00:00My friend turned my boyfriend by.
00:02My name is James.
00:04My name is Sarah.
00:05My name is Hunter.
00:06James and I have been together since high school.
00:09James, he never was with a gun.
00:12Yeah.
00:12I cared for her a little bit more than a friend,
00:15but at the same time I knew I was gay.
00:17So I was a little confused.
00:20One of my friends, she was weirded out by it.
00:24It was very much a, like, what are you doing?
00:27Yeah, I think the worst judgment that we've gotten
00:29is a strong family.
00:30Is this for you or is it for him?
00:33Uh, we'll have a group.
00:35Like, let's go here or here.
00:38Okay, so...
00:40I feel like you look at us from, like,
00:42an outside perspective, majority of the time,
00:43it just kind of looks like a group of friends.
00:45Yeah.
00:46Um, and then I kiss him, and then I kiss him,
00:49and then it's like, oh, huh.
00:53Hi, my name is Sarah.
00:55My name is James.
00:56Hi, my name is Hunter.
00:57I'm bisexual.
00:58I would also say my sexuality is bisexual.
01:01So, my sexuality, I am actually a gay man who is biromantic.
01:09We first got together back in high school.
01:12I met Hunter when we all were trying to find a place to live
01:17after we got done doing college.
01:19We moved in together, and, uh, we were roommates.
01:25And that's where it all began.
01:27And, you know, one-bedroom apartment and all that.
01:30Yeah.
01:31You get pretty close.
01:32Have you ever considered adding a third person to your relationship
01:36before you guys met, uh, Hunter?
01:38No.
01:39We have never considered having a third,
01:42adding a third person to the relationship before.
01:44I'm a jealous person.
01:45I will say that.
01:46So, that was never anything that I had ever, like, ever crossed my mind in the slightest.
01:52I prefer monogamy, truthfully.
01:54I prefer monogamy until we got into whatever this is, honestly.
01:59That's been going on now for almost a year.
02:02I actually realized that I cared for her a little bit more than a friend.
02:08But, at the same time, I knew I was gay.
02:10So, I was a little confused myself.
02:12After realizing that, I think that's also kind of when I came to the realization of, like,
02:17do I have feelings for James?
02:19When did you catch him?
02:21I want to say maybe around the same time.
02:23And I was just kind of like, what?
02:26What?
02:27One, I'm with James.
02:29Two, he's gay.
02:30Like, get that out of your head.
02:32Hello.
02:33What is wrong with you?
02:34And it wasn't like those feelings for you James ever diminished or ever, you know, went
02:38away in any way, shape, or form.
02:42And we were sitting down packing.
02:43He said, I guess I'm going to tell you guys, I have feelings for you both.
02:49And James went, huh?
02:51And then I said, same, like, without skipping a beat.
02:55And then I went, huh?
02:58And he was just very caught off guard.
03:00And me and him kept exchanging looks.
03:01Like, did we just break him?
03:02What did we just do?
03:04I would say what I caught feelings, they weren't fully there yet.
03:07But after we decided to try this out, I really started to like, feel like, wow, like, I actually
03:12really do love and care about him.
03:14Yeah.
03:15I think that's the crazy thing.
03:16Like when we first got into this throuple, James had no intimate feelings for me.
03:21After we got into the throuple, that's when he tried to start exploring.
03:24My feelings for you never diminished either.
03:27Just leave that out there.
03:28They were still good and strong.
03:30I came up with me outside.
03:31You two were together for eight years.
03:32At the time, you also weren't out either.
03:34That's also true.
03:35Like, you were, you had feelings for guys, but you also didn't want to admit it to not
03:43just us, but yourself.
03:44I never really fully, like, come to terms with it, but like in the back of my mind,
03:49I thought about it.
03:50And over time, it became something that I knew I enjoyed and that made me happy.
03:56Who has with who?
03:58Like, what's the deal of it?
04:01Okay.
04:02So, me and James will have .
04:06James and Hunter will have .
04:08Me and Hunter, that's kind of where that gets a little bit complicated, because Hunter,
04:12as he said, is a gay man.
04:15But I, I do still want to please her.
04:18So, in order to do that, I've got an apple mashed on and we use a remote control, things
04:22like that.
04:23Um, I can't do anything with my mouth or, like, my downstairs.
04:28I can't do anything with that.
04:30And he's gonna stay soft as a caterpillar.
04:33Like, he's chilling.
04:34He's chilling.
04:35Now, if James would try the same stuff, we gotta go to another room.
04:37You know what I mean?
04:38Like, we gotta, we gotta go.
04:39Some examples of doubt that I know I've heard.
04:42Um, you guys don't actually love each other.
04:44This is just fun.
04:45Yeah.
04:46It's a phase.
04:47It's a phase.
04:48You'll, you'll enjoy yourselves and then you'll go back to your normal life.
04:51Well, this is normal life for us.
04:53Yeah.
04:54Maybe you guys are just going through a rough patch and is this for you or is it for him?
05:00And not thinking that it was a thing that was for both of us.
05:05Yeah.
05:06One of my friends, she thought it was an April fool's prank.
05:09She was like, you're lying to me.
05:11This is a lie.
05:12She was weirded out by it.
05:14Yeah.
05:15I think the worst judgment that we've gotten is from family.
05:17It is from family.
05:18Yeah.
05:19And I think yours specifically, one of his family members.
05:22Yeah.
05:23Definitely tore into him a little bit.
05:24Yeah.
05:25No matter what I did to explain it to him, he just wouldn't get it.
05:29Another one of the biggest assumptions, I think, when it comes to thruffles in general,
05:33is it's always two girls and one guy.
05:36Yeah.
05:37I feel like one of the conceptions people get about bisexual men is that it's,
05:42I feel like a lot of people can never really truly believe that someone actually can like both,
05:46but it is a thing and it is real.
05:48A lot more questions about how we sleep in the bedroom, if we sleep in one bed.
05:54That seems to be the number one question.
05:56Oh yeah.
05:57I was going to, you, uh.
05:59I, you, uh.
06:02We all just sleep in the same bed.
06:04Like we all just kind of take turns.
06:06It'll be me and James switching to be in the middle because Hunter does not like being in the middle.
06:11So we actually, we share a lot of things.
06:14My boyfriend.
06:15We actually do share.
06:16You're done.
06:17You're not wrong.
06:19We're going to have a video call with my grandma Peggy.
06:21Uh, and I'm interested to hear what she has to say about our relationship.
06:25Why did you suspect that we were in a Throckwell?
06:29Well, James actually gave up my bed, his bed to me and they all three slept together.
06:36And I was like, okay, there's something a little bit more.
06:42Did you have any other worries about our relationship, my mom?
06:46Um, no, because I kind of thought, well, if one left, the other one was there.
06:54You were happy.
06:57I just had a backup plan.
06:59I love Sarah.
07:00Yes.
07:01And I love the guys.
07:02It's very love that I love it.
07:05I gave two grandsons.
07:07Yeah.
07:08Honorary grandsons.
07:09Oh yeah.
07:10Honorary.
07:11Grandsons by choice.
07:14Thanks.
07:15Honorary.
07:16Sarah, I never thought I could love a woman.
07:20I really didn't.
07:22I thought it was a man and I was going to the grave.
07:26You've definitely changed my perspective on things.
07:28Uh, and that, that's, that's helped me a lot.
07:31And then of course, James, you've definitely helped me grow as a person too.
07:34Yeah.
07:35Overall, you guys have both definitely helped me to grow as a person and become the best version of myself.
07:40Stepping way out of my comfort zone to do something I never thought possible.
07:43And I'll never be able to thank you both enough for all the love, support.
07:48You truly do make me the happiest guy in the world.
07:50Knowing that you guys love each other and love me just as much as I love both of you, like, it makes me so happy.
07:58It's our lives.
07:59We're going to live it the way that we want to live it, honestly.
08:01Just keep your judgment to yourself.
08:03If you really don't like it, don't look.
08:06Whoa-ho-ho-ho-ho.
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