00:00We're 14 and we're in love.
00:01A lot of people say that we're too young to be together,
00:04that I'm going to be a teen mom.
00:06This is ridiculous.
00:08She'll be pregnant by next year.
00:10There was a fake Instagram that sent me a DM with their pictures
00:15and telling me that she was dating Jonathan.
00:18She's allowing us to hang out, sleep over,
00:21and just basically have a lot of freedom.
00:24They say that I'm setting up my daughter for failure.
00:27I am Leilani and this is my boyfriend Jonathan.
00:30I was sleeping in my mom's bed last night
00:32because I'm not really allowed to sleep with him.
00:35I feel like it is self-respect and some boundaries that we have.
00:39There's only a certain, like, certain days I can hang out with him.
00:42If I have good grades, she lets me go.
00:45He's really allowed to sleep over,
00:47but if we, like, were to stay in my bed,
00:49we would have to keep the door open.
00:52We've been together for a year.
00:54I saw her around school,
00:55but the first time I actually talked to her was at Wingstop.
00:59I went up to her and I got one of some of her wings,
01:02and that's the first time I texted her that same day,
01:05telling her I'm sorry that I took her wings.
01:07And then from there, I just started talking.
01:09The way I found out about Leilani and Jonathan,
01:12there was a fake Instagram that sent me a DM with their pictures
01:17and telling me that she was dating Jonathan.
01:20I was very disappointed because I tried to keep an open relationship with Leilani.
01:24She was upset because I didn't open up to her about it.
01:27She'd rather have me open up than go hiding behind her back.
01:30So she was upset that I didn't talk to her.
01:34I was just nervous because she's always told me to focus on school
01:38and never pay attention to boys because they'll, like, stop me from paying attention.
01:44When I found out, she was grounded.
01:47So I took away a lot of her phone, her privacy.
01:51I took a lot of it away.
01:52I started feeling more comfortable about three, four months into their relationship
01:58just because I saw the type of kid that he was,
02:01how he was treating my daughter,
02:02and how he was, you know, being respectful towards me
02:05and towards her sister as well.
02:07My parents weren't upset about it.
02:10They were supportive.
02:10A lot of my TikToks and Instagram deals,
02:13it's mostly about them and their little dates or their relationship.
02:18I feel like there's not a lot of moms that approve of,
02:21you know, their teenagers having relationships.
02:24So I found it cute and I just started posting them.
02:27I do get a lot of judgment or hate.
02:30People are telling me I'm setting up my daughter to be a teen mom.
02:34Some things they say, they say,
02:35I would not want my mom following me every time I hang out with my boyfriend.
02:41Another person, she said,
02:43she should be focused on other, plenty of time to do this.
02:47Another girl, my 14-year-old would not be in a relationship like that.
02:51This is ridiculous.
02:52She's going to get pregnant by 16.
02:54Sometimes I respond to them,
02:56but for the most part, I just turn off the comment.
02:59My baby girl can start dating when she's 18.
03:01Oh, hell no, that's too young.
03:03What happened to protecting children?
03:05A lot of people say that we're too young to be together.
03:08They say that I'm going to be a bad girlfriend and I'm cheating on him.
03:13Or they also say that he's not worth my time.
03:17She'll be pregnant by next year.
03:19I see the mom.
03:20It all makes sense.
03:21I feel like the supportive is like 90%
03:25and we have that like 10% of people hating.
03:28I kind of just ignore them as much as I can.
03:31We're 14 and we're 11.
03:33It doesn't really bother me or affect me at all.
03:35Like, at the end of the day,
03:37they're just comments and they just want to get their attention.
03:40I find it really common for a lot of girls
03:42to be posting their boyfriends nowadays.
03:45But I find it really cute.
03:47I agree with her.
03:49Mom, can we go watch TV?
03:52Yeah, that's fine.
03:54My mom started setting boundaries around the relationship
03:56once we were really close,
03:58once she met him.
04:00Who do you want to watch?
04:01She lets us hang out.
04:03She lets us go to the movies, like, by ourselves.
04:07She said as long as she takes us
04:09and she drops us off and picks us up.
04:11And I think she's allowing us to hang out,
04:14sleep over,
04:15and basically have a lot of freedom.
04:18Guys, keep the door open.
04:19Okay.
04:21There's no reason for them to have closed doors.
04:24He's only allowed to come if, you know,
04:26his mom allows him to or he plays some sports.
04:30So if he doesn't have a game that day,
04:32so he's allowed to come and stay over the weekend.
04:34As well for her, she has to have good grades.
04:37She has to be on top of her homework
04:38in order for them to be allowed to spend,
04:41you know, a weekend together.
04:42He's not allowed to sleep with her in the same,
04:45you know, bedroom.
04:46She has to sleep with me
04:48and he sleeps by himself in her room.
04:50I think my mom's rules do make sense
04:52because a lot of people nowadays don't have, like,
04:55kind of the respect.
04:57And, like, I'm glad he has that respect towards my mom
05:00and listens to her.
05:01I really get along with her mom.
05:03I love the boundaries she set and I agree to them.
05:06So I think the freedom we have right now
05:08is more than enough.
05:10The same rules apply when Leilani comes to my house,
05:13which is hard when she comes to my house,
05:15but, yeah, it would be the same rules.
05:17Some family members, yeah,
05:19I feel like they don't say it,
05:21but, like, they judge, so...
05:24Mom, me and Jonathan planned a picnic at the park.
05:27Okay, so we're going to go to the park.
05:30So we're at a picnic right now.
05:33We're eating chips.
05:34My mom's here with us.
05:35I think we're just going to walk around and chill.
05:38We don't really go on dates often
05:40because it's just a lot of money.
05:43And since we're kind of young,
05:45we don't kind of have that money yet.
05:47My mom does come on every single day with me,
05:50but it's only for our protection
05:51because at the same time,
05:53you'd never know what could happen.
05:56There's a lot of weird people out there, and, yeah.
05:58We're still young.
06:00To be able to go out alone,
06:02I think I'll be, like, at the age...
06:03I think, like, 16 or 17.
06:06I feel like that's the minimum age
06:07that a lot of parents let their children go out.
06:10I like that your hair is always with us,
06:12and she takes care of us
06:14and keeps an eye on us
06:15and makes sure we're okay.
06:16I often do this with Leilani and Jonathan.
06:20I kind of let them enjoy, you know,
06:23like a little date.
06:24I don't mind attending day two things.
06:26Once he drives and is able to get her
06:30from point A to point B,
06:32I think they would be allowed to go by themselves.
06:35A lot of teens do message me saying
06:37they wish their parents would support them
06:40or they wish they wouldn't go around
06:42hiding from their parents.
06:44So I kind of, you know,
06:45have that relationship open
06:47for her to just count on me.
06:51I think what's special about their relationship
06:54is that they still act like kids.
06:57So they could still show that they're in love,
07:00but they're still growing up together
07:02and being kids.
07:04Some things I love the most about Jonathan,
07:05I think his personality.
07:07He's really nice.
07:09He's kind-hearted to others when they need it.
07:12The most I love about Leilani
07:14is that she has a really big heart
07:15and she will go beyond herself for others.
07:19And she's funny
07:20and she knows how to make my bad days
07:22and turn into good days.
07:24To the people that judge me,
07:25I would just say, like,
07:26I don't really care.
07:27I know, you know,
07:29I'm doing my part in being a great mom.
07:31I hope it really goes well
07:33because I really, really like him.
07:35I just hope it holds, like,
07:37a really good future for both of us
07:40and not just one of us.
07:42As she said,
07:43I really hope it goes well
07:44and we stick together forever.
08:07I really hope it goes well
08:09and we'll see you next time.
08:09I'm going to see you next time.
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