There is no way an escape from a narcissist would be easy — and if you choose the wrong way, it might even lead to serious emotional, psychological, and physical danger. In this stick-figure style animation video, we share the 10 most important mistakes that survivors make when leaving a narcissist, along with the reasons why these mistakes occur, how a narcissist plays with your mind, and what you can do to protect yourself without any risks.
The video is a perfect tool for those who feel trapped in a toxic relationship or are confused by a narcissist's mind games. It will guide you in understanding the hidden patterns of narcissistic abuse, trauma bonding, gaslighting, and hoovering so that you can reclaim your power and design a safe exit plan that really works.
🎬 Here’s what this video has in store for you:
The 10 biggest blunders that nearly everyone commits while parting from a narcissist What happens with narcissists when you try to break free from their influence Psychological snares and manipulation tactics that are crucial to avoid Safety measures to eliminate emotional attachment and keep yourself safe The reason why “no contact” proves to be tougher than expected yet remains a vital aspect of healing
You will see through this animation that simple stick-figure storytelling can illustrate very complicated emotional issues, thus making it easier for the audience to see the coiling of narcissistic behaviors and the recovery process as well.
💡 This video is meant for: People who have been through or are going through such things as narcissistic partners, parents, or friends; people who have been through emotional or psychological abuse and are now survivors; the ones who are just browsing through the topics of narcissism, mental health or toxic relationship recovery.
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00:00Cutting off a narcissist is quite a task, but this video is a must-watch first.
00:04Making a mistake might quite possibly lead to the end of your peace of mind, privacy, and even safety.
00:10So here are 10 important errors in how to get around them which will enable you to smartly and safely leave.
00:16I am thrilled to have you with me.
00:17Should you decide to cut off a narcissist or have already done so, then this video is a guardian angel for you.
00:23I'll assist you through the 10.
00:25Critical errors that make the act of escaping harsh and what to do instead.
00:28Make notes and don't forget to tell a friend about this.
00:32Error 1. Making your exit public.
00:34Informing a narcissist of your intention to leave might make them react violently, stalk you, or shower you with love bombing.
00:41They are addicted to having control over you.
00:44When you give them a heads up, they will probably destroy your job, finances, or kids' schedules.
00:49Instead, make your plans in a whisper.
00:51Tell as few people as possible and leave only when your security and the organization are in place.
00:56Go over your exit phrases with a confidant.
00:59There is no need for a debate.
01:01If you need to, leave some belongings behind.
01:04Just make sure safety comes first.
01:06Error 2. Risk is being underestimated.
01:08Control slipping is often the time when abuse tends to go up.
01:11Don't think they would never.
01:13Develop a safety plan.
01:14Pack documents.
01:16Meds, sparkies, and a go bag.
01:18Memorize key numbers.
01:20Have a safe place to go.
01:21Choose code words with friends.
01:23Know the fastest exits from home and work.
01:25If you feel in danger, contact local law enforcement or the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
01:31Error 3.
01:32The Hoover is being misunderstood.
01:34Once you set your limits, be prepared for apologies, tears, gifts, and a sudden change.
01:39This isn't growth.
01:41It's a tactic to pull you back.
01:42Write down the reasons you're leaving and keep that list nearby.
01:46Share it with a trusted friend or therapist who can remind you when doubts hit.
01:50Look for sustained, humble action over months.
01:52Not promises, pressure, or deadlines.
01:54Mistake 4.
01:56Leaving without a paper trail.
01:57When the situation becomes complicated, receipts are very important.
02:02Save copies of all important documents like IDs, leases, pay stubs, bank statements, and the records of texts, emails, and threats.
02:10Use a secure place that only you can access to keep the screenshots.
02:13Create a new email account and send the files to that account which only you have access to.
02:18If there are children involved, keep the record of schedules, pickups, and any violations.
02:24Calm dated records would assist you with courts, advocates, and your own clarity.
02:28Mistake 5.
02:29Ignoring tech safety.
02:31Shared clouds, locations, and smart devices can reveal your exact whereabouts.
02:36Update passwords, add two-factor authentication, log out of shared accounts, and check app permissions on phones, tablets, cars, and home devices before leaving.
02:46If you don't need location sharing, turn it off.
02:49You might want to consider getting a new email and a low-cost phone number for your essential contacts.
02:55Be careful with your public posts and make sure to check your photos for location data.
03:00Mistake 6.
03:01Money moves they can see.
03:02If there's a sudden withdrawal, a large purchase, or opening of a new credit line, it might alert them.
03:08If it's safe and legal, open a separate bank account, redirect your salary, and set aside small and regular amounts.
03:15Consider freezing your credit and monitoring joint accounts and shared bills.
03:20Talk to a financial counselor or advocate for help planning a clean break.
03:24Don't sign new contracts with them.
03:26Always read everything before you sign.
03:29Mistake 7.
03:30Arguing or oversharing.
03:31Long explanations provide them with power.
03:34Try to keep communication short, neutral, and necessary, especially in writing.
03:39You do not have to justify your choices.
03:42Respond with one line or no response at all when possible.
03:45I'll communicate through email.
03:47Please use the parenting app.
03:50I'm not available for this conversation.
03:52Make a copy of everything.
03:53Do not send anything that you would not want a judge to read.
03:57Mistake 8.
03:58Making kids or friends the messengers.
04:00Triangulation.
04:01Fuels drama and hurts relationships.
04:04Don't use children to pass messages.
04:06Keep kids out of adult conflicts and reassure them it's not their fault.
04:10Use a parenting app, mediator, or attorney when needed.
04:13With friends, share on a need-to-know basis and ask them not to relay your plans.
04:19Tight boundaries reduce chaos.
04:21Mistake 9.
04:22Going it alone.
04:23Isolation helps abusers.
04:25Build a team.
04:26A therapist.
04:27An advocate.
04:28One or two trusted friends.
04:30Maybe a lawyer or legal clinic.
04:32Tell them what you need.
04:33Rides.
04:34Child care.
04:35A safe couch.
04:36Or someone to check in.
04:38If work has an employee assistance program, use it.
04:42Local shelters and community centers often have free or low-cost support.
04:46Accept help.
04:48You deserve support.
04:49Mistake 10.
04:50Expecting instant peace.
04:52Freedom is real, but healing can be messy.
04:54You may feel grief, anger, shame, confusion, or the urge to go back.
04:59That's normal.
05:00Plan your aftercare.
05:02Therapy, support groups, sleep, steady meals, movement, nature, and moments of joy.
05:08Block them everywhere you can and mute triggers.
05:11Expect post-separation tactics like smears or false charm.
05:15Hold your boundaries and give your nervous system time.
05:18You are not overreacting.
05:20You are not the problem.
05:21You are taking your power back, one careful step at a time.
05:25Keep going.
05:26If this helped, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who might need it.
05:31Drop stronger in the comments so I know you're here, and tell me which mistake surprised you most.
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