She and Her Sister Escaped An Unsafe Family Environment

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In this episode of Unfiltered Stories, we have the privilege of hearing Eden Schock's personal journey. From a young age, Eden faced a difficult family situation that created an unsafe environment for her and her sister. Despite the challenges she encountered, Eden's inner strength and resilience allowed her to navigate through these trying times.   Through her faith and the support of others, Eden has found ways to heal and move forward in her life. Her story is a testament to the power of the human spirit in the face of adversity. Join us as we listen with compassion and learn from Eden's experiences.   #unfilteredstories #survivorstories   Thank you for watching Unfiltered Stories! We offer a platform for our guests to speak openly about their life stories and journeys, shedding light on the challenges they faced and the resilience they've shown.  Our mission is to raise awareness about survivors by delving into their stories, exploring the impact of their experiences, and how they've managed to heal and rebuild their lives.  By sharing these stories, we aim to break the silence surrounding those challenging memories and create a compassionate environment.   Make sure you hit the 🛎️ BELL ICON 🛎️ to get notifications every time we post new episodes, and don't forget to SUBSCRIBE by clicking this link:  ➮ https://tinyurl.com/USsub   🌅 FOLLOW US 🌅  Facebook ➮ https://tinyurl.com/UnfilteredFB  Tiktok ➮ https://tinyurl.com/UnfilteredTT  Snapchat ➮ https://tinyurl.com/UnfilteredSN

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00:00My name is Ferry. I am 24 years old. I'm going to tell you my story of abuse as a

00:08child and as an

00:09adult. I remember like my mom and my dad, they loved each other. They both worked. Everything

00:16seemed happy and normal. Their divorce is what caused the chain reaction of things to happen in

00:22my life. When I was two years old, my parents split up and my mom took me because I was

00:31not her

00:31husband at the time's biological child. My father took the two other of my siblings with him. My

00:39mom's family, I guess, wanted to try to help mend their marriage and thought that putting all of

00:45the children together would solve that. So my uncle came and got me saying that he wanted to keep me

00:51for a night to help my mom out. He kidnapped me and brought me to my other half of the

00:57family,

00:57my other siblings, and they very quickly got me and did not give me back. My mom, I remember her

01:05being

01:05very sweet and loving me a lot, but this family that took me in, they would tell me like, she

01:12doesn't

01:13really love you. She's strung out on drugs. Your mom's a whore. She cheated on your dad. She doesn't

01:18love anybody but herself. We would have visitation. Visitation with my mom didn't last very long,

01:23but for the time that it did last, they would be like, you're two-faced because I would get excited

01:29because I knew my mom was about to come get me. And then they would start like, oh, we have,

01:33you have

01:33visitation today, but we have to go do this. Or your mom said that she's not going to pick you

01:38up,

01:38so we have to go do this and we would not be home. So I was unaware that my mom

01:43was showing up to get me

01:44and I wasn't there for her to get. So she would like, stick around for hours and then leave. I

01:51would say I was like five or six sometime in there when all of the visitation stopped completely. So

01:56I didn't see, they quit talking about her unless it was like, you're bad just like your mom. My

02:01siblings are my half-siblings. However, I didn't know that until I was an adult. My father had a very

02:09big ego and he was a narcissist. So he believed that everything revolved around him, that he was

02:15an innocent person in the divorce. They got divorced because my mom cheated on him, but that was the

02:22reason he felt they got divorced. My mom felt that they got divorced because he did not love her.

02:28They didn't have sex for two years before I was conceived, so it obviously wasn't my father's.

02:34They had so many more problems than my mom cheating. He just wanted to be the innocent party.

02:39He didn't want to take any responsibility for his half. Like he was very abusive to her.

02:43My siblings and I all endured similar abuse to one another, but they had different reasons for

02:51disliking us. So like for me, they did not love me and they beat me and they were, they were

02:59harsh

02:59with me. Like they called me names and stuff like that. They thought I was an outside party. Like I

03:06was

03:06a child that wasn't supposed to be there. So I was a financial burden and my sister, they loved her

03:13a

03:13lot. But when she hit puberty, the love that they had went in a evil direction. It was not love.

03:22Like

03:22I love you, my daughter. It was, I love you. You're going to be my wife. My brother, they just

03:28hated him.

03:29He was hyperactive person and he left at seven or when I was seven, I didn't get to observe much

03:35of

03:36what happened to him. My brother and my sister stole a food stamp card and bought groceries and

03:41hid them because we weren't allowed to eat. He stole food. He put it underneath the deck and he

03:45didn't tell anybody about it. And that was supposed to be to feed me, him and my sister. And when

03:50they

03:51found out, they had my sister and brother lined up in the kitchen and were beating them. And my grandfather

03:57seen me watching from the staircase and he said, she knows about it. She needs to get beat too.

04:03And so they brought me over there and I got beat alongside them. Me and my sister were raised to

04:10be

04:11wives one day, but it was for the gain of the people in the family. As if we were going

04:19to marry

04:19our own family. My father, when my sister hit puberty, he fell head over heels for my sister. He

04:26absolutely loved her to a point where it was disgusting. My grandmother, she loved her own son

04:34in that same sick way. But all they ever did was make out one time that I know of. She

04:40told me this

04:40when I was like six years old, that she went into his room and made out with him when he

04:46was 13 because

04:48like, I guess she thought that was the right thing to do with your son. So I think like she

04:52was actually

04:53jealous like a girlfriend would be. My grandmother would get jealous of us children being around my

04:59grandfather, which I mean, I see why because he was a pedophile, but I just can't understand looking

05:04at children as if they're adults. I remember the first time I was molested very clearly. My grandfather,

05:11he was very sick. So he couldn't leave his bedroom often. He would like call me up into his room.

05:18And my

05:18grandmother would encourage me to do that because she thought like he was lonely and she didn't feel

05:24like filling that gap for him. And we would watch TV, like movies, old movies, things like Shirley

05:29Temple. He would like try to get me to come sit in his lap. And he would talk to me

05:34about stuff like

05:35I was an adult friend, not like I was his grandchild. I know he used to like tickle me sometimes

05:41or do

05:41those little nursery rhyme games. One of these instances, I was sitting in his lap and he reached

05:48around and up my inner thigh and I shut down and I just like closed my eyes really tight. And

05:54I waited

05:54for it to be over. Basically, he put his fingers inside of my shorts and touched me. I remember just

06:01sitting there and in my head, I was repeating to myself, just like, not this. No, this can't be

06:05happening. This isn't real. No, I don't know how many times that happened after that. I thought he

06:11was like my friend, like I could trust him. And he took advantage of that. My father didn't start

06:18being overtly sexual until we reached a certain age. It was around the same age that he was sexually

06:26assaulted by his mom. They were sexually assaulted from the time that they were young children because

06:31they would like get me to come up in their bedroom and they would put movies on and they'd be

06:37like

06:37rubbing on me. And I always thought it was very uncomfortable, but like, it's my family. I didn't

06:42really know, like, what am I supposed to do? I'm sandwiched between two adults. They would put on

06:47movies that had purposeful sexual, like, that was the point of the movie, basically. And they'd be like,

06:53you're going to be like that one day. Or you're going to have hair down there one day. Or, uh,

06:58it's okay to watch this. It's completely natural. Well, that kind of thing happened from when I was four

07:04years old, all the way up until maybe I was nine years old. When I learned to put up a

07:10wall for real

07:11and not go around anybody was around when I was eight or nine years old. And that was when I

07:16started

07:16to understand what sex really was. I understood, I started to understand that that was supposed to be

07:22a private thing and I didn't like it. And I was right for not liking it. I knew that my

07:30father was

07:31a pedophile, but I didn't know. My dad is definitely a pedophile because he would do

07:38things that were like, he was testing the water. Like he was trying to see what he could get away

07:43with. He made us sleep in his bed as often as he could. Like, I didn't have a bedroom until

07:48I was

07:49quite a bit up there. And even when I was about nine or 10 years old, when I had a

07:55bedroom, it didn't

07:56feel like that was my place to be because of that boundary being broken. So like, he would pull us

08:02up in the bed with him and he would like press himself against us really hard at night and like

08:08tell, tell me, he would say, hold me. And he pulled my arm, you know what I mean? Over. Or

08:14he would say,

08:15get closer if I was laid in front of him. You know what I mean? And he pulled me up

08:19on him. I always felt

08:20like I was like in the claws of an animal. Like I felt like I had to sit stiff and

08:25not move. I

08:26couldn't even sleep, fall asleep like that. I would wiggle out and act like I fell off the bed. His

08:31bed

08:32had wooden boards boxed around it. So I would press really hard against the wooden boards. Over time,

08:39he stopped wanting me to be in his bed and he would tell me to sleep in his closet. He

08:45had like a walk-in

08:45closet and he'd tell me to sleep in his closet. And my sister would be up in the bed with

08:50him.

08:51And that's around a time I was probably seven. I always felt like they don't love me. My dad

08:58doesn't really love me because I guess I was confused. I was conflicted about like, it wasn't

09:04comfortable sleeping in the bed with my dad, but now he doesn't want me up there with him anymore.

09:09And he wants my sister up there, but he doesn't want me. So I'd feel like abandoned in a way.

09:15My dad backed off and picked a favorite. I felt left out or like I didn't, I wasn't loved anymore.

09:20I always thought I wasn't allowed to talk about home life anywhere else. Like I didn't know that

09:26I could have walked up to somebody and said, help me. From the divorce, it was hardwired into my brain

09:33that you're not allowed to talk about anything. Don't try to talk about anything. And if you do,

09:39it better be the narrative that I've taught you. But when I was seven,

09:41my brother ran away and he got out. He did. He got out successfully. He didn't ever have to come

09:48back. He moved in with my mom. He went and lived his own separate life. There was a massive shift

09:54of how everything went down at home. My dad latched onto my sister very hard. He quit talking to me

10:02like you wouldn't acknowledge me. Because my dad latched on to my sister, my grandmother got jealous

10:09and tried to latch onto me with the same overbearingness that she gave my father.

10:16She treated me like a free therapist. So basically, she would tell me lots of sick things. I felt

10:23obligated to tell her that those sick things that she was telling me were okay. She told me that she

10:28wanted to be with my father. She made out with him when she was, when he was 13. She was

10:33switching out

10:34my grandfather's medication. She was using sweetener tablets that you would put in tea or something that

10:40looked like his heart medication. Because she thought that she knew better than his doctors.

10:45She told me that she wanted my dad and my aunt to get married. And they never did. And how

10:53disappointed

10:53she was in them for never doing that. And that it wasn't weird that they were siblings, but they weren't

10:59actually blood related. She would talk like, you know, your dad loves your sister more than both of

11:05us, right? He's only making her fat so that she doesn't find anybody else to love. That was another

11:10thing that my dad did. He would force feed us. But he really doubled down with my sister. My sister,

11:17I'm surprised that she doesn't have health problems like I do now. My grandmother, she thought she knew

11:24better than my dad about crippled punishment. She would still wait till my dad got home. And she

11:31would have already beaten us for things that didn't make sense. Like you were too loud talking to your

11:37siblings. She'd like grab me by the hair and either pull way high up so that I had no choice

11:42but be

11:43hanging from her hand or way low down. And she would say like, if you would quit fighting it, it

11:49wouldn't

11:49hurt. She had a PVC pipe in the pantry. And it was full of yardsticks, like a thick, really long

11:59yardsticks. And she would basically beat us with those until they broke. And she wasn't satisfied

12:04until she got whatever reaction she was trying to get out of us. They quit beating my brother before he

12:10left because he would, he got to a point where like it didn't even hurt him anymore. And he would

12:16just

12:16laugh at him. And I think he did that because it was, it was too much for him. And he

12:22didn't want to

12:22give them what they wanted. With me, I couldn't help but react. I eventually did get to a point where

12:28I

12:28didn't like cry out, but I still cried every time. I didn't shout or anything, but I still cried every

12:35time. They always put their hands on us, but they quit doing it daily when we got to an age

12:41where I

12:41remember them saying that they were afraid we were going to say something at school. I think that

12:46that the last straw for me was a culmination of several straws. My sister got a job. She would

12:55tell me, don't tell them I'm going to say that I'm working today. Don't tell them I'm going to go

13:02have fun. And she would go be free. You know, I didn't feel free to go to a friend's house

13:07once or

13:07twice. Seeing my sister go out, find a way to be free really tempted me to run away. I would

13:15take the

13:16dog up the road, walking the dog and go through the woods and to the highway and just stare at

13:22the

13:22highway and think like, I could just go. I could just start walking and I would be free. I could

13:28just go. And I would get scared and think like, where am I going to go? And I'd come back

13:34home.

13:35She came home from work one day. She said, mom got ahold of me on Facebook. I've talked to her.

13:42She says she can get us out of here. I'm going to go. I remember thinking like, oh my God,

13:47I might have a chance to leave. I might have a chance. My sister said, they're going to throw a

13:52phone in the bush outside for you. I'm going to give it to you and I'm going to leave. She

13:57left the next

13:58day. Right after I got the phone, she left. And I talked to my mom only a couple of times

14:03because I was

14:03just scared. I was scared to use the phone. I was terrified to even have it. They said, you have

14:07two

14:08weeks to decide if you want to leave. I don't want to make you feel like you're forced to make

14:12a

14:12decision. You make it for yourself. Only took me a couple of days. I don't even remember how many

14:18days it was, but it was not long at all before I actually responded with an answer. And I told

14:24them

14:24like, I want to leave, but how are we going to do that? My sister said that she would come

14:29pick me up

14:30from school. Don't tell anybody that they're never going to see me again. Don't say goodbye to anybody.

14:36Don't tell your friend. Definitely don't tell the shots. Don't tell them. Don't let them know that

14:40you're going to leave. She came and got me from school that day. But before I left, my grandfather

14:47asked me in the car. He said, I feel like you're going to leave. If you're going to leave, please

14:51tell me

14:51so that I can prepare myself for that. I won't tell anybody else. Don't, don't, you don't have to worry

14:58about it. I didn't tell him that I was leaving, but I could tell as I was reacting, responding

15:04to that question that he, he probably knew that I was going to leave. It was too much for me.

15:11I was

15:12like cutting myself aggressively, like bad. I still have scars all over my thighs, but I looked horrible.

15:18I like my, I was bleeding through jeans. I went to my mom's house when I was 13 years old.

15:23She lived

15:24with her parents. They're very nice people, very good-hearted people. They tried to get my mom

15:29like her own place so all of us kids could live with her together and have at least a few

15:35years

15:35of a normal life before we had to go into adulthood. My mom, like me, she's got mental health problems.

15:43She couldn't help some of the things that she was going through at the time. Like I think she didn't

15:48feel good enough still. And I think she didn't realize that all of those years that she spent

15:54without us were over and she didn't know how to, how to respond to it. I guess it was chaotic,

16:01but not in a bad way. Like I still look back on the four years that I spent with my

16:07mom. It wasn't

16:07fully four years, but almost four years that I spent with my mom fondly, even though I tried to

16:13kill myself twice during that time period. My mom went to the mental hospital several times. I went to

16:18the mental hospital several times. My siblings quit talking for a little while. It was rough, but it

16:24was not the type of rough that I was used to. So it was, I don't look at it as

16:28bad as my siblings do.

16:29I left that situation because my mom was struggling with alcoholism. I was struggling with alcoholism.

16:37When I was graduating high school, I graduated very early. I've always been really good at like academics

16:43and stuff like that. I signed up for college, but I signed up for college because I thought

16:48like I was going to go somewhere with that, but I was not in the headspace to go to college.

16:53I wanted

16:54to be drunk. I wanted to be high. I wanted to be not thinking about what was going on in

16:59my life. When

17:00I started college, I made a friend. She's dead now. Her name is Haley. She took me to her hometown,

17:07which is Somerville. It's just Tatouka County. When I came here, I went to a Halloween party and at the

17:13Halloween party, this was deplorable conditions for a family to live. The house that we went to

17:20for the party was in the middle of the woods. One of the walls of the trailer, an entire face

17:27was rotted off. It was like raining in the trailer. I met a guy there and I was not aware

17:33that I was

17:34meeting him and his girlfriend. I thought I was just meeting him. When I met him, I got a little

17:39bit

17:39of a crush on him, but I didn't know him that well and I didn't communicate with him. I didn't

17:43talk to him really. I just acknowledged that he was there and that was it. There was a house full

17:48of teenagers. I should have known that something was off about a grown man hanging out with a house

17:52full of teenagers, but I didn't. He started trying to drive me to college. He would take my friend

17:57Haley to college. We went to the same place, of course. He would hit on me and he would send

18:01me

18:02Facebook messages. He's the reason that I stopped living with my mom. I essentially left my entire

18:08family to go live in a rotted trailer in the woods with a dude that wouldn't tell me he was

18:15living

18:15with his girlfriend. So I didn't know until like two weeks into living in this trailer that he had

18:21a girlfriend, even though he's calling me his girlfriend. You know, he's a 34-year-old man. I was

18:2616, 17. I didn't know any better. I had no understanding of how relationships normally

18:34would work. I'll call him Sean. Me and Sean, we got married a year, less than a year after we

18:41met.

18:41He told me that I would be his girlfriend. Like, you are my girlfriend, not will you be my girlfriend?

18:47You are my girlfriend. He said, you're gonna move in with me. I moved in with him. Then two weeks

18:53of

18:54living there, I found out about his girlfriend. He drove me out into a field near where this trailer

19:00that I was talking about was. He said, when I was 19, I had two friends. They stole some for

19:09me.

19:09So I killed him and put him in a barrel and buried the barrel in the Chattanooga River. If I

19:15had to

19:16guess what age I was in my head at that time, I would say that I was 13 years old.

19:20I had no put two and

19:22two together that that was a lie. Obviously, now that I'm an adult, yeah, he lied to me to scare

19:27me.

19:27He didn't want me to tell the truth about him. So he put me in a position where I was

19:32alone,

19:33vulnerable, and would believe anything that he said for him to get his way. After he told me that,

19:38I kind of felt like I was glued to this person or I was gonna be in for it type

19:44deal. I didn't enjoy

19:45being with him. And six months after he told me that story, we were married. When we got married,

19:52it wasn't, will you be my wife? It was, we're getting married. I'm making arrangements. He

19:58had this old woman in his life. He would call her mom. She started paying for stuff before they really

20:05discussed it with me. So I felt financially obligated now to stick around and marry him. Plus,

20:12I was pregnant. So I was like, well, I should marry him then so that my baby has a dad.

20:18The day that we

20:18got married, my brother picked me up. He was like, I know you don't want to get married. I could

20:24take

20:24you right now. We could just leave and you don't ever have to come back to any of this. You

20:28could

20:28act like none of this even happened. I remember tearing up and in my head, I was thinking, God,

20:33I wish I could, but I still was in a mental prison. I thought I had to get married. I

20:40would say the main

20:40contributor to why I can raise children like I'm doing now and be a good parent and do the right

20:47thing is because I actually, Jesus gives me a foundation to be a good person. And I feel like

20:53if there's anything I could do to help anybody else heal, it would be to tell my story and to

21:01tell

21:01people all of these horrible things happened to me. All of this happened. And I can forgive these

21:11people. If I ran into them at the store, I would not be rude. I can move forward and have

21:15a foundation

21:16even if the foundation was stolen from me. My sister, several weeks or months ago, something like

21:23that like two months. Um, she messaged my dad and said, I would like to talk to you by yourself.

21:29He

21:29messages back, you mean you would like to talk to us. He's still not left the mental hold of his

21:37mother

21:37on him. He still lives with her. They still have a psychosexual relationship. It's going to be like

21:44that forever. Unless they find Jesus, they will always be sick. So there's no need to try to find closure.

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