00:00A video produced by South Tyneside Charity Impact Family Services is gaining
00:05attention online for the way it represents the experiences of young
00:08girls. Featuring school-age participants holding handwritten messages it
00:13highlights comments that have been directed at them by boys and men aiming
00:17to raise awareness and to encourage discussion. So the video is actually the
00:22work's been done in collaboration with this life collective so we were finding
00:26a lot of a spike in young girls in South Tyneside experiencing abuse in their
00:34relationships with their boyfriends from a young age and she showed me this work
00:40she was doing with the girls and decided to push it out on our social media so
00:46more people could see it again we use the uncensored version we don't want to join
00:51the narrative of not talking about this because that's one of the issues people
00:56don't talk about things like this and we put it on our social media pages and and
01:03the rest history it just got traction over 120,000 views on Facebook over 20,000
01:10views on LinkedIn you know the comments in particular a lot of them were around
01:14you know we're expressing the shock at that type of language that boys were
01:18using at such a young age it really is bad and and you know you've got boys in
01:22schools creating rape lists and and and things like that and it's that it really
01:27is shocking I mean where does that come from where are they getting this
01:30information where are they even getting the idea that boys think this is the norm
01:34the boys think that this is right that they can talk to girls like this they can
01:38use this language and it's not just boys it's you know it's men as well what
01:42really sparked this last year was we were we were seeing a spike of young girls
01:48aged 15 16 17 disclosing to our staff that they'd been victims of abuse in
01:54their intimate relationships from an early age and we're talking from their
01:58first boyfriends from 13 years old so we know girls from age 13 are actually
02:04being raped by boys aged 13 and 14 but what was coming back from the girls was
02:11they that from them they were saying but we thought when you got a boyfriend you
02:14have to let them do these things to you and conversely some of the boys the same
02:18but we thought when you've got a girlfriend this is what you did in a
02:21relationship for me the big hope is that everybody parents and teachers
02:26particularly parents realize that this could be their child it could be their
02:30daughter who's experiencing it it could be their son who's saying it and then
02:34they they take action to start talking to their children about these things
02:39about relationships about what's right what's not right about how to treat
02:43people with respect and that's certainly how not to treat people the
02:48charity says the response to the video shows a strong public interest in the
02:51issue it hopes the project will encourage wider conversations and support
02:55efforts to address harmful behavior at an early stage
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