00:00I've always been judged about my hands.
00:02It weighs almost 7 kilos on my left hand, on my right hand almost 2 kilos.
00:08I found him attractive.
00:09When I told my friends about him, they were very hesitant.
00:15How did you feel when I first introduced Mark?
00:17I'll be honest, I'm very shocked.
00:21I get a lot of judgment growing up.
00:25They feel pretty as if I can do anything better in my life because of my condition.
00:32I have a condition called macrodactyly.
00:36I was told by a doctor that it's 1 in 10 million case.
00:42Having these hands as big as it is, being able to use it as part of my brand
00:51or part of me being able to inspire others as well,
00:54I think it's a blessing for me.
00:57I was born with this condition.
00:59When I was a child, it wasn't this big, but it's the same as how it looks.
01:04And yeah, it can be really hard because, I mean, right now it weighs almost 7 kilos
01:10on my left hand, on my right hand almost 2 kilos.
01:15When I chop, it's hard, but at the same time I was able to adapt to it.
01:19I can do it, but it's slower compared to normal.
01:23It's very important to me because I don't want to, I don't want to make my family feel
01:30that they have to take care of me all the time.
01:35You know, even though I have this condition, I'm always be there, you know, present
01:40to do, you know, what most dads do.
01:43I want my daughter to feel that despite having this, I'm still there for her.
01:49I've had heartbreaks where I, you know, I like someone and they wouldn't like me back
01:57because of my hands.
01:59And, but yeah, I didn't give up and not focusing on what I cannot change.
02:04And yeah, that's when, you know, I met Jalai.
02:09We first met online.
02:11Online, she added me on my Facebook.
02:16At first, I was surprised because she's, you know, gorgeous.
02:21We started to chat.
02:23At first, I didn't think that, you know, his photos are real.
02:30If it was, like, edited or not, but, you know, I found him attractive.
02:37We're four years now, going five years.
02:39I'm really here with him because, you know, I love him.
02:43She didn't really ask about my condition or what happened to my hands.
02:50I think that's what I like about her.
02:52It was really difficult for me growing up, especially that all you want to do is to fit in with
03:01other children.
03:02You know, I think when I was second grade, third grade, I see other children tying their own shoes.
03:08I wasn't able to do it.
03:10The night before the school, I always practiced on tying my shoelaces just so I could fit in.
03:17It may look hard for me to wear clothes, but as much as possible, I don't ask Jelai to help
03:23me.
03:24The only thing that she really helps me out is just to wear the earrings.
03:29You know, my fingers can't handle.
03:31But other than that, I mean, just wearing a watch, you know, putting up my shirt, wearing my pants.
03:37I mostly do it alone.
03:40I've always wondered if whether I can have a family of my own.
03:44I just had a checkup and having this condition can't be passed on to my child.
03:51He is a very amazing dad and also a very amazing partner.
03:55He always takes care of us even though he has a condition.
04:00Comments that I get on my content.
04:03I bet he don't has a girl.
04:06Obviously, I have a girl.
04:09Very beautiful girl.
04:11Hey!
04:13Some of the comments were referring me as Hope, like the Incredible Hope, top booner of 2026.
04:21Most of the judgment was like that I'm just with him because of his money.
04:30You know, in reality, I don't really have that much.
04:33They think that I wouldn't be a great father.
04:36I'm just someone that would make life harder for Jaylai because Jaylai would have to focus on taking care of
04:43me.
04:44When in reality, I'm the one taking care of her all the time.
04:49I think they were thinking that, you know, I have like a caregiver.
04:55Someone always helps me put on my clothes, even eating, I mean, going to the restroom.
05:02They think I'm rich or they think I have a lot of money because I, you know, there's always someone
05:08there to help me out.
05:09I have always been judged about my hands, but for some reason, I always have like a positive mindset.
05:18I can't do anything about my hand.
05:20It is what it is.
05:21When I told my friends about him, they were kind of shocked.
05:29They were very hesitant.
05:30Jaylai and I are besties since high school.
05:34We've been through a lot.
05:36At first, when I saw Mark, I'm very shocked.
05:42How did you feel when I first introduced Mark?
05:45I'll be honest.
05:47It's kind of nerve-wracking, like especially the condition that Mark has.
05:52Mark is very different.
05:54And I'm not expecting for you to fall in love with him.
05:58Like, that's an honest, you know.
06:01I don't feel surprised.
06:05I'm one of one.
06:07I mean, not everyone can see hands like this like in a normal day.
06:11People are like...
06:14Intimidated.
06:14Yeah, intimidated.
06:17How do you handle like all of the bashers?
06:20Like, especially when you're going outside in social media.
06:25At first, I was like very shy.
06:29Because I'm a person who's not used on people get stared at.
06:35I mean, bashers would always be there.
06:37But for those people who really, you know, got inspired by us, I think that's what we're really focused.
06:46Finally, Jaylai found the right one.
06:48That's what I can tell.
06:48Because even though Mark has this situation, but his heart is so big.
06:56I love how he handled himself as a person, knowing even though he has that type of condition, he still
07:02managed to take care and always look for us.
07:04I love how strong she is.
07:09And, you know, I just love being with her every day.
07:13He's always there beside me when I needed her the most.
07:19The message I have for the people who, you know, judge us is for them to be happy with their
07:26life as well.
07:28The easiest thing we can do is just be kind to each other.
07:31You may see my condition as a problem, but, you know, for me it wasn't really.
07:37It's actually a blessing.
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