00:00You start by, it's like if there's like a little piece of salt on the counter.
00:03Yeah.
00:03I'm OCD. It's a small living space. You have to keep it clean.
00:12I really wanted to eat a hamburger, and Eric really wanted to eat pizza.
00:19It was about if pickles are a fruit or a vegetable, and I won.
00:25You were cleaning up after I made the soup.
00:27Oh!
00:27You threw away my soup.
00:30I wanted to watch Kung Fu Panda 3.
00:32I was like, don't do that.
00:33And you were like, why? Why can't I do that?
00:34And I was like, I have you!
00:35Breastfeeding and rocking the baby with my foot.
00:38I called her a bitch.
00:40And then she didn't talk to me for two weeks.
00:43That was like last year though. It's okay.
00:47There has to be screaming involved.
00:49We kind of stopped listening to one another.
00:51At the point where we're not talking anymore, that's when we're going to fight.
00:55Because I don't want to come to the kitchen.
00:58I don't want to put the dishes in the oven, because then I don't want to wash it.
01:06We argue about once a week.
01:08Every day.
01:09More lately.
01:10But it's just out of exhaustion.
01:12We used to argue all the time, but at this point I think we've both matured.
01:15So we don't argue that much, but when we do, it's an argument.
01:18When we do, it's epic.
01:20We don't argue much, because we're perfect.
01:25Yes, but after two minutes we don't do anything.
01:29I think arguing is healthy, because I've been in relationships before where I wasn't
01:33as passionate about the person, and so we never fought because I didn't care.
01:37I feel like when you argue, usually something comes out of it.
01:41Everything that changes or grows comes out of some sort of conflict.
01:47When I dismiss her, get out of my face, or leave me alone, she hates that.
01:53It escalates things when I'm like, no, let's just not talk about it.
01:56When I'm in a text fight and I don't text back, I ignore him, that's the best way to
01:59be like, ew, give him an uppercut.
02:02He's very patient and calm, and then that makes me even more mad.
02:07So I'm like, you know, and then when he blows up, I'm like, I don't understand why he's so mad
02:11at me.
02:12Sometimes I fight for fun.
02:14It's like, gets the fire going.
02:18I was disappointed in my birthday, and he had signs all over about a magilla.
02:25Is that the, what's the golf term for?
02:27Mulligan.
02:28Mulligan.
02:29I drew her a picture once.
02:31Remember when I got my knuckles tattooed?
02:32Oh my god.
02:34That was the biggest fight we've ever gotten to.
02:36I thought he ruined our unborn children's life by tattooing his knuckles.
02:41He did.
02:42I am always apologizing to you.
02:45Yeah, because an apology means nothing.
02:48Sometimes he'll apologize and turn around and do the thing that I just got mad at him about.
02:54I've always had to do things a couple times to get them right.
02:57He broke up with me and then proposed.
03:00A little bit.
03:00I think you needed a break.
03:01You got too serious too quick at the beginning.
03:02It was like so intense.
03:03He's like, I think I want to marry you.
03:04And I was like, oh.
03:05So we broke up and then, you stalked me, didn't you?
03:09I sure did.
03:09What?
03:11What?
03:11If we haven't been left.
03:13I'm left.
03:14I'm left.
03:14I'm left.
03:15No, no, no.
03:16From here.
03:34Not at all over on these movies.
03:38I don't know what's you think.
03:38I don't know.
03:38Let's do it!
03:38Oh my gosh!
03:39Hell no!
03:42What!
03:44The hardest thing and the best thing is not saying something that you'll regret, so like
03:49taking a couple breaths before you react to something.
03:52I think not digging your heels in on something, because you have to be right, let it go.
04:00I need to take a deep breath and realize why I'm angry.
04:03And most of the time I'm angry because I'm being a dick.
04:06I think when someone's like in the mood to fight and they keep picking fights, you just
04:09ignore them.
04:10You're supposed to communicate.
04:12That's how you avoid arguments.
04:13Another thing I think is also to want to solve the problem.
04:17Like if people aren't ready to like be friends again, then like it's not going to work.
04:21The best advice I got is to, you know, try to understand before being understood.
04:26Do not go to bed angry, it's the worst thing that you can do.
04:29I almost always take my anger to bed and wake up and feel differently.
04:34I actually gave myself some good advice.
04:36Yes you did.
04:37But I don't go to bed mad.
04:39Ever.
04:39And then you wake up mad the next day.
04:41I wake up mad the next day.
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