In this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of change, exploring both voluntary and involuntary shifts. We share personal stories and heartfelt insights on how these changes impact our lives, whether it's a new career path or changes within family relationships. Join us as we discuss ways to embrace change and find growth through life's transitions, making these moments opportunities for positive transformation.
Key Topics:
Understanding the difference between voluntary and involuntary change helps us see how personal stories of adaptation and growth unfold. Recognizing the impact of subconscious habits on change can offer valuable insights. Additionally, considering cultural and environmental adjustments can make our journey more meaningful and relatable.
Join the Conversation: We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts on how change has impacted your life. Connect with us on social media,#WDYH2S, and join the discussion.
Hashtags: #Change #Growth #LifeTransitions #Adaptation
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Song by Ryan Prewett -Change feat Chris Hatfield
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3pTEWrRMk0
George Benson ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/FYntsykRd4Y?si=AZgaMdBTwPwxUy-6
Oleta Adams ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/CxHMvl2s5A8?si=x3bCMckBTgxP-X-s
James Cleveland and The Charles Fold Singers ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/SdiJ5Nl_reg?si=CK_23BLm8Qlmgryx
Nina Simone ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/I-3M-xi5n1c?si=5kN99JJcdBbnu24H
Bernard Ighner & Quincy Jones ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/26JeW3SmJ74?si=A8jQz4HudrGspKt-
Ledisi & Gregory Porter ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/XC2WI_LoRdI?si=PN2usocng2Y17Oz-
Key Topics:
Understanding the difference between voluntary and involuntary change helps us see how personal stories of adaptation and growth unfold. Recognizing the impact of subconscious habits on change can offer valuable insights. Additionally, considering cultural and environmental adjustments can make our journey more meaningful and relatable.
Join the Conversation: We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts on how change has impacted your life. Connect with us on social media,#WDYH2S, and join the discussion.
Hashtags: #Change #Growth #LifeTransitions #Adaptation
Please take a moment to subscribe and stay updated on future episodes.
Song by Ryan Prewett -Change feat Chris Hatfield
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3pTEWrRMk0
George Benson ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/FYntsykRd4Y?si=AZgaMdBTwPwxUy-6
Oleta Adams ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/CxHMvl2s5A8?si=x3bCMckBTgxP-X-s
James Cleveland and The Charles Fold Singers ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/SdiJ5Nl_reg?si=CK_23BLm8Qlmgryx
Nina Simone ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/I-3M-xi5n1c?si=5kN99JJcdBbnu24H
Bernard Ighner & Quincy Jones ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/26JeW3SmJ74?si=A8jQz4HudrGspKt-
Ledisi & Gregory Porter ~ Everything Must Change
https://youtu.be/XC2WI_LoRdI?si=PN2usocng2Y17Oz-
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00:00we want to know what do you have to say oh what do you have to say oh there's no time to wait
00:12what do you have to say together we lift our voices and let them ring
00:18oh yeah yeah yeah talking about life we got stories to reveal
00:24oh are you playing some music there's no hey philip what did i get you off guard go ahead
00:31no we're recording what oh okay i was like where's the music man oh i was like i needed to be like
00:41my intro music instead okay all right you have intro music absolutely every celebrity
00:48you remind me of did you ever watch uh family guy yes peter had his own background music
01:00okay that's it i feel that but i can hear it playing but no okay wow how are you doing today
01:06you know what i'm doing pretty darn good same here same here same i love i think you you were talking
01:14about it last week but it's uh the time is changing so it's staying lighter longer which i love
01:19yes yes even though it's cold as i don't know what uh it was cold this morning oh goodness uh when i
01:28got in my car it was uh at 5 30 it was like 6 21 degrees and driving north oh what do you say 21 i saw
01:38what your numbers were i saw that 14 and 12 and i don't know was it like eight or something like
01:46that yeah it was it was like okay well uh wow what can you do just put on some long johns and keep
01:56going and make sure you know i've been trying to get my mind straight though i mean yeah it's gold
02:01it's cold it ain't gonna change it is not gonna change i think once you get acclimated to that
02:06it's just like cold is it's cold oh it's zero oh okay i'm a zero in the house that's all i'm gonna do
02:15wow wow i'm excited about today's uh what we're going to talk about today um because it affects all
02:25of our lives all of us have been through change and uh what do you have to say or you're gonna ask me
02:33what do you have to say about change you got something to say about it well where where do
02:40we begin with oh i it goodness um i mean it's inherent right that song every uh everything must
02:49change everything everything must change everything you know and we were just talking about the seasons
02:55and um and it's the time is about to change and um i understand why they have that in place and um
03:06it i think i could put it in categories of involuntary change and voluntary change some things are
03:17voluntary like you change your job or you change your you know you move or are you something
03:25things are voluntary um at least that's why i put it in the the category that
03:31some things are out of our control those involuntary things that happen um change like changing um
03:41changing maybe the the way that we um live or maybe the way that we think about some things but
03:53um i think i'm all for change um either in our professional lives or personal lives um in our
04:02spiritual lives um change um it's just sometimes that's how i have it voluntary or involuntary
04:11voluntary or involuntary we'll talk about yes yes i think um like involuntary change
04:23or things that are it outside of our control and they force us to change as in um maybe the
04:31um the and i have on here the loss of our parents that change that forces us to change maybe our way
04:40of thinking um as in um like my position and my family has changed because i've had the loss of my
04:49parents lost my brother loss of my uh sis oldest sister oldest sibling that has changed uh my position
04:58in the family as well as my baby sister uh that was involuntary that wasn't something that i had
05:05planned for something that i had um i knew that was going to happen at one point but that's those are
05:13involuntary changes what i changed on my own was i changed my career or i changed my uh my route to
05:23work those are those are voluntary changes things that we are in our control well that's what i'm
05:30thinking but i don't you know i was just i was just thinking about that example that you you gave but
05:37but that doesn't always for some people it doesn't always force change oh right i mean i understand i
05:47think i understand what you were talking about when you were talking about involuntary change but
05:52it doesn't mean that i have to change because sometimes if you use the example of of death
05:58um it i'm not going to take this place that we make perhaps we've created or thinking oh and now
06:08i moved to here this happened this happened unless there was some very specific kind of um what's the
06:16right word to say um order or some kind of uh hierarchy in or something that says okay when this
06:26happens you go here like maybe with the royal family right right that doesn't happen that doesn't
06:34you don't believe that that happens in our families okay well hold on it doesn't have to
06:41happen i'm not saying that it doesn't happen okay i'm just saying that but sometimes just because that
06:45happens i i might not move into this particular position where people are looking or coming to me
06:52for a particular thing or where i feel then i have to take on this particular role for these people
07:01i understand that the change is inherent because if we're talking about death and dying nobody can
07:08get past that so that happens and of course there's nothing that we can do about that there is nothing
07:16that says that what happens next has to happen in a particular way you're and i and i agree with that
07:25um because when you use the word hierarchy but it it and maybe it's spoken and maybe it's not spoken
07:34when people um just assume that you you take on that role um but like you say you don't have to
07:44and uh because i would have to say i have witnessed that in some other families where those roles weren't
07:53assumed the matriarch role or the patriarchal world they weren't assume uh assumed because i guess they
08:00didn't know and that's me putting my uh values my hierarchy on on someone else's and that that is
08:11definitely not not a really fair um or accurate thing to do to put you know my hierarchy and my one of my
08:23uh system on someone else but it just seems like it's natural to me that and it may be a same you
08:31would assume because who is there who's the go-to now uh well it also is predicated on the family
08:41well right now we're talking about a family system it could be even work but work it depends on what
08:47kind of things that you all talked about i don't know if that was important if we talked about
08:53positions or this or that or maybe sometimes there are roles placed upon us that uh are were sort of
09:02placed in it by families or or whatever and we feel we need to live that particular role so
09:10yeah i mean that's the role that you live in and some other people there we hear their families fall
09:16apart oh completely mama or daddy or grandma died oh yes yes yes right completely because i guess yeah
09:26those um those uh that hierarchy wasn't established uh you know when i i don't know it just seems natural
09:38to me and that someone that i would bear that responsibility yeah and it's a lot of response
09:47it's a lot of pressure but change um that's what i mean voluntary and involuntary but um i was thinking
09:54about um just how we change uh even uh changing our direction to work or changing our drive to work
10:06because we get so into habits and routines and um i i changed my way to work but it was
10:15it seems like my car was on autopilot and it went the or i was on autopilot and i just drove the regular
10:24way home even trying to mix it up a little bit um and just to see some different things but change
10:31is um change is um changes is tough um to really uh implement and and uh put in place and follow
10:41through with it and i think about change about new year's resolutions and i know that you don't really
10:48advocate for those resolutions but you know 90 of people they've already stopped whatever they were going
10:56after her trying to change their life physically or you know i don't advocate for new year's resolutions
11:02right right that's what i'm saying that you don't right um and because you know not they're done
11:10this is over what is it february 21 and they're like and it's that habit it is that uh comfortability
11:19they're that um you know we'd rather be in comfort uh than they're really forced not comfort let's see
11:29maybe that is not the right word but we want to yeah we we want to stay where it is comfortable
11:37where's what with what we know which is what we know be comfortable and sometimes yeah not comfortable
11:45and we still stay with that change that's right that's we just stay in it yeah you said something
11:53that's uh important you were talking about um well like i don't know important i'm not putting a value
12:00on it but you mentioned uh wanting to change uh your way to work and uh you you said oh my car just
12:10went the other way well your car didn't go another way it did hold on hold on hold on unless unless you
12:18got a car that elon musk hasn't yet make yet your car you got herbie the love bug your car did not
12:27drive it this is what happened this is what i was just a bystander i was just behind the wheel
12:33what happens with all of us is we get into um our subconscious takes over you know our subconscious
12:44really drives us most of the day you know when i always think about this remember when they talk
12:49about oh you've got you've got kids you ever do you ever see your student daydreaming oh yes okay like
12:57they're gone they're they're oh yes yes la la land it's what i call it yes in in that piece right
13:05there they're they're still present but their subconsciousness has them looking out and thinking
13:13about other stuff when we drive our cars especially if we are on a route that we do day in and day out
13:23our subconscious knows how to get us home we may have you ever been driving and well well you said
13:32you wanted to take a real route and your car took you a different place but have you ever just been
13:36driving and you pull up in the driver and you're like how did i get here how did i get here right
13:44right yes that is how hard change can be sometimes because your subconscious well that's not hard but your
13:51subconscious will get you home even if you're not consciously aware of all the terms so when you
13:58talk about change and you just wanted to go down another street your car wasn't driving but that
14:05subconscious was telling you where are you going thank you down this street
14:10yes yeah i'm not getting in your car not if no no no conscious decisions we'll be ending up
14:22somewhere and it's like what how did we get here this is not on our destination route but yeah change
14:30change it is um you know there's one other thing i want to talk about so you changed from one climate
14:41to another uh from moving from california and now that you live in a climate that is like um
14:52oh drastically different and that change and how are you adjusting to that that change that's this you
15:02know i'm you it's interesting i was just thinking because i think i heard you say you said that you
15:12like change i do you make okay i like change too i really do i'm yeah i'm going to answer your question
15:20about climate yes but i'm um i am that person that uh if they're going to put a brand new spanking
15:27building up and there's this building that's been there for 100 years i'm like uh tear it down
15:33right which is crazy right a lot of people they have the historical societies and i understand there
15:39are some things that we need to keep because it's an indicator of something specific in our culture
15:48perhaps an indicator of some sort of architecture or something that we need to keep but other than that
15:55i'm down for change so i have surprised myself having come from a a more temperate a warmer climate and i've
16:07been had been there for um um a while to one that has more very variation in the seasons
16:18um i i acclimated very quickly but i think it's also because i had some years where i lived in this
16:30climate before so maybe body had some memory but i'm very surprised like i cannot believe like in
16:39in 18 degree weather i'm going outside in sweats and a sweatshirt and it's my hands are tingling and i'm
16:50like well it is a little bit cold out here i mean i'm not going to stay outside like that but
16:55but but but it was okay and i'm surprised of myself yeah yeah yeah i i couldn't imagine even like i was
17:10saying that it was 21 degrees here this morning and i that was cold and it felt i think they said that
17:18it felt like 15 or something like that or maybe single digits uh with the wind chill and everything
17:24and um but i i was wrapped up pretty good um but i was just wondering how is it from you know
17:32everything is sunny and more like you say more temperate more temperate well hold on
17:38the weather is the weather is one thing right i'm yeah i'm having to readjust to
17:48dim what was there's a different demographic yes in the area that i'm in than what i've lived in for
18:00some time and i miss i miss i miss a more varied demographic okay okay i would too and i mean i
18:12and um i would like do you miss the the artist the um or the not the artist but the the breath the
18:23the culture the heart yes the that the heartbeat of that you know what i miss yeah i miss i miss
18:31language okay although i i miss going in to a place um and hearing a language that maybe i don't
18:39understand i understand some um lat um um mexican language but um hearing other english asian languages and
18:50other pacific island languages and more um languages from the african continent and stuff like that
18:58being around a lot of people that are so different from you and i enjoy that yes yes and bringing all of
19:07that you know and just uh and when they say a melting pot just bringing all of that culture and blending
19:17it you know but um holding on to their own but just still you know being able to borrow from that
19:26and learn from that that that is amazing and i know that when i have the opportunity to go to new york
19:33city and experience those cultures and those just all just everybody that just together and like you say
19:42those languages they're just speaking their languages and they're just enthralled with what they're saying
19:49and how they say in it and how they maneuver and it's like um yeah it would take some getting used to
19:56without that and then um changing um oh i was going to say changing foods um you know with uh what you eat and
20:09uh changes like changes where you go how you get there how that's the other thing food yeah yeah i need
20:18i need some chinese food oh so um i haven't found it no i haven't found it i don't i i have to be honest
20:26with and i had i needed some chinese food this week and i went and got chinese food and it was just
20:33it was um it was um ho-hum johnny's food it satisfied me but i was not satisfied i was like
20:41you know i cook so i'm like i gotta find me some recipes and cook me some some asian food inspired
20:50meals when i get that feeling you know so for some lo mein and some for some rice and some you know
20:56i need some yang chow fried rice which is fried rice with pork chicken shrimp and beef i bet oh
21:06is it okay just tell me is it from a food truck or is it from a place from a place oh man i tell you
21:13and i miss that culture i would miss uh the food truck culture um you know just having that those options
21:23uh yeah and you know what pizza well i've yet i i have yet to find okay pizza yeah i think you're
21:34gonna have to start cooking man and i'm telling you i think you just yeah you're just gonna have to
21:40start cooking just like but no i i know you advocate for that but that absolutely is not me
21:47it's not me like i i can throw stuff together like if meatloaf is easy to put together because
21:56you just put a bunch of stuff together that's it i made some chili that's easy to make but once it
22:02goes out of stuff that's more nuanced i don't have time for it i'd rather just get a bologna sandwich
22:07and get some cheese on it and i'll be okay not a bologna sandwich man bologna sandwich i feel you
22:16i feel i haven't had one of those uh i call them fold overs where you know you're just real lazy
22:23you just got one piece of bread folded over yeah i haven't had yeah i hope yeah people laugh at me
22:29when i say can i get a fold over uh yeah but change um i i embrace change and i even personal growth
22:39change uh physically change you know um and one thing i i quit smoking and that was a change for
22:50the better uh it was hard um it was okay so it took several times okay it was like in 2013
22:59i quit or i stopped smoking for about five years okay and then no to 2013 and then it was just the
23:10next year it only lasted one year because i had some issues going on and just fell back into it yeah
23:17and um and then i stopped that's when i stopped for five years and then uh some more issues
23:25came you know came up and i just was nervous and and picked it up again but thankfully um
23:35in 2020 you know like in march april may it was i hated smoking i i hated it uh but i was so
23:46uh oh the smell okay uh uh the um the need for to feed that nicotine monster okay and uh once i
23:57could you feel it could you feel it like it was pulling you to get another cigarette right right
24:02it's a monster and once you i've read this book uh by alan carr and uh it was about how to quit smoking
24:10and i i've read it like three times the first time i stopped for a year the second time i stopped for
24:15five years and it was all about feeding once you killed that nicotine monster that was living and
24:23you kept feeding it because what were you feeding it with nicotine and so once i i just made up in my
24:32mind that that was going to be it you know and then um that was in the midst of covid and i didn't want
24:41any more complications from anything right that could have me susceptible so when i made that change
24:49it it it was the best thing that i could have done and um i'm glad so those kind of that that's why i
24:56say that was a voluntary change um i wanted that to happen and um i tell you uh nah i would not
25:08smoke even i would find some other coping mechanisms or something else if if that was but
25:15um that's one change how about at work like do you um find it easy you know when you go to work and
25:24they go oh we're doing this now and we didn't and sometimes you don't get enough build up like hey
25:30we're going to do a new system and then all of a sudden everything has changed how how okay as a
25:37teacher it can be frustrating to um to have a different um follow a different curriculum or follow a
25:50different um reading program or a different math program once you have acquired or you know all of the
25:58the the the the necessary resources uh personal resources and instructional resources and they
26:07change the program but you're flexible and you adapt because you're an educator and you're able to flow
26:16into that is it um it can be a challenge but you find a way how often does it happen
26:24three to five years okay well you've got they may they may change a reading program and okay
26:33you know um once you have uh taught one to fidelity and it's working the uh system may say oh we're
26:43going to you know um do something else and uh uh but you you're flexible and you just adapt to it
26:53and you just adapt to it and you learn and um it can be frustrating but i i i learned
27:03i've worked at a non-profit for a minute and um uh there's a lot of change that is placed on you
27:11at the last minute because you know especially a lot of grants that come in require you to
27:17you need this you've got to do this and sometimes your managers haven't told you what you needed and
27:24all of a sudden you've got to do all this stuff and it's gets frustrating but uh you learn well it's
27:31got to get done you got to get done right it's got to get done and i've you know i i i would have been
27:39a part of the crowd that bitched and moaned and why do we got to do this and it's crazy but when you've
27:43been there long enough you're like okay okay let's stop bitching now you know you can moan for a
27:51minute because we get to moan but let's just get this done because it's not going to change right
27:57right right and who knows uh what new directives will be put in place in six months or in you know and
28:06you may find um that it may work better it may serve it does you know sometimes i have to be honest
28:17with you some some and i can only speak just like changing um a reading program once you find um how
28:27to teach it you know you're like okay this is better if it meets the needs of the learners and that's that's
28:35the ultimate goal does it move your students academically forward and um you you can tell
28:44some days you're like another pd if i sit through another pd i'm a what's pd uh professional development
28:54where they come in and they have a speaker in fact um i had some pd this week and i i was you know i
29:03i didn't say it out loud but i was just like
29:09you know but when i tell you that it was valuable it was really valuable for the person that they
29:17brought in for 45 minutes it was really beneficial and i found the value in it so um all after or as
29:28or as or as during during as it was going i i um i it just just turned my whole uh frame of mind i was
29:37like oh okay this this has some meat on it and this this can work in my classroom and um you know but i
29:45before then you know if you you can walk walking down the hall carrying my laptop i was just like
29:53i could be doing so much other stuff right now and yeah why y'all talking y'all you know well i think
30:04you just you you're speaking to me and probably some other people might hear this there's been times i
30:11have i've been exact same ones like this we got this meeting and then you get some benefit out of it
30:19and you're like oh that was really good that was really good right that don't always happen it
30:24doesn't always happen and sometimes it don't let me let me just say yeah sometimes it's like yeah this
30:30was a colossal waste of time but um sometimes you get those gems and and those nuggets that really help
30:40you that's why i i embrace change even though sometimes it's painful or it's uncomfortable for change
30:49but um do you like moving do i like moving um yes i like moving do i like packing up that's a whole
30:56other story okay yeah you don't mind moving okay yeah moving i can get there but packing up you just
31:05never know how much i mean how much stuff that you have and that you haven't touched in so long you
31:12know uh but yeah i like moving if oh man um moving to different places seeing different things yes yes
31:22i i'm usually one of those individuals that i live in a place for a minute same same yeah same but i but i do
31:33like like change like after a while it's like okay it's i think it's about that time right right right i imagine
31:42that at some point in time you know as we get older we'll be like okay i think i'm i think i'll be
31:49here for a minute yeah yeah what about um change of styles clothing styles or hairstyles or um even i i have
32:04been contemplating i want to cut the beard and just change it up maybe but i just
32:14i was at the barber this week uh with thursday there oh yesterday yesterday what is today friday yes
32:22friday yeah um and he was like same thing on the beard and i was like uh yeah same thing on the beard
32:31well it's easier i mean listen we don't have to think about it listen i my wardrobe if you can even call that
32:41then it's all black black t-shirts black sweats black slacks black jeans majority black shoes i don't
32:52want to think about no kind of clothes now recently i changed i bought me a green sweatshirt and a red sweatshirt
33:08okay okay okay so that's change that's change and the new workout shoes i got instead of
33:21getting the black version i got a green pair of shoes now that's different that is just
33:28i applaud you that is that's great that's progress it is it's amazing how um
33:46it's just those little increments of change you know just change and change sometimes we think that
33:53changes is is are big and drastic drastic measures but they're just they're really in the small
34:01movements and um i i can see that even um just how i write now um i've just changed just a few just
34:13incrementally i'll read i'll pray first and then i'll write and it's just that that's how you approach it
34:21right right right it's just you know when you're talking about writing my just my whole style of
34:28writing just the grammar and syntax has changed in the past five years right is is that growth is
34:39change or is change growth growth growth that's a that's a great question i because you can't
34:50there's no growth without change is there and there's no change without i think i think you can
34:59change without growing but i think growth encompasses change you can grow without change
35:07no i think oh what did you say grow encompasses change okay it includes it i think i think the other
35:15way i think you can change without growth because that's those things like you were saying like
35:19those involuntary i didn't ask for this yeah oh right right right i mean we could probably argue
35:27that you're still changing in some particular some capacity you are yeah but
35:32yeah yeah yeah yeah i just associate if you change if you're growing something's something is
35:41changing you know i'm imagining that this topic of change is i mean i'm sure there's a part two of it
35:47and a part three of it because it's just so interesting just to talk about change and it just sort of
35:53branches it branches out right right just so many things it is and i haven't even touched some of the
35:58stuff you know yeah but it is it is yeah we'll come back to change absolutely absolutely that was
36:07good interesting well i'm going to be thinking about that the incremental thing of the impact of
36:13just adding two new colors
36:17i think that it is just going to change your whole perspective about some things and you'll be wearing
36:24something yellow next uh or not no we might who knows i don't know we'll talk about that i think you made
36:34a start that's good that's good change we all want everything we need it everything everything must
36:41change change change change yeah yeah or and if y'all don't know that song look up the song everything
36:46must change by george vinson also a good version is by olita adams oh who else do you have any oh
36:56i was thinking james cleveland he recorded it too okay yeah he recorded everything must change
37:02nina nina nina nina nina nina nina nina yes all of those yes everything must change everything
37:11must all right we'll see you soon yes sir see you soon
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