00:00Women across the country said that Donald Trump's comments about groping women caused
00:06them to discuss their similar experiences of harassment with their husbands and boyfriends.
00:11How do we have these conversations so that we can heal and improve relationships between
00:15men and women?
00:16Jamal, I will start with you.
00:17I think you just have to be open and honest.
00:20The conversation is going to be an uncomfortable one.
00:22There's no way that it goes completely left unless the person that you're speaking to
00:25feels guilty of doing such things.
00:27Sure.
00:27So, I mean, you just be open about it.
00:30Be honest about it.
00:30Be very straightforward about what makes you uncomfortable, what makes you comfortable.
00:34And if you don't get a yes, assume it's a no.
00:36That's kind of a very good rule of thumb, just in general.
00:39Like, always assume that it is a no unless you get an explicit yes.
00:42I'm going to have them circle yes, circle no.
00:44Christina?
00:45Having those conversations about consent and understanding what that means.
00:49So, sitting down with your family, taking that shame away because there's so much shame
00:52wrapped up in sex alone that I don't know if we could have healthy conversations about
00:57consensual sex.
00:58That's a very good point.
01:00And also tackling misogyny as it stands in society today because that's going to take
01:06away that victim blaming that will allow women to come forth or go to the police and not
01:10feel, like, shamed or not feel attacked for telling someone, hey, I've been assaulted.
01:15And men holding men accountable.
01:17It's like that.
01:18Chris?
01:19Just to piggyback on what Christina said, I think the accountability factor is huge.
01:23We have to start holding each other accountable.
01:25And we have to get back to the sense of a village raising one.
01:28Because our village, our whole village issue is broken right now.
01:34Families are broken.
01:35And it's a showing effect in the generations coming forth.
01:38And all of these violent acts now, I think, are a reflection of it.
01:42So, we need to get back to more people trying to help raise the children that these parents
01:47are not taking accountability for.
01:49And last but certainly not least, Narelle.
01:52I think it's really in unison with what everyone is saying.
01:56I think it's an accountability issue.
01:57And I do think that celebrities in particular and male celebrities like Annette Parker, this
02:04was an opportunity to really say, hey, I don't know what consent is.
02:08I'd like to put money towards having men have these conversations amongst themselves, taking
02:15accountability to teach young men about consent, and really just making it a community effort
02:21to have these conversations and to be open and honest and to say, like, it's okay to not
02:24know.
02:25You know?
02:26It's better to not know and ask than to go forward in ignorance, you know?
02:30And so, I think it really, we should really call, and I don't want to say all celebrities,
02:36but men who are influential, and it doesn't necessarily have to be celebrity in terms of
02:41sports and entertainment, but also our political leaders.
02:44I mean, it would be nice to have someone who is respected in the community to come in and
02:48take it upon themselves to talk to young men and young women about these situations and
02:52be very clear about what it is that is yes and what is no and how you want to be treated
02:57and how you should treat one another.
02:58Thank you so much for joining us.
03:00Please continue to dig in.
03:01Please continue to drink up.
03:02This has been a heavy conversation.
03:05I know each and every one of you out there in Facebook land, you have lots of comments
03:08that you're going to give us, so keep them coming.
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