00:01And what role do we feel alcohol plays in this situation?
00:03Sometimes you hear, oh, she was at a party, she had two or three drinks.
00:07Why did she have two or three drinks? Why didn't she leave before?
00:10Oh, because she had alcohol in her system. It's her fault.
00:13What are your thoughts, Mom?
00:15I think it's a scapegoat. I don't think alcohol is ever a reason to, like,
00:19her being intoxicated is a reason for her to go home and probably not a reason to engage with her.
00:24And if you're at a place or at any place where you can defend the action
00:28or make an advance based on how she's feeling or how she may appear,
00:33then it's clear that you're in a predatory space.
00:36And you don't need to, like, that's not engagement that needs to happen.
00:39Especially if she doesn't say yes while, and I'm not forgiving it if she does say yes,
00:43because she might not know what's going on. Right.
00:46She might say yes and she might change her mind.
00:48Exactly. And you gotta be able to bail out on that.
00:50And that's it. That's where you leave it be. The moment that that yes isn't,
00:53that's when things cease to exist. And you just leave it be.
00:57You call her an Uber or you just walk away so that you don't put yourself in the way of being accused
01:03or being mentioned in that conversation.
01:05I just, I just, I just have a problem.
01:08And I guess the right word is believing.
01:11People, well, men don't know what no is in every shape or form.
01:16I just, because I wasn't raised in that manner.
01:19Like, all the examples that Christina just gave are clear no's to me.
01:23Right. There is nothing, even when, when there's alcohol in play,
01:29my guard is even more up.
01:31Mm-hmm. Because I already feel like I'm taking advantage.
01:35I should also feel like I'm pairing someone with my own apps and, just try it outside.
01:41So stand it over, when you want to enjoy myself.
01:44There will be lots of people that are fighting.
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