00:01Hey, I had a story that keys off of teachers, and I thought this was kind of interesting.
00:07This is out of, where is this? Somewhere in the south. I think it's in the...
00:12Is it Florida?
00:12No, it's North Carolina.
00:14Yeah, the teacher at Northeast Carolina Preparatory School in Tarboro, North Carolina,
00:20had apparently punished one of their students.
00:24By punished, I mean making them write a phrase over and over and over and over again.
00:28A la Bart Simpson.
00:28Because he called her ma'am.
00:32Ma'am?
00:32Yes, ma'am, and she didn't like it, and so he had to write the word ma'am numerous times.
00:41His teacher asked him to write it.
00:42He told his mother that he had to return this with the parent's signature after he repeatedly called her the word,
00:50despite being told not to do so.
00:53Okay, well, if she told him not to, then...
00:55Yeah, he completed his assignment during class hours, which made his mom worry that maybe it had interfered with some of the school work.
01:02Yes.
01:02According to the mom, Mrs. Wilson, the teacher also told the young boy that if he, or the girl, if she had something, she would have thrown it at him.
01:13I'm sorry, said to the boy.
01:14So if she would have had something, she would have thrown it at him.
01:16After the mom signed the paper, she had also had the boy write down the definition of ma'am,
01:23which is a term of respectful or polite address used for a woman, according to Oxford dictionaries.
01:30There are some people that hate being called ma'am, and my...
01:34I hate it.
01:35My wife uses ma'am as a sign of respect when she's on the phone with someone asking for help.
01:40Yes, ma'am.
01:40Yes, ma'am.
01:41Thank you, ma'am.
01:42And especially as you start to go south, you're going to find...
01:46It is a term...
01:47It is a respectful way to refer to people.
01:50Yeah.
01:50I would...
01:51The...
01:53I...
01:54I...
01:55I...
01:55It's a weird thing, and I know, Preston, you're right.
01:58Ma'am to...
01:58For ma'am to set someone off?
02:00Yeah, I don't know.
02:01I've always known it as a respectful way to refer to someone.
02:04Maybe she's younger and she doesn't want to feel old or something like that?
02:07Yeah, that's how I see it.
02:08I see it as an older woman.
02:10So when somebody...
02:11I remember the first time somebody...
02:13He was a kid, probably a high school kid, called me ma'am, and I was like, oh, my God.
02:18I mean, I didn't tell him, don't call me that,
02:19but it made me feel old.
02:21It's not...
02:22Did he just say ma'am?
02:24Pretty much.
02:24Well, I never.
02:27Was it the word that set the teacher off, or was it the fact that the kid was repeating it over and over?
02:30I don't know.
02:31Well, it had to be...
02:32It had to be the initial thing graded on her because she asked him to stop saying it.
02:37Yeah.
02:38But if he's used to saying it as a sign of respect to, you know, like somebody in an authoritative manner,
02:43like, then you just got to get that flag out of your butt and get over it.
02:46Right, Preston?
02:47I would think so.
02:47Yeah.
02:48Get the flag out of your butt?
02:49Yeah.
02:49Did I say that one day?
02:50Yeah.
02:50Okay.
02:51I was walking...
02:52I was hiking around the area, you know, maybe on Friday.
02:56Said hello to this young feller, probably 13 or 14.
03:01How are you?
03:03How's it going?
03:04Very well, sir.
03:05I'm like, yeah!
03:06That's right!
03:07Yeah!
03:07Yeah!
03:10It's a title.
03:11It's a title.
03:12We're not new.
03:12This kid walking along, you know, that you, you, come with me.
03:16I want to show other people what you just did because it was so good.
03:19It's a title you've earned.
03:20I earned it!
03:21Hey, here's a text.
03:21It says, women should know better than to call other women ma'am.
03:25I joke that they're traitors.
03:27And then she writes, it's well known that most women don't like it.
03:31What do you mean?
03:31How do you know that?
03:32Because of the extensive survey she took.
03:34Yeah, exactly.
03:35Maybe amongst a handful of your friends or something.
03:38But what do you mean most women?
03:39Yeah, but I, see, I would agree with that.
03:41But how do you know most women?
03:42Because anybody, I mean, anyone that I know, it's not like I took a survey, but anyone I
03:46know would agree.
03:47Then it's got to be everyone.
03:48Yeah, and you know what?
03:49Here's the thing, too.
03:50I think it's, no, but I do, like you said, it's regional.
03:52Do you know what I mean?
03:53It's, or like in the, in the South, yes, they do that.
03:56They're here, not as much.
03:59But I'm born and bred, you know, Northeast, and ma'am to me was always a sign of respect.
04:04And I would say ma'am.
04:05Well, maybe an old, is it an older thing?
04:07Like it, you don't like it.
04:09I don't know.
04:09I just.
04:10You keep going back to old.
04:11No, the standard thing would be pretty good ma'am.
04:15Wouldst thou takest me?
04:16But here's the deal.
04:17I think it's all about intent.
04:19And if you hear someone saying it as a clearly as a sign of respect, you should understand
04:24that they're just being polite.
04:26Yes, of course.
04:26I'm not going to get mad at them, but it doesn't make me like it.
04:29It's still, I still think it's.
04:31I don't like it.
04:31Yeah, no, I don't.
04:32One gosh darn bit.
04:35I'm looking at my activities list.
04:37Oh, God.
04:38No, I, I, listen, and if it rings to your ear and you don't like it, you can simply say,
04:42oh, it's okay, you don't have to call me ma'am or I'll punch you in the throat.
04:45Yeah.
04:45I don't, I would never read it as a, as an insulting thing.
04:49It's not.
04:49That's a way to.
04:51It's your own fault for being old.
04:52Jesus Christ.
04:53What's with you in that aging thing?
04:55It's not insulting.
04:56It's just, we just don't like it.
04:58And that's fine.
04:59But, all right.
04:59It's your personal preference.
05:00I don't think somebody saying it to me is insulting me.
05:03All right.
05:03But what do you want your server?
05:04What do you want your waiter or waitress to call you when, when they go up to your table?
05:07Sugar tees.
05:08Yeah.
05:09Young lady, maybe?
05:11Young lady.
05:13Oh, my God.
05:13She has to see my ID.
05:15Now we're living in a family.
05:16Now you're getting into pandering.
05:18Wait, wait, wait.
05:18I haven't been underage for 38 years.
05:22Wait, let me tell you something that happened on Saturday.
05:24I have to tell you this.
05:26So I went out for, Preston, I went out for my birthday and we went into the bar and they
05:30were carding everyone as we were walking in.
05:32And me, I was with Elisa, you know, we're both 40.
05:35And she goes, oh, let's see if we get carded.
05:38So we walk up to him and we stand there and he goes, hi.
05:40And so we were like, do you want to see our ID?
05:42He goes, sure.
05:43If you want to hand it to me.
05:46See, he did.
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