00:00You can spot a narcissist way before they ever even show you who they are.
00:04You just listen to what they are not saying.
00:07You see, normal people, they speak in verbs.
00:11They'll say, I built that.
00:12I showed up.
00:13I handled that.
00:14I was there.
00:15Actions, things that they actually did.
00:18A narcissist will mainly speak in nouns and adjectives like, I'm a great parent.
00:23I'm a hard worker.
00:24I'm loyal.
00:25I'm a good person.
00:26You notice what's not there?
00:28Anything that they actually did because verbs, they're specific and they can be checked.
00:34I'm a great parent.
00:35Okay, cool.
00:36Well, what did you do last Tuesday?
00:38Nothing.
00:39They'll tell you who they are all day long because adjectives, they're just claims.
00:45You can't fact check a claim.
00:47You can only fact check behavior.
00:49The people who love you, they just don't tell you that they're loyal.
00:53They show up.
00:54People who tell you that they're loyal and nothing else, well, they're usually still working on their alibi.
01:01Watch how people talk.
01:02This is very important.
01:03The nouns and adjectives, well, that's their resume.
01:07The verbs, that's a person.
01:09And if somebody can't give you a single verb when you ask them what they've done, well, you probably have
01:16your answer.
01:17Let's get along.
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