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00:00 - Introduction
00:46 - Alex & Rob's DNA Test
08:32 - Ashley & Having Kids With Albinism
16:28 - Morgan & Matt's Viral Video
24:56 - Tina & Anton's ID Card Story
32:44 - Vivienne & Ezekiel's Cheating Accusations
00:46 - Alex & Rob's DNA Test
08:32 - Ashley & Having Kids With Albinism
16:28 - Morgan & Matt's Viral Video
24:56 - Tina & Anton's ID Card Story
32:44 - Vivienne & Ezekiel's Cheating Accusations
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00:00We did a DNA test to prove our child is hers.
00:04I actually didn't even know what albinism was until my son was born.
00:09I felt like they gave me the wrong baby.
00:11I had to carry ID cards for my kids just to prove the DMI.
00:16I get a lot of negativity in person and online too.
00:20Whose white baby is that?
00:22She's my child.
00:24Maybe an egg donor, your womb, but not your DNA.
00:28They say that woman needs a lie detector test.
00:31People go to my husband to tell him to get a DNA test.
00:35Somebody had TT's photo with a Ku Klux Kling with a rope.
00:40As a mom, constantly explaining yourself.
00:48We have three children.
00:51Chub Chub is seven.
00:56Bubba is five and Pudge Pudge is two.
01:01Be careful with my children!
01:04So we did experience infertility with getting pregnant with our children.
01:09And it ended up working out.
01:11We have three beautiful babies.
01:15The doctor that helped us get pregnant with Pudge.
01:18Mwah!
01:19I cried on that man several times.
01:21We went through, like, all of the infertility treatments.
01:25We ended up having her through IVF.
01:28At a point, the doctors did talk to us about donor eggs.
01:32And it just turned out to be something that was unnecessary because...
01:36At the last minute, her eggs worked.
01:37At the last minute.
01:39Or did they?
01:40I'm kidding.
01:42She was a bit of a hard pregnancy, but it was worth it again.
01:47When Pudge Pudge was born, it was a surprising moment.
01:50Because she definitely looked a bit different than the rest of our children.
01:54I was super surprised.
01:55Like, her ears weren't even dark.
01:58They were really, really light.
02:00Hey, beautiful.
02:01Hello.
02:03We decided to do the DNA test because she was so light.
02:08And we did use IVF to get pregnant with her.
02:11And mistakes happen.
02:12So we just wanted to rule that out.
02:15Not have to worry about it.
02:18So when did you start posting on TikTok and why?
02:22A few years ago.
02:23I was just having fun when I started.
02:26So initially, I started posting on social media because I was bored during the pandemic.
02:32And Pudge Pudge, she was born.
02:34She got here.
02:35And it was one of the first times I went outside the house.
02:38And this older white lady, she...
02:43I was complimented for being a great nanny.
02:46And I was in my feelings.
02:48And I was also hurt.
02:49And I posted about it.
02:52This is Pudge Pudge.
02:53She's my daughter.
02:54I was pregnant with her.
02:55She still looks like this.
02:58She is blood of my blood and flesh of my flesh.
03:02That just went viral.
03:04That was when it started.
03:05A lot of negativity and a lot of positivity.
03:09Today, we're talking about what happened at the mall.
03:13There was a lady there that was completely inappropriate.
03:16So I'm posting about it today.
03:19Not to tell people to, you know, back off.
03:22Leave us alone.
03:23But to really expose the fact that these things still happen and they don't have to.
03:29As Pudge Pudge's mom, I get a lot of negativity in person and online too.
03:35We're in a very crowded mall.
03:38And Pudge Pudge is being two.
03:41Very two.
03:45Right, Pudge?
03:50Here you go.
03:52And this lady is, hey, is there anything we can do to help?
03:57No, thank you.
03:58Just trying to get my kid.
03:59We gotta, you know, we gotta get going.
04:00And she's like, well, I just want to make sure everything's okay.
04:05We can go and get help pointing to mall security and like a sheriff that was right there.
04:10And I'm like, everything's fine.
04:12My two year old's just being a two year old.
04:14And this is when she insists that maybe Pudge is not my child.
04:19And she's like, well, things just don't look right.
04:21So, you know, let's just make sure.
04:24And I'm like, she's my child.
04:26She's my child.
04:29So Rob ended up handling the whole thing for me and essentially telling her to leave us alone.
04:35You want to get down?
04:37Yeah.
04:37You want to get down?
04:39Okay.
04:39Give me one more big smile.
04:41Okay.
04:42Give me one more big smile.
04:44You ready?
04:46I should be able to hang out with my child the way I want to.
04:53Hey, hey, don't do that.
04:55Don't do that.
04:56Don't do that.
04:56Don't do that.
04:59Okay.
05:00So we've gotten some negative comments.
05:03A lot of negative comments.
05:04Whose white baby is that?
05:06I hate them.
05:07You're such a great nanny.
05:10You know, I'm faking it.
05:11Touches a content baby.
05:13So she's renting babies.
05:14How are you going to rent the same baby all the time?
05:17There's some racist vitriol out there and it's from both sides.
05:20I've seen people that appear to be black online that say that I shouldn't have that white man's child.
05:28All kinds of things.
05:29And it's absolutely unnecessary.
05:31Have you also experienced this kind of negativity that Alex has experienced?
05:36I don't get questioned.
05:38I don't get checked on.
05:40I don't get compliments on not being a father.
05:47Someone that we know and love, they thought that he had an affair.
05:51And I was like, no, she's my child.
05:55Like biologically, she is my child.
05:57So what happened was I had an affair, took the fertilized embryo out of that woman somehow.
06:03Put it in there.
06:05And then she grew the baby.
06:06And how do you support Alex through these circumstances that she goes through?
06:10Well, I'm there for her.
06:12You know, sometimes you just got to be there overall and, you know, be an emotional support person.
06:20Alex!
06:28Remember the time we were in the grocery store?
06:31Yeah.
06:32Talk to me about the time and how you felt about the lady who followed us through the store.
06:38I think what it is is that our world is not educated.
06:42We have so much ego.
06:44And I'm sorry you had to go through that as a mom.
06:48Constantly explaining yourself.
06:50What if things were reversed?
06:52Would a white woman with a baby who looked black experience the things that I'm experiencing?
06:57No, she wouldn't.
06:58Or would people care?
06:59No, they wouldn't.
07:00Because to them it's like, you're saving a child that's poor, that's in a struggle.
07:06What sometimes scares me is that, at a point, she's going to have to explain to someone that she is
07:11actually a black woman.
07:13I'm not going to be with her.
07:15And she's going to have to go out and explain to people, this is my family, I belong here.
07:20I know.
07:21Like that part is so scary.
07:23And she went through a very difficult birth.
07:29At the end of the day, I'm glad both of you guys are here.
07:32I love you.
07:34Please don't cry because you're going to get me crying.
07:35That's not going to work.
07:42She made it.
07:43We're here.
07:44We're happy.
07:45I love you.
07:47I love you.
07:49Come on.
07:50Two-year-old is not cooperating.
07:54Me!
07:54Okay, yeah, you guys are going to look at me.
07:56Me!
07:57You're choking your child, Rob.
07:59What?
07:59Who?
08:00So how about some positive experiences you have in the public?
08:04We get a lot of comments on how well-behaved they are, and we don't see it.
08:12It's okay.
08:13They're still good kids, though.
08:15What do you hope for your family and the future?
08:17For our family, we want peace, prosperity, and joy.
08:22Really?
08:23Yeah.
08:24I just want my kids to be happy.
08:25And parenting is one of the most amazing things I've ever done.
08:33Oh, hold on one second.
08:35You're going to do the ACT?
08:37Yeah.
08:38But I'm scared I might crack it.
08:40I'm bad at making gags.
08:43There.
08:44Oh, my.
08:44Yeah, I did it.
08:46Yup, you did it.
08:47My name is Ashley, and I'm 34 years old.
08:50My oldest is Stanley, but we all know him as Boom, and he is 16.
08:57My second son, Katie, he is 13.
09:00I'm taking a seat.
09:02And then we have Munchie, and she is 11.
09:06And then we have TT, who is 10.
09:08And then we have Chase, which he goes by CO.
09:12He is 9.
09:13Since I have a lot of kids, I try to make them a big breakfast because I know they won't
09:20get full real quickly.
09:21Do you ever help in the kitchen?
09:23No.
09:24Sometimes, if I want to cook in the kitchen, I would ask my mom.
09:28But either my granddad or my big brother has to watch me.
09:31My eyesight's bad, so they don't really trust me in the kitchen that much.
09:35So I have to supervise me.
09:37I actually didn't even know what albinism was until my son was born.
09:42I didn't realize that something was wrong until I was breastfeeding him, and he had on his little hat.
09:48And I thought he had like a lint stuck to his hair.
09:53And when I went to go pull it, it was actually attached.
09:57And so when I took the hat off, I damn nearly just froze.
10:03I was like, oh my gosh, he has a lot of blonde hair.
10:07I started freaking out.
10:09Like, I went in a total eruption of emotions.
10:14Because he should have came out my color, and he did not come out my color.
10:18And I felt like somehow maybe the nurses probably swapped the babies.
10:22Like, something was definitely wrong because I totally believed that that was not my child.
10:30It literally took like two days before a doctor actually came in my room and told me that my son
10:37had oculocutaneous albinisms.
10:40And I said, well, what is that?
10:42And they just said, where a child lacks pigment, and they have no color.
10:48I mean, to me, he looked nothing like me.
10:50And to me, he was Caucasian.
10:56That's what I stood on.
10:58That's what I felt.
10:59So it was very hard trying to have a bond.
11:02And I was already being judged before he had even come home.
11:09Did you sleep with a white man?
11:11You had to have because you and dad are the same complexion.
11:15So how did you create this type of child?
11:18I felt like they gave me the wrong baby.
11:21Like, there was nothing nobody could honestly tell me for me to believe that it was my baby.
11:29Even though I birthed a child, but at the end of the day, I just couldn't accept that.
11:36One day that KD was crying, I was just looking at him, and he was just looking at me.
11:44And I was just talking to him, and he just smiled.
11:48And it was like, I just finally embraced it.
11:53Like, it was the way he smiled.
11:55It just melted my heart so much.
11:58And I just, I fell in love with him.
12:03I wouldn't let him go.
12:04I wouldn't put him down.
12:05Here is a picture of KD.
12:08This is when he was in his bassinet.
12:11You can see how precious he was.
12:13When we talked to the doctors, I had specifically asked, could this happen again?
12:18And they were telling me it was very rare.
12:20So, when I gave birth, again, Dad said, she's albino.
12:27And I said, you're lying.
12:28Soon as they washed her up, I seen a head full of blonde hair.
12:33But my reaction was very different.
12:37Here's a throwback little picture of TT.
12:40Lucky King.
12:41Because it was like, instantly, I'm like, KD is not alone.
12:47Here goes TT's newborn picture.
12:50They do look like they could be twins.
12:52A boy and a girl.
12:54There you have it, there's TT.
13:02Hey, Daddy.
13:05How's everyone doing?
13:07The whole family here.
13:09Got the whole squad.
13:11Here, TT.
13:11Here, TT.
13:12Can you tell us about your decision to start making TikTok videos
13:15and sharing your family's story on them?
13:17Well, I've always told the kids, I said, you know,
13:19if we do something very creative, I feel like we will go viral.
13:24And it took us two years.
13:26November 4th, I did a hair tutorial on TT.
13:30And within two days, we had six million views.
13:39It was a combination of reactions.
13:42A lot of positive and a lot of negative.
13:46People being downright racist.
13:49They're whitewashed.
13:51That's not your daughter.
13:53You're just using your adopted daughter for clout.
13:57People are not being educated enough when looking at her content.
14:01Because there's a lot of people saying you're not black.
14:03That you were adopted.
14:05That's not their mom.
14:06It was very painful.
14:07The fact that people don't think that they're mine.
14:10But what's crazy is, my daughter looks just like me.
14:14So, I don't know why people feel like she's not my child.
14:19But the only reason that I can think of is because her skin color.
14:24On Facebook, I had got a message request.
14:28Somebody had TT's photo with the Ku Klux Klan.
14:32Oh, okay.
14:33With a rope.
14:35With a rope.
14:36Now, I don't know if the rope was around her neck.
14:38I really can't remember, but the rope was there.
14:41There's some hateful people out there.
14:44Some small-minded people just react hatefully.
14:49Yeah.
14:50And there's not really much you can do that when you open yourself up on the informational highway.
14:56And there's no way that you can avoid it.
14:58I don't feed into it.
15:00Because when you respond to the negativity, then they're going to come back with more negativity.
15:06Because they have nothing else better to do.
15:08So, I'm not going to even give them that power.
15:11I did.
15:11You did.
15:12You did.
15:13See, I'm fearless.
15:15I'm fearless.
15:16Y'all know.
15:17We're going.
15:18Yay.
15:19Let's go.
15:22Sorry.
15:23Are you ever worried about a word of concern for KD and TT being affected by these judgments
15:28of hate?
15:30Honestly, no, because they're built just like me.
15:33They let it roll off their shoulders, and they really don't care what people think.
15:41Affirmations are very important to me, and I give it to my kids every day.
15:45You're handsome.
15:47You're handsome.
15:48You're smart.
15:49You're intelligent.
15:52Let's start educating people and bringing more awareness instead of the stares, the comments.
16:04As you look at TT and KD, they're themselves.
16:08They're no different than any other child.
16:10I'm not worried about their future.
16:12I see their future as being definitely bright.
16:15They're beautiful kids, and they can do anything that they put their mind to.
16:20I let my kids be kids, and I support them every step of the way.
16:29It's not time.
16:31Yum yum.
16:33Are you going to eat all that?
16:39We actually met on Tinder.
16:42Yeah, we met in 2018.
16:44I went on there as a joke.
16:46My sister told me.
16:47She was like, you need to go on there, because I was complaining about not having anyone,
16:50and then Matt and I matched.
16:53We went on a date, and the rest is history.
16:56That was good.
16:57Is she a good eater?
16:58Oh, yeah.
16:59She's a great eater.
17:00Mm-hmm.
17:01So, Brooklyn is our daughter.
17:04She's 10 months old.
17:06She's super rambunctious, energetic.
17:10She's a character.
17:11Yeah.
17:12She has so much personality.
17:24Honestly, I never thought I'd be this happy to be this tired all the time.
17:28But it's 100% worth it.
17:32She's just, every day there's something new.
17:34She's a new noise, a new action that she's doing, or...
17:39Mm-hmm.
17:40A new tooth.
17:42Yeah.
17:43What?
17:44Yeah.
17:45Say, you're pretty cool.
17:47Say, I'm pretty awesome.
17:49I'm like the center of mom and dad's world now.
17:51Yes.
17:52Mm-hmm.
17:53So, when she was born, she looked most like Matt.
17:56Yeah, she had my eyes.
17:58Right now, I think she's starting to look more like, well...
18:04I feel like she still looks like Matt, but she's starting to look like me in terms of, like,
18:10she's starting to get a little bit of a tan and, I mean, the chubby cheeks.
18:14Mm-hmm.
18:15I had chubby cheeks.
18:16Yeah.
18:16Yeah.
18:16A baby, and I was, like, super just round.
18:20So, I think she has that from me.
18:23Drop it down a little bit.
18:25Okay, hold on.
18:26Let's get...
18:27You gotta shoot a few.
18:34Okay, I...
18:36Okay, I'm in it too.
18:37Once I went back to work, I decided I needed a creative outlet.
18:41And so, I started making reels on Instagram and I found out that I loved it.
18:48Okay, brookie bear, look.
18:50Who's that baby?
18:54Perfect.
18:55Aw.
18:56Those are cute.
18:58I had a viral reel back in May and it exploded.
19:03I'm talking about, you know, millions of views.
19:06And from that reel, that's where all the comments came in.
19:10That I'm the stepmom.
19:12That Brooklyn's adopted.
19:14Maybe an egg donor.
19:16Your womb, but not your DNA.
19:20Someone else said they switched...
19:23They might have switched babies at the hospital and given us the wrong baby.
19:27And they said that still happens.
19:28They don't even put them in the nursery anymore.
19:30So, like, she stayed in the room with us.
19:33Yeah.
19:34I would be crushed if my baby didn't look anything like me.
19:37This is the reason why I date within my race.
19:41Clearly, they didn't pay close enough attention to that baby because that baby has a lot of your facial features.
19:46She does.
19:47She does.
19:48It's just the skin color they're getting hung up on.
19:50Yeah.
19:52Honestly, it's very eye-opening.
19:55I mean, growing up, I didn't really see a lot of that until I started dating and I married Morgan.
20:03It takes you back.
20:04It hurts because I didn't really think it was really out there like that.
20:08I just want to address a few things.
20:11People who say I'm not the biological mother and I'm Brooklyn's stepmom.
20:16That's not true.
20:17I carried Brooklyn for nine months last year.
20:21She is Matt and I's biological child.
20:24It was hurtful and I had a few just really down days.
20:28But then, you know, I get so many comments, just private messages from people, from moms.
20:35And they are either biracial or they have children that are biracial.
20:39And then they're like, thank you for shedding a light on this.
20:41They said we thought we were the only ones going through this.
20:45Hi.
20:46Hi.
20:47Hi.
20:48How are you guys?
20:50Hi.
20:51Hi.
20:52Hi.
20:52My family, they, you know, we talk about it and everything, so they go in the comments
20:58and say stuff that I would want to say.
21:01It just fires them up.
21:03Some of them.
21:04I'm not saying all of them.
21:05Oh, thank you.
21:10Hi, sweet.
21:11Hi, sweet.
21:12Hi.
21:13Please let go of my hand.
21:16Aw.
21:16She doesn't want to let go.
21:18Okay.
21:18Okay.
21:19Come on, Brooklyn.
21:20I saw the comments on Instagram and I've been like getting dragged for like the last like
21:25two weeks.
21:26I was just like, since when did everyone become DNA experts on our family?
21:30And people were like taking it so seriously.
21:32Like I woke up and it had like thousands of likes and people were kept like saying really
21:37nasty comments to me and I just feel like.
21:39Yeah, under your comment.
21:39Under my comment.
21:40And like just saying like, oh, well, this is like high school biology.
21:44Like, didn't you look through, like, did I do the Punnett square?
21:46And I'm like, I did AP biology, first of all.
21:48Like, I actually know about this.
21:50It's exhausting.
21:51Yeah.
21:51Some people have said like Brooklyn's going to grow up and she's going to like be ashamed
21:55of Morgan and like, she'll just claim you and I'm like, that's horrible.
21:59And then some people are like, oh, she doesn't even look biracial.
22:02And I'm like, what is looking biracial?
22:05What does biracial even look like?
22:07Oh, I've had people message me and say that this is why the races don't need to mix.
22:11Someone said, I don't believe in race mixing and your, um, any children that you have, you're
22:17just confusing them.
22:19Yeah.
22:19So because they can't, they can't pick one identity or the other.
22:22God forbid, you know, a darker skinned black woman gets married to a white man.
22:25And like everyone just has a problem with it.
22:27I mean, yeah, there's like a good amount of people that are supportive of it, but people
22:31just have, there's issues.
22:32There's always problems about it.
22:33And what's sad is like Brooklyn will always have to defend the fact that she is black and
22:37white, like always.
22:38And that's what I think what sucks, you know?
22:41Mm-hmm.
22:41And so it's like, it's really up to you guys to arm her and give her everything that she
22:46needs to deal with the world.
22:47Cause the world will try to tell her who she is.
22:50I'm just making a, a four ounce bottle for her so you can, you feel, give it to her.
22:57I think I've ever had a baby before.
22:59Oh, that's great.
23:00Yeah.
23:01I don't, I've never had to do that.
23:03Yeah.
23:05Oh, yeah.
23:06So just, you have to kind of tilt her.
23:09Is she feeding you your bottle?
23:10Yeah.
23:11Geez.
23:12It's almost gone.
23:13You want to sit right here?
23:14You want to sit in the middle of this?
23:16Okay.
23:17It's hurtful that, it's hurtful that they see something beautiful and they want to make
23:20it into a problem.
23:22Um, I mean, she's a baby.
23:25Like this is a little family and I don't see why people want to make it into like a bigger
23:29issue
23:29woman.
23:30I mean, I think I definitely was a keyboard ninja for a little bit.
23:34Oh, are you dancing?
23:35Yeah.
23:35I was a keyboard ninja when like the comments started, first started coming in.
23:38And then I realized like, Oh, these people are just really hurt and they're lashing out
23:43in their own way.
23:44And, um, this is just a reflection of what's going on with them and their inner world.
23:48So like, I'm just not gonna, hi, I'm just not going to partake in this.
23:54Yeah.
23:54Um, but I call my sister a lot and I check in on her to make sure that everything's good.
24:02Tell the people what's on your mind.
24:04Yeah.
24:05Tell us.
24:06Let them sit there.
24:08She's just gonna move it around.
24:09You kicking?
24:15She's just chilling.
24:16Brooklyn.
24:17I would just say, just don't listen to the negatives and you will eventually find a community
24:25of people who are also going through the same thing that you are.
24:29She knows who she is as a mother.
24:31She knows who she is, what she does for Brooklyn.
24:34The most important thing is just to rise above it.
24:36Just know who you are and be confident in who you are and what you do on a daily basis.
24:41I mean, I just want us to just continue to be happy and watch Brooklyn grow up.
24:48Just see how she just adapts to the world around her, you know.
24:51Brooklyn, any final thoughts?
24:53I'm just thinking about taking my hat off.
24:55Let's do some job with Jack.
24:57Jack.
24:58We have to do job with Jack.
24:59Oh.
25:01Let's do some job with Jack.
25:03Hi, my name is Tina.
25:05Hi, my name is Anton.
25:07This is Mila and she is 10 months old.
25:11And this is Michelle.
25:12How old are you?
25:14Two years old.
25:15How long have you been together, guys?
25:18And how did you meet?
25:19Well, we've been together for, what is it?
25:22Four years now?
25:23Yeah, four years.
25:24Four years.
25:27We met through a very famous dating app.
25:31On my first date, it was like magic.
25:35Okay, that's what I have to say.
25:37Are you ready to bake?
25:39Yeah, say yay!
25:42Hold it.
25:43Put it there.
25:45Cut it.
25:46Cut it.
25:47Done!
25:49Well done!
25:51Can you please tell me about how it was giving birth?
25:54She came when she was seven months old.
25:56I would never, in my widest imagination,
25:58thought my daughter was going to be red-haired,
26:00even if my husband was.
26:01My daughter wasn't looking half Nigerian.
26:05I keep getting that thing in my head.
26:06She really might, because she doesn't look like me.
26:09But a lot of family and friends keep saying,
26:11don't worry, she's going to get darker.
26:13Her color is going to change.
26:14It's going to be okay.
26:14But here we are.
26:18She's the cutest ginger ever.
26:21Is it nice?
26:24Mmm.
26:25Really nice, huh?
26:26We had to put her in a special care.
26:29And I was changing her diaper.
26:31There was a doctor who came to check on her.
26:34And I saw her waiting for like 10 minutes.
26:36So I asked her, are you waiting for someone?
26:38Or she said, no, I'm waiting for the mom to come,
26:40because I have to talk to her about something.
26:42And I'm like, I'm the mom.
26:44The doctor said, oh, sorry, I thought you were the nanny.
26:46She was apologizing.
26:48And I told her it was fine because anybody would have asked.
26:51And that was the first experience I had with her.
26:54And after that, it actually dawned on me that,
26:56girl, I have to be ready when I go out of the hospital
27:00because anything at this point is possible.
27:04It's raw.
27:05You shouldn't eat it.
27:06OK, you have to just put it in here.
27:08Yeah?
27:08OK.
27:09You want to try it like mama, like this?
27:10Yeah.
27:13When Mila was also born, she was also red-haired.
27:22I had a big experience at the supermarket as well.
27:24So Mila started crying.
27:26She was really crying so hard.
27:27And this lady just woke up to me.
27:29I don't think the mother is going to like her crying.
27:31Do you need help?
27:32I just straight up just told her no.
27:35She's my daughter.
27:36How does this make you feel?
27:38I feel overwhelmed.
27:39I feel blessed.
27:41I feel exhausted from explaining myself.
27:44I just want to be a mom.
27:46I just want to be looked as a mom.
27:48I don't want to be always attacked with that question.
27:52So I just want to show you guys this.
27:54So this is Michelle's ID card.
27:57I always have to take it with me,
27:59even though I don't want to take it,
28:00but just so I don't get asked questions that I'm not prepared for.
28:04Yeah.
28:04It's very uncommon for Dutch children to have an ID.
28:08Yeah.
28:11I have a surprise for you guys.
28:13I'm going to be giving away this pairs of shoes because it's 2025 and it's going to be giveaway season.
28:21When do you start posting on social media?
28:23So I've been posting for so long.
28:24I used to do hair tutorials, makeup and stuff.
28:26That was back in the days.
28:28So when I got married and I had my baby,
28:30I still really didn't post my childbirth and everything because it was a little bit too much for me.
28:36But after all the comments I've been getting for like physical contact with people and stuff,
28:41I thought maybe it's time for me to just like share it.
28:44Let me just post it on social media and just, just for the fun of it.
28:48I really wanted to see like what is going in people's head when they see this.
28:52After nine months of pregnancy, this is what I got.
28:56And it went crazy.
28:58Like it was all over the internet.
29:00Let me read some of the comments that I've been getting.
29:04The first one is, you are not the baby, the baby mother.
29:08My reaction to this comment is, I'm the mother, deal with it.
29:13The second comment is, maternity test for mom.
29:17Please.
29:18I don't blame you for this comment because sometimes when I look at him,
29:22I'm like, are you sure I shouldn't ask for maternity test?
29:25This comment says, were you even dead?
29:28I was there, sis.
29:31I was there.
29:33You're going to see the proof when they grow up.
29:35They're going to have my nose.
29:37They're going to have some of my chin.
29:40So it's going to be okay.
29:41Are you a house sitter or a baby sitter?
29:45Because they don't look like yours.
29:47Okay.
29:47I am all of the above.
29:49I'm everything.
29:50So it's, it's a whole list of job that is added to motherhood.
29:55And I'm taking it all in.
29:56I am the mom.
29:57I love my kids.
29:59I love the way they look.
30:00They look amazing.
30:01I'm grateful.
30:03And I'm just blessed to have them.
30:05My husband is not someone who is not a social media person.
30:08It's more like a chill guy.
30:10More like, don't want to do my thing.
30:13What does that mean?
30:15What does that have to do with anything?
30:17It means you're chill now.
30:18Like you're chill.
30:19When I said I got a bad comment and you were telling me on the stairs, you have to choose.
30:23If you want to keep doing social media, you need to know about the comment, you have to.
30:26You're going to get bad comments.
30:28Yeah.
30:29That's bad people.
30:30So people are going to say bad stuff.
30:32Okay.
30:33Are you ready?
30:34And if that's going to affect you, then you shouldn't be in social media.
30:38And since then, she's not been focusing on the negative comments.
30:41Just on positive comments.
30:42As my manager.
30:44As your manager of your mental health.
30:53I also got a lot of comments from Nigerians, from my country as well.
30:57They were saying, oh, she doesn't look like us, but it's fine.
31:00Keep the look.
31:01You've got our gene because it's in there.
31:04She's eating African food, spicy food, everything.
31:07She's eating it.
31:08She loves it.
31:13What happened at the bus?
31:16Oh, I was asked for an ID.
31:18So I don't know if it's because it was an international bus or whatever.
31:21But I was literally asked for an ID.
31:24And I had to call my husband to send me a screenshot of the passport from Mila
31:29because I didn't have an ID card for her.
31:31I didn't really take it personal, but we were the only one that was asked.
31:36So you don't see this as discrimination?
31:38I'm not calling it as discrimination.
31:40I just feel, think, like, it's just strange for people to think you have a child that doesn't look like
31:45you.
31:45So it's always a stare when you go out there with your kids and everybody's like, oh, they're so cute.
31:51They've got red-haired.
31:52Anton, when he's with me, we don't get the question a lot.
31:55We only get that stare.
31:56But when I'm alone, I get a lot of stare, a lot of question, a lot of doubting.
32:01You see it on people's faces.
32:03Such a thing that now, if I am going anywhere, I'm just double prepared.
32:09I just have to be ready.
32:10I'm just overthinking things.
32:11What if?
32:12What if?
32:12Yeah.
32:13My name.
32:14Yeah.
32:16My gene is going to fight back in the next round, okay?
32:19So I need you guys to pray for me at this point.
32:25I hope we can continue this journey and show people how amazing our children are.
32:31And we are happy with our children and in the future.
32:35And we want to see them be that person that they want to be.
32:37And we want to see them grow with the positive comments and the excitement of everything around them.
32:44Ready to eat?
32:46Yeah.
32:47My name is Ezekiel.
32:49My name is Vivienne.
32:51We have one child.
32:53He's a boy.
32:54His name is Zane.
32:55And he's eight months old.
32:57We're friends for years before starting dating.
33:00She was so hard to guess.
33:03I can't say that.
33:03So did you feel like I was playing hard to guess?
33:05Not.
33:06Not really.
33:08We moved to Cyprus 2021.
33:10It was because of my education.
33:12I wanted to school abroad.
33:15It's just me, my husband and our baby here.
33:18Our extended family are back home in Nigeria.
33:21Yes.
33:23We always know we wanted to start a family.
33:25We always imagine what our children would look like, what we would name them.
33:28Yeah.
33:29It's always been in the book.
33:31Yeah.
33:32It's always been in the book.
33:34Baby Zane.
33:37How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
33:40It was the happiest day of our life.
33:45When I was pregnant, I was already imagining what my baby would look like in my head.
33:49I was already anticipating to see a full hair, black hair.
33:52Then when they brought him to me.
33:56Your baby is yellow.
33:58What?
34:00It was the shock of my life.
34:02But then I still loved him.
34:04Immediately I saw him.
34:05Of course, he's my baby.
34:06My son is the first albino that we are actually seeing face to face.
34:12Face to face.
34:13What did the albino mean?
34:14Albino's name is simply the lack of pigmentation in the skin, hair and eyes.
34:21Albino's name has changed my life in the way that at times when I go out with him, people stare
34:27at me.
34:28They just want to know if I'm the real father or not.
34:31People ask me some questions like, is my wife white?
34:34Do you want to raise your children in Nigeria?
34:37No, no, no, no, no.
34:39In Nigeria, I just feel like they don't see a child with albino's name as a normal person.
34:49People with albino's name in Nigeria, they are just being bullied and they are being maltreated because of their skin.
34:57There's not enough awareness about albino's name, albino's name education in Nigeria.
35:02They are discriminated against a lot.
35:05People don't like to associate with them.
35:07They still live in the olden days time, the olden days mentality that people with albinism are cursed.
35:15That's how they see.
35:17How does that make you feel?
35:19I feel bad and that's one of the reasons why I want to educate people.
35:26I want to create more awareness for them to know that albinism is a gift and it's not a curse.
35:31And albinism is beautiful.
35:36Did you receive any judgment from your family?
35:40No, we didn't receive any judgment.
35:43None at all.
35:45Call this name.
35:46Let's get ready for a photo shoot.
35:50Let's go get dressed.
35:52Okay?
35:53Yay.
35:55Yay.
35:59Say and which one do you want?
36:02Let's see.
36:03Chill at this.
36:04Now go there.
36:06Yay.
36:07Let's go.
36:10Why did you want to share this story online?
36:14It was actually my decision to share a story online and it was to educate, to inspire other moms.
36:25If I can put my baby out online, they feel that they can also put their baby.
36:30Because so many moms, they fear judgment online.
36:34When I post Zane's videos, it motivates and inspires a lot of people.
36:39Baby Zane.
36:42Whenever his videos go viral, that's when we get some negative comments.
36:48People accuse my wife of cheating because my son has abandoned Zane.
36:54They say, go and ask that woman who pregnanted her.
37:00That woman needs a lie detector test.
37:02People go to my husband to tell him to get a DNA test.
37:07Those comments really hurt me and I felt bad.
37:11But with time, I grew thick skin because I know that people will always have something negative to say.
37:17Even if Zane didn't have albinism, they would always want to say something to get into your skin.
37:24How do you respond to these comments?
37:26I just block.
37:28Block and delete.
37:29Block and delete, yeah.
37:31How do people in public respond when they see Zane and you guys out together?
37:36When we go out, people are always like surprised.
37:42How are you?
37:43How are you?
37:44How have you been?
37:45Fine.
37:46Bigger.
37:47And Zane?
37:48Zane is fine.
37:49Well, I think he's a little bit down.
37:51Plus a little bit of, yeah.
37:53Zane, please be good, okay?
37:57What was your first reaction when you saw Zane?
38:00When I saw baby Zane and how little he was then, he looked so lovely.
38:06I said, wow, is this your baby Vivian?
38:09I was amazed.
38:11I said, wow, is this baby from Vivian's belly?
38:16What's your worry about Zane growing up with albinism?
38:19As a mom, it's non-stop worries.
38:22I think about it.
38:24I think about what his future will look like.
38:25But I know I will raise him to be strong, confident and independent, so he's able to stand up for
38:32himself.
38:33That's my friend.
38:34I think children with albinism, they face discrimination in our country.
38:40And it's not just in Nigeria.
38:42I should say yes for it everywhere.
38:45How do you feel about people's comments on social media?
38:48Girl, I'm not gonna lie.
38:50At first, it was getting to me.
38:53Like, it's natural.
38:54When I put my baby out there and then people start saying nasty things.
38:59Another person now said, bro, your wife cheated or blocked.
39:03Did you block immediately?
39:04Of course.
39:05Because I have no time for negativity.
39:07Girl, seriously, you're doing a great job.
39:11It's not easy to look after a child.
39:13And you too, that is Zane.
39:14You're a power couple.
39:16Keep doing the great work.
39:18Oh, sweet child.
39:21Albinism is a gift to me.
39:24I don't see it as a disease.
39:26It's a gift because this same albinism has opened beautiful doors for Zane at a tender age.
39:34So many opportunities have come to him because of the albinism.
39:38And he decided to make me a special mom because my child stands out.
39:43He's different.
39:44I hope to change their perspiration just as I'm doing already by creating awareness using my baby as an example.
39:53For them to see how gorgeous Zane is and that albinism is beautiful.
39:58Albinism is not a disease.
39:59Do you open every more cheese?
40:02Maybe two more.
40:08I don't like violi volts new.
40:11Have a great job!
40:11Thanks for joining us.
40:12T fre abrasive buildings on how beautifulitas have been implemented.
40:15You won't start meeting as you can look after your marriage.
40:15You
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