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love island usa season 8 episode 22
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00:03I'm nervous.
00:05I'm gonna take it one step at a time.
00:07In a world saturated with sex...
00:10I'm absolutely petrified.
00:12More young adults than ever are living without it.
00:16The thought of having sex with someone...
00:18Scares me. It gives me the ick.
00:20I'm missing out. Terrified.
00:22Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching. Embarrassing.
00:24All I think about is what I'm gonna get wrong.
00:27Can you point to the outer lady?
00:30Nope.
00:33Now...
00:3512 virgins are getting a crash course in intimacy.
00:39Social media, porn, dating apps.
00:42There are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom.
00:45Use it by stimulating the area.
00:47They'll be guided by experts.
00:50You see yourself as...
00:52Proposal.
00:52To explore all aspects of intimacy.
00:56And maybe even have sex with a trained therapist.
01:00Do you wanna put a condom on?
01:03Or each other.
01:04Get a room, guys!
01:07I really do need to change my life.
01:10Who will be ready...
01:11Desperate times call for desperate measures.
01:14To go all the way.
01:24Orny Island!
01:25Over the past few days on Virgin Island...
01:28I'm slutty Stephanie.
01:30Things got steamy in the seductive phase.
01:33That's not how I thought I would feel.
01:35It feels good.
01:36Marianne got to grips with a naked Andre.
01:38I could do this all day.
01:41Can I give you a spank?
01:42Yes.
01:44Bertie found his voice in the bedroom.
01:46Thanks for asking.
01:48And Callum and Katie's connection deepened.
01:55Now, as the group enter the climax phase...
02:00Time is running out to fulfill their island ambitions.
02:05A lot of people think climax is just about orgasm.
02:09But climax is actually having a peak sexual experience.
02:13Your partner might be stimulating your palate.
02:15And we want all of them to have their peak sexual experiences in their lives.
02:29After 15 days...
02:31Oh, the last letter.
02:34..the group are nearing graduation from Virgin Island.
02:38Let's see what the last phase is.
02:42Prepare for the end of the course as it reaches its climax.
02:48Well, I'm pleased that they took my advice on the pun.
02:53I'm actually quite excited.
02:56This one could be quite a fun one.
02:58A lot of the stuff we've done previously has got me into a confident mood.
03:02Yeah, I'm looking forward to it.
03:04100%.
03:05For me, being on the island, it has had an ending.
03:08It was sex and reaching orgasm.
03:13Twice.
03:14I wonder what we're going to be doing, cos it's like, have we not...?
03:18I mean, I've already climaxed.
03:23While some of the group have found what they came for...
03:26The final phase.
03:28..others have yet to reach their goals.
03:30It's going to come to an end soon.
03:32I know.
03:34Today has to be position, sorry.
03:36No.
03:36Surely.
03:37Climax.
03:38I'm going to get in front of each other and have a wank.
03:44For the final workshop of the retreat...
03:47Callum, are you ready?
03:48Yeah.
03:49So ready.
03:50The experts want the group to realise...
03:52There's actually a literal bet.
03:54..just how far they've come.
03:55Morning, guys.
03:56Morning.
03:57Morning.
03:57Morning.
03:59All right.
04:01The final phase of the course.
04:03The climax.
04:05Climax is really having this peak experience that you can have in your sex life.
04:10And we want to make sure that you get every tool that you need in order to do that.
04:14Now, if you remember, the very first demo we showed you at the start of the course.
04:20Pillow Talk.
04:22Mm-hmm.
04:22Most of you were like deer in the headlights.
04:26My God, your eyes are so beautiful.
04:29When they first saw the Pillow Talk demo, they couldn't even look.
04:34They were extremely intimidated.
04:36It's a bit...
04:37Yeah.
04:38So now, with everything you've discovered, it's time to step up and try it yourself.
04:45I'll go.
04:46If anyone's keen.
04:47If anyone's keen.
04:49First up, advanced students Alex and Joy.
04:54You look so nice today.
04:56No, no, no, no nice.
05:00Beautiful.
05:01Sexy.
05:02Like, not anything that's sweet.
05:04That's great.
05:05It's important communication here.
05:06You look so sexy today.
05:10I love your eyes.
05:12You drive me crazy.
05:14That's me all.
05:16Good.
05:18Move your legs on top of me.
05:22I really want to kiss you right now.
05:24Yeah.
05:37It's not just Alex and Joy.
05:39You smell so good.
05:41You're giving me the eyes.
05:42Who are keen to show off their Pillow Talk prowess.
05:46I can get lost in your eyes.
05:49I can get lost in your eyes.
05:50I like that.
05:51I like that.
05:55Amazing.
05:58But the final exercise will teach the group the ultimate sex tips.
06:03So for your final lesson, we will show you some sex moves.
06:10It's really, really important that they practice with the different sexual positions to be erotically confident.
06:16We've chosen these sex positions because they're the most common.
06:21which include one partner on top, missionary position, also oral sex is really, really important.
06:31And doggy style.
06:34No one's going to be doing wheelbarrow out there.
06:44Do you all want to start?
06:45I'll do it.
06:50After a nervy start.
06:52Put this leg.
06:53Yeah.
06:53Between her legs.
06:55Like this?
06:55Yeah.
06:56Bertie has thrown himself into more and more of the exercises.
06:59Good, good.
07:00Perfect.
07:01And it's paying off.
07:04Good.
07:05Is this all right?
07:05Yeah.
07:06Very smooth.
07:07I want to get out from the retreat as much as I can.
07:12But so many people just do it naturally.
07:15They know what they're doing.
07:17They're confident in themselves.
07:18I just want to be that guy.
07:23Do you want to start?
07:24Always.
07:31I feel really proud.
07:33If you had a strap on, there would be a great position for that.
07:36At first they were all hesitant.
07:38I ashamed.
07:41But they have completely supported each other through the whole process.
07:46Yeah.
07:47Do you want a spine?
07:48I'll have a pat.
07:50It's unprecedented.
07:54And for one couple...
07:55You ready?
07:57Oh, go on then.
07:58Don't act like you haven't been doing this in the day bed anyway.
08:02The bond has intensified.
08:04Naughty.
08:07I've always grown up reading like sexy stories, even when I was a teenager.
08:11The word virgin means you haven't had sex.
08:16But in my head, I know what I like.
08:20Can I take a second to connect?
08:23I don't really want to be intimate with someone I don't know.
08:26When I build a connection up and start laughing with them and have a fun time with them,
08:30that's what I want in the future.
08:31Yeah.
08:32Pull her on top of you.
08:34Ready?
08:34Mm-hmm.
08:35Yes.
08:36There you go.
08:36Perfect.
08:38Change to missionary and connect your purposes together.
08:42Yeah, there you go.
08:43Perfect.
08:44The next one is going down.
08:51You can flip her into doggy self.
08:54Yeah.
08:55Exactly.
08:57Congratulations.
09:05How did it feel to do that?
09:08I think, like, doing half these workshops, it just leaves me, like, massively, like, horny all day.
09:13Oh, shit.
09:16Well, that's great.
09:22Bye.
09:28How do we feel that was our last ever workshop?
09:31Didn't expect that.
09:32There were times when people would say, I want to do it, but I'm not comfortable doing it with someone
09:36in the group.
09:37That was practically my catchphrase at one minute.
09:40The sex positions, like, they were a bit awkward, but when you're in the mood with your partner, it'll all
09:46just flow.
09:47Yeah.
09:51For Callum and Katie, as they're near the end of the retreat, their mutual affection...
10:02Oh, you're funny. I like you.
10:04...is on full display.
10:06I'm very excited to see a budding romance in this environment.
10:11It's beautiful people feel the freedom to use the skills and the tools that they're learning in the retreat.
10:17That's actually my dream.
10:19I can bloody feel you on my stomach.
10:22I mean, it's a lot all the time. Don't worry about it.
10:25It's quite a hard life.
10:27Literally.
10:29My main focus moving forward is obviously getting closer to Katie, because, like, I'm not being funny. I like her.
10:36Stop teasing yourself.
10:42I've never felt this way with a boy before. I've never been close to a boy before, but I don't
10:47think I know my body at all.
10:49And I have literally no experience.
10:52So I think I'm just scared for, like, not knowing what to do.
10:57Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
11:03As Callum and Katie get closer than ever, the experts want to make sure they're properly prepared.
11:10Katie, she has this budding romance with Callum, which is very sweet.
11:14And I also feel like there's so much more for her to learn around her own body and pleasure.
11:19Yeah, I want this session to be about her starting to step into her womanhood, building some kind of a
11:26relationship with her genitals.
11:29Kat, you're going to be seeing Callum today, and this is your last session with him.
11:33Yes, we're going to be doing Close Off Erotic Touch, and I feel like it's a good place stopping him
11:39here because he has the skills to go forth and enjoy with Katie.
11:47I have no sexual history at all. I haven't done anything. I haven't ever had an orgasm.
11:53When I was younger, I thought I would have been married and had kids by now, multiple kids.
12:00Hello, beautiful.
12:01And I feel disappointed in myself that I haven't been able to achieve anything that I wanted to.
12:06So, have you explored your vagina in any way?
12:09No, I haven't.
12:10With time at the retreat running out.
12:12So, what could be motivating about getting to, you know, your genitals?
12:16So, I'm able to tell them exactly what I like already.
12:21Yeah.
12:21Kate is meeting sexological body worker Alil to learn more about pleasure.
12:27Something that can feel really nice is if you have your finger in, or your partner has, and you kind
12:32of might be stimulating your clit at the same time.
12:36Mmm.
12:37I mean, just doing that could feel really nice.
12:40I never went to, like, sex ed at school or anything, so this is, like, totally new to me.
12:45I don't know why I get so uncomfortable over my own body.
12:48Exactly.
12:49While Katie has her very own sex ed lesson...
12:52How's it going?
12:54Me and Katie, we've hit it off a lot.
12:55How's that feeling?
12:56Awesome.
12:57Callum is responding well to hands-on therapy with surrogate partner Kat.
13:01What do you feel like you want to do with Katie?
13:03I just want to experience everything that I can in the right way.
13:07I have never touched anyone intimately, so when it comes to it, the fear is not knowing anything about it
13:13and what to do.
13:13Okay, so we'll start, I'll let you kind of leave.
13:16It's a lot of pressure and, you know, you don't want to have sex with someone if you don't want
13:19to have sex.
13:20Sex should be something that should be cherished, not something that should just be a quick form of just getting
13:25off.
13:26While you're holding my hand down, start to touch me.
13:31Yeah.
13:34Go slowly up and down.
13:37How does that feel, me touching you?
13:39Great.
13:48I think I need more boy knowledge.
13:50Okay.
13:51Do you want to explore some dicks?
13:52Let's do it.
13:54So it really changes from a person to a person, but usually the parts that have the most pleasure is
13:59like the head.
14:01So you can kind of like go around.
14:04A little softer.
14:09The balls can feel really nice.
14:12For some it's very sensitive and for some you can really squeeze them.
14:22You're welcome.
14:23Look, this has been so good.
14:27It's quite scary because it's just very unknown, but I know what to explore.
14:32So it's going to be fun.
14:34I felt you like really present and like following things.
14:39Genuinely, I can't explain how much you've helped me.
14:42I never thought I'd be at this point ever.
14:44That's amazing.
14:44Like just to do this alone is unbelievable.
14:48You really have all of the tools you need.
14:50Yeah.
14:51It's crazy how much I've changed the person I've actually got closer to Katie.
14:55The heart wants what the heart wants.
15:06It's afternoon on Virgin Island.
15:09This is pretty good.
15:10It's good?
15:11Yeah.
15:12Good.
15:13While Callum and Katie's chemistry is impossible to miss.
15:16Is it fun, Callum?
15:18Yeah, it is.
15:23Marianne has been steadily exploring her own connection with surrogate partner Andre.
15:28What I love about Andre is he has a way of making people feel calm and relaxed,
15:32and he reads you very well.
15:34You arrive with boundaries in terms of, I'm just too scared to try something,
15:38but now it's more just about having fun exploring.
15:43Marianne, she's really embracing her sexiness.
15:46She really is glowing.
15:49And you're going to be having a session with her, Andre, today.
15:52She's a very curious individual.
15:54She wants to learn about herself.
15:56She's very interested to see if she wants to go even further.
15:59So we'll check in, but there's that potential.
16:04Everyone expects a virgin to be like this horrible, ugly thing that hides and has no confidence.
16:10But I'm a very sexual person.
16:15I read a lot of books and I have one fantasy, which it's a recurring one.
16:20I love the idea of spanking and maybe having that dominance,
16:25but I still feel as if I have my autonomy, I'm good and I'm safe.
16:32Hello.
16:35Though making good progress, Marianne is still setting her own pace with Andre.
16:41How are you doing today?
16:42Doing well.
16:43You?
16:43I'm good today, yeah.
16:46Surrogate partner therapy is structured around consent and it's all about their full body understanding that this is their time
16:56and they get to choose.
16:57So today, was there anything that you came in with wanting to try?
17:04Can we try the mutual massage and possibly spanking?
17:12Okay.
17:13So I was like, that's, yeah, I love, I love that.
17:15How did you learn about it?
17:16You said, you know, kind of books.
17:18Books.
17:18Read a lot of books.
17:19Just take my inspiration from that.
17:21I'm like, cool.
17:22Noted.
17:23You deserve to be happy, you deserve to feel pleasure and sometimes that can also allow the building in of
17:29trust and safety to other intimate connection that we could potentially share.
17:35To get things started, Andre performs a sensual massage.
17:43It feels so lovely.
17:46I'm glad you're enjoying it.
17:48Mm-hmm.
17:57Next.
17:58Can we do the spanking?
17:59Okay.
18:01Marianne has some ideas of her own.
18:03Put your body over.
18:06Like this?
18:06Mm-hmm.
18:07Yeah.
18:07If you want, you can even lean on it.
18:09How does that feel?
18:10Mm-hmm.
18:10Feels nice.
18:11Okay, good.
18:12Mm-hmm.
18:15I like starting slowly to just feel your skin.
18:19You feel my hand.
18:20Getting familiar with my touch.
18:23Waking up the skin.
18:26And I usually like working on a number scale so I get to know how hard you want to be
18:31spanked.
18:32So from zero to five, zero being I didn't feel that at all, five being that's the hardest hit I
18:41can take.
18:42What is that?
18:43That's zero.
18:48How about that?
18:49Mm, two.
18:50It's a two.
18:52So we'll stay with the tube.
18:53Mm-hmm.
19:02How does that feel?
19:05Really good.
19:06Really good.
19:06Mm-hmm.
19:13What would feel good to receive in the way of care?
19:18Tuddles.
19:18Mm-hmm.
19:20Okay, let's do it.
19:25Thank you for the spanks.
19:28Oh.
19:30Why don't we go ahead and get dressed?
19:37Thank you, Andrew.
19:38You're welcome, too.
19:40That was so fun and super fucking hot.
19:46It was nice because I felt really in it and really safe and horny.
19:51Very, very horny.
19:54When I first came, everything seemed so far away.
19:57And now it made me confident in what I'm feeling, how I can communicate it and asking for what I
20:04want as well.
20:09Hi.
20:10Hi, Marianne.
20:11Welcome back.
20:11Oh, you guys are back on the bed.
20:14Marianne, you've missed so much, brother.
20:16What happened?
20:16Oh, my God.
20:17Why did you think Katie and Callum have gone?
20:19Yeah.
20:20On a date?
20:21They're having a special nap.
20:22Swear in your life.
20:23Genuinely, they are.
20:25With their relationship, the talk of the island.
20:28I'm really excited for this connection, yeah?
20:30Yep.
20:31Callum and Katie are keen to spend some time alone together.
20:34In order to make sure that everyone feels safe, I wanted to check a little bit about your readiness.
20:38Anything that you feel like it's hard for you to share with each other and you want to use me
20:43to support you in sharing that.
20:45I think I've pretty much told you everything, like my worries and stuff.
20:48Mm-hmm.
20:48Obviously, I had a lot before coming here, but I've gone through the entire experience.
20:52All them worries and everything that I felt have gone.
20:57Consent is essential to everything we do at the retreat.
21:02One of the most powerful things is that we teach people to speak their boundaries.
21:07So, when they actually consent, they mean it.
21:12You're both adults.
21:14Always feel like you can say no and say yes.
21:18I'm really proud of seeing both of you really blooming and I'm excited for your developing connection.
21:26You're so cute.
21:30I would love to have a partner.
21:32I would love to have a boyfriend.
21:34I have kindness and patience to offer to someone.
21:40I want to do that and I can't wait to do that one day.
21:45I feel like a genuine connection comes from, you know, meeting someone in person.
21:50I want to see if I can really actually let it happen.
21:56Ooh, fancy.
22:02You ready?
22:03Mm-hmm.
22:03Take your top off.
22:04You take it off.
22:06What begins as foreplay...
22:08That tickles!
22:10...eventually evolves.
22:11You're alright.
22:14Ready?
22:17As Callum and Katie take a significant step together.
22:28You feel nice.
22:31Mm-hmm.
22:35Reposition.
22:36Come back.
22:39Oh.
22:40Oh.
22:41Oh.
22:50Oh my god.
22:54Oh my god.
23:13I've got a pretty hook.
23:15Mm-hmm.
23:17I've got a good guess.
23:19Oh my god.
23:22Oh my god.
23:24Oh my god.
23:24Yeah, I've got a good guess.
23:33Oh my god.
23:33Oh my god.
23:35thing because i trust callum so much and it was really good i'm just so excited to go back and
23:42show everyone this new version of me such a good nap yeah yeah sorry very very good nap yeah
23:50we made the experience ours we both helped each other a lot and what a perfect way to end it
24:08it's the start of the final day on virgin island good morning guys good morning good morning
24:16oh mushrooms oh i like mushrooms do you sleep well callum mm-hmm bet you did
24:22got a lot of muscle pain today
24:27melly do you think you'll fit my suitcase if you give me a little bit of room to breathe
24:35how are you feeling bertie about the end well it'll be nice to um go back and see my friends
24:39and family but at the same time i'm gonna miss this i feel like it's gonna be weird just not
24:44being horny every day who says you're not gonna be horny every day yeah that's true
24:48ahead of this evening's graduation ceremony the experts have set the group one final exercise
24:55really sounds like segan now you're at the end of the course we want you to write a letter to
25:01your
25:01past self to read out in front of the group at this graduation ceremony so i've got to think of
25:09a
25:09bloody speech to say i think mine will be quite um short actually because it's the climax phase
25:17realizing how far you've come is really emotional it's a moment to reflect and help them cement the
25:25journey of their progress and development having made real progress in his previous session
25:34bertie's due to meet surrogate partner cat for the final time bertie was like the real sleeper
25:39when i first saw him he felt like he was going to talk himself out of everything and then he
25:44talked
25:44himself into everything and i think he has so much sensuality as soon as he gets aroused he really
25:51surprised me he's been so fun to work with so we're gonna see what he wants to do today to
25:57feel
25:57like really complete i'm not getting any younger in terms of the dating game
26:08i just want to try my very best to do all the things that i want to push myself to
26:15do and to come
26:17back telling people how much of a different person i am and being able to just feel free
26:25good afternoon can i pump for the first time cat feels bertie's ready for the bedroom
26:33and the next step in his sexual education so would you want to try oral
26:43um this is the nervous excitement but uh yeah
26:49so so i'm gonna let you practice leading um okay
27:03well you take off my shirt i thought you never asked
27:11okay so i want you to just relax and just notice the sensations okay okay
27:30do you want to try switching yeah where's where do you like to be um i would say first just
27:38explore
27:39just like it's new it's weird so see what it feels like for you and if you even like it
27:47it's quite salty actually i'm not sure if um always going to be for me but uh would you like
27:56to pivot
27:57to do what is for you yeah yeah let's do that oral experiment over what would feel good maybe you
28:05can
28:05keep doing that betty leads the way i can touch you like this yeah that's it it feels really good
28:14yeah
28:17that's good good yeah but this is so nice
28:26so fucking sexy
28:39you didn't go in your hair this time i'm very happy so that's some progress mate
28:46how are you feeling i'm feeling super good how are you feeling amazing you've been so good to me
28:52on we've done our sessions and some of the things that i've done i never thought i'd do in a
28:58million
28:58years and then you came along and you honestly mean so much you've been so amazing to spend time with
29:05and more a kiss and then get dressed
29:10thank you for everything thank you
29:18this experience that i've had has been nothing short of surreal
29:25fantastic i never thought that in such quick succession i'd be able to
29:31have my first kiss touch my first vagina make a woman orgasm
29:39i will never forget cat and never forget the ups and downs that i've had here it's been nothing short
29:51phenomenal
29:51fuck me sideways that was amazing that was a great experience
29:58as bertie reaches the end of his surrogate partner therapy
30:03ahead of a final session with andre marianne meets with clinical therapist abby
30:08hi come on to reflect on how far she's come and how far she wants to go
30:18how's everything been it's been good yeah i just wanted to like check in see how your work is going
30:24with andre i think everything's been going really well which has surprised me yeah i feel like before
30:30when i came i was like there's no possible way i could see myself like maybe having sex all these
30:36blocks
30:37and stuff but i could see myself doing that like comfortably i've still got my one-on-one session
30:42today and noticing where you're finding your flexibility of like saying you know how to check
30:48in i know how to use my voice i'm not yeah i'm not feeling panicked about anything i'm feeling very
30:54supported take all of that in because you really do deserve everything that you're doing for you
31:00marianne is a superstar and a straight a plus student she's really learning in a somatic way how to trust
31:10her body being a virgin at 26 i think about six every day it's just nagging in my ear and
31:21i think that's
31:22because i haven't done it hello i want to lose my virginity because i could just get on with my
31:31life
31:31i could just not think about it all the time i'm just going to lay out all the possibilities for
31:39today
31:42continued escalation of kissing mutual erotic touch touching breasts touching genitals
31:49oral pleasure it'll sound good yeah and if there is a desire and you feel comfort and you're in your
31:59full
31:59yes penetration
32:09in a final session allowing yourself just a moment think about being able to be in a vulnerable state
32:16with someone else marianne has reached a defining moment in the surrogate partner program you can feel
32:23nervous you can feel orgasmic i'm going to kiss you
32:35i'm going to lay you down
32:46i'm going to lay you down
32:47can i be on top
32:56can you try it me being inside you yes we can
33:03i'm gonna try it back on tomorrow yeah i might need your help okay
33:11i'm going to pull a little bit and then pull out a little bit
33:21just like
33:24do you like me to show her a bit further into you slowly
33:29yeah
33:33oh
33:48oh
34:06How did that feel?
34:08It's right here.
34:10Did it feel like a milestone?
34:14It felt good and really nice and natural.
34:18Mm-hmm.
34:19Thank you so much for trusting me, for trusting yourself.
34:26Let's get dressed.
34:32How are you feeling?
34:34Kind of a clear head, like, ooh, you know, in a good way.
34:38Being happy as well.
34:40Good.
34:41Yeah.
34:41Me too.
34:44Thank you for making me feel safe.
34:46Mm-hmm.
34:47It's such a pleasure.
34:55I knew the possibility of having sex was on the table, and so I'm no longer a virgin.
35:02I felt comfortable in my body and safe in my environment, and Andre was incredible, so I
35:07wasn't really nervous.
35:09Like, I haven't lost anything, I've just gained something, and I just had pure elation, so I'm
35:17very, very lucky with that.
35:22As a therapeutic part of the course draws to a close, the sun sets on the retreat for the
35:28final time.
35:31graduation is such an important moment in this group's journey.
35:37It helps them see all the achievements that they've got throughout this process.
35:43All that remains is for everyone to dress up for one last step.
35:47I'm really sad to be saying goodbye.
35:49Yeah.
35:50It's hard.
35:52I'm looking forward to graduation.
35:54It'll be a nice way to celebrate all of the weird and wonderful things we've done on
35:59this island.
36:01It's very bittersweet how I'm feeling.
36:02It's been an incredible three weeks.
36:06A few weeks ago, they were complete strangers.
36:09Fire.
36:10Smells nice.
36:12Yeah, they're going to sacrifice us, aren't they?
36:15Hi!
36:18Hi!
36:18Wow!
36:20Look at you!
36:21Now, together, they have reached the climax of their time on Virgin Island.
36:27It's graduation!
36:32We made it!
36:34And we're so proud of you.
36:37Your bravery and your courage is unparalleled.
36:41Earlier today, we asked you to write a letter to your younger self.
36:45And now we want you each to come up and share that.
36:51Who want to start?
36:56Arriving as one of the least confident,
36:58Ellen now has the courage to step forward with pride.
37:03A letter to my younger self.
37:05Don't listen to them.
37:06It will be hard, but what they say isn't true.
37:09It's okay to look and fancy girls.
37:12You're gay.
37:12It's a thing and it's okay.
37:15You get to choose the life you lead.
37:17You do you at your speed.
37:20For goodness sake, go by a vibrator.
37:23Fuck it by two.
37:29And Ellen isn't alone in confronting the way they see themselves.
37:34You may find you like certain things.
37:36Don't be embarrassed.
37:37Don't be afraid to embrace the kinkiest side of life.
37:39Be a sexy Viking, not a whining little bitch.
37:42It's important for you to experience cringe.
37:44And that's okay because there's growth.
37:46Don't worry about being thicker around the body.
37:49It's more to be grabbed and spanked.
37:54Dear my younger self, you are gay, like super gay.
37:59I promise you that you'll end up actually liking the person you are.
38:02FYI, you'll love being held and cuddling even if you do deny it to your last breath.
38:10For others, reflection brings a new kindness towards who they are.
38:15Dear baby Alex, you are enough.
38:18You are worthy of love.
38:20Don't ever feel like you never do enough.
38:22You always bring smiles and laughter to everyone around you.
38:25Dear Bertie, in a decade or so's time, you'll be on an intimacy retreat.
38:31Now believe it or not, it's there where you will find more confidence.
38:37I know how hard it has been for you to feel truly safe, appreciated and free.
38:42But trust me, you feel that almost every day now.
38:47Pay no mind to those who try to bring shame into your life.
38:51You will still be a virgin and unmarried at 22.
38:54But you still like boys with brown curly hair.
38:58Love, joy from the future.
39:00P.S. When you get your own money, invest in a short pink wig.
39:03Just trust me.
39:09For Katie, this journey meant facing the internal voices that had been holding her back.
39:15Katie, I'm so sorry for treating you like shit for so many years.
39:19You deserve so much better.
39:21You really went through so much and are truly so strong.
39:25I'm so proud of you and everything you have achieved.
39:28You are beautiful, so kind and deserve every little bit of love you receive.
39:33Stop letting your anxiety and bullies hold you back in life.
39:36It's so upsetting to see.
39:38Don't let others bring you down or dictate your life.
39:41I love you so much, beautiful girl.
39:43APPLAUSE
39:54Wow.
39:56Having realised how much they've all changed...
39:58Can I stand up and say a couple of things?
40:01Yeah, of course.
40:02Marianne takes a moment to reflect.
40:05I would like to thank you, Celeste and Danielle, for everything.
40:10We love you so much.
40:12And then I will direct my whole attention to Andre.
40:19Thank you for making me feel safe.
40:23And thank you for allowing me to just feel no judgement and enjoy.
40:27So, thank you.
40:34After struggling to find his voice, Jason now has the courage to speak.
40:39I know for the first, like, week or two, I was very difficult to work with.
40:43It took a lot for me to kind of, like, speak more about myself and be more emotional.
40:52Um, thank you, Aisha, as well.
40:57Um...
40:59I'm good.
40:59You're good.
41:05You're good.
41:07I don't...
41:07Um...
41:08Yeah, I'm sorry.
41:10I'm...
41:12Honestly, I don't really know what's in my head, so it's a bit difficult for someone else to figure it
41:16out as well.
41:17Thank you for everything.
41:26One by one.
41:27Halil, you probably provided the biggest breakthrough for me.
41:31The others take their opportunity to give back.
41:34Getting over the pressure, performance anxiety of sex, thank you so much for that.
41:38Resden, you've got my heart.
41:40You showed me how to use a strap-on and that is all I can ask for.
41:47Thank you very much for helping me get over my fears.
41:51You've changed my life.
41:53The empathy that you lead with in every single session has just made me feel so safe and so understood.
42:00All I can say is I'm not a virgin anymore.
42:02Thank you very much.
42:04Thank you, everyone.
42:10Taking things at his own pace is Bertie with the final word.
42:15This has been the most fantastic experience of my entire life.
42:22Some of the workshop activities I thought I'd never be able to do.
42:26But that growth was all thanks to you both.
42:29Kat, you are an amazing person.
42:32And I will never forget you.
42:34I would like to thank all of you.
42:37Yes, I know that I'm not the most sociable person.
42:40But regardless of that, you still made me feel like that I was part of you.
42:46And you still accepted me for who I was.
42:50And that means so much more than you could know.
42:55If someone said to me, would you do this again?
43:00In a fucking heartbeat.
43:12The retreat is a huge success beyond anyone's imagination.
43:18Makes me emotional.
43:21It is really beautiful to see how much they got here.
43:25I'm so proud of them.
43:27They're so brave.
43:29Now that they have all of these tools,
43:31they're ready to go out into the world
43:33and create the lives and relationships they want for themselves.
43:36I think to myself, my work here is done.
43:41The world is so not ready for me.
43:44Big bad world, I am coming for you.
43:46It's changed me.
43:48I'm so much happier as a person.
43:49I enjoy life again and lost my virginity.
43:53Yay.
43:55I've not graduated anything in my life.
43:58So to graduate sex camp is just amazing.
44:04I'm excited to go back to the real world.
44:06I came here really shy and insecure.
44:09I'm leaving really confident, really sure of myself.
44:13And no longer a virgin.
44:15The first time that we started to connect in an erotic way,
44:19I was like, holy shit.
44:24I feel fantastic.
44:25I didn't go into this island with the intention of having any firsts.
44:30If they happened, they happened.
44:32Well, they did bloody happen.
44:34What an absolute ride I've been on.
44:37You did it.
44:38Congratulations.
44:39Congratulations.
44:40Congratulations.
44:43Congratulations.
44:45Congratulations.
44:47Congratulations.
44:51We're ready for a group Gorgie now.
44:53Cheers Gorgie.
44:54Yay.
44:55Congratulations.
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