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00:05 Welcome Psych2Go fans!
00:09 We here at Psych2Go are all about sharing knowledge.
00:12 So we just want you to know that the purpose of this video is not to condemn narcissists,
00:16 but to help those who feel they may be victims of narcissism,
00:20 so they have the tools to help them recognize the signs.
00:23 This in turn may provide some protection and self-preservation.
00:27 Signature traits of a narcissist are combinations of various things,
00:32 including being self-absorbed, deceitful, and using their sense of empathy as a weapon against others.
00:37 Despite all these unpleasant qualities, the most dangerous characteristic about a narcissist
00:43 is their initial magnetism.
00:44 Early impressions and interactions have them presenting as charming, eloquent, intelligent,
00:50 and charismatic.
00:52 Unfortunately, these behaviors are simply bait, and the good treatment towards you doesn't last.
00:58 The eventual outcome is you suffering through emotional trauma and being a pawn in their game.
01:03 This doesn't sound very good, does it?
01:06 Well, let us offer a little knowledge to arm yourself with.
01:10 Here are seven of the most common manipulation tactics narcissists use that you need to watch out for.
01:15 1. Gaslighting
01:18 Many victims of abusive relationships will be familiar with this one.
01:23 Gaslighting and narcissists also quite often go together.
01:27 So, what is gaslighting?
01:29 Well, it's a method of manipulation to make the victim question their own reality.
01:34 You'll know you locked the door, but the narcissist unlocked it without you knowing,
01:39 then berates you later for being irresponsible or stupid.
01:42 You're so lucky that you have them to depend on.
01:45 You'll argue you know you locked it.
01:48 They'll keep insisting you didn't.
01:50 The narcissist will lie and misinform so earnestly and consistently
01:54 that you start to question your memory and judgment of past events,
01:58 no longer trusting your own mind.
01:59 Oftentimes, they will attempt to change the narrative so they look good and you look bad.
02:05 They may do this by completely fabricating a story or claiming you said something you didn't.
02:10 2. Projection
02:12 Projection is a manipulation tactic the narcissist will use to take things out on you.
02:18 They're trying to relieve themselves of their negative load by dumping it on someone else
02:23 and using them as a psychological punching bag.
02:26 Usually, this is accomplished by convincing you that you have the problematic behaviors, not them.
02:32 They might call you names, scold you for your actions,
02:35 or get angry at you for doing things they themselves do.
02:39 I know, right?
02:40 Double standards.
02:41 3. Guilt-tripping
02:44 When a narcissist wants something from you, they might try to guilt-trip you into getting it.
02:49 They make you feel sorry for them, coercing you into doing favors for them
02:53 and staying by their side.
02:54 They passive-aggressively remind you of all the bad things they perceive you've done to them.
02:59 This is to imply that you owe them, or they use it as a reason to bear a grudge,
03:04 creating a desire in you to make it up to them.
03:07 4. Silent treatment
03:10 We may not be proud of it, but we know we've given the cold shoulder to someone
03:14 at some time in our lives to express our hurt, anger, or disappointment with them.
03:19 A narcissist will do the same behavior, but with very different reasons.
03:23 Their reason for the silent treatment is to tear down their victim's self-esteem.
03:28 If your self-esteem is weak, you need support.
03:30 You need them.
03:31 You likely haven't done anything wrong, yet they'll ghost you until you're begging them
03:36 to take you back, apologizing to them for anything and everything.
03:40 5. Feigned ignorance
03:43 It seems like you can't trust narcissists with anything.
03:47 Well, there is something you unfortunately can trust a narcissist for.
03:51 It's that they will always have an excuse ready as to why they aren't
03:55 responsible for whatever they did wrong.
03:57 They'll often play dumb and pretend to be innocent so they can get away with their bad behavior.
04:03 They will manipulate you into thinking that they didn't mean it, or didn't know any better.
04:07 And once you forgive them and you've convinced yourself that they're a good person
04:11 who simply made a mistake, they just stab you in the back and repeat the process.
04:16 6. Playing the victim
04:18 Remember how we said a narcissist will always use empathy as a weapon?
04:23 This is how they do it.
04:24 Generally, we know and feel that the right thing to do for a fellow human showing distress
04:30 is to extend compassion and understanding.
04:32 Unfortunately, if this is given to a narcissist, it's a flashing neon sign to let them exploit you.
04:39 Did they make a mistake or a big mess of things?
04:42 Maybe they did something wrong or hurtful.
04:45 Well, they tell you, "It's not me that was in the wrong, it was someone else."
04:49 This is usually the victim, by the way.
04:51 "The entire world and cosmos has treated me unfairly," they'll say.
04:55 It's in this way they keep fishing for and siphoning compassion
05:00 and pandering from you, the caring human being.
05:02 7. Throwing tantrums
05:06 As you might suspect, narcissists don't respond well when you stand your ground
05:10 and stop caving to their demands.
05:13 The response? Tantrums have entered the chat.
05:16 They will often get upset, raise their voice at you, call you names,
05:20 and say many hurtful things just so they can browbeat you into submission.
05:24 They can't be reasoned with or talked down because they're always absolutely certain
05:29 that they're right and anyone who disagrees with them must be terribly mistaken
05:34 and therefore the enemy.
05:35 Do you recognize these signs in anyone you know?
05:39 Is there a narcissist in your life right now?
05:42 If so, it can be helpful to be aware of these tactics
05:45 so you can better prepare to protect yourself against them
05:48 and possibly save yourself from being the victim of a narcissist's abuse.
05:52 Learning all the tricks they use greatly reduces the narcissist's power
05:57 and they will likely leave you in peace.
05:59 You're not useful to them if they can't manipulate you.
06:02 So, be good to yourself and save yourself from the emotional pain and trauma.
06:07 The narcissist mind games are now closed and you're not forced to participate.
06:12 As with any diagnosis though, a specialized professional needs to make the call.
06:18 Simply having a few somewhat similar traits doesn't necessarily mean one is a narcissist.
06:23 We hope you learned something new.
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06:30 Thanks for watching!
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