:19They can kick you.

41:20Just everything about them

41:21is scary to me.

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