00:00Are we cuffing or are we creeping?
00:02Miss Kiki Palmer, both of those things are very aspirational for me, personally, the way my life's set up right
00:08now.
00:13Hey, what's up, y'all? It's your girl Kiki Palmer, and today we are talking love, relationships, dating, all of
00:18that good stuff.
00:19I mean, we have spent so much time inside, so my unbothered family and I decided, let's take it to
00:24the streets.
00:24Right now, we're at Hilltop Coffee and Kitchen Cafe, black-owned, oh my gosh, amazing, in Inglewood.
00:30Let's get into it, honey.
00:31All right, how you doing today, love? I'm wonderful.
00:35You know, first I want to start off with a little bit of coffee.
00:38Just give me some straight black, just like I like it.
00:41So how do we feel about sliding into DMs?
00:44I would like for someone to slide into my DMs first, but I will reciprocate the energy.
00:49The proper way to slide in somebody's DMs?
00:53Employed?
00:53Oh!
00:54If you're going to slide into somebody's DMs, you don't need to be able to take whatever comes with that.
00:58I heard that.
00:59You can always compliment me.
01:01That's always going to work.
01:02Tell me I look good, pretty and pink, whatever.
01:04I'll be like, oh, tell me some more.
01:05I love that.
01:07You know, shoot for the gusto.
01:08Go for it, whether you're a woman or a man.
01:10Primarily, like, don't be lame.
01:11Just, you know, be yourself and just, you know, keep it 100.
01:13How is your sliding into DMs accuracy rate?
01:17So that's not as great, but, you know, the law of averages, you got to put, you got to
01:23cast the line.
01:23Yes, right, mine isn't either.
01:24I just blame it on the requests.
01:26They didn't see it.
01:27I don't believe you.
01:27They didn't see my message.
01:31Are we creeping or are we cuffing this season?
01:34Man, it's cuffing season.
01:36I heard.
01:36Wait a minute.
01:37Wait, wait, wait.
01:37When you heard it, what's cuffing season at?
01:39Man, last time I checked, you know, everybody trying to be booed up, you know, so it's cuffing.
01:44But some people creeping, you know, it's summertime, so some people might be, it might be 50-50.
01:49Are you looking for somebody?
01:50Not this homecoming season, but I think cuffing and creeping aren't always mutually exclusive.
01:56Wait, wait, did it?
01:57Man, it depends on who you cuffing.
01:59It might creep with you.
02:00Wait a minute.
02:02So we're talking a little open relationship vibes.
02:04See, I thought I was going to be down for the relationship.
02:07Girl, wait a minute.
02:08Then I was given the opportunity for a relationship with a beautiful guy.
02:13He was an amazing person.
02:15He was good to me, but I'm not ready.
02:17It's me time.
02:18Like, I need to focus and grind on myself.
02:20I'm going to say we're going to have some fun and maybe even some single fun just by myself.
02:27Have you ever had a roster?
02:29A roster.
02:30Hmm.
02:30Like, okay, we think of sports.
02:31We think of a lineup.
02:32You know, have you ever had a lineup of loves in your life where you're entertaining more than
02:36one person at one time?
02:37So there's definitely been a moment where I've had somebody, like, down.
02:41You send them down to Florida.
02:42They're on the D-Leagues.
02:43It's like, maybe they're coming up.
02:46Maybe you got to cut them.
02:47I don't know.
02:47I don't know.
02:48Girl, isn't it always like that?
02:49It's like, I always got a few bench riders just waiting for a chance to jump on in.
02:54You know, I'm still building mine right now.
02:58It's still happening.
02:59Yes.
02:59We still open tryouts.
03:01Yes.
03:02I had that once.
03:03I didn't know it was called that, apparently.
03:04So you just taught me something.
03:06But I had just gotten out of a relationship that I had mentally checked out of two years
03:10ago.
03:11And so I was like, well, I guess I should date.
03:15So I was just kind of seeing what it was.
03:17None of them checked out to be really anything, which I was cool with because then I had that
03:21experience.
03:22Exactly.
03:22I'm a consistent bench warmer.
03:25I cannot with you.
03:27Not successful is that they're not all at the same time, like how I want it.
03:31I know.
03:32It's like I got the team captain and now I'm trying to build a team.
03:34And I was like, why are these tryouts?
03:36No one's showing up.
03:37What's going on?
03:38I have.
03:40Okay.
03:41What are we talking?
03:42Two, three, line up?
03:43Maybe like a five-man team.
03:47That's a good summer.
03:50And that's what I'm talking about, ladies and gentlemen.
03:52Now let's play a little game of this or that.
03:54All right.
03:54All right.
03:54Pay the first date versus splitting.
03:56Split.
03:57Really?
03:57Yeah.
03:58Why?
03:58How much is the deal?
03:59Is it $300?
04:01I can do $115.
04:02I don't want to pay for both of us.
04:04I know I can cover my half.
04:06Group date versus solo.
04:07Solo.
04:08If it's the first date, definitely solo.
04:09I can do group dates.
04:11Okay, yeah.
04:12Solo scares me.
04:12I don't know why I'm such a scaredy cat.
04:14I'm just like you all up in my face and I can't deflect from a moment.
04:17Girl, I'm so that person where it's like I make guys go on four group dates with me,
04:20me and my own girls.
04:21It's really a mess.
04:22Wow.
04:23Girl, because I'd be nervous.
04:24Bonnet outside versus bonnet just in bed.
04:26I ain't got hair, so.
04:27That answers that.
04:29Just in bed.
04:30Yeah.
04:30Just in bed.
04:31Me too.
04:31Me too.
04:32I love a good bonnet though.
04:33I had a coworker give me some of the best advice.
04:35She said, dating is a skill and how can you be good at it if you do not practice?
04:40We practice all of our other skills, our work-related skills, everything else.
04:44It's like why wouldn't I practice this skill if I want it to lead to something lifelong?
04:49I love it.
04:50Thank you so much for chilling with us and hanging out with my Unbothered fam.
04:53You were amazing.
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