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On this week's episode of For a Living, sex expert, relationship coach, and tenured professor Dr. Tara (@luvbites.co) shows us inside her working life. As the newest agent on reality show "Celebs Go Dating," a social media influencer with 2 million TikTok followers, and more, Dr. Tara wears a lot of hats in her career. How does she make her income? How much does she make? What challenges has she faced in this industry? Watch to learn all this and more!

00:00 Meet Dr. Tara
2:07 What is a Sex Expert?
3:18 Using Humor in Sex Ed
4:09 Salary of a Sex Expert
4:56 Sex and Relationship Coaching
7:21 The Best Part of Being a Sex Expert

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Transcript
00:00Who's into pegging?
00:01Play with her clit and watch her drip.
00:03There's no shame in the masturbation game.
00:05Eat her pussy.
00:07Those phrases are my intros and outros for my TikTok videos.
00:11I want to normalize sexual communication.
00:14And what better way than using humor?
00:15My name is Dr. Tara and I'm a sex expert for a living.
00:23Orgies, great dicks, and porn star tricks.
00:26Hello Love Bites fam, today I have a very special guest.
00:31Kazumi!
00:33That's me!
00:33Tell us a little bit about yourself.
00:35I love gangbangs, appetizers, and Tara.
00:39Aww, hey!
00:41I definitely have not always been this comfortable talking about sex.
00:46Actually, I was very shy and very anxious talking about sex.
00:50Moving on to tips and tricks.
00:53You are the expert.
00:55Yeah.
00:55Can you tell everyone what sloppy toppy is?
01:00So, you know...
01:02My podcast is all about sexual wellness and sexploration.
01:06I became a sex expert because I've always been a sexually curious child.
01:11I grew up in a very sexually repressed culture and environment.
01:14I went to an all-girls Catholic school back home in Bangkok, Thailand.
01:19And I left Thailand at the age of 15 to go to high school in Finland.
01:24And I didn't know that, you know, there are places in the world where they don't shame you
01:31for your naked bodies and for showing your skin.
01:35So that was like my first almost sexual awakening, understanding that my body is not bad.
01:41You know what's funny?
01:43I was talking to this guy and he was saying something like,
01:46can you eat my ass?
01:47And I was like, no.
01:48And he was like, can I piss on her chest?
01:49I was like, no.
01:50And then he was like, can you do this?
01:51And I was like, no.
01:52And he was like, for a freaky girl, you sure say no a lot.
01:56And I was like...
01:56It's called boundaries.
01:59And he was like, a good sub always says yes.
02:02And I was like, no they don't.
02:04Because I know exactly where I want to stop.
02:07A sex expert is someone who educates in the realm of sexuality.
02:12And my specialty is sexual communication.
02:14I wanted to contribute to a solution to such a big problem that everyone experiences.
02:20Well, Kazumi, thank you so much for today.
02:23It's been so fun.
02:24And my Love Bites fam, don't forget to like and subscribe to my channel.
02:28And have an orgasmic day.
02:29As a sex expert, I wear three hats.
02:32The first hat is as a tenured professor.
02:35I'm a tenured professor at California State University Fullerton.
02:38And I teach sexual communication, relational communication,
02:42and quantitative research at the university.
02:44The second hat that I wear is a coach.
02:47I have a private practice here called Love Bites, where I do sex and relationship coaching.
02:52So we're going to do a moaning exercise.
02:54Awesome.
02:56The third hat that I wear is a sex-positive social media influencer.
03:01I would describe my approach to sex education on social media as humorous and unapologetic.
03:08Spanking is fun and sexy, but here's one way to spice it up.
03:12Flocking.
03:13Yay.
03:14This is literally Adam every time.
03:15Yay.
03:17Period.
03:17Queen.
03:18I think it's super beneficial using humor in teaching about sex and sexuality,
03:23because people are generally very anxious talking about sex.
03:27So I feel using humor can get through more people than using like a serious academic tone.
03:37A lot of people are surprised that I have a PhD, that I'm an award-winning researcher,
03:42because they're like, oh, she, you know, dresses revealingly, and she's so bubbly,
03:47and she's so smiley, she must not be very smart or intellectual, right?
03:52I think that as a society, there's still patriarchal beliefs that a woman like this isn't a smart woman,
04:01which to me is f***ed up, because we live in, you know, a multi-dimensional world,
04:05and you are a multi-dimensional bad bitch.
04:09In a year, I would typically make about $200,000, but it varies so much depending on
04:16what types of sponsors, what types of projects you're doing that year.
04:20Out of the $200,000 from my professor job is $90,000.
04:24The sexual communication class highlights all things sex and communication.
04:28It starts from your very first sexual exploration and research surrounding sex and sexuality during
04:35that time, and then it progresses. We also talk a lot about non-traditional sexual practices,
04:41like kinks, BDSM, different fetishes. As a professor, you know, it's rewarding teaching
04:46my students, knowing that after they finish 16 weeks of this class, they're going to become
04:52a lot more sexually empowered and educated.
04:57Hi, Lexi. So good to see you. Good to see you too. Have a seat.
05:02As a sex and relationship coach, I help my clients assess their current sexual and relational
05:09attitudes and behaviors. Today, what I want to practice with you is positive
05:16sexual affirmations to really build up that confidence in you.
05:20Right. Excited? Yeah.
05:22Okay, let's do it.
05:26I am a sexual being. I am a sexual being.
05:31Loud and proud, Lexi. I am thankful for my body. I am thankful for my body.
05:37Some common issues that I work with people on are sexual anxiety, low sexual desires,
05:43lack of attraction for your long-term partner. I have great sexual energy. I have great sexual energy.
05:51Yes, you do. I am good at sex. I am good at sex. Yes, you are. And I think the
05:57most common of all is
05:59mismatched sex drives between two partners. Take three deep breaths and remind yourself
06:05you're sexually powerful. Have an orgasmic day.
06:13Good job. Okay, ready for step two? Yeah.
06:18All right, we did this before, right? The moaning exercise. Yes.
06:22We'll take deep breaths first. Okay.
06:28I love the moaning exercise because I think we live in a society where
06:35women's sexual suppression is such a norm. Shimmy a little.
06:41If you're a good girl or a good woman, you're submissive and quiet, right? But
06:47we're not. We're bad bitches, animalistic, carnal lovers.
06:55Yes, Lexi. You feel sexual?
06:58I feel a little. Sexual, intellectual?
07:00Yes. Awesome.
07:02I felt like you've helped me the most with just being comfortable with my body and taking control of
07:06myself as a woman and knowing that I am a sexual being. I don't need to be embarrassed or ashamed
07:11of
07:11my body. Now I'm open to even trying new things and, you know, exploring things that I maybe wasn't
07:17open to before. Love that. Sexploration. Yes.
07:21The thing that I love the most about being a sex expert is knowing that I'm changing lives,
07:28literally. When I'm a coach and I see a couple and I help them get through a certain sex issue
07:34and they come out on the other side like happy, closer, that's so nourishing for me to see.
07:41People often ask me, what is your number one advice? And I always say sexual communication
07:47is sexual liberation. There's no sexual liberation if you're not able to talk about sex. All in all,
07:53I would say strive to have healthy sexual communication with people around you and your loved
08:00ones. Have an orgasmic day. Bye.
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