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00:00:00Woo!
00:00:02Abigail and John's homestay touched hearts.
00:00:05I can't express how happy I am.
00:00:08But others were left broken.
00:00:10I struggled to see a future with Leo outside of the experiment.
00:00:13He's trying, and you're not.
00:00:16Maybe she's not for you.
00:00:18Leisha, you really want to settle down.
00:00:21I need to have that gut feeling that you're missing.
00:00:24If I was in your position, I would leave.
00:00:27Leaving some...
00:00:29I'm not sure if I could leave home.
00:00:31..with more questions than answers.
00:00:33If we can't come to an agreement,
00:00:35then we both can end up with broken hearts.
00:00:38And a shocking discovery...
00:00:40If you're married,
00:00:42do you think it's appropriate to be on a dating website?
00:00:46..was the nail in the coffin for Nelly and Stephen's marriage.
00:00:49I'm not on anything. Yes, you are.
00:00:52Why have you wasted your time in this experiment
00:00:54and told her, I really want to see it work,
00:00:56when actually you had no intention?
00:00:57I'm going to bullshit again.
00:01:01This marriage is over.
00:01:02I want nothing to do with Stephen anymore.
00:01:05Tonight...
00:01:06I've never felt like this before about anybody.
00:01:09It's the final commitment ceremony.
00:01:11I love you now. I loved you at the wedding day.
00:01:13And I'm just so excited for everything.
00:01:15That was difficult.
00:01:16While some couples are more certain than ever before...
00:01:19I cannot imagine the rest of my life with anyone else.
00:01:24..damage from homestays...
00:01:25I did feel the pressure a lot of, like,
00:01:27Beth, are you going to move to home?
00:01:28..pushed others further apart.
00:01:30I'm not ready to say yes to that.
00:01:32We have had a lot of unnecessary drama.
00:01:35Do I need that?
00:01:38How is that possible in seven weeks?
00:01:39How do I not know you?
00:01:42And Stephen's secret scandal...
00:01:44I found out he was busy swiping on a dating app.
00:01:47I was.
00:01:48..send shockwaves through the group.
00:01:50That is Stephen's profile, which is verified.
00:01:53That is not me.
00:01:55It's your face.
00:01:56Of course I'm going to deny,
00:01:57cos I know what I'm saying is true.
00:01:58That is not me on Hinge.
00:02:08Good morning, darling.
00:02:09Hello, little one.
00:02:10Thank you very much.
00:02:11Want some healthy greens?
00:02:12Yes, thank you.
00:02:13Start the day off right.
00:02:14Do you want to wear masks on?
00:02:16Come on, then.
00:02:17Make me all pretty.
00:02:19After time away at homestays,
00:02:20the couples are settling back into the apartment.
00:02:22Strangely weird being back.
00:02:25But we'll definitely come back stronger.
00:02:27Yeah, definitely.
00:02:28I think the argument was hugely beneficial
00:02:31to our relationship overall.
00:02:33Yeah.
00:02:34It gave us the opportunity to learn more
00:02:35on how to deal with situations.
00:02:36I wouldn't change it.
00:02:37Love you more.
00:02:39I love you.
00:02:40Mwah.
00:02:48Going into this commitment ceremony,
00:02:49I've got a lot of clarity.
00:02:51During this homestay, I've learnt that Stephen
00:02:54has been busy swiping women on a dating app.
00:02:58Sad, really.
00:03:00I've done a bit more digging,
00:03:01and Stephen is like,
00:03:03are you really telling me that that verified account
00:03:06isn't you?
00:03:07Honestly, if he owned it,
00:03:08this would be a completely different commitment ceremony.
00:03:10If you don't have the basic respect to even give me the truth,
00:03:13then I can't help you at this point.
00:03:16I'm done protecting you now.
00:03:18But if you want to play that game, I'm prepared.
00:03:21That's not a problem by me.
00:03:31The end of the homestay with Nelly,
00:03:32yeah, not how I anticipated it would go.
00:03:35I thought I was going to Manchester purely to have a chat with Nelly and I
00:03:38and just to hash a few things out.
00:03:41When a friend come in and told me I was on a dating app,
00:03:44it was shocking.
00:03:46When I'm still in this experiment,
00:03:48how stupid would I be to go on a dating app?
00:03:50I think there'll be a fair bit of animosity from Nelly towards me.
00:03:54She probably will want to get answers,
00:03:56but my head's clear.
00:03:58So if they want to bring it up,
00:03:59then I've got the answers for it.
00:04:01We'll see once we get to the commitment ceremony.
00:04:08Thank you, babe.
00:04:10After homestays, I'm like, wow,
00:04:12that was so good for us.
00:04:14The more kind of milestones, I guess, we go through,
00:04:17it just strengthens our bond.
00:04:19Yeah.
00:04:20And it just makes me realise how,
00:04:21what an incredible relationship like we do have.
00:04:24Homestays has definitely given us a taste of what life could be like
00:04:27outside the experiment.
00:04:29Our family can see our genuine connection.
00:04:31So I'm really excited.
00:04:33And I think we're going to have like an incredible life ahead of us.
00:04:36People can see the effect that this relationship is having on us
00:04:40and we're both becoming better versions of ourselves
00:04:43because of each other.
00:04:45Yeah.
00:04:46And just makes me really excited for everything that's to come.
00:04:48So what do you feel like you're going to do today with the decision?
00:04:59I don't know.
00:05:00I'm like in two minds at the moment.
00:05:02OK.
00:05:03The thought of leaving today, yeah, it makes me sad because we've had a good home saying it's been so good
00:05:09and I did see her in a different light.
00:05:11Now I'm thinking, could it work on the outside world?
00:05:13There's all these different positives, but also some negatives in there like swooshing around.
00:05:18She doesn't trust me.
00:05:19Why?
00:05:20Because I've disrespected her apparently throughout this process.
00:05:23How?
00:05:24Obviously there was the over familiar thing with you.
00:05:26And then there was me saying Leisha was more my type.
00:05:29But I did say that because she asked me outright at a dinner party.
00:05:32I'm not going to lie.
00:05:33Like I wouldn't mind if I've actually disrespected her or I've actually done something.
00:05:37Do you know what I mean?
00:05:38I just think it's so unfair not to be able to trust me.
00:05:41It's tough because you want to give it a chance, but I feel like you've given it a chance for such a long time.
00:05:47Do you know what I mean?
00:05:48It's like a huge decision for me today, definitely.
00:05:59After the homestays, me and April were in separate apartments.
00:06:02I was really holding out hope that the homestays were going to be make rather than break.
00:06:07The feedback from my friends wasn't great.
00:06:09But my mum and my sister communicated to me that if you do like her still, you shouldn't give up right away.
00:06:16I have had a lot of feelings for April, and I still do to be honest.
00:06:21We've had ups and downs, but I really hoped that we were going to fall in love.
00:06:26My head and my heart really aren't aligned, so I've really got to make this decision wisely.
00:06:31It's got to be what's best for me moving forward.
00:06:37Going into homestays, the hope that was there was that I could see the real Leo and see if this person did come out that he's been talking about all this time, but that didn't happen.
00:06:50Leo's friends confirmed what I thought, which is, I'm not getting the real Leo.
00:06:57We've got completely different personalities, and we just haven't gelled.
00:07:00I came in this experiment wanting to find someone I could genuinely spend the rest of my life with.
00:07:04I was so hopeful at the beginning that it was going to work out, and up until this point, I've definitely put Leo's feelings before mine.
00:07:12But today is the opportunity for me to make sure that I'm doing what's right for me.
00:07:17I want to lay everything out on the table. I'm going to be brutally honest.
00:07:20This is my time to get what I've been thinking and feeling off of my chest.
00:07:30Hey. All right? Yes.
00:07:32My anxieties are starting to creep in a little bit.
00:07:35My family loved Rhys. They really, really wanted to work.
00:07:39The only concern they had was when he told them that he's just not quite there yet.
00:07:43Rhys needs to be completely honest with himself, and he needs to really decide whether I am his lifelong partner that he's always wanted.
00:07:51So, I think we've always kind of known that, like, my feelings have been a little bit stronger than yours since the start, which is obviously not nice for me.
00:08:00It's never nice to hear that.
00:08:03I keep my emotions, like, quite closed off to begin with until I feel, like, comfortable.
00:08:09Or until I feel sure, and then I can start, like, letting the barriers down a bit.
00:08:15Do you think I am somebody that you'd want to spend the rest of your life with?
00:08:20You need to ask yourself that.
00:08:24Do you know that answer?
00:08:27Yeah, you do.
00:08:29And am I?
00:08:30Yeah.
00:08:31Yeah, of course you are.
00:08:32Yeah.
00:08:33You did everything I've ever wanted in a man.
00:08:36I don't know.
00:08:38Why are you getting upset?
00:08:41I'm just scared that, like, what we've got is just not going to be strong enough for, like, the outside.
00:08:52Like, I think I know the answers from me.
00:08:54Yeah.
00:08:55But, obviously, I don't feel in all the answers from you yet.
00:09:00And, obviously, I just get really scared.
00:09:02It's never nice seeing Leisha upset.
00:09:03I know, like, she's getting a bit emotional because she's panicking what's going to happen on the outside.
00:09:14Also, I've got a lot to think about.
00:09:16It's important for me to make the right decision today because Leisha could end up being, like, the woman for the rest of my life.
00:09:21So, I do need to reflect on everything. I need to make sure I'm making that right choice.
00:09:28I certainly know that my feelings are very, very strong for Rhys.
00:09:32And I really want the experts to ask Rhys where his feelings are.
00:09:36It is a very vulnerable moment for me.
00:09:39I'm pretty much giving somebody my heart and soul, and they could easily crush it.
00:09:44But I want him to tell me directly, does he see a lifelong partner in me or not?
00:09:50Or not?
00:10:20Welcome to your final commitment ceremony.
00:10:29It's been incredible to see all of your journeys unfold with your time with us.
00:10:35This is the last time that you get to bring your marriage to the couch and share with us where you're at at this pivotal stage in the experiment.
00:10:44And make that final decision on whether to stay or leave.
00:10:48Before we begin, obviously, you'll all notice that Grace and Ashley are not with us today.
00:10:55They've had a rocky couple of weeks.
00:10:57And as a result, they felt they needed more time to reflect, and they won't be joining us today.
00:11:02Now, a lot has happened since we last met.
00:11:05We know it's been a high-pressured, emotional time for many of you.
00:11:10So, let's start unpacking.
00:11:13First up on the couch, if we could have...
00:11:16Daveed and Keeya.
00:11:21Woo!
00:11:23I am not exactly sure.
00:11:30All right, gents, how are we?
00:11:32Good!
00:11:33We're great. Ups and downs, but...
00:11:34Good overall.
00:11:35Yeah.
00:11:36Right.
00:11:37Homestays.
00:11:38Mm-hmm.
00:11:39Very beautiful moment.
00:11:41So, Daveed and I went to a cat cafe.
00:11:46I don't much care for cats, but obviously they are important to Daveed, as Daveed has a cat.
00:11:53But I also don't particularly like small spaces.
00:11:56So, the cat cafe was a basement, which is a very small enclosed space with eight cats.
00:12:02So, I became extremely overwhelmed and extremely uncomfortable, and completely shut down.
00:12:09So, left.
00:12:11We both tried to communicate.
00:12:14I then felt that Daveed said something that was condescending, so stormed off again.
00:12:18And then I spent the night separately.
00:12:20Wow.
00:12:21Yeah.
00:12:23For me, I was frustrated, because I could tell something was wrong.
00:12:25I just didn't understand what it was.
00:12:27I didn't understand it was the space, the cats, the questions.
00:12:29And then, when you decided to leave, you decided to leave by yourself.
00:12:32All right, so just so I'm clear, though, so, Keeya, where did you go that evening?
00:12:35So, I went back to my apartment.
00:12:38Wow, so you went back home?
00:12:39Yeah.
00:12:40And I don't do well with people walking away from me, because I kind of feel abandoned.
00:12:46So, Keeya, I'm curious.
00:12:48Do you retreat because you feel overwhelmed?
00:12:51Mm-hmm.
00:12:52Or do you fear being left?
00:12:55In the cat cafe situation, that was just, I had to get out.
00:12:59It's better for me to take myself out of that situation than say something I can't take back
00:13:03or that I'm going to regret that in the heat of the moment is what I mean.
00:13:07But in actuality, I have, there's no real meaning behind it whatsoever.
00:13:10Okay.
00:13:11But it sounds like you're saying that you do admit this is an unhealthy behavior.
00:13:15A hundred percent.
00:13:16Okay.
00:13:17A hundred percent.
00:13:18But I heard you just mentioned that you've figured out a resolution around it.
00:13:20Yeah.
00:13:21Going forward in those situations, we're both going to make a gesture,
00:13:24whether it's a word, a signal, pull the other out of whatever the situation is,
00:13:28and then try and go back into the situation to resolve it properly.
00:13:31If we can't, we put a pin in it.
00:13:33Pin in it.
00:13:34Discuss it later.
00:13:35Yeah.
00:13:36Great.
00:13:37But I think the other piece of this is I think you should really think about what is driving me to retreat.
00:13:40Mm-hmm.
00:13:41You mentioned most of the time it's being overwhelmed, right?
00:13:44Mm-hmm.
00:13:45So if you mark that as a trigger, then you can figure out together how you will not be overwhelmed.
00:13:52You can begin to set conditions.
00:13:53I feel overwhelmed when I'm in a small space.
00:13:55Yeah.
00:13:56So we now know as a team, we're not going to do this.
00:13:59Yeah.
00:14:00Yeah.
00:14:01Well done.
00:14:02I'm curious about friends and family.
00:14:03Mm-hmm.
00:14:04So what was the feedback from your friends and family about your relationship?
00:14:08My friends could totally see that I've never had this before.
00:14:12Like, they say that the way we look at each other, I've never done that with anyone.
00:14:17Mm-hmm.
00:14:18And they can see a huge connection between both of us.
00:14:20And, yeah, they just loved him massively.
00:14:24It was great to see him be himself around my friends.
00:14:27Okay.
00:14:28So then, Kia, your friends and family, what were their thoughts on Daveed?
00:14:31My friends absolutely loved Daveed.
00:14:33They loved the calmer side and, like, just how at ease that I feel in myself now around
00:14:38him, how just genuine our connection was and how we were bouncing off of each other.
00:14:44Yeah.
00:14:45Yeah.
00:14:46Absolutely loved him.
00:14:47Loved him to pieces.
00:14:48All right.
00:14:49So now we can go to a decision.
00:14:51I'm going to let you decide who goes first.
00:14:54I can't believe how much we've grown since we met.
00:15:00You make all of the best parts of me so much better, like, just by being yourself and,
00:15:04like, amplify them and then find a way to love all of the parts I don't really like about
00:15:10myself.
00:15:11So, for that reason, I have chosen to stay.
00:15:17I love you.
00:15:19All right.
00:15:22Here we go.
00:15:23So, for this entire time, I've seen parts of me with you that I haven't seen in a very
00:15:28long time and I haven't been this happy ever.
00:15:32And I would have never chosen to do this with anyone else because I can be me and just see
00:15:39you and me growing together.
00:15:42And I'm never leaving you because you stuck with me now.
00:15:45So, I decided to stay for that reason.
00:15:48Oh, there's a car.
00:15:49You know what I've truly appreciated about your journey is that you two have been, what I say, people of their word.
00:16:02You stood on your values.
00:16:03You stood on your values.
00:16:04You stood on your beliefs.
00:16:06Continue to be of your word.
00:16:08Continue to be of your word.
00:16:12It means a lot.
00:16:13Guys, thank you.
00:16:15Thank you so much.
00:16:16Thank you so much.
00:16:17Thank you so much.
00:16:18And thank you so much.
00:16:19Thank you, everyone.
00:16:21And welcome to you.
00:16:22Our next couple tonight.
00:16:25Lee and Leah.
00:16:30and Leah oh hello you gorgeous things so tell me about your experience and partner swap week where
00:16:44has it brought you to right now so I was with Leisha and you were to be it for me on my side
00:16:52I came back from that or like excited and I just walked into the Spanish Inquisition you know I
00:16:56sat down and it was like did you flirt with her did she flirt with you did you look at her just so
00:17:01many mad questions and I was like the excitement of coming to see Lee disappeared and it was more
00:17:07oh god I feel like that Lee that we saw before was kind of coming back a little bit so this is the
00:17:14trust issue isn't it again yeah we had another issue similar sort of situation we went for drinks
00:17:20after a dinner party with like a few of the other couples and Leah was with two girls and I saw her
00:17:26around one girl more Leah didn't introduce us to each other and so I got paranoid and so in that
00:17:35moment I felt like there was more to it and she was around this girl and then the rest of us left and
00:17:40Leah didn't want to leave and I'm thinking it's because she's with this girl and my head just went
00:17:44a million miles an hour can I just jump to Leah for a sec I'm just interested in that moment were you
00:17:50aware that Lee was feeling insecure for me I'm not really a type of person that would go out and I've
00:17:56never disrespected someone at all like the loyalty I've never cheated so I don't think like that like
00:18:01I just 100% trust her so I didn't ever think she wouldn't with me I guess what I'm hearing here is
00:18:07that you haven't yet established that level of trust yeah where it can be comfortable to flit off and do
00:18:13your social butterfly thing and come back yeah and that's what I've learnt now so what do you need from
00:18:17Leah in order to build that just maybe a bit more reassurance in certain moments you know we're not
00:18:22really 100% sure on where we're at so it's like you can't really expect too much because there isn't
00:18:29certainty between us anyway I think you know maybe it is time for you to start having those really crucial
00:18:37conversations about what you need so tell me about homestays we've come up homestays or like rock in a hard
00:18:48place yeah it's gone because we was at such a low point just before homestay party we were like
00:18:55question mark we don't know if we're going to even do homestays and then we had real open honest
00:19:01conversations at homestays like we actually had a really good time we did I did see a different side
00:19:05hair that I haven't seen too softer like a little bit more gentle to be around and I think until the
00:19:11homestays I didn't realize Lee didn't 100% trust me because I found out then okay so I think you got a bit of
00:19:16validation from like my auntie and my cousin they were like Leah likes to have fun she goes out she
00:19:20makes 20 friends and comes back and they're all at a house for a party stop deep and everything just
00:19:24go and have fun and then we went to yours didn't we yes that was a lot okay um Nicole was my best
00:19:34friend and she's always brutally honest you know she's always going to tell me the truth she was like
00:19:40if it was if it was me at this point in the experiment I would have left
00:19:42I think for us those doubts were already there anyway as well as the positives both are prominent
00:19:50in our minds so I think you know having both magnified during homestay is just I suppose put us in a
00:19:57space where it's like right well now it's the last hurdle what now we've got to make a decision
00:20:02the challenge we have now is that it's practically the end of the experiment yeah I mean we could look
00:20:11at this in a very black and white way and say well you're not in love you know you're not having a
00:20:18full-blown romantic relationship therefore end of days move on yeah but something's certainly stopping
00:20:25us from saying that and I can see that it's stopping you guys from saying that as well
00:20:29because we know this is not just a friendship I've known for ages there's something there more
00:20:35than friendship because each hurdle that we come to it's like we have another realization of each
00:20:40other like after homestay we've got to see each other again in a whole new light we've learned more
00:20:45about each other that we didn't know even eight weeks on we're still learning about each other now
00:20:49so for me I'm thinking but these are more reasons why we've been matched now we're like oh I don't know
00:20:57I wish that homestay happened weeks ago yeah that's what I feel like yeah but I think for me as well
00:21:06I need 100 trust from my partner especially if we're gonna look at taking this to the outside world
00:21:12and we want to have a long distance relationship I think that is a huge thing for me I'm also thinking
00:21:19about who I thought I was coming in here and who I've realized I am now can can I give my all to
00:21:25somebody in the ways that they need with the stuff that I've still got to work on what you're saying
00:21:31Lee is maybe I'm not ready maybe Leah you are the right partner for me but this is not the right time
00:21:39I think these are very fair and important questions to ask yourself yeah
00:21:47well look we're gonna go to a decision okay Leah we'll start with you what's your decision
00:21:55for me I guess what Paul's just reiterating there is sometimes I don't know if you are 100% ready for
00:22:02this I don't know if maybe I'm the right person for you in that sense
00:22:08so yeah I have found it really difficult today but we've started this journey from absolutely
00:22:18nothing and each time I feel like we've grown and grown and grown and grown yeah we've plateaued a
00:22:23couple of times but there's a reason I'm still here and reason you're still here and I think each
00:22:29day I'm learning so much about myself and about you so yeah for that reason I have chose to stay
00:22:36to see where this goes good stuff Emily um my head's been really conflicted and all over the place
00:22:47I've been back and forth about it and nothing about it is a reflection of you as a person but while I'm
00:22:56still not very trusting and while I'm still maybe not over things in my past is it right
00:23:01for me right now to put that on somebody else and Nicole telling me that she would
00:23:07leave at this point of the experiment gave me a lot to think about but how I'm feeling
00:23:13right now about me and you is a lot more positive than I felt a week ago the connection
00:23:20feels better especially after homestay I think that was needed at that point and I'm
00:23:25holding on to the moment that we're in right now it wouldn't feel right in feeling how I feel
00:23:30to leave so for that reason I chose to stay okay well some really honest direct conversation between
00:23:42the two of you it's time to just open it all up and lay it on the table you can do this no but thank
00:23:50you very much we do appreciate you all three of you such a pleasure thank you wish you all the best
00:23:55next up on the couch if we could have Reese and Leisha come on up
00:24:14oh my gosh all right so we cannot wait to hear about homestays Reese had you been to Scotland before
00:24:28first time first time yeah so then friends and family yeah what do they think of Reese oh they
00:24:35love Reese like how can you not love Reese he's just easygoing he's so nice he's kind everybody
00:24:41going so well the only one thing I would say with that when Reese left my sister did say to me like
00:24:48just be careful I think she just was nervous that his feelings aren't as strong as mine
00:24:53that's interesting Reese what's your take on that to me honest I don't think that's that's not really
00:25:00a secret is it not that I haven't got no emotions but I feel like you're getting quicker to the end
00:25:06goal which is love right mm-hmm so you feel like Leisha is a hundred percent into you and the
00:25:14relationship and you're more like 80 percent into her in the relationship probably yeah
00:25:19Leisha how does it feel
00:25:24to be in a relationship you know that you're in it a hundred percent
00:25:32your partners just acknowledge he's 80 percent into it
00:25:36I just want us to be in love with each other so I mean it's not nice is it
00:25:49I just want us to be in love with each other so I mean so nice is it
00:26:18it's just never nice to like heat it and
00:26:28and I can't I can't fake it can I can't be like oh yeah I'm hundred percent in as well I've got to be
00:26:39honest like I want to get there I feel like we're going in the right direction but Leisha's a little
00:26:46bit more ahead of me just from here and the dinner party one thing that is clear is there has been
00:26:52growth in this relationship oh for sure yeah like I didn't start off at 80 percent but the question
00:26:57though is where are we going to go next because we are at the end of the experiment this is your last
00:27:04time on the couch and the hope is that when you're leaving the couch that there's clarity on where the
00:27:11relationship could go Leisha where do you believe this relationship is going to go to be honest with
00:27:19you I don't feel like I get the clarity that I need I want it to go we talk about kids so I do feel
00:27:31like there's slight mixed messaging because I feel like he does say all these things but then he's then
00:27:38telling me now that he's 80 percent
00:27:39he's what's the 20% throughout the relationship we have had a lot of like unnecessary drama that's
00:27:50why my past relationship didn't work out do I need that again but that's what scares me is that every
00:27:57single time we have even the minor argument I can see that's what scares me too though pushing away and
00:28:02I think that's real life that's marriage this is what you're going to experience in relationships
00:28:09there will be times where your partner is feeling a bit emotional and they might just need a hug
00:28:13they just might need that physical touch I just need to know that obviously like I do get a rational
00:28:19now and again it isn't coming from a place I'm trying to be annoying or I'm trying to you know make his
00:28:24life harder I'm just in that moment my emotions are everywhere and I just need him to be like I've got you
00:28:30you're my girl you know what has been consistent in your relationship is that when emotions are high
00:28:39you react to it differently right whereas Reese what you like to do is you like to take a step back
00:28:45right Lisa you like to take a step forward yeah so you have to figure out okay in these moments which
00:28:52you will have what can each of you do to help better the situation so Reese what's one lesson
00:29:00that you've picked up from this advice that you've received if I could see like Lisa's stress like a
00:29:05bit erratic just like swallow my pride a little bit and just just give her a hug and then we could
00:29:10just save all the other unnecessary drama that comes with it later on there you go voila you're the
00:29:15antidote to the unnecessary drama right let's say that you take that on board and the unnecessary
00:29:23drama reduces hmm where do you think that 80% goes to 100% it carry on grind yeah does it go to 100%
00:29:29yeah of course why not it does and I heard you earlier say 100% is love yes yeah yeah yeah so with
00:29:38these small behavioral changes we can get 200% yeah hope so so then we'll go to the decisions
00:29:46Leisha if you could go first um I've just loved being with Reese um I feel like I've been so lucky to
00:29:54have been matched for Reese as well like you're just the perfect person for me you are you really are
00:30:01and just hopefully grow as a couple so I'm gonna put Stee thank you for being amazing person amazing
00:30:17wife amazing cook you do put a smile on face daily we always have a giggle with each other and I know
00:30:23we've got plenty more of them times to come so for that reason I'm gonna put Stee it's been beautiful
00:30:35to see the growth it really has keep focusing on ensuring that each other that you feel safe this
00:30:43is the key for the two of you if you do that this relationship will be endless thank you thank you
00:30:53next up to the couch Abigail and John
00:31:07hey looking lovely thank you good to see the two of you how are you both doing yeah we're really good
00:31:20John can you talk us through partner swap week I had partner swap week with that amazing man over
00:31:27there Keir and we spoke about um living in the moments you know we've been on this sofa before
00:31:33and spoke so much about oh what happens in the future or you know yeah great we want kids and
00:31:37stuff and I had this realization like wow what the hell have I been waiting for I need to go back
00:31:43and tell my wife that I love her so I came back from partner swap week and told Abby that I loved her
00:31:49and it felt exactly like it should it was amazing and then you did say it back didn't you yeah when
00:31:59John said that he loved me I was like oh my god like yes I literally I love you back and there's been
00:32:04many a times where I think I've wanted to say but I've kind of maybe stopped myself because I've just
00:32:09been scared to I remember saying like before this experiment I had such an anxious attachment style
00:32:16and I've just never had that security from a partner before that makes me feel so good about
00:32:22myself and like so secure in our relationship and just so happy it kind of feels like it's gone from
00:32:27strength to strength that has really helped us sort of solidify the two of you yeah definitely
00:32:32let's talk about homestays John can you talk us through the homestay experience for you so um just
00:32:40so excited to see Abby's mom and dad to say like look do you know what everything that I said I was
00:32:44going to do look at us this is what we've done and it was a beautiful beautiful moment and then
00:32:49Abby's mom mentioned well you can say yeah this makes me feel emotional because so much oh do you want
00:32:55me to do it yeah no no no um me my mom are very close and we've been through a lot of tough times
00:33:01together and you know my mom sat there whilst I've been in tears after like just being hurt by previous
00:33:07partners they've obviously never approved previous partners that I brought home um and with good
00:33:13reason my mom said to me like when she's obviously saw me and John you seem like you know a grown woman
00:33:20basically a more confident version of yourself and we can just see how happy you are and like that's
00:33:26massive because I've never had like my mom say that you know about me like with regards like a partner
00:33:32it just yeah it just means like so much to me I think what's really powerful about what both of
00:33:40you are saying here is that prior to meeting each other that a single journey isn't easy you know
00:33:46there's pros and cons of the single world and you've both very eloquently spoken about some of
00:33:51the challenges of being single being alone and now it's your turn to enjoy being in a relationship
00:33:58I was a poorer version of myself before Abby came along you know like I just feel like I'm 10 foot tall
00:34:05with being with you should we go to decisions do we need to go to reveal so let's start with
00:34:20yourself Abigail I've never been in a relationship where I felt so secure so safe and so happy I came
00:34:28into this experiment wanting to find my favorite person I have found that and I'm so excited about
00:34:33our future so that's why I have decided to stay
00:34:39John what's your decision yeah I'm having the best time like I'm so pleased that it was you at the top
00:34:58of the aisle like everybody sees the energy that we have for each other I love you now I loved you
00:35:03at the wedding day I was just a bit too scared to say those kind of things too early and also I love
00:35:08myself and that's what you're doing for me and I'm just so excited for everything that we've got coming
00:35:14so we're there we're there hopefully you say stay so as a result I'm staying
00:35:21excellent Abigail and John go and enjoy your life together
00:35:34all right next up on the couch
00:35:44if we could have April and Leo
00:35:49all right April good to see you good to see you I'm happy to be here all right this is good this is
00:36:04good I see there's no smile on April's face no no no clearly there's some serious issues happening
00:36:15between the two of you right it seems as if what's happened is the relationship is actually devolved
00:36:23so let's go back and see what we've missed can we go back to partner swap week okay so Leo you
00:36:34were paired off with Rebecca correct in April you were paired off with Steven mm-hmm okay Leo what did
00:36:42you learn from your time with Rebecca about your relationship Rebecca gave me a lot of affirmations
00:36:49about what a great guy I am and how much I've put into this relationship as well that I've not
00:36:56necessarily heard from April it's always been about me changing myself me improving on this to match what
00:37:03she wants and Rebecca just showed me I shouldn't be changing myself this much if it's not meant to be
00:37:09it's not meant to be and that I'm fine the way I am can I just clarify I've never asked him to change
00:37:15I've said I want him to be himself you're almost wording it now as if I haven't given you affirmations
00:37:20I haven't been telling how great of a guy you are that's not true you were just acting like I'm just
00:37:27I've just been this horrendous partner no I haven't that's how it came across then to me I don't want
00:37:33him to change if people please her is who he is then that's fine it's just something that doesn't work
00:37:37for me all right fair enough so now April what did you learn about your relationship with Leo
00:37:46through Stephen it just sort of highlighted that I don't necessarily have the same humor with Leo
00:37:52and our personalities just aren't gelling like it did just sort of flag that up for me because it was
00:37:56just so easy with Stephen to have a conversation and just like have that banner have that back and
00:38:00forth and I just don't feel like I got that with Leo okay so when you came together before homestays
00:38:06where did you feel like the relationship was given this new insight that you had me and April really
00:38:13just said it's gonna be make or break now the homestay is gonna highlight the emotional connection or
00:38:20it's just not gonna be there but we were both willing to give it one last shot I said you know I
00:38:26still want to go in homestays and just see if I can see the real Leo if this personality he said
00:38:31at the beginning that he's an extra he's allowed us one of his friends and everything like that and
00:38:33like maybe that was just because he's uncomfortable and it like it is an unusual environment that we're
00:38:37in this experiment is intense and I was like maybe at homestays I will see a different side
00:38:41homestay we need some hope yeah we went to Leo's first mm-hmm okay was any hope delivered on Leo at
00:38:52your homestay when I went and met my friends with April they were very honest with me and they
00:39:00basically sort of said like that they don't see any compatibility between the two of us and for me
00:39:10it really hit hard because obviously it's coming from my friends I'm curious what in particular do they
00:39:17think was incompatible between the two of you what they mentioned in particular was that she wasn't
00:39:22really into me and it was really hard for me to take because obviously I wanted this week to work out
00:39:30between us I really like April she's an amazing woman and I still had a lot of hope in this
00:39:37relationship and hearing it from your nearest and dearest that it's it's not working and it wasn't
00:39:44something that I wanted to hear at the time okay it's just frustrating I just feel like all I wanted
00:39:51when I came here was to have somebody that was themselves that was completely honest and I just
00:39:56don't feel like I've got that I have myself and I have tried my hardest in this relationship to try
00:40:02and make it work your friends confirmed that your friends said you're not even speaking the way you
00:40:06normally speak it was like a light bulb and I was like oh my god yeah he's just cared about how he looks
00:40:11you've been putting on the facade I've been putting on me in the real you throughout the
00:40:18whole experiment I was like I don't I don't know you how is that possible in seven weeks how do I not know
00:40:23you it's just frustrating I just feel like all I wanted when I came here was to have somebody that was
00:40:43themselves that was completely honest and I just don't feel like I've got that I have done myself and
00:40:50I have tried my hardest in this relationship to try and make it work and your friends confirmed
00:40:54that your friends said you're not even speaking the way you normally speak it was like a light bulb
00:40:59and I was like oh my god yeah he's just cared about how he looks you've been putting on the facade
00:41:04I've been putting on me in the real you throughout the whole experiment I was like I don't I don't
00:41:09know you how is that possible in seven weeks how do I not know you all right so then what happens the
00:41:23next day the next day we decided to have a break hang on a minute rewind we got home and it just blew
00:41:32up I said to Leo we're talking in the morning he didn't want that and then left left his phone
00:41:37at home so no one could contact him and then didn't come back until seven in the morning wow you left
00:41:42your own home I just needed space obviously hearing that from my friends it really hit me hard it was the
00:41:51last thing that I sort of needed and it was fight or flight and you left never heard of this someone
00:41:58leaving their own homestay okay so did you then go to yours April yeah we met my mom my sister I
00:42:07wasn't like it's bubbly or happy or anything that as I normally am or they know what I'm like in a
00:42:12relationship when I'm really like really like the person and everything that and yeah it's just not
00:42:16they just weren't seeing it okay seems like homestays provided some answers to your questions
00:42:22but not in a positive way looking back from a personal point of view where do you believe that
00:42:28your behavior has contributed to the downslide of your relationship been in my shell quite a lot I
00:42:34initially didn't show April potentially who I really am and that put doubts in her head I think
00:42:44me overcompensating to try and please April to make this relationship work as well it's it's not a
00:42:49normal characteristic that I would normally have April what behavior do you think you've contributed
00:42:56to the downslide of this relationship over time where the emotional connection just hasn't grown like
00:43:01it was so strong at the beginning and it's just almost just gone down I think when I started to see
00:43:08like potential incompatibility or like issues I almost get like colder because I'm now like okay this
00:43:16isn't working this isn't working this is gonna it's not gonna end well and I would be a lot more
00:43:20affectionate I would be a lot more caring you know I mean and like if I just forced affection or forced
00:43:25things and that would have been me forcing it and I didn't want to do that that's fair yeah so you're
00:43:31admitting to being cold and not as affectionate as you could be yeah and Leo you're admitting to being a
00:43:38people pleaser in the relationship okay so then final question for me do you believe that if you
00:43:46have corrected those two then you would have a stronger relationship I think yeah we probably
00:43:54would have done it might have ended the same way but we would have been a lot stronger right now okay
00:44:01what do you think April I know because then that would have been false like my behavior changed
00:44:07because the relationship wasn't working okay let's go to a decision April would you like to give your
00:44:17decision first genuinely Leo you have been so lovely and I'm so thankful that I've been paired with someone
00:44:24that was so kind and caring but I am going to leave all right well thank you Leo would you like to give
00:44:39your decision we obviously came here to find love and that we've been through this experiment together
00:44:45and I've learned so much about myself during this time as well and you're amazing thank you well as sad as
00:44:54it is all good things have to come to an end so okay all right thank you you know we always want our
00:45:07couples to be happy as a couple but more importantly individually as long as you're leaving here with lessons
00:45:16that you can take to become stronger outside of the experiment and that's really all we can ask
00:45:23so thank you and your time now is done thank you this is not the journey I wanted this is not the ending
00:45:40I wanted I put my all into it I've tried my best and it didn't work out but yeah I am proud even though
00:45:47Jamie and Leo weren't compatible you know he is a really good person and he has been lovely so I wish
00:45:53him the best genuinely really gutted that it didn't work out to me in April ever since we met she was
00:46:00perfect for me I couldn't have asked for anything more in a partner and I'm just I'm gutted that we
00:46:07didn't have that fairytale ending next up to the couch
00:46:13Rebecca and Bailey
00:46:19hello good to see the two of you good to see you all yeah so how have you both been really well yeah
00:46:32really good yeah really good thank you okay let's talk about the homestays obviously we live miles and
00:46:40miles apart and initially when we started the homestays and I turned up in home where Bailey lives where we
00:46:46live is completely different and initially I just thought I think our lives are so far apart in terms
00:46:53of what we do day to day and then by the end of the homestays I realized that actually what we do and
00:46:58what we're interested in is so similar we just live in different locations that's our only issue okay so
00:47:05where are you at in terms of who will move where we kind of know what we're gonna do after this and
00:47:11we're I'm very much happy to make effort Becky's as well I work remotely so the interim is kind of
00:47:17fine we haven't really answered the forever question yet and if like things progress as as we want them
00:47:24to we don't really have a an answer for that yet which is I guess it is tough
00:47:29it's tough because we don't know what that looks like because we said well would you meet in the middle
00:47:36um but then like that's taking Bailey away from bluebell and I've said all along like I would
00:47:42never put pressure on him to move away does that then mean Rebecca that you have to do the moving
00:47:50yeah I did feel the pressure a lot of like Becca are you going to move to home
00:47:55I'm not ready to say yes to that
00:47:59yeah it's like I'm caught between a rock and our place I don't want to lump all the pressure on
00:48:09Beck but then I don't really know what else to do I think it's tough we don't know where our forever
00:48:15home is we can't give any definite decisions on what forever looks like for us say within five years
00:48:22if I had a child you typically just want to be around your family and your network and
00:48:27I've got a very very close-knit group of people around me and if that was taken away and then I
00:48:32embarked on big life things like having a baby how would that work because I wouldn't know anybody in
00:48:38Hove other than that I think the two of you are talking about some very real issues that a lot of
00:48:45couples have to have to discuss and have to agree to ultimately it will mean one of you having to
00:48:51move I can hear how difficult this decision is for you okay let's go to the decision Rebecca if we
00:49:04can start with you please I think when I saw you at the wedding day and we didn't connect at all I
00:49:10honestly believe that we would have a nice honeymoon and then when we saw you for the first time I would
00:49:16write leave that's what I just thought it's not gonna work I am we just managed to have some
00:49:26one-on-one time and everything changed and every day since then I've just got to know you more and
00:49:31fell in love with you more and more and I can't imagine my life without you so well you don't have
00:49:38to so 100% I'm choosing to stay I haven't had one single doubt in my mind about anything about any
00:49:52decision I just always knew I wanted to be near you and wanted to carry on and see a life with you
00:49:56outside even from the honeymoon not I can see that so yeah yeah okay so much okay but yeah I came in
00:50:09asking for a best friend and yeah I've literally got that and you say I'm ready for the outside world
00:50:13and yeah I can't wait to do it with you so obviously I'll be staying guys I am so excited to see where
00:50:27this relationship goes it's been such a pleasure watching your journey it really has and I think
00:50:33I just can't wait to see little babies come along I just I feel like it's coming to see little baileys
00:50:38little babies and little babies yeah thank you thank you so much thank you all so much yeah I really appreciate it
00:50:44cheers thank you thank you guys
00:50:49thank you
00:50:55our last couple on the couch tonight
00:50:59Nellie and Stephen
00:51:04well let's get straight into it what's going on for the two of you Nellie why don't you kick it off
00:51:21so I went to Bailey's for partner swap and I felt like seen I felt cared for I felt he was present
00:51:29like he wanted to be around me we started talking about Stephen and I's relationship and actually
00:51:34Bailey asked me like Nellie are you happy and I just cried because I'm not I wasn't I haven't been
00:51:41and I've probably downplayed how I've been feeling have you yeah I think so and so I guess when I came
00:51:49back I sort of said to Stephen this is what I've learned this is what I would want in a relationship
00:51:54and I said I've just not been feeling that way and when Stephen had his swap with April I had one
00:52:01boundary which was you've not cooked me a meal so don't cook for April he did tell me that he made
00:52:06breakfast but again it was downplayed and I didn't actually realize until recently that it was a whole
00:52:10proper cooked breakfast in bed I've never had that I just felt really really stupid quite embarrassed
00:52:18and I think knowing that you've done that for someone else after two days it makes you feel
00:52:22about this big yeah let's let's pause there because I'm interested in what that experience
00:52:28of the partner swap with April was like for you we were sitting there talking about places we like
00:52:33to travel and places we've been or what's next on our list and it was so naturally flowing like
00:52:37that I thought why haven't we done this I try I've tried so hard to do all this and it just gets
00:52:43shut down I don't get anything back like I've tried week in week out take a lot of accountability
00:52:47there I should have been asking questions I should have done a lot more but it's just hard because
00:52:50we've had several conversations where you said about pressures of the experiment and that actually
00:52:54outside of this it could be a potential and that you know you'd be even willing to come to Manchester
00:52:59for a weekend the conversation we had week four was like look maybe away from this maybe something
00:53:04it could work Steven are you attracted to Nellie yes absolutely from the moment I met her for the
00:53:11moment I turned around and saw her I was like fuck me she's right now today right now
00:53:16I would say no
00:53:20an attraction is there or it's not I like the girl of course the likes there but I think for me
00:53:29I just can't see something progressing romantically any further yeah you just said that maybe it
00:53:34could outside the experiment two weeks ago I think I can you see that there's mixed messages here
00:53:38there's a mixed message but I'm I'm being real like I genuinely believe if we were away from the
00:53:43experiment we could have made something work so when did the like stop partner swap happened they
00:53:48thought I'm not giving you what you need and what you deserve from someone for me it's like okay well
00:53:52let's stop the relationship and just try and be a friend because I was like I respect you enough as a
00:53:58friend and value much as a friend and you can give me that look I'm telling you that we're gonna go
00:54:02with that look tell me about that look it's really hard for me to sit there and listen to
00:54:10that I'm respected as a friend because we came to homestays and Steven decided not to come with me to
00:54:17Manchester I did want him to come I saw my family saw my friends and then Steven came up a couple of
00:54:22days later but I found out on that day that actually he whilst he wasn't with me he was
00:54:27busy swiping on a dating app
00:54:29which I have receipts for yeah just a moment just so I'm that is Steven's profile which is verified
00:54:42it's really hard for me to sit there and listen to that I'm respected as a friend because we came to
00:55:04homestays and Steven decided not to come with me to Manchester I did want him to come I saw my family
00:55:09saw my friends and then Steven came up a couple of days later but I found out on that day that
00:55:15actually he whilst he wasn't with me he was busy swiping on a dating app
00:55:19which I have receipts for that just a moment just so I'm that is Steven's profile which is verified
00:55:31yeah whilst you were within the experiment no married to Nelly yeah you were on a dating profile
00:55:48and I wasn't because I got my phone out during her friends coming over and I showed them me putting my
00:55:53number in and it coming up saying my account has been removed if you were just open and honest like
00:55:59it would I wouldn't I wouldn't be doing this that isn't my profile how is it verified I don't know
00:56:05why don't you have to verify those with your face with your face yeah that is not me on hinge it's
00:56:10your face so you think someone's catfishing you absolutely then you need to go to the police
00:56:17station because they've got all your details guys let's try to see through the details here because
00:56:25we could drown in them the gist of what you're talking about here Nelly is that during your
00:56:30marriage you believe Steven was on dating apps he was and you've shown evidence that would suggest
00:56:37that that's the case so Steven are you sitting here now point blank denying that you've had anything to
00:56:43do with any dating profiles whilst you've been married to Nelly absolutely so are you claiming
00:56:53that you've been hacked or just help us understand your thinking here but something I've only got one
00:56:57phone so like when I'm putting in my number I haven't got a how's it verified though you have to
00:57:00verify I don't know why it's verified did you did you give them your face to verify I don't understand
00:57:04well you have to I don't know how does a verified profile of me well Nelly's just explained how how
00:57:10they have to yeah she explained but it still doesn't mean that I haven't got to hinge on my
00:57:14phone so someone's walking around with your face then Steven can you see that this seems quite
00:57:19far-fetched and quite hard to understand but you're sitting here and denying this of course I'm going
00:57:24to deny because I know because I know what I'm saying is true okay this shit happens all the time
00:57:29like not a verified account Steven man it's not be honest if I had the answers I'll tell you it's
00:57:36not me I'm here in this now I'm saying it's not me it's your face yeah clearly that's my face clearly
00:57:41that's my face you can have that dating app without it being verified when it's verified you've had to
00:57:46do a talking video and then a video of you moving your face around like I've had the same app since when
00:57:53since the whole time that is what dating apps now require the evidence is compelling Steven I think
00:58:00that's probably why everyone is saying that but I can imagine this is quite stressful and I'm going
00:58:05to say something I'm not an awful person but that's exactly how I'm being portrayed dude whenever I
00:58:09bring stuff up it gets rejected my intention was to be grateful review everything I want you to be
00:58:13honest and if you came in and said to me or even sent me a text that week saying now you know what I'll
00:58:18hold my hands up I'm really sorry this whole thing wouldn't have happened but I'm not going to sit
00:58:22here any longer and not be true and not say well how I feel
00:58:27so where have I said this right is can I ask a question on that at what point in your life Steven
00:58:37do you believe that you learned that defensiveness was a better response than vulnerability
00:58:44what I have observed from you is that your bad behavior has come because your reaction
00:58:56to challenge is defensiveness how I'm being portrayed from weeks on end sitting here
00:59:04being grilled of xyz that there's been any behavior that you've demonstrated that you need to take
00:59:10accountability for if I was in that situation and someone had shown me Nelly's on this yeah it
00:59:16would have hurt I would have been like what I would have had my back up all I'm saying is I'm still
00:59:19being portrayed to be this awful person what's causing that talking about your behavior there's
00:59:25no big bad boogeyman here projecting something onto you you are behaving in a certain way and we are
00:59:31responding to it trust me I didn't want this to happen this is not how I wanted this last couch with
00:59:38you ever I had feelings for you my feelings were real I don't I never wanted this we're clearly
00:59:43not going to resolve this this profile situation today well I think it is what it is and Steven
00:59:49this is very important for you to to know defensiveness is self-protection protecting ego
00:59:55protecting all types of things and I think that if you could walk away from this experiment knowing
01:00:01you know what I'm a good guy but when I respond to conflict if I can just pause and say how could I
01:00:09respond with vulnerability then guess what your life is going to become infinitely better yeah and I
01:00:16appreciate that so that's one thing I'm trying to be more vulnerable yes I've been very defensive I found
01:00:23myself getting more and more irritable say during this experiment but I'm trying to be more vulnerable so I don't think I've
01:00:30cried as much on this experiment I have in like the last sort of 10 14 years yeah all right guys well
01:00:37we are going to move on to a decision so let's start with you first though Steven I know you and I have
01:00:44had loads of ups and downs and it's been a really it's been a rough ride the highs have been great the
01:00:50lows have been really really low but the reason I stayed for so long and I pushed so hard is because I
01:00:55genuinely think that marriage does take hard work and I never wanted to leave here with any regrets
01:01:00what I have learned is I know my worth I know what I deserve I know that the right man for me is never
01:01:06going to leave me feeling confused or uncertain what you've taught me as well and this is one thing I
01:01:12will always take away is that I will stop prioritizing people to the detriment of myself
01:01:17because I've done that in every relationship I'm not doing it anymore yeah it's just sad but um but
01:01:27yeah based on that guys I have decided to do what's best for me and leave thank you and to you Steven
01:01:36I'm guided that look I've not been able to give you what what you deserve what you want
01:01:41it has been challenging but you know what you as a person being introduced to you is a very big
01:01:49moment in my life in terms of impact because you've allowed me to be like this now like you've brought
01:01:59this side out of me which I've turned off for so long so so long so in terms of impact and what
01:02:07you've done for me it's massive massive I don't I couldn't even put into words how massive that is
01:02:12but but for me to to grow as a person just to spend time with my kids as well who miss massively
01:02:21yeah I think it's right for me to leave as well okay thank you guys thank you guys thank you
01:02:31thank you guys thank you good luck we really appreciate it oh man
01:02:35I think at the beginning I don't think I expected the marriage to end this way for sure I think I was
01:02:44very hopeful in the beginning when you see the wedding day and the honeymoon even moved into the
01:02:49apartments like the first week I thought do you know what this could work to end it this way
01:02:54definitely didn't cross my mind to be accused of being on a date nap and for having to friend
01:02:59someone off is never a way you want to end the marriage but yeah here we are I guess
01:03:04Stephen has 1000% been caught out honestly I don't know why he won't why he won't admit it
01:03:13if you asked me on my wedding day how you thought it would end honestly I just never thought our
01:03:20journey would be like this I do deserve better and he knows that too I just know that the right man
01:03:27will come along and he'll make me feel so adored so cherished I will never have to question anything
01:03:32next time the couples head off on their final dates this is stunning for some it's a fairy tale come to life
01:03:49the connection we had instantly is the same connection that you have now but for others
01:03:55the magic fades as reality sets in it's just a distance it's everything I've never ever thought
01:04:01about this problem I can't be without you and a roller coaster of emotions I hate it we're just not
01:04:11on the same page sends Leisha and Reese's marriage completely off the rails I was trying to be nice to
01:04:16you're in a fucking mood I don't know if I'm the one Felicia am I enough is that it for us I don't know
01:04:23what else you need from me just keep pushing them away I don't really know what to do
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