00:00Ladies, I'm going to let you know right now, your biggest red flag is your empathy.
00:03That's right, your empathy. You guys are too damn empathetic.
00:08That's your struggle bus.
00:09Well, oh, he's been through a lot in his childhood.
00:12He's gone through so much. His mom was mean to him.
00:15I don't give a damn. He's 40 goddamn years old.
00:18He had a whole 40 years to deal with that trauma.
00:20Guess what? We're all going through damn baggage.
00:22But it doesn't take me to go through baggage in order to be an asshole to you.
00:26This empathy is coming from a real place. I get it.
00:28Maybe you've been through some things.
00:30Maybe you had to be the caretaker of everyone when you were growing up.
00:33Maybe it was always about you or your siblings.
00:36Maybe you had to be second, third place in order to receive love.
00:39Maybe you had to perform to receive love.
00:41Maybe you went through a lot of pain and a lot of things that weren't okay at a young age.
00:44So you know what it's like to not feel seen, to not feel loved.
00:47And although that is a beautiful reason, there is one person you are disrespecting ultimately, and that is yourself.
00:53That is yourself.
00:54The overly empathetic people that do not set boundaries around their empathy are the ones that are just going through the exact same childhood pain that they grew up with.
01:03It's having others walk over them and not see them and just do what they want to based on their own needs.
01:10And it's your empathy that is enabling that toxic dysfunction.
01:13Because the hard reality is, before you say, no, I don't want to change, I want to be this person, I don't want to be cold, or any of that, if you truly care about the people that are showing you patterns of disrespect, you will show them that there are repercussions to that disrespect and leave them if they do not create safe space for you.
01:31Because if you stay, and if you give chance after chance, all you're doing is saying their toxic behavior is okay.
01:39And they don't have the opportunity to grow.
01:41They don't have the opportunity to feel lost.
01:43They don't have the opportunity to face that there are repercussions with their actions.
01:47Because that empathy is making you stay longer than you should.
01:50And girl, it's 2026.
01:51You better love your damn self.
01:52We don't have time for these dusty ass raccoon men doing backflips into our heart with just smelling like a pile of trash.
01:58You need to set some damn boundaries for yourself.
02:00You need to do the damn work and tell that little girl in her child to say, hey, there's one person we're going to focus on so this person can be the best for everyone else.
02:08And we're going to give that energy to the people that deserve to receive it, not this dusty ass ex Steve.
02:13Who the hell dates a guy named Steve?
02:14He's super cute.
02:15Talk to you later.
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