- 3 months ago
James previously featured on Love Don’t Judge over 2 years ago with his ex-girlfriend. James is a feminine presenting man who initially came out as gay when he was younger because it was ‘easier.' He faced a lot of judgement for that relationship because people couldn’t understand how it worked. James is now in a new relationship with his wife, Dani. They have been together for almost a year. They met on instagram in January 2024 when Dani messaged him about one of his TikTok lives and James said everything took off from there. They officially started dating in March 2024 and Dani gave birth to a baby girl earlier this year! They have received similar judgement to his previous relationship, with many people confused about James dating a masculine presenting woman as a feminine man. People online have said that he definitely has a type. During the early days of dating, Dani encouraged James to join her in the gym - her passion in life. The couple now enjoy regular workouts together and dream of opening their own gym someday.
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00:00The last time I did this I was very fat and then I moved out here and by the end
00:04of May she was pregnant. I think it was a couple months after we met that I got
00:10pregnant. I think Danny forced me to just, for lack of a better word, grow the hell
00:14up. This one guy came up and he was like, how do you do that? There's so much hair
00:17on your head. I was like, the same way you do it. I just put it in a ponytail. But I
00:22mean look at us. We're gorgeous. Why wouldn't you stare? I was not expecting
00:26Danny to be Danny. Like I was like, okay so Danny's, Danny's a man and then I met
00:32Danny and Danny was not a man. Danny was a woman. When you say you have some things
00:37to ask me, what's up? What drew you to James? Like coming from just liking
00:41females, just liking girls, like what made you drawn to him? I'm Danny and I'm a
00:48masculine woman who married a feminine presenting man. I'm James and I'm a
00:53a femme-ish man that married a masculine woman. I identify as straight. Although
00:59it's questioned by pretty much everybody in my comments all the time. But it's
01:04like, they don't really know me. If you were to ask my family, they would be like,
01:08oh yeah, he's, he's always been this way. Like he was always a little different.
01:13I guess I would say that high school was the first time that I felt comfortable
01:17dressing masculine. And I didn't feel as judged. I would say Danny is probably the
01:24most feminine, masculine presenting woman that I've ever been with. My thing is, I
01:31still want to be with a woman. I like the fact that she's in touch with her
01:34femininity. So we met. At the time I was doing TikTok lives. We started talking and
01:40chatting it up. And then what, like a month later, I flew to Kentucky. And then we hung
01:47out for four days, got married. Nine times out of ten, I'm the one that's gonna catch the
01:52eye of the public. So it's mostly like, is he really with her? Like, is this a couple?
01:59Are they friends? Or is he with her as a cover up?
02:02But usually when we're walking by, they'll stop and say at him and I'll give them an ugly look
02:06because I don't like it because I know they're judging him. But I mean, look at us. We're
02:09gorgeous. Why wouldn't you stare? I've always been a femme man for the most part,
02:14but there have been varying levels of how femme I've been. The last time I did this,
02:19I was very femme. Like, I wore heels every day. My lashes were always done. My nails are always
02:25done. That's one thing. I'm gonna keep done all the time. I'm gonna have my nails done. Like,
02:30I'm gonna wear a crop top here and there or whatever. At one point in life, being very honest,
02:36I used how femme I was to get validation, but I don't need that validation now. Like,
02:45I've come to terms with who I am and I love who I am now. I'm married for crying out loud. Like,
02:50I scored, so. The only women I've dated for the most part have been masculine.
02:57I've never dated a femme man before, but I've talked to a couple before I met James.
03:03Through social media. I feel like that's, like, a common thing nowadays, people meeting on social
03:09media. Well, your caption said, looking for a wife. It was. And what did I get? A wife. Period. I was
03:15being my loud, obnoxious self. And then she DM'd me. On our first date, we went and got our nails
03:20done. Yeah, we got our nails done. We got matching nails. And then we went and got tacos
03:24at a margarita tower. And I got, well, I was drunk. That following May, I moved out here. And by the end
03:33of May, she was pregnant. Welcome. Welcome to my restaurant. Come on, Shiki. Hey, Shiki baby. I feel like we
03:43don't really have necessarily, like, roles. Yeah, I would say it's kind of opposite. Like, people would
03:50think that I would, you know, cook. So, uh, who would you say wears the pants? I would say we both
03:58wear shorts. Yeah. Oh, I like that. Right? Yeah, we both wear shorts. So, on March 4th, 2024, we went to
04:07Petco, randomly. We were looking at cats. And we found a cute one. And I was like, can we just
04:14take it home? And she was like, well, we have to find a home first. And I was like, when you said
04:21we had to get married in order to get a home, and you were like, well, I already said I would
04:27marry you. And then we went on our way to the courthouse. And then we were married. That's how,
04:33that's your parents' love story. And then a couple months later, you were here. We were
04:38theoretically talking about having a kid. We were like, yeah, it would be cool to have
04:41a kid. Like, we're in a position where we'd be able to sustain a kid. And then it happened.
04:48And we were like, oh, we're really having a baby right now. I would say my family was probably
04:55more vocal than hers was. Us getting married, I kept quiet for a while because I knew my family
05:00be more vocal. They're kind of used to my spontaneity. They're kind of used to me just
05:06coming out of the woodworks or something. Oh, I told my mom as soon as we walked out
05:10the courthouse, and she was cussing at me first. And then she said, well, as long as you're
05:13happy, I'm happy for you. And then with the baby, she was more than excited for another grandchild.
05:18Come on, Stinky. You want to find something to wear? A little outfit?
05:23The designer. Your designer clothes in here? What do you want? Your papa bought you this
05:31one. Carson is three months, well, should be three months in like a week and a half.
05:37I think it was a couple months after we met that I got pregnant. I've always wanted to be
05:43a dad. I didn't think I'd be a dad this early. I want to be a dad closer to 30-ish. But here
05:52we are. Layla's supposed to come over in a minute. You ready? I think so. Layla's my girl.
06:01She was the first friend that I made when I moved to Fort Knox. She said she had some questions for
06:09us. I don't know. She didn't tell me what they were. So she just said she needed to talk to us.
06:13Oh. But we'll see. She'll be fine. Hi, my name is Layla. I met James at our, well,
06:21my job now. I mean, he's a pretty unique individual. So I think that's what drew me
06:25to him. And then as we started hanging out, as we started getting to know each other,
06:30I met his wife, Danny. And then, you know, obviously they're not your normal, like heterosexual
06:36couple. And so that kind of intrigued me. I was not expecting Danny to be Danny. Like I was like,
06:42okay, so Danny's, Danny's a man. And then I met Danny and Danny was not a man. Danny was a woman.
06:49When I first met Danny was, would be like, why is he your person? At first we didn't see eye to eye.
06:56At first we weren't friends. We weren't hanging out solo. And so I guess for me, I was like really
07:02nervous to talk to her, really nervous to ask her questions. Hi, Danny. Nice to see you again.
07:08I just got off work. So just wanted to stop by. I know we wanted to just chit chat, kiki ha ha.
07:13Can you say you have some things to ask me? What's up? Yeah. Um, so, you know, working at the youth
07:18center, you know, we're around a lot of families, a lot of diverse families and the youth. And it just
07:25got me thinking about, you know, some concerns I just want to bring to y'all's attention from a place
07:31of care and love. How are you guys going to battle different opinions that some parents
07:40may have since you guys aren't, you know, the normal picture of mom and dad?
07:44So I think it will be like one of those things that we just have to have the conversation with
07:49her, like in a manner that she understands at whatever age it comes up. Like, and I think
07:55that us will kind of be her norm. Do you think the talking to her about, you know, how you guys
08:02present will be easy if she ever comes to you with questions or when she comes to you with questions
08:07about, you know, my daddy takes me to go get my nails done. Yeah. And my mommy takes me to go work
08:12out. Like how, how is that going to look? We more than anything, we want her to understand, like, look,
08:18it is okay to be different. Yeah. It is okay that your family is different, but it is okay that other
08:23people have normal families too. Yeah. I guess like one opinion that I see like floating around,
08:29like when I'm with you guys or when I post that I'm hanging out with you guys is obviously the way,
08:34you know, Danny doesn't present like how I would present or she presents more, um, masculine, I guess.
08:41What drew you to James? Like coming from just liking females, just liking girls, like what grasp,
08:48like what made you drawn to him? I think it was his feminine energy. Cause I'm a baddie.
08:54Yeah, that too. So do you guys think, you know, you're in it to win it? You're in it for life,
08:59in it for the long haul and forever. Do you see the rock? I do. I do see it. I do see that. That's
09:06nice. It's really nice. Yeah. I mean, beyond Carson, beyond all that. And I think that Carson has
09:14drawn us closer because we didn't have that time where we were just dating. Yeah. And we were just
09:20friends. We were figuring out a lot about each other that we didn't necessarily know before. Yeah. It
09:26did make us stronger. I'm so happy I get to be in view how that unit grows and flourishes. Yeah,
09:33girl. Bestie. Bestie. Locked in. Okay. Well, I gotta go. Walk you out, child. Yes. Bye, Danny.
09:39Bye, girl. Bye. See you later. Okay. I think it was a good day. Yeah, I think we had a very
09:51good conversation with Layla. Good conversation. I hated the gym. Glad to hear that. But I think
09:58now it's just like how we come together at the end of the day. Like it's the one thing that
10:03we do together most of the time, unless I don't feel like it, then I'm not going. I
10:09will say people used to come up to me when I used to, I used to have hair like down to
10:14my ankles and people would come up to me while I'm at the gym. This one guy came up and he
10:21was like, how do you do that? There's so much hair on your head. And I was like, the same
10:25way you do it. I just put it in a ponytail. So eventually we want to open our own gym.
10:30Well, it's going to be her gym, but you're going to be the manager. I'll be like behind
10:34the scenes doing the money stuff, but we got to put a daycare in it. For all the parents.
10:40For all the parents.
10:45Look at you. Marriage doesn't come with instructions, but, and we're young. We did it fast, but we'll
10:53be fine. Yeah. I'm excited to see what's next for us. I think we're each other's opposites.
10:59There's stuff that I needed to learn that he had taught me and there's stuff that he
11:04needed to learn and that I taught him. And we both didn't know that we needed, but.
11:08I think Danny forced me to just, for lack of a better word, grow the hell up.
11:13What I love most about James is that he's willing to work for things now. That he's
11:18willing to understand and, you know, go out and go get things for our family.
11:23I love most that Danny pushes me. She has made me grow to love being the family man.
11:32I love being a dad and I think that's because Danny has made me appreciate the small things.
11:37Everything doesn't have to be crazy big. Just appreciate the small things.
11:44guys.
11:46Everybody put me ontology.
11:51Three, two, three, four.
11:53Five, five, six.
11:56Three, three, four, five, five, six.
11:59Three, four, nine.
12:02Three, seven, eight, seven, you're not here.
12:06Three, seven, eight, seven.
12:08Three, seven, eight, seven, eight, seven.
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