00:00I fell in love with my kid's nanny.
00:02And now I'm his wife.
00:03When I first found out that my dad and Crystal were dating,
00:06I was definitely surprised.
00:07Would it be my first choice?
00:08Probably not.
00:09When I was like eight or nine, I just didn't like him
00:12and I resented him.
00:13I just knew he wasn't like my biological dad.
00:16The age gap brings a lot of attention.
00:18Crystal likes attention.
00:19A lot of people say that she's a gold digger.
00:21I don't disagree.
00:22Stop.
00:23I think when I was younger, I actually like loved her.
00:28I decided to get a nanny because at the time,
00:30I was a single dad.
00:31And in order for me to go to work,
00:33I needed someone to care for the children.
00:35It was definitely not love at first sight.
00:37My first impression was I hated him.
00:39Did not like working for him.
00:41As I was working for him, I continued
00:43to look for other jobs.
00:45He was very rude.
00:47I rarely got a hi.
00:48What was your first impression of me?
00:50You thought I was a terrible nanny.
00:52I think you're a great woman.
00:54One day I came in dressed up with makeup on,
00:57my hair done, and he couldn't stop looking at me.
01:00So I think that was when he fell in love with me.
01:02At the time, my son Cash was three and a half
01:06and Ben would like play with him and talk to him.
01:08I think that's what helped me fall in love
01:10because he was just such a good dad.
01:11Good morning.
01:13My friends and family, everyone just thought I was crazy.
01:15They're like, what the heck are you doing?
01:17This man's 20 years older than you.
01:19He has three kids.
01:20What are you thinking?
01:22At the time, obviously I was a single mom.
01:23So it was just me and Cash.
01:25I think me and Ben get along well now,
01:27but when I was like eight or nine,
01:28I just didn't like him and I resented him
01:31because I just knew he wasn't my biological dad.
01:35But now I think we have a good relationship.
01:38Cashton has been through a lot
01:40and he's grown up to be a fine young man.
01:43When my kids first found out I was dating Crystal,
01:46at first they treated it as just another girl
01:49that dad's dating.
01:50I did unfortunately date a lot of women.
01:53It really affected the oldest one the most.
01:56She didn't like the idea at all.
01:57She said, you went from being my best friend
02:00to being with my dad.
02:03That's a nicer version of saying it.
02:07She was very upset.
02:10But we're fine now, so it's okay.
02:12So we're getting ready to make some burgers.
02:15We're gonna have lunch with Sal and Cash.
02:17Sal is my stepson.
02:20I was 23 when I started nannying for Sal
02:26and Sal, I believe, was 12.
02:28I think Sal's initial reaction was he was happy.
02:32He might say otherwise.
02:33I don't know.
02:34I truly don't remember.
02:35When I first found out that my dad and Crystal were dating,
02:38I was definitely surprised she was my nanny.
02:40Some people thought it was weird
02:42that the age gap was really large.
02:44My dad brought a lot of women home,
02:46so I just thought it's just another 23-year-old
02:49he brought home.
02:50Crystal spoiled me a lot.
02:51She bought me a lot of games and gifts, I guess,
02:54to bribe me.
02:55I didn't really think anything of it.
02:56I didn't think that they were gonna get married.
02:57Would it be my first choice?
02:59Probably not, but that's life, so.
03:02So Dad, did you always have a crush on Crystal
03:04or did it just happen?
03:06I think it developed into a crush.
03:10It took a while, like a few months.
03:12What did you like about her from the start?
03:15I recognized she was good-looking.
03:16I got to know her.
03:17She was a good person, has a good heart.
03:19You can't say that, right?
03:20Can you say she doesn't have a good heart?
03:22I don't know.
03:24Like, would she hurt you intentionally?
03:26I think so.
03:27Really?
03:28You think she would hurt you intentionally?
03:30Has she hurt you intentionally?
03:32I remember her not driving me to school.
03:34Oh my God, you're still not over this.
03:36She told me she would never drive me to school,
03:38but she would drive Cashton, like, 20 minutes later.
03:41Do you think she did that because you're her stepson
03:43and Cashton's not?
03:44I don't know the answer to that.
03:45I think that's how you feel.
03:47If I had to guess.
03:49It was like therapy.
03:51And you're still holding against him?
03:53Definitely.
03:53Sounds like I do.
03:55Yeah, I think so.
03:56So what made you like my dad?
03:57What's not to like?
03:58He's a great dad.
04:00Did you see that, though, at the time?
04:03I mean, he was coming home at like 7 p.m., so.
04:06Did my dad want to fire you?
04:08Yes.
04:10Yeah, because I wasn't cooking and cleaning enough,
04:11apparently.
04:12At all.
04:14Or at all.
04:15Didn't your mom cook one of the dinners
04:17and brought it home to you?
04:20Oh my God, Sal.
04:22Sal's really gonna spill the tea today, okay.
04:27I thought that was you.
04:30Who else would it be?
04:31We brought a lot of women home.
04:32But she won't let me communicate with the new nannies.
04:35I'm gonna lose them how I got them.
04:37They'll be like, oh, can I have Ben's number?
04:39And I'll be like, no, you don't need Ben's number.
04:42You talk to me.
04:43No need for that.
04:44So, Sal, how did you feel when you first found out
04:47that Crystal and I would date?
04:48I was definitely happy for you for getting a young girl.
04:51I didn't think anything of it.
04:52Didn't think you were gonna marry her.
04:54What?
04:54For sure.
04:55Just, I think, probably a month prior,
04:57you had the other 22-year-old.
04:59What about her?
05:00She was nice.
05:00She was definitely a mother figure.
05:02She cooked?
05:03She cooked, she cleaned.
05:06Well, I'm sorry, but.
05:08How long did it take you to somewhat accept Crystal
05:11as a step-mommy?
05:13I think when I was younger,
05:15I actually loved her.
05:16What's younger?
05:17Like 12 or 13.
05:20Oh, you loved her then?
05:21I think so.
05:21And then you suddenly didn't like her?
05:24So she did things to upset you?
05:26Yeah.
05:27Not drive you to school?
05:28Yeah, not drive me to school.
05:31Hey, wait.
05:32He's still not over that.
05:33I don't think he'll ever get over it.
05:34Yeah, no.
05:35We've been hearing about this for years.
05:37He's gonna graduate college in one year
05:39and he's still talking about this.
05:41I think my dad and Crystal are good together
05:44because the age gap is a lot.
05:46It brings a lot of attention.
05:47Crystal likes attention.
05:48You can tell from her car.
05:50A lot of people say that she's a gold digger, obviously.
05:52With my dad for the money,
05:54I don't disagree.
05:55Stop.
05:56My dad definitely spoils her.
05:57She likes the lifestyle that my dad gives her.
06:00So do I, obviously.
06:02But that's definitely a big one.
06:04So he's being honest.
06:05He's telling you how he feels.
06:06We didn't say not to be honest.
06:09Feeling they're coming out.
06:15That concludes that therapy session.
06:18We get a lot of judgment on social media.
06:20TikTok is definitely the worst.
06:22You know, the typical stuff
06:23when you're in an age gap relationship,
06:26like, oh, she's a gold digger.
06:27He's so ugly.
06:29He's so old.
06:30What are you thinking?
06:31They said he could be your father.
06:33I mean, it is true.
06:34He could be.
06:35You call me daddy?
06:36Stop.
06:37Someone said meal ticket.
06:38Is anyone talking about the poor wife
06:40and maybe the children that he left for his employee?
06:43We do get a lot of comments about,
06:45they thought I was married
06:46and she was the nanny that took me away from my ex-wife.
06:49But when I met him,
06:50he was already divorced for 10 years.
06:52She always feels the need to explain it.
06:55I think for us,
06:56we just ignore it because we know the truth
06:58and I know that that's not true.
07:00There is nothing I dislike about my wife.
07:02Serious.
07:03She's,
07:05she's everything to me.
07:06I love how much of a provider he is.
07:10I think that's my biggest thing.
07:11It's like no matter what,
07:13he'll do whatever it takes to provide for me and the kids.
07:18I think we balance each other.
07:19My strengths are her weaknesses
07:21and my weaknesses are his strengths.
07:23So together we make a powerful team.
07:25I definitely think that the negativity
07:27has made us stronger as a couple.
07:29We really don't care.
07:30We live our lives with our kids and our family
07:33and whether you like us or not, too bad.
07:35We're gonna keep doing what we do.
07:36Might keep doing what you tell me to do.
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