00:00Who's into pegging?
00:01Play with her clit and watch her drip.
00:03There's no shame in the masturbation game.
00:05Eat her pussy.
00:07Those phrases are my intros and outros for my TikTok videos.
00:11I want to normalize sexual communication.
00:14And what better way than using humor?
00:15My name is Dr. Tara and I'm a sex expert for a living.
00:23Orgies, great dicks, and porn star tricks.
00:26Hello Love Bites fam, today I have a very special guest.
00:31Kazumi!
00:33That's me!
00:33Tell us a little bit about yourself.
00:35I love gangbangs, appetizers, and Tara.
00:39Aww, hey!
00:41I definitely have not always been this comfortable talking about sex.
00:46Actually, I was very shy and very anxious talking about sex.
00:50Moving on to tips and tricks.
00:53You are the expert.
00:55Yeah.
00:55Can you tell everyone what sloppy toppy is?
01:00So, you know...
01:02My podcast is all about sexual wellness and sexploration.
01:06I became a sex expert because I've always been a sexually curious child.
01:11I grew up in a very sexually repressed culture and environment.
01:14I went to an all-girls Catholic school back home in Bangkok, Thailand.
01:19And I left Thailand at the age of 15 to go to high school in Finland.
01:24And I didn't know that, you know, there are places in the world where they don't shame you
01:31for your naked bodies and for showing your skin.
01:35So that was like my first almost sexual awakening, understanding that my body is not bad.
01:41You know what's funny?
01:43I was talking to this guy and he was saying something like,
01:46can you eat my ass?
01:47And I was like, no.
01:48And he was like, can I piss on her chest?
01:49I was like, no.
01:50And then he was like, can you do this?
01:51And I was like, no.
01:52And he was like, for a freaky girl, you sure say no a lot.
01:56And I was like...
01:56It's called boundaries.
01:59And he was like, a good sub always says yes.
02:02And I was like, no they don't.
02:04Because I know exactly where I want to stop.
02:07A sex expert is someone who educates in the realm of sexuality.
02:12And my specialty is sexual communication.
02:14I wanted to contribute to a solution to such a big problem that everyone experiences.
02:20Well, Kazumi, thank you so much for today.
02:23It's been so fun.
02:24And my Love Bites fam, don't forget to like and subscribe to my channel.
02:28And have an orgasmic day.
02:29As a sex expert, I wear three hats.
02:32The first hat is as a tenured professor.
02:35I'm a tenured professor at California State University Fullerton.
02:38And I teach sexual communication, relational communication,
02:42and quantitative research at the university.
02:44The second hat that I wear is a coach.
02:47I have a private practice here called Love Bites, where I do sex and relationship coaching.
02:52So we're going to do a moaning exercise.
02:54Awesome.
02:56The third hat that I wear is a sex-positive social media influencer.
03:01I would describe my approach to sex education on social media as humorous and unapologetic.
03:08Spanking is fun and sexy, but here's one way to spice it up.
03:12Flocking.
03:13Yay.
03:14This is literally Adam every time.
03:15Yay.
03:17Period.
03:17Queen.
03:18I think it's super beneficial using humor in teaching about sex and sexuality,
03:23because people are generally very anxious talking about sex.
03:27So I feel using humor can get through more people than using like a serious academic tone.
03:37A lot of people are surprised that I have a PhD, that I'm an award-winning researcher,
03:42because they're like, oh, she, you know, dresses revealingly, and she's so bubbly,
03:47and she's so smiley, she must not be very smart or intellectual, right?
03:52I think that as a society, there's still patriarchal beliefs that a woman like this isn't a smart woman,
04:01which to me is f***ed up, because we live in, you know, a multi-dimensional world,
04:05and you are a multi-dimensional bad bitch.
04:09In a year, I would typically make about $200,000, but it varies so much depending on
04:16what types of sponsors, what types of projects you're doing that year.
04:20Out of the $200,000 from my professor job is $90,000.
04:24The sexual communication class highlights all things sex and communication.
04:28It starts from your very first sexual exploration and research surrounding sex and sexuality during
04:35that time, and then it progresses. We also talk a lot about non-traditional sexual practices,
04:41like kinks, BDSM, different fetishes. As a professor, you know, it's rewarding teaching
04:46my students, knowing that after they finish 16 weeks of this class, they're going to become
04:52a lot more sexually empowered and educated.
04:57Hi, Lexi. So good to see you. Good to see you too. Have a seat.
05:02As a sex and relationship coach, I help my clients assess their current sexual and relational
05:09attitudes and behaviors. Today, what I want to practice with you is positive
05:16sexual affirmations to really build up that confidence in you.
05:20Right. Excited? Yeah.
05:22Okay, let's do it.
05:26I am a sexual being. I am a sexual being.
05:31Loud and proud, Lexi. I am thankful for my body. I am thankful for my body.
05:37Some common issues that I work with people on are sexual anxiety, low sexual desires,
05:43lack of attraction for your long-term partner. I have great sexual energy. I have great sexual energy.
05:51Yes, you do. I am good at sex. I am good at sex. Yes, you are. And I think the
05:57most common of all is
05:59mismatched sex drives between two partners. Take three deep breaths and remind yourself
06:05you're sexually powerful. Have an orgasmic day.
06:13Good job. Okay, ready for step two? Yeah.
06:18All right, we did this before, right? The moaning exercise. Yes.
06:22We'll take deep breaths first. Okay.
06:28I love the moaning exercise because I think we live in a society where
06:35women's sexual suppression is such a norm. Shimmy a little.
06:41If you're a good girl or a good woman, you're submissive and quiet, right? But
06:47we're not. We're bad bitches, animalistic, carnal lovers.
06:55Yes, Lexi. You feel sexual?
06:58I feel a little. Sexual, intellectual?
07:00Yes. Awesome.
07:02I felt like you've helped me the most with just being comfortable with my body and taking control of
07:06myself as a woman and knowing that I am a sexual being. I don't need to be embarrassed or ashamed
07:11of
07:11my body. Now I'm open to even trying new things and, you know, exploring things that I maybe wasn't
07:17open to before. Love that. Sexploration. Yes.
07:21The thing that I love the most about being a sex expert is knowing that I'm changing lives,
07:28literally. When I'm a coach and I see a couple and I help them get through a certain sex issue
07:34and they come out on the other side like happy, closer, that's so nourishing for me to see.
07:41People often ask me, what is your number one advice? And I always say sexual communication
07:47is sexual liberation. There's no sexual liberation if you're not able to talk about sex. All in all,
07:53I would say strive to have healthy sexual communication with people around you and your loved
08:00ones. Have an orgasmic day. Bye.
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